(WARNING) HYPERGAMY Doesn't Care How Long You've Been Married

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1:00If you're a man over 40, you need to understand this. Hypergamy doesn't care how long you've been married. Hypergamy doesn't care how great a father you are to your kids. Hypergamy doesn't care how you rearranged your college majors in career choice in life to better accommodate her. Hypergamy doesn't care about those words you said at your wedding. And once you understand this, everything changes. But don't fret, brother. A lot of guys hear this and want to just give up on women. No, no. We can use this to our advantage. Go and live, baby. Go and live. You're listening to the premiere podcast for men who want to not only be better with women, but want to be better men in general.

2:04This is the Come On Man podcast. And here's your host. Paul Bauer. Paul Bauer. Paul Bauer. Paul Bauer. Paul Bauer. Paul Bauer. He is a certified master life coach and the LP practitioner. It's true. It's damn true. It's going on. Guys, shout out to Rolo for that intro. He wrote a really profound article in 2012 about how Hypergamy doesn't care. I dropped a link to it in the chat. If you're new to the channel, my name is Paul Bauer. I help men level up and get better with women. And the funny thing about doing that is it tends to make us better men in all areas of our lives. Mary 20 years, huh? Doesn't matter. Mary 30? Doesn't matter. Hypergamy doesn't check your anniversary date before it goes to work on her attraction. Here's what most married men over 40 get wrong. They think loyalty is what keeps a wife devoted for good. It isn't. The instinct that pulled her toward you in the first place never actually stops working.

3:07And it's grading you right now today while you're sitting here watching or listening. Because that instinct never turns off. It's directly connected to infidelity, to divorce, and to why some marriages quietly fall apart, even when nothing looks wrong from the outside. By the end of the stream, you'll clearly understand how that instinct operates inside your own marriage and exactly what you could do today to put it back on your side instead of working against you. My boy hypergamy is a hot topic according to YouTube trends, man. So if you're sick of me talking about hypergamy, don't blame me brother blame the algorithm. Okay. And I was watching I was watching Rollo stream yesterday and he low key gave me a little bit of a backhanded shout out. So I appreciate it. There's no such thing as bad publicity. But he said something on the show that that the that had the guys in my pack talking about

4:08at this morning, which is perfect because it also inspired me to make this TikTok last night. He said, and I'm going to get demonetized for this. So be sure to send those super chats in. But he said, if other women won't fuck you, you're the problem. If other women want to fuck you, then your wife is the problem. Right. And in brother Peter out of Europe said, you know, that's pretty bulletproof point, Paul. And I'm like, isn't it? And so let me play the TikTok that I made last night for this because because I heard that. And I was like, Oh man, guys are going to hear that and go, Yep. Mine's well just throwing the towel, right? So let me, let me grab that video here real quick because it's just just a real short one. But I'll show you why there's some new ones to it. Like he's not wrong. But there's also more to it. If other women won't fuck you, you're the problem. If other women want to fuck you, your wife is the problem.

5:08I heard this today and there's definitely something to it, but it's missing some new ones. I coach men and sexual marriages and have been doing so for a few years now. What I see is that men can usually turn up the charm enough to initially attract women. But keeping that attraction going for the long run requires certain skills and mental frame. Most men have never been taught. It's the same reason if you read the book The Game by Neil Strauss that the pickup artist could easily sleep with new women, but found it impossible to keep the ones that they actually wanted around for a long time. Which of course made a lot of those guys miserable. Hell, mystery, the greatest pickup artist of all time wanted to unalive himself at one point in that book. So the moral of the story is sure, you can go bang other chicks or get a divorce. But if your goal is a healthy long term relationship, you're just kicking the can down the road. If you don't do the work to develop your mental frame and learn these skills.

6:12You know, so just like just like anything else in Red Pill, it really comes down to what you want, right? If all you want is just more sex, it by all means, by all means, just go out, sleep with other chicks. That's fine, right? And you know, some guys are doing that right now. They're getting their needs met. Doesn't matter, right? If you, you're just tired of your wife, you think it's better to work on these skills with new women. Sometimes that's way easier. In fact, you know, I was talking to Nurse Chick about this morning. Like her, she and I aren't married, you know, and if she just starts not acting right, like I'm not, I'm not going to sit there and try to make her want to bang me. I'm just going to say, hey, look, this ain't working. I'm going to reevaluate what I was doing in that relationship and see if I can fix what I can fix, you know, which is you can only fix yourself. But then I would, I would just move on and find another chick, you know, like absolutely. I sort of agree with Rolo on that one. But when you've been married 30 years and you've got, you know, a house that you guys

7:14now, like now she owns half the house technically because of the law says so and you've got, you've got shared assets and 401Ks, you've built up over 20, 30 years, like just dumping her bro becomes infinitely harder. So you know, it really just comes out to what you want at the end of the day. Before we get too far into it, I have the Super Chat goal turned on today and we have yet to get to the booty shaking video, but I'm not giving up on her yet. I'm not giving up on that sweet, that sweet booty. All right. So 10 Super Chats gets it or a single 20 will get it. Can I just say, can I just say that boob guys and you feet guys out there, you guys seem to be more generous than the ass men out there. Why is that? Where are my ass men? Okay. We're looking for ass men out there. All right. Let's get into it. So hypergamy hypergamy is her constantly judging you against every man she ever sees. Okay. It's always asking one question.

8:14Can I do better? It's always asking us. Can I do better? So if your wife is constantly measuring you against the best option, she believes she could get and it never quite stops. The moment she starts feeling like she settled for you instead of winning you, her attraction begins to start eroding on its own and she starts looking for a better option. Okay. It sounds counterintuitive, doesn't it? But men are taught they have to win over women. But no, she's got to be constantly winning you over because of a thing called bryphilis law. Okay. Bryphilis law says that it's the female, not the male, that determines whether a relationship is going to take place or not. Okay. So that happens in all animal, in all animal species, including the human species. So if she wants to keep you around, she knows exactly what she needs to do. Okay. She knows exactly what she needs to do.

9:15There's women nowadays, it could be argued that they suck at it because they've been programmed to start way. They think, oh, if I just get fat and if I nag him enough, like he'll want to stick around. Right. The thing is that most guys have been beta ties so much over the years that they, it's like it's learned helplessness. They don't know, they don't know that they, they have a better solution, right? There was a guy on, there was a guy on Facebook yesterday. He was talking about, I was talking about, would you rather be in a relationship that has occasional tension to it in excitement or relationship that you have all this piece, but no sex? And the guy goes, oh, like we have a choice. And I'm like, don't you though? You have, you absolutely have a choice. You have a choice. You have, you can chur, you can choose to learn the skills to set the tone and lead a relationship, right? And be a guy who women want a bang, be a guy your wife wants to bang, right? Or you can be a beta and have her negotiate of you and believe that you're a victim, right?

