Full Show PT 2: Friday, October 2 [Vault]

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1:00The bird show. New developments this morning when it comes to Lindsay Lohan. Yes, she is out of rehab and has been given some very strict rules to follow while she's doing this outpatient treatment program. She's got to check in a lot, be tested for alcohol and drugs, and attend a lot of treatment programs. But is allowed to be at home and spend the night at home. The doctor's released her and said they did not believe that she had a serious addiction problem. We're going to get Michael Lohan, her dad on the phone here in about 30 seconds, and get his reaction to this whole thing. This is what he had to say about his daughter, Lindsay, and her addiction the last time that he was on with us. She said so many times that if my dad would just stop talking about this publicly, I could move on. I think we all know that addicts are liars. And I think when you look at all of the medication went to his own and the probation report, it's even far worse than I thought, because it did talk to the combination. And I don't know how she made it this far. And also, Michael talking about his ex-wife, Dina,

2:02kind of feeling like if Dina would just handle things differently, Lindsay would be OK. She seems to have hit some sort of rock bottom. And it seems to me that at this moment in her life, she would really need her mom and dad. There's one problem. It's four letters. It's D-I-N-A. It's Dina. Dina is always usually kids with a habit pause. She's driven like just between us constantly. Whatever the kids need me and they answer them. She wants to be the one to take the credit for it. Michael, low on the phone now. Hey, Michael. Good morning, how are you guys? OK. How are you today? All righty. I'm relaxing up in the mountains. Are you still out in California? No. Actually, I'm back in New York. I have to head out to LA for quite a number of months starting on Monday. And will you have any contacts with Lindsay or will you try to make any contact with her now that she's at a rehab? Well, I sure hope so. And I think that after she gets situated with her counseling and therapeutic program, that family counseling

3:05and lending fences and trying to set things right, is a major component in anyone's sobriety and getting things right in their life. After all, like I've been saying for so long, that Lindsay had a lot of turmoil and a lot of torment based on the divorce between D&I. And I just, again, I just hope D&I gets on the same page with me and realize that it's not about being involved in Lindsay's career, but being involved in our life is a mom and dad. Do you think it's better that Lindsay is in an outpatient program than, as opposed to being in an inpatient program? No, it's a very good point. I mean, people have different views of that. I was with Dr. Drew yesterday and spoke to him quite a while off the air. And we've become very good friends and also spoke to Tom Seismore. And this makes it pretty nice. And I believe that an inpatient program is more therapeutic. I think it's better for somebody. But anything could work if you take it seriously. If you want to do it, and Lindsay, I mean, there's some tight restrictions here.

4:07If she misses anything, if she turns up dirty for anything, she's back to jail. So I think she's going to take it very, very seriously. And for once, in the last, I guess, five years now, she's not on any medication whatsoever. She's like her lawyer, Sean Chapman, all he said. She's focused, she's clear-eyed, and she's back to being herself again. Michael, in retrospect, the last time we had her on, we had you on, you obviously have been your sort of in panic mode, which I can understand as a parent, for sure. Addicted to this, addicted to that. There was a whole laundry list of perhaps things that she was addicted to. And the UCLA facility said, no, she's not addicted to any of that stuff. She's had no problem coming off of that stuff at all and looking back at it now, where you overly cautious, or do you think that you were right on? You know what? I have to disagree with them because any time, if you look at those medications, you was on. If you look at Adderall, if you look at the Zoroast, if you look at the Gavitrol, if you look at Coaloniton,

5:10those are medications which you have to want your on them, you have to stay off them, you have to lean off of them. I think when they were talking about the bipolarity, the ADD, and the addiction, they were talking about illegal drugs. This is a medical facility, and they don't see prescription drugs as when you're on them being addicted to them. And that's the problem with the system, because kids get addicted to these medications. So the adults, but you know what? The adults, we have our own choices. Kids are kind of thrown into this these days. It's a quick fix to say, all right, you can have ADD here, or Ridlin, or something, they're given them Adderall, and the next thing you know, they're addicted to these things, the adults consider an addiction, which it is. All right, so I want to be clear on this. You think the Ronald Reagan UCLA Medical Center has misdiagnosed her then? No, I don't think they've misdiagnosed her. It's being that when the seat here's a fine park, they're saying she's not addicted. She's referring to illegal drugs. I don't think they didn't specify that it was prescription drugs that we're talking about, but look at, she's off everything now.

