30. How to Support Your Team Without Absorbing Their Stress

Many compassionate leaders assume that feeling drained is just part of the job. That if you care deeply, especially in the middle of ongoing stress and drama at work, you’re going to take other people’s emotions home with you. Stephanie believed that too, until supporting her team started to erode her work-life balance and her confidence as a leader.

She wasn’t lacking skill or commitment. She was leading with care, but without the trauma-informed leadership tools that help you stay present without absorbing everything around you.

In this episode, I share the shift that helped her strengthen her executive presence without hardening or pulling away. You’ll learn the “Be a Bowl, Not a Sponge” exercise, a simple, practical approach I’ve used for over 20 years in leadership coaching to help people set healthy boundaries at work while remaining calm, supportive, and clear.

So if you want to lead with compassion, reduce drama at work, and support your team without carrying it all yourself, hit play and let’s get into it.

🎧 Hit PLAY and let’s get started.

You’ll learn:

• Why your mind might be tricking you into thinking your team’s stress is your own
• A simple visualization technique that helps you protect your energy in real time
• How to lead with compassion without taking responsibility for everyone else’s emotions
• Why emotional intelligence in leadership hinges on knowing what to hold  and what to release

Free Resource Mentioned in this Episode
4 Steps to Healthy Boundaries (From Exhaustion to Authentic Power)

1:00 – The Empathy Trap: Why compassionate leaders take on emotions that aren’t theirs

2:00 – Mirror Neurons & Leadership Stress: Why your body reacts so strongly when others are upset

4:10 – Leadership Burnout in Real Life: A healthcare leader on the verge of quitting

6:00 – Be a Bowl, Not a Sponge: A trauma-informed tool to stay grounded during emotional conversations

10:45 – Regulated Leadership: How staying grounded protects you from burnout and helps your team feel safer

🧘‍♀️ ACTIVITY FROM THIS EPISODE:

1. Imagine a bowl you love to look at or hold.

2. Imagine it being big enough to fill your lap.

3. Imagine the other person's words & emotions going into the bowl (not into you).

4. After the conversation, imagine pouring the contents of the bowl out. 

5. Remind yourself there will be others to support that person (it doesn't all have to come from you).

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