10:19What would you rather do? Okay. I personally would rather have guys learn these skills to get women investing in you. It's a real hard thing for nice, like recovering nice guys to do though. I see it, I see it in the wolf pack a lot where these guys start working on this stuff and then their wives want to start doing nice things for them. But then they still have this idea that I have to handle everything and I have to do chores or whatever to, to, you know, pick the pussy lock as Rolo was saying. I think last night was pretty funny, but it's like, no man, you got to understand that women when they are finding a man attractive, they want to do nice things for that guy. It's in their DNA. I want to serve this guy. I want to, I see him as, as above me in some way, I want to put some investment in and most guys are like, oh, no, no, let me take care of that shit, right? And it's, it kills the attraction because she's not doing the chasing that she fundamentally

11:21needs to feel like she's staying invested and, you know, and chasing you around, right? But if you say this, right, women will argue, no, men are hunters, they need to chase. No, women need to chase. They need to chase to feel like they've won you over, right? All right, guys, by the way, do you be sure to like, subscribe, hit those notifications. I do have new episodes every Monday, Wednesday and Friday without fail, even if there's a power outage and have to do it a little bit later than usual. All right. So there's this thing we call it in red pill, we call it hypergamy. Rollo did a really great stream on this two weekends ago or the weekend before, you know, this last weekend, where he was talking about how his biggest, the biggest problem he sees in the entire manosphere and the manosphere extends out past red pill, right? It includes like anybody talking about men's issues.

12:23What you'll see in the blue pill men's space is them going, oh no, this hypergamy thing is bullshit, right? Because if you look at the webster's definition of hypergamy, it means that women only want to mate and date up, right? It's all like financial and economic and whatever. And what red pill has been arguing for years is like, no, no, no, no, no, hypergamy is the dual mating strategy. Okay. And we have evolved over time with this dual mating strategy, alpha fucks, beta bucks. Okay. What are alpha fucks? Alpha fucks are the exciting dominant. He can find off a fucking saber tooth tiger pillage other villages stuff like that. That's like that's at the alpha traits. Okay. And a lot of people hate the terms alpha beta and they cite some stupid wolf study because there are a bunch of fucking nerds. But you can look at it more like we're going to talk about more that the alpha traits are what women, women, it's the dopamine in their system, right?

13:25And that beta traits are the comfort love feeling, the oxytocin, right? So what's funny about this is it's been evolved over time, right? So the alpha fucks are the exciting dominant can fight off saber tooth tiger pillage other villages and stuff like that. Why do you think a lot of women have great fantasies? A lot of women. If you look at the stats from the hub, right? The rhymes with corn, corn hub. If you look at the stats from corn hub, when women watch videos, it's overwhelmingly, you know, like gang bangs and very aggressive type, you know, like hardcore, you know, almost like great type, you know, humiliation type videos and stuff like a women are like into that stuff. And then the dance, the friday's book, all these anonymous women wrote in to talk about their sexual fantasies and they had a lot of these types of fantasies, it was pretty wild, right? So, so do you think maybe this comes from the warb rides dynamic, maybe, you know, where,

14:29where, you know, women, you know, they, their villages got pillage, their husbands got killed. And these guys were grraping them and then made them into their wives and they're like, well, if I don't get on board with the program, I'm going to die too. I might as well just move on with this guy, right? He's got this dominant masculine presence. We'll talk about warb rides a little bit more in a bit, right? But a guy with out with alpha quality gives her that dopamine feeling, okay? Rock, sight, mint, anticipation, tension, sexual attraction. I call it heat, healthy, emotional, anticipation, intention, okay? Beta bucks is provisioning, providing, being a good hunter, right? Being a good hunter, like a lot of guys are out there, like I'm an alpha male, I go out and fucking hunt deer and elk and shit like that. Technically, that's beta bucks because you're acquiring resources for the family, right? So, being a good hunter, good at acquiring resources, being a good dad, okay? That's comfort in nurturing.

15:29That's the beta bucks side of hypergamy, gives her an oxytocin feeling, okay? An oxytocin feeling is family love, like how she loves her brother, okay? It's not sexual attraction, there's two different things, okay? So those two instincts, they don't always point at the same guy, which is why a woman can love her steady husband and still feel pulled towards a man who unsettles her a little bit, right? Look at Tom Brady and Jacelle and Jacelle cheating on Tom Brady for the hot Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu instructor, right? So your job and marriage, if you want to, if this is your goal, right? Like I'm never going to get married again, I think marriage isn't dumb idea, but a lot of you guys didn't get the memo, okay? Now you're invested and now you have family and you got, you know, pension and all this kind of shit you don't want to lose, okay? So if you want to make that work, your job and marriage is feeding both sides of that instinct

16:30because giving her only comfort stability leaves the other half of her completely unfed and this is what leads to sexless marriages and women cheating, okay? Not in not all women cheat, just to be fair, not all women cheat. And like Rolo says on his show, if she can go three months without sex, she can go three years without sex or whatever his number is, right? She doesn't, she fundamentally don't want to fuck you because you're not giving her that dopamine sexual attraction feeling. So she'll get it elsewhere, she'll go and fuck the pool boy or she'll read a dirty cheesy sex novel and bang herself out with a vibrator, right? Like she's not going without, she's just not fucking you, okay? But this is what leads to sexless marriages and cheating and stuff like that, all right? So be honest with me real quick, be honest with me, what side of hypergamy do you think your girl sees you on? Alpha fucks or beta bucks, bit of both? Let me know in the chat or down below if you're watching the replay or listening on Spotify

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18:37What you want? Download the app today and use code Spotify to get $150 InstaLian lineups if you win your first $5 lineup. Prize picks, run your game. So there's also this really fascinating thing that women have. It's a feature. It's called concealed ovulation, okay? Cilled ovulation exists so she can cheat without you ever knowing for sure. Concealed ovulation exists so she can cheat without you ever knowing for sure. It protects her from you discovering that she's been out fucking the hot guy and getting pregnant by that guy. And you can and she can like, you know, lie to you about it and have you raised this baby and you might not ever fucking know. Okay. So the human females they hide their fertility window for a reason and this is biological. It's not like they're actively trying to hide it, right? It's a part of their like their cycle. You never quite can tell when they're in heat.

19:39Whereas you look at animal species, they usually go into heat like a certain time of year and you and they put off they put off pheromones and stuff that say, hey, I'm just going to be a little bit more of an ovulating like come and fuck me and then like bucks start, you know, like you look at a bucks and an elk and though it like they, you know, they have the rut season where they're all fighting for the female and then she bangs the winners, right? That's how that works in the animal kingdom. But in the human species, we don't know. We don't know and she's ovulating once a month. It's not once a year. You know what I mean? It's not it's not like going into heat once a year. I mean, you can track this. We're going to talk about that in a little bit. But for all intensive purposes, we don't really know. And one of those reasons is that the concealment makes it nearly impossible for a husband to ever be fully certain she stayed faithful. Okay. And what's really crazy about this is recently, I think with any like a year or two, like I don't know when they did this, but France, France outlawed DNA testing because of this.

