Vault: Have You Never Received A Gift From Your Spouse? These Listeners Haven't

0:00The sun shining, birds are singing and all feels right in the world. Until the season changes and suddenly you lose your motivation to get out of bed. In fact, one in five people experience some form of depression no matter the season or time of year. At the American Psychiatric Association Foundation, our vision is to build a mentally healthy nation for all because we want you to live your best life and be your best you all year round. Please visit mentallyhealthynation.org to learn more. The Virtio! A whole bunch of people getting yourself all stressed out over Christmas, man. It's right around the corner here. Gotta go on out to the mall today, fight the good fight. There's many people that shop for it work and blah blah blah blah. And of course you've got your wife and you've got your husband and all that. There's something just flat out the side. I'm not gonna acknowledge it. Right. No presence in this house. No shortage of these calls. If your husband or boyfriend is like, you know what, no, no, no, no. Christmas, no birth. There's no nothingness out.

1:00Rachel, good morning. You're on Q100. Hi. Hey. I was actually calling because my husband and I were separated now but we've been married for three and a half years and we've been together for five. And at the time we've been together he hasn't gotten me a single gift for birthday or Valentine's Day or Christmas or anything. anything now is this something that he acknowledged in the front end of the relationship like i just want to let you know when it comes to gift giving that's not about me man i acknowledge you all year long so there's no special days for you no no he actually sometimes talk ahead of time like i have a really good idea about something i want to get for your birthday or i have a surprise and then it just wouldn't happen really i don't know if he just you know decided for either forgot and never got it or didn't want to spend the money but i always got him gift and the credit card is a lot of his gift he would complain about like they were the wrong size or you know it wasn't exactly what he had said that he wanted or um something to that effect so that's why you said yeah did he tell you before you got married that he was a giant a hole

2:02no no he didn't he didn't my feelings would be so hurt it would be it has nothing to do with the money it just it's like we said before about the effort to creativity i think is so important and so i my feelings would be hurt if somebody just didn't want to make the effort whatsoever but what about and then he complains about stuff he doesn't buy her anything and she's like oh really got me woe gloves they're going to be scratchy all right that was three years we could crush that hey tam good morning you're on q100 good morning burshock good morning sir how are you today i'm terrific um i weigh probably about 12 years wow no president all we just talking about Christmas well no no presence at all the first year we were married uh for Christmas i went out shopping and bought a bunch of clothes and i bought the wrong sizes yeah okay so everything had to be taken back and i was just like you know what screw this and do you never bought anything since then well we've been married 20 years now and um i started just giving her gift cards or um

3:06stuff like spasadel um anniversary's i would uh run a cabin okay this is your cover you're just scarred by the whole um clothesizing issue yeah okay but you're covered i mean you're getting your something you're acknowledging it somehow some way spasadel and yeah you have ends and stuff that's fine you're solid yeah this this just started probably within the past uh five years six years i started doing stuff for some of you the gift certificate is a great way to go because you have such demanding wise for such demanding husbands and you could see the disappointment in their face you're like screw it i'm just gonna give them a gift certificate let them have the freedom of picking their own thing i can understand that man hey Beth don't go anywhere because i think you're going to be my clothes are okay okay all right hold on there's no way this music a lot of pitch in the Christmas gift giving mood do do do do do do do hey marry good morning you're part of the virtual huh thanks bringing in the guitar hey i love you guys thank you

4:07it's been at least five years since i've gotten a gift from my husband anniversary anything birthday seriously nothing my last gift was a magazine rack for the bathroom oh yeah but still he wants to know what i'm going to get him every year Christmas anniversary and i like he call he gets to me now is a cold fair good for you i think that's the rule i think the rule is for every special occasion that he doesn't acknowledge you and buy you a gift you're allowed to have one affair oh okay all right um and yeah let him know you said that all right thank you guys i'm counting right that's about 20 affairs for her that'll stop it now what about the guy that she's having the affair with do they have to buy her something well um no if they well he's giving her the gift of sex okay so as long as he's

5:07he's covered there if you're a guy you're having sex with a woman you don't have to give her anything else because that's funny gift right you're giving her you know you're giving that her that extra special gift hey that's good morning hello hello it's been about 16 years since i received anything from my husband all right enough enough fun part of that now it's time to get serious birdish put away the cassia 16 year music i mean no birthday no anniversary nothing Christmas nothing but he expects something on his birthday but i haven't got to sing in 16 years now how does he get away with that i've got at least a birthday card but no present now do you get him gifts though yes why yeah why because i like to acknowledge like at least acknowledge him but he doesn't acknowledge me

6:09what yeah must be i mean i know you're smiling about it now but that must that must really bother you like knowing on your birthday there's going to be zero acknowledgement of it is it's not about to fuss at you because if you if you would have i'm but a fuss i'm about to pitch a fit uh-oh but seriously why are you getting him gifts what you have accepted this exchange because you get him gifts and he doesn't get you any that would not work in my house at all it's just something i've probably accepted now you know it's been 16 years obviously not because you're calling to talk about it you're upset are you having an affair on him how god knows because you're due 48 if i if i'm counting right 16 years and i'm just saying three special occasions a year you you are due 48 affairs oh no this is my house i've been with them since high school yeah well you can start screwing around on them as soon as you guys graduated no it's jacked up man yeah but this is

7:1316 years hopefully maybe i'll get something for Christmas this year i'm not you're not going to get anything yeah why are you gonna have your hopes up i mean now it's your problem because he's shown you at least he's been consistent why do you do that that's torturing yourself when you said he got you a card one time what what did the card say thanks um now it's like happy birthday how are you are you kidding yes this guy sucks your husband sucks yeah he blessed this area your husband sucks but he thinks he's very uh what's the word um feminine he thinks he acknowledges you all year long right exactly when is the last time that you felt acknowledged uh probably the first year we're dating oh do what my sister doesn't just buy yourself gifts and put them under the tree from him to you and then and then send him an invoice and yeah exactly then and then have him reimbursed you had us to try to find a man to make love to

8:13for you yeah now for us we have 48 people we have to find according to my calculations we have to find an affair for the night until March 3rd oh i'm gonna believe you now good man i can't believe that you talk about how you're very serious about how people should be monogamous but then all of a sudden somebody can don't we don't need those things if i don't buy you anything for Christmas you're allowed to have a affair on it i would have an affair on you you wouldn't be allowing that's a deal what if you what if you buy your stuff why is that woman so happy why if you buy what if you buy yourself and she hate it can she still have an affair on you if what if you buy her stuff but she hates it oh no no so long as i got her something oh excuse me yeah if i forget about it entirely your birthday or whatever entirely go ahead had sex with somebody oh i would oh my goodness easy here's your mini slinky oh my god i got you something keep your pants on okay Rachel go ahead okay so i don't know your name i don't know the situation but for 16 years you're putting up with his ass you need to

9:15say to him with nobody out give a shit anymore i am not going to buy you anything she's gone no no i'm here you just can't say the s word i'm sorry on the radio and you probably have parents and they don't emit owning you right now i'd say we have word also in gd and there's a whole bunch of away from a far away but what you're saying is you know what get some guts talk to the guy right it's like it don't matter it don't matter if it's a woman or the man but it's like if it's a woman it's not buying the man anything and the man's buying her stuff no look maybe they've got it down maybe your husband has it down and the rest of the world doesn't if you have been married 16 years you have been married way longer than most people give it a try so maybe the key to a healthy marriage is one person gives the gifts and the other one