6:13That's the most important point. I'm not going to go back and forth with them, or the professionals, or the so-called professionals, that put her on these things to begin with, and said she had ADD and bipolarity, and they clearly were told, they were said to be wrong, and proven to be wrong now. So you tell me, how right are these people to have written these descriptions, taken five years of this kid's life, and so many other kids out there that are on these things when they're misdiagnosed, because it's a quick fix for the doctors and the pharmaceutical companies are incentivizing each other. I think UCLA was the one that said that when she came in and she was on the Adderall, that she was specifically on it for the ADHD, and they said that that should have never been diagnosed in the first place, because she wasn't, and she should never be on Adderall in the first place. Thank you. Now, you tell me, what is Adderall? What's the basic component for Adderall? I don't know anything about that, though. It's Nethanphetamine, pure and simple, Nethanphetamine. So they're getting kids left. Is that sick?

7:14I mean, a pharmaceutical grade legalized grade of Nethanphetamine. That's absolutely hypocrisy. So in knowing all of this, and it sounds to me like you kind of felt like you knew this all along that you was misdiagnosed, you shouldn't have been on Adderall. As a father, did you say anything to Dina about that? Absolutely, and you know, thank you for bringing that up. Here's a child that Dina and I raised for 19 years together, as a happy couple. 19 years, if this girl and other children don't need medication growing up through 19 years of their life, why all of a sudden would they be in medication to be diagnosed as ADD or bipolar? I know she would never. Look, it's right up until Mean Girl, the pinnacle of her career. She was clear-headed, she was focused, she was, her best work was done during that time period. What happened after that? What about your divorce and the fact that you and Dina can't get along and still can't get along years after the divorce?

8:15Well, you know, that's a good point too, because I've tried to get along. I try all the time. I do everything she asks me. I mean, as late as July 4th, just before Lindsey was getting sentenced, two days before. Dina was my best friend on the phone. My son, Michael, was at my house out in South Hampton. My son, Kogi, was with Dina on Fire Island. We talked, we laughed, we even talked about getting together. And two days later, I'm in LA because Lindsey's getting sentenced and Dina didn't go. And I guess she got pissed off because I was out there alone. But, you know what, I had to be there because I knew she was gonna get jail time and I wanted to be there for her. But Dina didn't think so and the other people didn't think so. And from that point on, when Dina flew to LA in July 6th, 7th and 8th, she didn't pick up the phone again. So I'm trying, I've done everything. Everything she asked for financially in any way possible, I do it. But it comes to a point where you put your foot down and you're saying, you know what? I'm not gonna be used anymore. I give you everything you wanted and the divorce. I give you everything you want up till now.

9:16And you turn your back on me when it comes to our child for what reason? So that you can run her career, I don't wanna run her career. I don't think Dina should run her career. I think that Lindsey has Jason Weinberg, who is unbelievable, he's her manager. He should run the career. Dina should be a mom, I should be a dad. And that's it. Michael, I think there's some push back to you as a personality because it feels like you're almost like, every time we have you on, it's like a pity party for Michael, like you have no responsibility in this at all. It's Dina's fault, it's the people around Lindsey's fault. And you have no responsibility in this whatsoever. I never, never said that and believe me, I don't feel that way whatsoever. Am I responsible for a great part of this? Absolutely. There's no doubt whatsoever that if I didn't go to jail back in 1989 for my contempt charge. And if I didn't get, if I didn't get in the fight with Dina's brother, which caused my divorce, none of this would have happened. I, we would have gotten divorced if I didn't get in the fight with Dina's brother. And this wouldn't have happened, it is my fault.