20:45You are not allowed to go and get a private blood test and administer a blood test on you and your kids to make sure those are your really your kids in France. And if you do so, there's like fines and legal consequences, maybe even jail time if you fucking do it because so many women are fucking cheating on their husbands in France, right? That the country decided that allowing men to prove it should be fucking illegal because it would probably collapse their their whole entire fucking society, right? That's probably what's going on. So you can only get a DNA test if it's court ordered, which they won't do, right? So go ahead and Google it. You do your own research on that, but it's a fascinating little thing. Okay. And because you can't watch her every second of the day, that hidden window gives her biology room to seek out a genetically different man without you ever catching on. Okay. A flaw specific to your wife too. Okay. It's a built in feature of female reproduction that every woman carries, whether she even

21:50at whether she acts on it or not. Okay. So what's what's really interesting about Red Pill is we often talk in the abstract, right? We talk about like, you know, women are like this as a general term. And then women get all mad. Well, not all women, right? I just, I did a video a couple of weeks ago on AWALT all women are like that. AWALT and it's, it's, it's, it's a rule of thumb. It's a heuristic. It's, it's like saying all guns are loaded, like treat all guns like they're loaded, right? We know for a fact that not all guns are loaded, but we treat them like they are. So we don't accidentally shoot ourselves in the foot or accidentally shoot somebody like when we're cleaning guns or whatever, right? It's a gun safety issue. So we tend in the space to use heuristics like women do this in the abstract. It doesn't mean your specific girls doing this shit, right? It doesn't mean you Susan. I'm not calling you out, Susan. But the thing is that women are so subsistic that any time you talk about women,

22:52they see it through their point of view and they think, well, I'm not like that. So all women must not be like that, right? It's like, no, no, no, like we're talking about the majority here. Carrie, okay? I don't know. I'll just throw in names out there. Michelle fucking whatever, right? But don't freak out. Don't freak out. We're going to talk about how to use this to your advantage near the end. But let's just recap for a little bit. Now you understand that women's primary sexual strategy is dualistic, alpha seed and beta need. You know that hypergamy is always talking to her like a little sort of devil on her shoulder, asking her if you're the best that she can do. And we just talked about how even her own ovulation cycle has evolved to hide her infidelity from you. So that just means you need to know how to defend against the dark arts, brother, especially if your relationship is going fairly well. If you're in a pretty good space right now with your girl, you need to know this more

23:53than anybody. And you don't want things if you don't want things to devolve into a scenario where you're potentially raising some other dude's kid, right? Or even worse, she divorce grapes you and takes everything you've ever fucking built. So for guys who need to learn how to become a woman's best hypergamous option, I wrote, keep your bitch. Okay, it gives you everything you need to make sure your relationship lasts longer than most. Time is on her audible. Links in the description. Right now your relationship might feel solid. She is warm, she's affectionate, she treats you well. And you think you finally figured it out. But if you look back over your life, how many times did things feel the same right before she pulled the plug? No warning, no big fight. Just one day she said she was done and you were left replaying conversations trying to figure out what you missed. Most men never see it coming. Not because they're clueless, but because attraction fades quietly.

24:57She doesn't announce it. She simply responds to how you show up. And if you don't know how to keep attraction alive over the long term, you can be the most loyal man on earth and still get hit with the same ending you thought you had outgrown. The pattern repeats unless you understand why it happens. That is why I wrote, keep your bitch. It's for men who want to keep a good relationship strong, not fix a broken one. It teaches you how to stay grounded, consistent, confident, and attractive in a way she continues to respond to year after year. Whether you're in something new or you're in your second or third marriage and failure is not an option. This book gives you the structure to make sure you never get blindsided again. If you want to keep what you have and never repeat past mistakes, the book is available now on Amazon. Pick it up today. And let me tell you this, because a lot of guys get confused by this. If she's not fucking you right now, don't get keep your bitch.

25:59Keep your bitches for guys that are in a new relationship or they've managed to turn things around. If she's not fucking you, you're going to want to start with this one. Get her to fuck you again. Which thanks for the shout out, Rollo. All right, let's take a look at the chat here. Nurse Chicks is good morning, gentlemen. Nurse Chicks gets this one. I'm so nodding. Oh, she is. I'm going to come. Oh, I will. Pushy must be ridiculous. Guys, so ridiculous. And then also she because of the ass video, she also gets this. She got a great ass. That's right. Oh, shit. Me, the trophy sent a $20,000 super chat. Good morning, all right. He's like, I want to see this fucking out. Paul keeps talking about this booty shaking video. So all right. Here you go, guys. Thank you. Thank you. That's not it. Fuck. Now I got to upload it again. I thought I had that one. Hold on. Let me get it uploaded. We'll play it for you. And I got demonetized just now. Showing those sweet titties.

27:01Let's see here. Where's the bouncing ass video? Okay. This is it. Let me upload that. We'll go through the chat while that's uploading. Brother John says, you know Nebraska, where they where they grow corn. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. Darfrin is in the house. He says happy Monday, gents. And brother Donald says it's on gents. God damn right. God damn right. All right. Hold on. It's processing. So let's move on to this. And then, uh, And then we'll, we'll go ahead and play that video for you. Don't let me forget it. Okay. So. Here's an interesting thing. Okay. The. And a lot of guys can recognize this themselves. They're like, oh shit. God, like my wife used me, like if they're past divorce and stuff like that, they're like, oh fuck, I was the beta bucks guy. She settled for me because I was the beta bucks guy. So then they think, well, fuck, the only way to move forward is to be the total fucking bad boy Chad just hit it and quit it and that's just fundamentally not me.

