How Chronic Devaluation Shapes Confidence, Relationships, and Ambition
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What happens when nothing you accomplish ever seems to be enough?
In this solo episode of Notes From the Edge, Lisa Lacy explores the long-term impact of chronic devaluation, especially when it begins in childhood. She shares personal stories of earning straight A’s, leading teams, serving on committees, excelling in performance, and still feeling as though the finish line kept moving.
When you are told to go left and then criticized for not going right, you may stop trusting your own direction. Over time, that confusion can shape your confidence, your relationships, your ambition, and your ability to fully receive your own success.
This conversation explores:
- Why devaluation can create overachievement and overfunctioning
- How moving standards teach children to distrust themselves
- Why accomplished adults may still struggle to feel successful
- How early devaluation can affect romantic and professional relationships
- The difference between creating from self-expression and performing for approval
- How to receive feedback without turning it into a verdict on your worth
Devaluation did not stop Lisa from becoming a leader, performer, entrepreneur, writer, and creator.
She accomplished it anyway.
But the deeper work is learning to accomplish without still carrying the need to prove that she deserves to be valued.
What have you spent your life accomplishing in the hope that someone would finally recognize your value?
And what might you create next if you no longer needed their permission?
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