10:19That was the crux, the incubus, the epoch of everything. It was a fight with Dina's brother and Dina had to make a decision. Do I stand by my brother and listen to my family? Or do I stand by my husband? And she chose her family. But you know what? I went over the edge. I really didn't have to do what I did and put him in the hospital. Look, he was wrong, but I was twice as wrong for feeding into his crap. And how do you think this is affected Ali? You know, it's funny. It did affect her in some ways. It affected her in positive and negative ways. Ali is growing up so much through all this. She's learned so much. She's actually a state-loving, a state-loving, a voice and a voice of reason and learned these life when she's around there. Ali is an intelligent girl. She's beautiful. She's talented. But she's taking a step back from everything she had before her. And he had to give an industry to be assisted to Lindsay. And I give her a lot of credit. She's already almost through high school already. She's homeschooled, but she's way ahead of her curriculum.

11:23And I give her a lot of credit. My boys were fine. My son Michael graduated from Louta from Africa. Got some job offerings from my family. And people I know on Wall Street. He's done some work for me lately. And my son Cody is just being a little boy playing with cost and soccer. And he's going to soccer camp. I think he co-sterequit this year. We're talking to Michael Loan. Do you mind if I put you on with a parent that's kind of offended by some of the stuff that you said about ADHD kids? I don't mind at all. Sherry, good morning. You are on the Birk Show with Michael Loan. Oh, hello, Birk Show. I love you guys. Thank you. Yeah, I'm just, you know, I'm so tired of hearing. It'd be everybody else's food and disease. It just ever occurred to anybody that ADHD drugs, which a lot of kids need like my son and it greatly helps them every day. A lot of these Hollywood actresses take it to control their weight because it affects that you're aptite.

12:24So maybe Linda wanted to take your job. Absolutely right. I mean, it's not only at all, but they take topomax, they take colonipin. There's a lot of things you're absolutely right. But don't forget, I'm not saying that the drugs aren't right. What I'm saying is they're not right for the people that need them when they diagnose properly, but when they're misdiagnosed, that's the problem. And that's what even what UCLA was saying also is misdiagnosed. So at this point, what do you do now? Do you reach out to Dina again? Does she even accept your phone calls? How do you as a parent get your hands dirty here? I let Dina, first of all, I don't want to get them dirty. I like clean them from everything and everyone in my life and Lindsay's life that get them dirty. But what do I do? I let Dina do her thing. I've spoken to therapists for the last two weeks and I'll be with both Lindsay and myself. And when you're dealing with an orthosis, there's nothing you can do to change in. You have to learn to live with them. And just, yes, I'm in and just do your own thing. I'm not interested in trying to change Dina. Dina's going to have to have her heart

13:24have to change itself. I just feel indian, I have to do it the right way now. I think I have to fight him to get her off the prescription drugs. She's off them. And now it's time to go after these damn doctors that put a squadron to her and so many other kids. When you say go after the doctors that were immediately responsible for putting her on those drugs, are you talking about a lawsuit or what do you mean by going after them? Oh, no, no, I don't care about a lawsuit. I care about their life and say, care about their investigation. And it's being done right this minute as we speak. Okay, am I missing anything here, Y'all? No, thanks, so. No, thanks, so. I mean, we all hope that she can make a comeback and we all hope that she'll be known for her acting and for her great career rather than for all of this personal drama. Hey, Michael, if she said to you tomorrow, she said, Dad, I want you back in my life. The only thing is you can never talk to the press ever again. Would you go ahead and say that? Would you say yes to that? What do you think I did? What you can answer that question yourself? I can't. I hope you would call us before you give your answer. That's very good.

14:26Just put your comic to it. Absolutely. No, my daughter is first and foremost. I've only spoken out because of all the drama in our life. When people lie or they be asked, that's when I've come to the plate, so to speak. I could really care about all this. I'm actually going to LA to go and work at the drug rehab out there. So I just want my life back to you. Let me ask you, in all the years that Lindsey worked right up until the divorce, when she was doing all these wonderful movies and had such success, did you see me? Did you see Deanna? Did you hear about us? Did you hear of any trouble or any problems? That's why she was successful. That's why she was successful. I'm a big fan of Lindsey Lohen and I have to say that I've been very disappointed, by the way, that you have come out in the public and that you're and your wife and I just are ex-wife. I really think that if y'all would just let this woman be an adult and do her career and y'all just set back and deal with your own personal drama then she could have a thriving career again but i think that there's a co