28:03I can't do that. I can't do that. Like I actually want to have healthy relationships, okay? So you got to understand that the bad boy and the nice guy, they each only get half of what hypergamy wants. And what's funny is, like I said in that video, that clip at the beginning, right? Look at the pickup artists. The pickup artists, a lot of that was really optimizing for the alpha side of hypergamy to get that initial attraction going and to bang women quickly. And what's also interesting about that too was it wasn't going to work on all women. They were looking for specific types of women that this would work on. Okay, so it's pretty interesting. If you ever read the book, the game, if you haven't read it, I highly recommend this great book, right? And, but so they were really optimizing for like sort of the bad boy excitement, alpha side of stuff. So they can get sex, but a lot of those guys wanted long term relationships with some of these chicks

29:04that they were banging and they couldn't keep these chicks around. Because, you know, like they didn't have the skills necessary to do a long term thing. So they were like, if women would walk out of them, they would be fucking depressed, like, you know, mystery was miserable. He wanted to unalive himself, I think, like two or three times in that fucking book, right? He would spiral downward. And it was like one girl that he was always, he was always pining after, right? He had oneitis. So those bad boys that you might think, if you're looking at it from the nice guy perspective, think, oh, these guys, they're so fucking awesome. They're getting all the pussy. They're getting like all this kind of stuff, but they're fucking miserable because they don't have the long term commitment, right? And then you as the nice guy, you're able to get the long term commitment because you've wooed them in with all your money and provisioning, but you can't get them to fuck you, right? So, right? So you're only getting, both these guys are only getting half. So a bad boy pulls sexual excitement out of a woman with almost no effort, but women rarely picture a future with him

30:06because he skips the stability instinct completely, right? You'll see these women go, oh, you'll see them, you know, when they think they're not being judged or whatever, or you get the microphone, they're like, oh, yeah, I'll fuck this guy, because he's hot, but this guy over here, he's boyfriend material, right? Like, so women look at it like that. And so, this is why my friend, Nuclear Caudillo, always says, being told that your husband material is a fucking insult. It's a fucking insult because she looks at you like a guy that she can extract resources from, okay? But those are the guys that women want to settle with. They're the ones that get that long term commitment, they're just not getting the sex and then the bad boys are getting all the sex, but they're not getting the long term commitment, okay? So a nice guy, he builds all the comfort and stability a woman could ask for, and that's exactly why she keeps them around without ever feeding or feeling real sexual energy pulled towards him. This is where she's got mental load

31:07and I just can't possibly, because I got to do all the fucking laundry and oh, you know, like works just so stressful, I just can't possibly, right? But here's the thing, okay? Women would prefer to consolidate on the alpha guy and then try to beta-tie them to be a good provider or at least, like, that's what they think they want. They think they want to beta-tie them, look at beauty in the beast, right? That's a total, that's a total dual mating strategy made into a cartoon for children where the woman meets the wild, wooly fucking alpha kind of guy and then she spends the whole rest of the movie trying to turn him into a civilized gentleman, right? But then she don't wanna fuck the civilized gentleman. She was attracted to the fucking wooly beast guy, okay? Most guys are either or. They're either or. They meant, most men see things in black and white, okay? And if neither guy can satisfy both sides of her,

32:10hypergamy keeps sending her attention in two different directions, okay? Very similar, very similar to the Madonna Horde Complex men have, okay? Men often see these bad girls as pump and dump, recreation use only, I couldn't possibly see anything long-term with her, she's a slutty slut, right? And then they see these girls in the floral sundresses talking about Jesus and making them wait until marriage as the good girls, as marriage material, right? They're the same fucking girl. They're the same fucking girl. In fact, if you look at, if you read Rollo's second book, you know, is that one preventive medicine? He talks about the sexual market scale. I think it's in the second book, but he talks about how women like in their 20s they're just having fun and banging the chads and that's what women are told nowadays, oh, go have your fun. And then when they get closer to 30, the clock starts ticking and they reach their epiphany phase

33:10and they find Jesus magically. And then they ask for forgiveness for all their past sins. And now the like all the Christian tradcons that wanna be the beta bucks guys are like, oh, welking them in opening arms and shit, right? And then these women settle down with these guys and now they're tradwives, right? Look at Nala, the ninja, right? And, but they don't wanna fuck that guy. They liked all these exciting guys, but those guys, they looked at them like, oh, this is for fun, this is for using. Right? But they're the same woman. They're the same woman. So what I invite guys to do is let go of your mind or Madonna horror complex. And when, especially if you're out dating right now, right? Let go of that Madonna horror complex. Let go of the idea of even being locked down because like I said, the beginning, her locking you down according to bryphal's law is her job. So just go out and bang all these chicks until you got one woman that just enthusiastically just loves your dick and wants to lock you down, right?

34:14Then you have genuine desire, right? You have genuine sexual desire. And then she's gonna wanna try to beta-tie you. And if you don't know how to defend against the dark arts, you will succumb to this shit. And you will be beta-tied. And then she won't wanna fuck you, okay? So like at the beginning, I was talking about with Rollo's thing, right? You were able to attract her initially somehow, right? And you could probably attract a new woman somehow. But if you don't learn the skills to defend against the dark arts, to defend against the beta-tization process, you're gonna have the same problem in the next relationship, right? So you have to learn this stuff, okay? Where are we at? Okay, so my man sent the $20,000 super chat. Let's play that real quick. Okay, where is this at? Why did I lose that? Here we go. Booty shaking video. Imagine if having your cake and eating it too was about banking, not baking.

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36:16Send it up from everywhere. Prove it, we all can share. Close the port. It's so divine. Moving closer to the line. Thank you. Thank you. You're the best. Party on. We never rest. How would you love to bite on to that? Developed lock. John be dragged to death, man. I'll tell you. All right. If you guys want to see it again, nine more super chats or another 20 will get you there. All right. So, um, ovulation. Right. We talked about ovulation a little bit. Women have those hidden ovulation, ovulation cycle. Abulation is like the two days a month where her cheating risks spikes the most. Okay. So for most of the month, her sexual interest stays fairly steady. But during ovulation, it spikes hard.

37:16And that spike is exactly when she statistically most likely to cheat. Okay. So during this time, her appearance changes subtly. Right. A little more. She starts showing a little more skin. A little more attention to makeup. A little more flirty energy towards men around her. Big hoop earrings, right? Big hoop earrings. And often without her even realizing why. Like she doesn't even know why she's just all of a sudden trying to make herself more attractive. Okay. Abulation only lasts a couple days each cycle. But those couple days really hit harder in her sexual decisions than any other 26 days of the month. So if things are going well in your relationship, it's good time for you. It's a good time for you. These will be the days where she wants to experiment with anal and stuff and fucking gag on your cock, right? Other filthy stuff is assuming, assuming she's comfortable enough around you

38:18to let her inner dirty girl out. We got a brother in Wolfpack right now, which is, I love this hearing this guy's updates. Okay. Because this guy is getting fucking results fast. But he's also hitting it though. He's doing the work hard. Like he's listening to the audio books like on repeat like every week and shit, right? And when he joined the group, he wasn't in a dead bedroom situation. What he wanted was more enthusiastic, like dirty sex with his wife is what he wanted. And so his wife was putting out that wasn't the problem, but it was very boring, very vanilla sex. And when we dug into it, it's because of the Madonna horror complex. Like he looked at banging hookers and sludy sludes and chicks with tattoos and stuff. Like, oh, yeah, I just want to, you know, have my phone with those chicks and throw them around and fuck them however I want. I don't care about, like, I don't care about all that stuff. I do what I want with those chicks and it's like dirty, filthy sex, right? But he was like, but my wife's different.

