Ray Gebauer shares his STOP Success Formula with Peter Mingils on Building Fortunes Radio

0:00Welcome to Building Fortunes Radio. Make sure you check us out at buildingfortunesradio.com. Along with Kisk, our keep it simple circle marketing partners, we are here to help our U-Mungus AM and U-Mungus FM radio customers build their businesses and make the world a better place. At Building Fortunes Radio, we know how much your business means to you and the people important to you, so join us to make the world a better place. Spread the word, tell a friend, and go make a difference in your world. Now onto our show with your host, Peter Mingles. Take it away, Peter. Hello, everyone. Peter Mingles here. You are listening to us on Building Fortunes Radio. It's www.buildingfortunesradio.com. It's a Wednesday night over here on the East Coast. It's a Thursday morning, over where Mr. Riga Bauer is. And every Thursday, depending on where you are, we do this radio show. And Ray gets a chance to actually help to educate people that are interested in learning

1:03more about themselves, that are going to business, self-development, you know, how to live a better life, all that sort of stuff. And it usually starts off with an acronym. So I'm into acronyms as well. We have lots of them. We have our Kisk acronym. You know, I keep it simple circle. And we have Don Pa, the delusion of non-productive activities. And we have all these different types of acronyms that I've remembered since, like, forever. Ray likes acronyms as well. And he's going to start a new one today, and the pattern is, he's going to give us an acronym. He'll usually give me a tip for what it might be, you know, on each letter. And I'll get it wrong. But usually what happens is we do three separate radio shows on each letter of the acronym. So we just finished up UFO. UFO did not stand for unidentified flying objects. It stood for a whole bunch of things. And if you go back to buildingforgesradio.com, you look for Rega Bauer or you look for UFO, you'll be able to hear that we did three separate radio shows on each letter of those radio shows. So you'll probably want to get back and enjoy or grab a note-taking device and take some

2:08notes along the way or a combination of both. But you probably want to listen to this again, and maybe another time, and maybe some other time as well. Because although some of the information may be repetitious and a little bit of an overlapping for learning purposes, a lot of the stuff he says they're very thought-provoking and probably will apply to whatever it is that you're building or doing, so you'll get some great value. And then, of course, share this with others because, you know, what's the point being, you know, selfish and keeping it to yourself. Make sure you share with other people. And then apply the principles that he teaches because otherwise it's kind of like a waste of time. So stuff that's not used in the applied when you need it is kind of like wasted talent as they might say in the Bronx Tale, a movie by a gentleman, Sonny said that about a capable and time, talking about wasted talent. So having said that, Mr. Reagan-Bauer, kick off another acronym on the Building Forces Radio Network. Yeah, thank you, Peter.

3:09I appreciate you in making this platform available so I can share some ideas that can make a meaningful difference. When I say that, it reminds me of a major turning point in my life back in the 70s when I started doing this, when I started listening to Jim Rome at the time. He was doing a weekly Friday night meeting in Anaheim. It was free. You know, they have a few hundred people show up and he would talk for a couple of hours. I'd go every Friday night and I thought, all these tapes, I'd listen to tapes, I'm your dozens of times because the more I learned, the more I realized I needed to learn more. And it was like a turning point. It was like a revelation. It was like a huge upgrade to my thinking and, you know, changed my life.

4:15You know, ideas and concepts that became clear that I would have probably never figured out on my own. So I've learned that one of my greatest enemies, especially for me when I was younger was there again, thinking I had all the answers. And I finally realized, you know, I didn't know a fraction of what I needed to know. So I've gained so much from mentors and coaches, you know, Jim Rome, you know, Mike Smith, you know, Ziggler, and lots of other people. And I'm really grateful. So that's what I'm doing now, showing ideas that I know can make a meaningful difference. Because I know that already, I don't have to convince you of this. I know you already want to have a better life. We all are just like we all want to get enough oxygen, enough food, enough water.

5:20We want to have a better life. But usually that comes from being proactive, not just like, yes, well, we'll see what happens is there a coast through life, you know, if you want to have a better life and more meaningful life, like Stephen Covey wrote his book, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. You've got to be proactive, you've got to be taking initiative, you've got to start doing things you have to be doing and stop doing things that haven't been that productive. So with that said, my general overview introduction, because that's sort of the orientation. We were doing this just not for entertainment purposes or just education, but for enrichment purposes to enrich your life. So the new acronym today is, oh, I was going to ask Peter first, you want to make a guess? Well, you didn't have a guess the word, okay, so the acronym is the word.

6:26I can get it. I got it. What is it? Or you go ahead and if you miss what I said, no, a little bit earlier, you mentioned the word launch and then rocket, though I was not sure if that was a hint, because you usually throw me hints. But I guess it's not. Yeah, I did throw you a hint, yeah, I wasn't there, though. Okay. So what is it? So the acronym is the word stop, STOP, okay, because there's a place to go, there's a time to go and a time to stop, especially like driving a car. I mean, the question is, what's more important, the gas pedal or the brake? Well, it depends on the situation. Sometimes, the one that's going to more likely save your life is the brake, stopping me in time, you know, but they're both important and they have a certain ratio, there's timing

7:27to things. There's the time to hit the gas pedal, you know, metal for this, metal for the pedal to the metal. Yeah. And there's the time to slow down or stop or reverse. And if we don't have a clear distinction, we can end up wasting a lot of our time and our life doing things that might be good, but they're not as good as maybe other choices. And so I remember, I don't remember who said it, but I think of this all the time, is a great perspective, and it serves funny when you first hear it. The greatest enemy of the good is the best. No, I had that backwards. The greatest enemy of the best is the good. I mean, you might have a good job, say you're a teenager or whatever, you have a good

8:29job and you're making, you know, okay, money, so that's good. But is that really the best? Are you going to settle for something good or if you have a chance to have a better job or you make twice as much or have your own business? So you always only be looking at how can you upgrade your life? How can you optimize your life? And not to settle for something good, but what is better and what is perhaps, you know, the best choice? So my three applications, I like to do things in three, they're easier to remember. I want to say one more thing in the introduction here. So let's say you want to get a new car. So you could get a really good car, you get one that's even better or like the best car like your dream car.