15:30you know there's a correlation between that it's not coincidence that you and dean started hating each other and that lindsey started having problems well and let me get one thing straight i don't hate dean i don't hate anybody that's not my vocabulary but and i do agree and respect what you're saying but you have to look at it from a different perspective to i did do things quietly i did try i know i did things a long way of times that i did speak out on the wrong occasions i'm not saying that i didn't however when you've when you're getting phone call from the middle of the night and you and and you can't do anything quietly and privately and you have no way to stop something when your child is knocking at that store and the only way because she is who she is i could do something was by putting her in a corner and they bring attention to what she's doing to everyone in her life and say look at if you don't do something i'm gonna make it know what's happening this could have died if i didn't do some of the things i did you don't understand what was going on you don't know the whole story and and i respect that you don't know what was going on behind closed doors you don't

16:33know how many phone calls i was getting at night at two three four five in the morning daddy get on the plane come out here i fly out then she disappear and i come back to New York and i got a call three days later and then dean is calling me saying we have to do an intervention and one thing led to another and it was fruitless what could i do i have a uh... random question are you are going to be participating in a reality TV show in the next couple months absolutely not no way no we are we were going to one close to lebby house in the york we started to do it one of the producers in california was out there within three days of shooting he said michael we already have a deal i said i don't want to be in it if you're going to shoot it in the way i said just you know i'll be a producer on it i created the show so let's uh... it's all based on charity with celebrities living in the house working on different charity projects get back to the community no i'm not going to be doing that alright michael we got a role in an appreciate you uh... you coming on with us i know actually you're not doing a lot of interviews today so i appreciate

17:35taking the time to hang out with us this morning you guys are great thank you and i respect everything you ask and you know i wish that woman the best that i have to try a lot on whatever medication and we hope when he gets better to for sure next michael appreciate you by now you guys have a great day god bless you hi i lot of you guys have some very strong opinions about this variant from stop bashing on michael low into this guy is an idiot the virtue hey it's michael and football is finally back and price picks is bringing out their best offer yet new users who sign up will get a hundred fifty dollars in line ups if you win your first five dollar line up that's right if you win your first five dollar line up you'll get a hundred fifty dollars in line ups and now price picks is available nationwide so what do you waiting for lock in for kickoff because everyone and everything is on price picks so what you on this season i'm all in on be john robinson he is set to absolutely dominate the touches in that land of this year

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19:38until your sleep recovery strain and overall help to help you make better decisions every day whether you're training, working, traveling or just trying to fill your best who shows you what helps your performance and what might be holding you back listen to your body build better habits see where who can take you try who free for 30 days at whoop.com this is Ashley Kennedy from the Ben and Ashley I almost have his podcast Ben I've been reflecting a lot lately on how many big life moments our listeners have experienced with us yeah it's pretty wild they've watched us go from dating shows to engagements weddings babies buying homes every stage comes with new decisions the milestones are the fun part but the planning is where things get real that's why clarna stands out clarna gives people smarter tools to help manage everyday money with flexible ways to pay cashback that builds automatically everything in one place and support that makes everyday decisions feel less overwhelming since life moves so fast

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21:44started talking about that that we had to for the time lifebook right my twin brother burnt himself with an iron in San Francisco California I was in Pittsburgh and I felt the pain order now and you can read the rest of this story for only nine ninety nine a month now Blair Morgan which um of the twins here is the single twin Morgan Morgan Morgan can you guys stop harmonizing it's like twins in stereo so Morgan is the one who's single yes okay and Blair are you married or are you just in a committed relationship I'm getting married next month okay congratulations um so explain to us Morgan um why you think that Blair I obviously Blair has found a man and you have not so is this Blair's idea to come on and try to find you a date oh totally it is okay okay because you have to do everything in sync right she's getting married your singer yeah is that the dream right there that okay we'll get married together