39:18She would never go for that. She's a Catholic. She's a good girl. And I was like, bro, that's that's Madonna horror complex. And so what what we found was that his the way he would lead the sexual interaction with his wife in the bedroom was very validation seeking. He was he was very more concerned with trying to make her get her, you know, give her pleasure all the time. And I talk about this. I talked about it a lot when we were going through when we were going through dick or downright. Because if you read dick or downright and you're a classic nice guy, you're going to be doing all this stuff as validation seeking. And it's not going to come across right. It's it's not going to it's going to turn her off. Right. So to break yourself of that habit of the nice guy who's constantly trying to, you know, like you want to put her pleasure above yours at all cost. Right. That puts a lot of pressure on a woman and it gets her in her head. And now she thinks, oh, God, like, oh, geez, if I don't, if I don't orgasm, like all of a sudden, like he feels like he's a failure.

40:18And then I like then they're up in their head thinking about the shit like women are neurotic as fuck right. So to get a woman out of that and to break your nice guy habit, you've got to just not worry about any of that stuff into her downright. You have to be a selfish lover for a while to break that habit first and just just start fucking her the way you want to fuck her. Don't worry about her if she orgasms or not. Just fucking toss her around, be dominant with her. Don't at tell her what you want to do or ask her if she wants to try things. Just start doing what you want to fucking do in the bedroom. Okay. If she doesn't like something, she'll tell you. Right. And then if that's the case, don't argue with it. Just roll with it and move into something different. Okay. But otherwise, just take yours. Okay. So he's been practicing this shit and her inner bad girl is coming out. And she's like, like she's, she's slapping his knob the way he's always wanted. And she's like, this is fucking amazing. And he's gotten there like within two weeks. And she's texting him like dirty ass shit now and stuff.

41:19It's because he's he's he's doing this sexually attractive, dominant, masculine shit. That spikes that dopamine. You see, you see where that's coming from? Okay. So assuming assuming that your girl is ovulating, that's when she's really going to be in most open to it. And then the other thing is that she's going to be in most part. We'll talk about it at the end. They're open to it way more than that. They're open to it way more than that. She just doesn't feel comfortable enough yet to do it with you. Because she thinks she thinks you're a beta provider. Right. Is a bit of a complex and reverse. Okay. So while you're thinking about why your girl has never wanted to experiment with anal with you. You might be asking yourself if there were ways you can inspire her to do that. So you're thinking about how other guys are doing it. And if other guys are having results like that, you probably have tons of questions for them. Don't you? Well, you're in luck because the wolf pack is having our monthly pack hangout this Thursday at 7 p.m. Eastern time.

42:22It's a place where guys are not just getting great results with stuff I teach. They are swapping notes and helping other guys get on their level. And that can't hangouts are where we can actually meet face to face over video. And if you are don't want to put your video on that's okay too. You can just do audio only. But this is where guys meet face to face crack open some cold ones and talk about man shit unfiltered because no women are allowed. EJ. Seven day free trial brother. When would now be a good time to run with the wolves? Beer club. Not anymore.

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44:32an annual corn festival. It's kind of nice. Nurse Chicken, I went out to the corn festival this year. It was cool about it. You pay like an entry fee and then you get unlimited corn on the cob as much as you can eat and all the butter and shit you can eat. But this year they didn't have a beer garden, so we didn't stay right. I can't eat a bunch of corn and not fucking have some brusquies with it too. All right. Let's talk about cheating bitches, guys. So women cheat just as often as men, if not more, they're just better at hiding it. Now, it's interesting because there's not a lot of really good stats on this sort of thing. And you have to look at some of the stats on this. It's based on self-reported information. And the thing is that a lot of women, to them, they don't think they're cheating. They fucking justify it to themselves. Okay, we'll talk about that here in a second, but women are like cats. Okay, women are like cats. You know they're cheating in the yard. Okay, you just never see them do it. And they fucking hide it so well that you never actually see the shit. Right. Women

45:36are very much like cats that way. And more men, more men admit to cheating because of internal guilt. It starts building up in them. Okay, women don't have that guilt. They have post-hawk rational. Women don't have that guilt. They have post-hawk rationalization. Okay, women have shame though. So for them, it's mental gymnastics about why it's not really cheating until they get caught. Okay, then, then you're the problem for not trusting her or snooping or whatever gaslight bullshit they come up with. Okay. Hey, I's gonna clip that. DNA paternity testing puts somewhere around 10% of kids being fathered by a man other than the mother's husband. Okay, now I wanted to fact check that 10% number. And it's apparently a ballpark figure because there are discrepancies in the stays out there.

46:36Some studies say like down by 2%. Some studies say it's highest 30%. All right, so basically no one fucking knows. Okay, so that's one that's one interesting thing to think about. And so you have to ask yourself how many people actually go and get a DNA test done too. How many people actually go and do that? Okay, because a big thing with a with guys, especially nice guys is you fall in love with the kid and like you don't even question it. You're like, no, no, that's my kid. That's my kid. I raised him since they were a kid, right? We got a brother in Wolfpack right now who's an older gentleman and his wife is done. She's done. He just went through surgery and she's basically sticking around to help him out through this thing. And he's been hoping that he can turn things around. But she's said the quiet part out loud and we basically were like, bro, if she's, we'll talk about it more. I'm like, if she's overt about it, it's done so, bro. It's done so. Right?

47:37And he's like, well, if if I leave, I won't, I won't be able to see my grandkids because his, his wife's daughter is getting ready to have a baby. And he's like, I want to be in, in that, I want to have that grand kid, I want to be in that grandkids life. And it's like you said your wife's daughter, not your daughter though. So it's not even his grand kid. But men are just, you know, especially nice guys are like, but that's like a, that's my grand kid. Right? So a lot of guys don't even question this shit. So this also makes it way easier for women to cheat on you and have you basically be a cock and raise, raise some other dudes kid, right? It's kind of crazy. You also have to look at places like France, right? We mentioned it before. You have to look at places like France where they've outlawed it because cheating is so fucking prevalent. Okay? So a woman who looks completely uninterested in sex for years can, can turn into someone pursuing it hard. The moment the

48:39right man shows up and then that hunger, the hunger was always there underneath. Okay? This is why I know, this is why I fucking know that women you that use pyramenopause or menopause or hormone issues or low libido and dead bedrooms are just, it's just a bullshit excuse. It's a bullshit excuse to not fuck their husbands. As soon as divorce happens, they magically go see a doctor and get that stuff fixed and they start writing that cock carousel again. AI is going to clip that because that's always, that always comes up. What about pyramenopause? No, no, if you don't understand pyramenopause, I'm like, you don't understand women's bullshit excuses. Okay? Hey, I was going to clip that too. By the way, guys, follow me on social media. The links are in the description. I'm on all the good platforms. I just had a, I just had another image taken down by Instagram. So I'm like, I'm a little worried about that account. So make sure you follow me on all platforms because I never know when

