When ADHD is mistaken for disobedience (Kayla Sanders’ story)

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Growing up as a Black girl with undiagnosed ADHD, Kayla Sanders learned very early that getting into trouble was not an option. Kayla was imaginative, playful, and extremely bright. She was also hyperactive, which was occasionally mistaken for disobedience. 

One incident in particular in the first grade left a lasting mark on Kayla. From then on out, Kayla did everything she could to avoid causing trouble for her hard-working, loving mom. She pushed down her hyperactivity and masked her symptoms for years. Then, during the pandemic, Kayla was finally diagnosed with ADHD.  

Join Kayla and host Laura Key’s chat on ADHD and masking, and the added pressure that comes from racial bias.

Related resources

• To be Black in America with a learning disability
• Bias in school discipline: When the teacher says your child is “acting out”, from Opportunity Gap
• ADHD and rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD)

Timestamps

(01:10) Kayla’s pandemic ADHD diagnosis story

(06:53) Kayla’s childhood behavior

(09:45) The pressure to mask ADHD as a Black woman

(13:56) Covering up “mistakes” in the classroom

(15:35) Kayla’s relationship with her mom

(20:11) Cultural masking, and the intersection of ADHD and race

 

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