22:46we'll have kids together we'll go on vacations together and stuff like that I would think that the dream would be to find a set of guy twins and marry them no I think we actually have a way to get together so long I'm very excited she gets to have her own big day and you don't want to share that you have to share everything else true true so Blair why do um why does Morgan need help finding a man like what is she doing wrong well I don't think she's doing anything wrong I just think that I lived in Atlanta for five years and I just think it lands the really hard city to find good guys to go on dates with or you know to go out with why there's a break club scene there's a great you know like single like girls thing but I just don't feel like it's a really easy city to go out on really good date I can agree with that yeah it's how to find a solid solid dude who has goals and wants to do anything because there's a lot of college kids in Atlanta and all of them are just concerned with going out and drinking beer and

23:50working there pleaded khaki shorts and they're really cool stuff and they're glasses around their neck I mean the guys here are just not as solid I think as women are here every city I've ever worked and says the exact same thing oh good man there's no good it's no different anywhere and they always have the third worst traffic in the country and the busiest airport uh-huh and if you don't like the weather here don't worry it'll change in 60 seconds every city I've ever lived in it said that except San Diego but no I can I've lived in different cities and I found it to be easier to date in um different cities so I don't totally agree with it but maybe I was just at a different point in my life when I lived in Atlanta okay well we've got two different ideas for you guys one has well I both have to do with dating one specifically has to do with getting Morgan dates and the other one has nothing to do with getting Morgan dates at all first what we want to do is what we want to do is put her on 30 dates and 30 days and I think this will accomplish a couple of different things first of all it will put Morgan in front of 30 different

24:53dudes and also it'll expose others to places that you can go and things that you can do around town that just don't necessarily have to be bars or restaurants where you guys can hang out and go on days we're gonna do one a day that was the idea it's a good idea because I remember I had to do this how long ago couple like a couple years ago I had to go out on 30 days and 30 dates it is exhausting and you've got to find like time in your schedule to do it and some of the guys may not be as quality as you'd like them to be and then you just have to get to the point where like you're just having lunch with Southside Steve you're like pretty much no but I mean you do have to sit through conversations and get to know these guys whether they're creepy or not creepy at the end of the like the 30 days she was meeting guys at intersections in her car going look I've got between 912 and 914 I just pull up next to me in the car we'll talk for 30 seconds when it goes green we go and that was the extent of the day right there so we want to do 30 dates and 30 days with you and then Jeff tell me the secondary idea yeah because we you know twins have are fun and so what we would like to do is during one of those dates and we can I don't know how will

26:00determine who the lucky guy will be but just for you know giggles we'd like to have you guys start the date out you know you know Morgan start the date out everything fine but then you know at one point maybe half hour into it to get up and use the restroom and which the other player and have to have Blair come back to the table and continue the date and then about 30 minutes later Blair gets up from the table returns to the restroom again and Morgan returns and we'd like to see if you guys could swap out two or three times during the entire date without the guy notices we're dying enough if the guy would even notice have you guys even thought about oh we well I'm setting class for Morgan before have you have you done this before yes my gosh I wonder if he would notice even if you're wearing completely different outfits I think that's the only way he would notice we just like leave off a piece of jewelry or something and see if he thinks like something I don't know he totally this outfits might be a little aggressive because I think you're going to

27:02get confident by this by the end of the 30 dates you're going to be jacking with these guys like 27 through 30 you're just going to be jacked with I think they're already pros it switching out sounds like it yeah so are you guys game to both of these yeah I think it'll be fun hi was that Blair speaking yeah yeah that's a lot of time a lot of new dress mm-hmm and it's an investment but who knows at the end of the 30 days what we can find you where we're gonna find these guys we're gonna what we're gonna do is most yeah we'll post a picture and um all that stuff online okay I'm just gonna take us a couple days to do it and then we'll start the process to yeah of course yeah for sure all right so we'll start with this next week okay you guys thanks Claire thanks Morgan bye bye bye suddenly I want some double mint gum I think next time we got to have them in studio it's weird to have two twins talking at the same time on the phone in harmony I want to see how much they really look alike in person we have a picture it'll be up online later on today okay