49:39I'm going to get fucking bands for dumb ass shit too. Shit, people put like the worst stuff out there and like they don't, nothing happens to them. But I put like something with some kind of innuendo and then I'm getting flagged for promoting like some kind of like, yeah, I don't know, only fans or something. I'm like, I mean, promoting, I'm selling books. I'm an, I'm an author, I sell books. Fuck off. Right. Anyway. So here's another cool thing. Okay. So women don't typically leave a man until she's already grabbed the next one. All right. Researchers call this the mate switching hypothesis. Men cheat mostly for variety, but women cheat to line up a replacement before they let go of the next one they got. Okay. And for a while there, this was also a big, this was a big contention with Rolo for a while. And I think it still is. He's still pissed off about this, right? But like evolutionary psychology researchers were trying to say that this, this, the, the mate switching

50:40hypothesis was women's primary mating strategy. Okay. But it's more of an effect than a cause. Okay. Dual mating strategy still explains this, which is why Red Pill adopted the dual mating strategy in the praxeology. If you guys don't know what a praxeology is, it's just like where men swap notes and go and test things out and we go, okay, let's keep what works and leave what doesn't. Right. So we were like, okay, everything can be easily explained with dual mating strategy. That's what we're keeping in the praxeology. Okay. And we call it monkey branching. We call it monkey branching in the space. A woman can look stable right up to the day she announces she's done because the search for the next branch usually happens long before she ever tells you anything was wrong. Okay. And this can, this can start up to two years before she finally dumps you. And women do a majority of dumping, right? Like depending on the stat you look at up to 80% of divorces and breakups are initiated by women. And they spent time lining up their next guide,

51:44which is why a lot of guys are dumbfounded when they, they get divorced or they get broken up with. And she's like within a week or so is with another guy already. And they're like, how could she move on so fucking quickly? I'm fucking dying over here. I got this knife in my heart. And she's already moving on. How the fuck does that happen? It's because that guy was there the whole time. She might not have been banging him the whole time, but he was there the whole time. Okay. It happened with me and Red Pill chick. All right. Red Pill chick checked out of our relationship two years before we actually broke up. And then she spent the next two years lining up male orbiters and pushing me away. And finally at the end she was acting so bad that I broke up with her. And I found out after the fact that she was fucking this other dude at the end. And that's the guy that she ended up getting with like when we actually broke up, right? This is what women do. Monkey branching. We call it monkey branching. Okay. Now going to the brother wolf pack the older guy when I said his wife said the quiet part out loud. Okay. This is where you get things like I love you,

52:50but I'm not in love with you anymore. I love you. I'm in I'm not in love with you. Okay. Which means her, she's already moved on mentally. She's already moved on. Okay. What that means when you go back to the dopamine and the oxytocin, it means I oxytocin you, but I don't dopamine you anymore. A lot of guys have a hard time understanding what I love you, but I'm not in love with you means because to a man is the same thing. He's in love, right? Men are in love women are in business. But he's in love. So he doesn't understand what I love you, but I'm not in love with you means to him. That's that's that's stupid woman talk. It doesn't make sense. But when you look at it from the neurochemical aspect of I oxytocin you, but I don't dopamine, I don't dopamine you anymore. It makes way more sense, right? So when a wife says the words, I love you, but I'm not in love with you. It almost always means her hypergamous filter has already moved off you onto someone else.

53:51And by that point, the relationship is functionally over. It's fucking done so. Okay. She's just last. She's just imagine if this stability piece and the innovation piece were each other's missing piece. For citizens bank and Silicon Valley bank are combining financial security and innovation expertise to create a full suite of solutions for all your business needs. With the scale to back every state of growth from pre-seed to IPO and beyond, you have everything you need to make your big ideas click into place. First citizens bank and Silicon Valley bank. It's the best of bank worlds. She's just the last one trying to figure out how to say it and you're the last one to know. Okay. So hearing those words is the signal that she's she's already looking elsewhere, whether the physical whether it's physical or just you know, she's just interheaded for now. Okay. It rarely reverses. It doesn't change. She's made a permined about you. And the thing you have to understand is

54:53women default to covert communication. Right. Their default is to hint at things to make suggestions to hope you figure things out. Okay. If she says, look, this just didn't work for me. I want a divorce. Look, I love you. I'm just not in love with you anymore. Okay. It's over, bro. It's over. Right. Go call your fucking attorney. Read a really good book. Read a really good book. Divorce is war by Wolfpack brother Nathan Manion phenomenal book. It'll put you on it'll put you on game when it comes to divorce strategy. And if you want to work with Nathan, he's a brother in the wolf pack. You can work with him directly in the wolf pack. Although he's been really quietly lately, but I think he's been traveling for work a lot. Okay. So what are some tools? Because a lot of guys hear all this shit and they're like, fuck, like we're cooked, right? We hear that. Oh, we're fucking cooked, bro. Like there's no, there's no way out. There's no way

55:54to fucking do any of this stuff. Okay. So what are some tools to inspire her desire for the long because one of the things that one of the things that Rolo doesn't say enough, he said it. I've heard him say it before. So I know that like we were talking about all this stuff in the wolf pack this morning. Like I think Rolo and I fundamentally agree on a vast majority of things. Right. So like it's funny. A couple of months ago, he put out a tweet that he and I went back and forth on for a while. And at the end of the day, we're in agreement on this, right. But he was basically saying like he said, if your wife hasn't fucked you in three months, dump her, right? Just file for divorce. And that's where he says, like if she hasn't fucked you in three months, she can go three years without fucking you. Like I agree. She could do that. We have guys in the wolf pack that have been in dead bedrooms like up to 13 years. And they've still turned it around. They've still turned it around, right? But yeah, like three three months is actually a pretty good

56:58benchmark. However, if you if you've never done the work on yourself and you don't have the the skills to even be a more fuckable guy, then like you the clock doesn't start there. The clock starts when you become that guy. And then you need to evaluate three months from that point, whether she's getting on board or not. So I say it's at least six months. I say it's at least six months because most guys, they don't know this. We have a guy in wolf pack right now who's been in the red pill space for years, years. And it wasn't until he got in the wolf pack that he finally started to understand like what even the concept of frame was because he was thinking certain things that he heard in the red pill space was him holding frame. But really what it was was just him being fucking butt hurt. Like there's a there's a difference. There's a there's a much bigger difference there. And if you don't have guys pointing that out to you, hey man, you're you're you're just acting butt hurt right there. You're in your feelings right there. You know, like this is how you

58:00handle that situation, right? If you don't have that kind of stuff, you're going to think you're doing all the right things. And then you're going to want to dump her in three months, which I mean, that's an option, right? That's that's certainly an option. But you know, do you do you want would you want to break up your entire family and blow up everything when it could have been saved? It's a question you got to ask yourself, right? Because all this stuff comes down to what do you want at the end of the day? Right. So what are some tools to help inspire this? Oh, that's that's what I was saying. Rollo also talks about genuine desire, right? So he's like, look, if she's not fucking you, she just doesn't have that genuine desire. Well, one of the things I had to I have to sort of point out to guys in wolf pack all the time is like, you don't just get desire once and keep it forever. It doesn't work that way, right? Like you have desire has to be inspired through game and frame. It has to be inspired through game and frame. You don't just get it once and get to fucking coast forever. It doesn't work that way. And if that sounds exhausting, which it does to a lot of guys, right? It sounds absolutely exhausting a lot of guys. Well, then long-term relationships

59:04just aren't for you. They're just they're just not. Then you're better off just hitting it and quitting it and then living a much more problem-free life. Okay, but you just are trading one problem for a different problem. You know what I mean? So it's like it just really just comes down to what you want what you want at the end of the day. So, but I've heard rollo say it like genuine desire can be inspired. And that's really what it's about. It's not about doing more chores and trying to pick the pussy lock. It's about being a more fuckable guy. Okay. So how do we do that? There's a couple there's lots of different tools, but two I'm going to mention and then we're going to wrap up here. Passive dread. Passive dread is red pills probably best tool in a long-term relationship to maintain attraction in the long term. It really is. All right. And even if it's turning things around, passive dread is the best tool in the toolbox. Okay. Passive dread uses pre-selection to put her hypergamous instinct back on your side. Okay. So here's the thing. Other women finding

1:00:07you attractive works in your favor because pre-selection confirms your to your wife that her instinct about you were right in the first place. Okay. Women like men who other women like Alan Roger Curry, the late great Alan Roger Curry says it really well. Pussy attracts pussy. Hey, I was going to clip that. That's a good hook, guys. You got to admit that's a good fucking hook. But that's how it works. Okay. And so what most guys are doing in long-term relationships is they're squashing that. They're squashing that tension. Women need tension to have that dopamine. They need a little bit of healthy anxiety. This is heat, right? Healthy emotional anticipation and tension. They need that to stay invested and think that you're their best alpha-fuck's guy. Okay. And so if they see other women hidden on you, now they go, oh, shit, right? They go, oh, shit, this guy is still an attractive guy. These other women like it. So then whether they do, they shit test you by going to hit you on

1:01:09the arm, she was hidden on you. Like it's your fault that you're a fucking hot dude. Right? So what are most guys? You'll, oh, no, honey. I would never, I would never talk to a woman like that. I only have eyes for you, which eases her anxiety, but it kills that dopamine spike. She needs to want to fuck your brains out. So you can't do that. You got to own that shit. You got to be fucking Ric Flair. You got to be fucking Ric Flair being like, well, shit, you know, I look good. I can't help it. I look good. I smell good. Woo, dance all night long. I can't help it, right? So like, you know, you got to answer things like, well, why wouldn't she? Have you seen all this? You know, I mean, like there's different ways that you can handle that. Okay. One of the brothers of Wolfpack, who's had tremendous, tremendous results with his wife since being in the group. Now he's starting to realize that his wife is probably dead weight, but she's fucking his brains out all the time now, right? But he's like, I don't know if I like her. She's got all these other

1:02:09problems that I've been ignoring this whole time, right? But he's getting hurt like having enthusiastic, nob-slobbing sex. And one of the things is that like he'll do things where his wife will be like, oh, I can, what what do you do the other day? It was fucking hilarious. He was at a kid's baseball game, like I think maybe for one of his grandkids or some shit. Anyway, some kid got his head stuck in a soccer net or something. And so he took a picture of it. And then he leans over to the mom and he goes, he goes, hey, check out this picture. He goes, give me your number. I'll send it to you. Right? And slay goes, oh, yeah, here's my number. And he sends it and she goes, I can't believe you fucking did that. You got that girl's number. And he goes, yeah, I was pretty smooth. One that later that night is why I fucked his brains out. You see how this works? You see how this works, right? Because they're like, oh, shit, other women like him. I got to keep him. Bryphal's law. Right?

1:03:10And here's the cool thing. A lot of guys hear this shit. They hear about passive dread and they they go, they go, well, fuck, I can't do that. I like, I would never cheat on my wife. I would never cheat on your wife. That's the beauty of passive dread. You don't have to do that. You don't have to do anything that goes against your morals. Right? Like red pill isn't about morals. Red pill is a praxiology. We just say how it is. You can put your own morals on top of it though. You're more and welcome because it comes down to being your own mental point of origin. What do you want at the end of the day? Okay? So you don't need to, you don't necessarily need to, you know, like go out and cheat, okay? To become the kind of man that people notice. You just have to be a more socially fun guy that other people want to interact with. Right? And this is really hard part for guys because a lot of guys are fucking introverted as shit. A lot of, most guys don't have any friends. Most guys have no friends. And the guys that they hang out with are their wives friends. They're not their friends. Right? You have what's called forced friends. Like you have

1:04:15your coworkers. You have maybe the people you went to school with and your wife's friends husbands. You're forced into these relationships. You have never gone out and actually made friends outside of your relationship on your fucking own. That's a big part of why I created Wolfpack. Is so that other guys can chat with other guys. A lot of guys like there's a ton of dudes in Texas. Like I highly invite the Wolfpack brothers in Texas to fucking get together and have a fucking in person pack hang out at a bar or something and fucking Dallas or Austin or wherever the fuck meet halfway, whatever the fuck you guys do. Texas is a pretty fucking big state. We had like three guys up in Ohio at one point and they were getting together every fucking weekend and hanging out. Right? There's other ways to do this kind of stuff, but you have to build up these social skills to learn game. Game is basically learned charisma. It's social skills. Okay. So you got to practice that sort of stuff so that you're the kind of guy that other people want to talk to and have fun with and laugh at your jokes and stuff like that. And it just happens to be even better when women are doing it. Okay. And when she senses other options exist for you,

1:05:19that uncertainty pulls her competitive instinct back online and she starts working to keep you again. That's how that typically plays out. All right. And there's there's passive dread and active dread. The first time I ever heard of dread, I was like, this sounds toxic as fuck. I would never do that. Right? Which I recommend you guys don't do. Right? This guy Royce. He had a blog. He changed his name to Chateau Hearty's after he got docs, right? But he used to have his blog. He used to be called Royce and DC. And he has he has a blog article on like dread on dread. And they're all just toxic shit. You know what I mean? But the first time I heard of it was from Christopher Canwell's book Atomic Attraction, like the last chapter in that book is about dread. And he's talking about doing performative shit. Like you go on a business trip, you go to a bar and you order like a beer and like a margarita and you take a picture of that and put it on social media so that she sees that and goes, oh, who's he out with? He must be cheating