28:05and then I think we'll put more of a profile and everything up online and then we'll start 15 through and try to find guys awesome the bird show hey it's Mikey and football is finally back and prize picks is bringing out their best offer yet new users who sign up will get $150 in line ups if you win your first $5 line up that's right if you win your first $5 line up you'll get $150 in line ups and now prize picks is available nationwide so what are you waiting for lock in for kickoff because everyone and everything is on prize picks so what you on this season I'm all in on B. John Robinson he is set to absolutely dominate the touches in Atlanta this year and his explosive dual threat play makes him a stat sheet stiffer I'm picking more on his total yards projection he's my guy I'm prize picks so get on it with me today prize picks is going crazy with the deals to start the football season giving users a new promo every day during stacked September make sure to sign up now for guaranteed picks every Sunday along with profit boosts and daily

29:09discounts throughout the month plus the app is simple to use you just pick two to six players and then pick more or less on their projected stats like past yards rush yards and fantasy score it's the best way to get more locked in on game day all in the same app so download the app today and use code BIRT to get $150 in line ups if you win your first $5 line up download the app today and use code BIRT to get $150 instantly in line ups if you win your first $5 line up prize picks run your game your body is always giving you signals who helps you understand them whoop is the wearable health and fitness coach that provides personalized insights until your sleep recovery strain and overall help to help you make better decisions every day whether you're training working traveling or just trying to fill your best whoop shows you what helps your performance and what might be holding you back listen to your body build better habits see where whoop can take you try whoop free for 30 days at whoop.com this is Ashley Kennedy from the Ben and Ashley I almost

30:11have his podcast Ben I've been reflecting a lot lately on how many big life moments our listeners have experienced with us yeah it's pretty wild they've watched us go from dating shows to engagements weddings babies buying homes every stage comes with new decisions the milestones are the fun part but the planning is where things get real that's why clarna stands out clarna gives people smarter tools to help manage everyday money with flexible ways to pay cashback that builds automatically everything in one place and support that makes everyday decisions feel less overwhelming since life moves so fast the right tools can help you feel more confident download the clarna app today or visit clarna.com to learn more California resident loans made a range pursuant to a California finance law license and MLS number one three five three one nine zero clarna balance account required to be eligible for cashback points limitations terms and conditions apply hey the bird show all right we have Michelle here who is in a tough spot because she thinks her sister-in-law might

31:16be stealing from her where I come from that's bad hey Michelle good morning good morning how are you guys good how are you today good thank you um you were on the voice disguiser so nobody can recognize your voice but you're having some problems with your sister-in-law I am um it's a strange awkward situation um I guess I I think she's taking my things um I'm you know not super successful but I'm a pretty successful person that I think you know their family is better off than I am so I don't know why she would want my thing um but uh she is the only person that has access to my house because she has babysat the pet before so she has a key you know I guess could come over whenever she wanted arguably um and uh the the strangest part though I guess is that there's only random things sort of missing it's not like a jewelry or the TV it's um what an example is I

32:20wanted to get one of my friends at work um DVDs for kids my kids have them they were younger and um I wish he's been out of the cabinet and you know like 90% of them are missing and um wow okay yeah but you know like this kids DVDs that I could remember you know my sister-in-law is watching these but who who wouldn't buy DVDs for kids you know like I have to know with like your marks or like our design is there any possibility that she thinks okay we're family I'll just borrow some of these DVDs and I'll give them back when I'm done and she doesn't feel like the need to tell you that she's been taking them out of the house just to see you know but borrowing without telling is called stealing the siblings do what is she different I think could she have told your husband and then you can tell you why I thought you said we're just the DVDs possibly you know it's completely possible but that's how it's like um my my son couldn't find his Nintendo DS

33:22so of course I'm you know yelling at him where is it you leave it somewhere where is it he doesn't know where it is um but then I see you know her son playing with one which again could have could have found one too no um so then I guess the strangest thing that has been missing is the groceries what I think no I I'm not I feel crazy sadness we've had some things and crazy but I'm not like I go grocery shopping and then it's not fair um what if there's a thing like like two big big boxes of cereals that are gone in two days and they can donate a box of two boxes of cereal in two days well how serious is this what kind of cereal is it because I can change it it's like there's three of the pebbles yeah I can understand it's really good to drink it you know I can bear it like if it's lucky charms I mean it's on right oh I think I think it was I think it was for the big those crutches oh damn what she says

34:26cinnamon toast I can steal that that makes it look really good at the end yeah Apple jacks through the milk and apple jacks oh yeah let's go I'm in front where we're getting a fight today yeah because if it's useless then I'll pay you to steal it but greatness maybe just go chew on gravel yeah your cheeks are like inflated to people like capacity after greatness any who so we've got food missing just an authentic food DVDs and an Nintendo DS right now is it possible because you you initially started this call saying that you thought that they were better off financially than you were do you think that somehow some way like over the last couple of months because of the recession or whatever something financially has happened to the family where they won't publicly tell you that they're hurting right now but privately they are hey I mean I don't think so you know I we're around each other pretty often you know we go for the family dinners and once

35:26a week and eat my groceries and I don't think I don't know I think that everything fine and like I said it's not like it's even the the expensive things per se or it's random weird things are just gone is it possible that you left the groceries at the like supermarket or something and you and this is like feeding into your like you know how sometimes you get something in your head and then it becomes like the self-fulfilling prophecy like you get it you get it fixed in your brain that that somebody's doing this to you and then anything they do that even leans in that direction so is it possible that maybe you left the bag the the plastic bag with the cereal in it like at the grocery store or didn't take cereal to the market like everything's like shampoo missing or like who's keeping this thing the thing though that I know I definitely bought was that I bought three whole chickens like we roast chickens so often I like to have them on hand and I know that

36:31I bought them because I remember making room in the freezer for them okay who's the chicken would not bear to have the room in the freezer I know that that room was once off these guys with the chicken and there's gone and then later that week we have chicken in their house for dinner it just sounds so random PSPs DVDs cereal and chickens are missing out so she stole your chicken and then fed it to you I it seems that way does well then I I would look at it differently she saved you the preparation time you should be thanking her yeah not coming down on which got you I just wonder if the way she approaches her about maybe one of the things on the list could prove you know by her reaction could it prove whether she's doing it or not like if you just approach her about the DVDs and she's really overly defensive about it you know could that prove if she's taking everything or if she's lying about it or whatever or could it prove she thinks she's just borrowing stuff

37:33because it's just family maybe you say is it would this be a possible option if she just goes to the sister-in-law says hey have you guys been borrowing some of our DVDs because we went to go watch Toy Story the other night and it wasn't there I'm trying to figure out if we lost it or somebody just been borrowing it did you say what your husband's reaction to all this is I mean he he thinks that a little lady he thinks I'm sort of losing my mind sort of even he's entertaining this idea but because I mean he would I suppose he would have said something you said that I'm crazy if he knew she's learning things but then the other if she's learning things I'm asking then she's still coming in my house without asking was she we are that's yeah I mean well the obvious answer to their family different families are different they're families that have no problem doing that and there's some that do and I to me it's either one or two things either what Burton Janet been saying it's either the they're they're struggling more than you realize and the reason I asked about your husband is because I'm wondering if your husband without telling you was trying to help his sister out or it's a case what Jenna's saying about well you know your family and they're

38:37just kind of you know she's just kind of over seven her balance is your sister here's some suggestions from the Birk show community 877 588 work B.E.R.T. 877 588 2378 what's up Deborah hey good morning good morning how's it lady to change her locks like that this is a no-brainer no accusations no family disputes in the story here's the thing though like Melissa I think brings up a good point they may have two different definitions of family yes and if she just changes the locks that's going to be sort of earth shattering stuff right there you know because Katie could be because my my family is very private you know alert somebody before you come over kind of thing it's just like the drop in is not a cargo family tradition it is not a Carter family tradition is not it we we consider it courtesy to let somebody know but Katie's family's not that way it's very opened or policy it's very everybody is everybody's family and what yours is mine kind of thing I mean like they would certainly like if if Katie's brother was at our house they wouldn't