1:06:22on me. And then it's supposed to create dread. But that kind of shit will probably blow up your relationship. I don't recommend doing that. Okay. But we have guys in the will pack. Like I said, that, you know, they're, you know, red, red pills, not about morals. So we don't we don't discourage this. But we have a guy that's got an open relationship on his end closed on his wife's end. And he goes out and he bangs chicks on business trips and you know, he goes out on dates and his wife's like the rules for him is don't bring him back to the house. Don't talk about it. Don't put it throw it in her face and don't embarrass her basically. And then she's otherwise like out of sight out of mind. Don't care. And so he's going out banging all these other chicks. But then when he comes home, she's like, she was like starts fucking like wanting to bang him more to make sure that he knows that she's the best plate. She's the main bitch, right? You could do that too. You could do that too. I'm not saying you have to do that. I'm not even promoting that. But that's what, you know, that works. It's shit works. Okay. If you guys want to

1:07:27learn more about passive dread, I highly recommend you take my passive dread course. A lot of guys have taken it. They've gotten really great results from it. Go to dread.fixedadbudgetrooms.com. In fact, I'll be pop this up here. You're going to hear about it more next month in October. I'm going to be making, I'm going to be putting out a special for the month of October. So if you're looking at it right now, you're like, I don't know if I want to spend that kind of money. Just hold off until October. I'll get I got you, bro. I got you. And then brothers in the wolf pack, you already get a $50 discount on that. The other thing you can do, and I talked about it before, this is from Atholkay. Atholkay is a sort of a legend in the married red pill space. Okay. But he talks about timing your alpha and beta behavior to her cycle because he says this is this allows you to use dual mating strategy in your, you know, to your benefit. So he recommends this in married man's sex life primer, which is a really good book. And it's basically ovulation came. Okay. And I'll

1:08:28tell you why I don't personally recommend it. I'll tell you why here in a little bit. But for most of the month, she responds better to a steady support of to steady support of behavior. But during ovulation, that same steady approach can actually work against you. She's disgusted by your beta behavior when she's ovulating because she wants she wants to be fucking dominated and just, you know, she wants the alpha fucks. So around ovulation, she's wired to respond to assertive confident energy and husbands who stay purely soft during that window, carry a higher risk of getting cheated on. So learning roughly where she's at in her cycle, it's pretty strategic. It's just, but it just comes down to paying attention to like her mood swings and, you know, like we got a brother and wolf pack right now, who's like, when is wife goes, goes starts PMSing, she is an epic con right? She is a fucking bitch. And he has a really hard time holding frame during that period. Okay. That's how you know, that's how you know when to start tracking

1:09:30this because it's it's pretty mathematically the same. Once you understand where she's PMSing, you can figure out everything else. Okay. So you've around ovulation. So learning roughly where she's at in her cycle by paying attention, it tells you exactly when to dial the confidence up and when to dial it back down. And some guys get pretty decent results with this, but I don't recommend it for several reasons. Okay. Who has like one is who has the fuck time to track her cycle? Who the fuck has that kind of time? Right. Now he says, okay, all you have to do is try to match where PMS is and then create calendar reminders for yourself with different colored, you know, color code your calendar and then like you just get a calendar reminder like, oh, she's ovulating this week or you know, whatever. Okay. But I ain't got no time for that shit. Okay. And then also you got think, who's frame are you operating in when you feel like you have to track her cycle? Okay. Who's frame are you really operating in? Think about that. Okay. I think it's better. I

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1:11:35InstaLian lineups. If you win your first $5 lineup, prize picks run your game. Right. Think about it. If most of the month, Athol K is saying she responds steadily to supportive behavior, he's basically recommending 75% beta traits and 25% alpha traits, a 75, 25 split in the beta direction. Right. That's a sure path towards beta sensation and fucking failure. It's a sure path to a sexless marriage in my opinion. Right. I don't recommend doing that. I recommend up to alpha 80, 20 split alpha traits, 20% beta traits, use passive dread, use passive dread. That's a better approach. Okay. But that's all I got for this episode. Let's take a look at the chat here. We don't have another super chat. So we're not getting the booty again. But me, me, the trophy says there are events without beer at them. Never saw one like that here in Wisconsin. Yeah. Like join a run club. Right. Well, actually, I was in a run club and that always ended with beer.

1:12:38But you know what? You can always go to an event where there's beer and oh, you're not asking about you're talking about my corn festival thing, right? You're not talking about how like I don't like to drink beer, right? But but yeah, like yeah, because out here, I bet you they had a beer garden last year at the corn festival. They had a beer garden, but they probably like it probably was too much of a pain to get a liquor license, like a temporary liquor license and they decided to just go without it or something like that. Or maybe they couldn't get a like a local brew response or a sponsor at this year. I don't know what the thing was, but yeah, they didn't have beer and so they're chicken. I didn't stick around. We fucking left. We ate some free corn and said, all right, let's get the fuck out of here. Um, me, the trophy says wonder what percentage of 23 and me tests revealed the kid isn't his. That's a good question. I do wonder that wonder if that that date is out there. I don't care enough to look, but if someone knows, uh, find out, find that out and then like, I don't know, send me a DM on Instagram or something. Brother Woody

1:13:43says, uh, I watched mine monkey branch down to an old dude on disability that looks like a bridge troll. Oh, well, if she only knew what dear old W is up to now, who wants ice cream? Tak this says he made it. Hey, good to see you, brother. Good to see you over here. What he says, even with everything I have always said, if I could have saved it, I would have to save my kids, but remember, Jents, if she cheats, tries to ruin your reputation or both, just get a new one. Oh, yeah, absolutely. Yeah, there's no excuse for cheating or toxic behavior like that. I absolutely agree. Uh, and me, the trophy says, LOL, the Milwaukee Catholic Church has had a calendar of beer gardens, right? Like, yeah, yeah, I don't know. People in Montrose, like, like, it was, it was the worst corn festival this year. I've only been to two. And if, if 50% of the time, there's no alcohol, I don't want to go back. I don't want to, and I don't need that many carbs in my life. All right. Oh, shit. We got another $5,000 super chat. Brother Wade

1:14:46sent fire. What's good, man? I'll tell you what, super chats are good. I'm going to give you this one because we did get to play the booty shaking video today. She got off. Great. That's right. God damn right. All right. All right, guys, that's all I got for this episode. I hope it was informative. Um, tune into the podcast tomorrow. We have another good sponsored stream lined up. My man wrote in because his wife has been rejecting sex for months. And when he find, when she finally wanted it, he rejected her ass to teach that bitch a lesson. And it blew up in his fucking face. So we'll talk about that tomorrow at five PM Eastern time. And, um, and then tune into the podcast on Wednesday. We're going to talk about why you need to stop blaming yourself and beating yourself up about a breakup. Okay. If you've been going through it, you're not going to want to miss that one. All right. It's going to help out a lot of brothers who are in pain right now. All right. But that's all we got. Thanks for tuning in. Do be sure to like, subscribe, hit those notifications. I do have new episodes every Monday, Wednesday, and

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