39:42he wouldn't take stuff without telling us but I wouldn't even know even when that open that house they may if it was one thing they'd forget and they would tell us later but if they're going up into our policy if they're going into your freezer to remove two frozen chicken frozen entrees for dinner when they leave a note to like they would there's there's things that that have been taken from our friends and chicken yeah but to but to Katie it's like oh yeah because our fridge is their fridge yeah the items make me think there's something going on here just the specific items that we're talking about seem like items that if you're going through a tough time you would steal like food breakfast chickens I think they're kind of like yeah it's more like loose and gray area borrowing because it's not like diamonds are missing or a Rolex is missing and they're trying to go pawn it that would to me would be stealing it is stealing just like living amongst and being family and that's what I'm saying I mean different people at different definitions Jeff I agree with you but I mean they're families out there that would not that think it's just hey what's the big deal here is crystal good morning crystal you're on the birch show what's going on hey guys good morning

40:45good morning no it was my sister a sister a lot and it was especially food I wouldn't care and I doubt I would even ask because I mean she's probably really embarrassed if you want to get to the bottom of it just put an any cam in the house yeah that's what moisture calling up saying if you really want to get to the bottom of it all you got to do is put an ant nanny cam in she can't only do one because she got to go buy more chicken yeah how about DVDs she's going to make dinner for the guy who installed it but you can't have somebody to go chicken and he wanted he she said what do you want he goes I want to roast chicken stuff to cinamito's crunch that's what she can't do yeah I would really love to watch toy story on DVD how long have you been married about 18 years 18 years so you should know for sure I mean in 18 years you know what the family policy is are they close or not I mean we've never been close enough to walk into each other's house without then she's stealing from then it's not a recession problem then she's just flat out taken stuff from I think it's a recession problem I mean it is yeah it wouldn't be one of these like

41:49I'm not exactly sure you know what the definition of the family is you're almost two decades with the same family you know that when I when it's something's missing in my house I know that it's you know the other side them they took it the Joe's it's the Joe part of the family most are calling and saying if you really want concrete proof just go ahead and get yourself a nanny cam and that should be the end of that whole thing but in 18 years you know the definition of the family I think it's more of a private conversation sit down and talk to her and say you know think you've noticed a few things and and just try to have that conversation as honestly and it's nicely as possible if they're embarrassed and there's something going on then offer to help don't do it in the accusatory right right I think you should in a casual conversation just let your sister sister law which is a law I think you should just let your sister in law that you have come up with the ancient tradition of putting pubis on random food and just let her know that that's happening in your house and if nothing gets taken again you know it's her

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45:58terms and conditions apply get it the virtue Laura good morning you are on the birch show hi good morning um the way it sounds to me is the one just a clip of an act you should take random things that distract your fancy at that particular moment but it wouldn't occur after 18 years like you would have known that from minute number one right and whose fancy gets stricken by frozen chickens. Because I have a sister law who's now my ex sister law she came into my house was being on nice and stuff and then well I was at fairs changing my kids diaper she's so money out of my purse you had the only other person there I had just got paid so I knew it was there and you know she did not have a force but there was the only two people there mean my two-year-old and my eight-month-old and her it's just so funny when you said my ex sister laws if you divorce turban not her husband good morning Alex how are you this morning good how you doing all right I was just calling to say my sister apparently had been taking some costume jewelry from my wife

47:04and my wife mentioned a couple times I was like nah nah nah I've got to you know I don't believe it but it's costume jewelry whatever so my sister was moving and we went to help her move and my wife actually had you know opened up something and had the costume jewelry in it so she was talking to my sister and said hey where did you get this she goes she had so much she turns around she goes oh my god I've had this for so long I don't even remember like when I turn around she looked at me well at the very nice place of joy whatever so we turn around we even I said you know instead of making a whole family stay we change still fox so your sister lost all your wife's jewelry his sister his his sister was oh your sister stealing what's wrong with you she was stealing her costume jewelry so wow but I think in this case it goes back to the we talked about the recession because it sounds like random stuff but if the things in your house that you need you need shampoo you need food if you've got kids you know movies for the kids toys for the kids to me it sounds like they're not as financially

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