9:30Now, if money wasn't an issue, what would you do? Would you say, well, good is good enough or would you, you know, stop considering the good car and get the better or the best car or the same thing with a house, you're looking to buy a house, there's good, better, and best. And so when we, when it's possible, we want to not settle for the good. We want to make choices to give us the best outcome. And more important than material things like car or house is your life. I mean, the most important thing in life is our life. And so we need to do the best we can to make choices so that we have a better life, which means we need to stop certain things that are taking up the time, energy, and resources that are diminishing the quality of our lives. You know, particularly, well, so many examples, you know, for me as the whole listed health

10:35doctor have been 12 books on health, you know, health and optimizing life is really, really a high priority for me. And it should be a higher priority for most people too, especially looking at the results of people are getting 50,000 people dying every day, 50,000 a day is between cancer and heart disease. Half the people get cancer, you know, and because, why does that happen because people are settling for something that's good rather than what's better? Yeah, you know, junk food takes good, it's convenient, you know, there's some advantages short term for junk food, ultra processed food, and then you pay the price, you know, 80 percent of the people are diabetic. And so that's a good place for consider what do I need to stop eating, particularly seed

11:36oils might be the most damaging food, you know, corn oil, soybean oil, sunflower, sunflower oil, can know the oil, and upgrades like coconut oil, olive oil, and there's many, many other examples, too much sugar, need to stop eating too much sugar. So point number one, application number one has sort of implied this already, but when the most important tools that we have, isn't just gaining knowledge, but asking questions, his knowledge is limited, his application is limited until we start asking questions. So if you want knowledge to be more useful and more relevant and more meaningful, then we need to ask ourselves questions.

12:38Like for example, you know, you can say, is this activity or habit something I'm going to continue, something I'm going to do more of, or less of, or maybe just stop. Something's, it's sufficient just to slow down and do less of, and sometimes you just, you want to stop entirely, because it's not productive. And we need to stop doing just good things, they say, well, it's a good thing, what's wrong with it? I mean, there's nothing wrong with it, except you're settling, like settling for minimum wage, when you could be making, you know, 10 times as much. So minimum wage is good, compared to nothing, right? So we got to be willing to stop just to find doing things that are good, that are not really in our best interest. Like I said, the greatest enemy of the best is the good.

13:41And not just because this is a good idea, but because of what is at stake, particularly in our life, our life is at stake, and in our physical life, our physical health is at stake. Like I already mentioned, 50,000 people die a day, 80% are diabetic, you know, 97% are metabolic problems, 57% of children that were vaccinated have at least one chronic disease. The ones that weren't vaccinated, it's like 5 or 10% have a chronic disease. So you really, I think you need to stop the vaccinations, because they don't do any good, they're all poisoned. You know, it's not even good, but it appears to be good, because the doctors keep recommending it, because they make money doing the half of the census, and the pediatrician organizations

14:46being sued under the RICO, you know, are racketeering, because they were accepting a lot of money from pharmaceutical companies to push vaccinations, even though they're not helpful. And you know, some children die, or they're paralyzed, so they just have a lot more infections or asthma or allergies, immune systems, cancer or all these things. So some things just need to be stopped, but you're not going to know what to stop, unless you start asking questions, and you're doing your brother just assuming, assuming that what you were told, even by an authority figure, whether it's a doctor, or maybe a pastor, or a politician, or, you know, some expert, you don't want to assume that even someone who has good intentions has accurate information.

15:48So you got to sort of think outside the box. You have to, you know, just not go along with the crowd, because a lot of times the crowd is headed for the cliff, and you don't realize it until it's too late. So the first application is you got to start asking questions. Secondly, second application is, it's really helpful to put in writing, especially with a pen and paper, not just typing into the settings to show it's much more effective in many ways when you actually synthically write things down. It's good to have a journal every day where you actually writing stuff, what I've been doing for many years. To make a list of all the things that you do, how do you spend your time, how do you spend your time, energy, and money? To make a whole list, and then go through and do your best to objectively evaluate what's

16:54good, what's better, and what's best. And let's assume that everything on your list is good. Maybe it doesn't. Some just obviously bad habits, like smoking, if there's nothing really good about that. How much time do you spend sitting? I mean, that's like worse than smoking, if you sit too much. Anyway, make a list, and then evaluate what you perhaps need to stop, what you need to do less of, and what you need to do more of. Now, it's not as effective just to think in your mind. I mean, that's a good place to start, and you gotta think, but it's more effective. You get more clarity when you convert the mental process, the thinking, and create something tangible that you can see, especially you've written it down. Now it's more serious, you've taken time to write it down, and then you're asked your

17:59self-questions, what do I want to keep doing on this list, what do I want to do less of, what do I maybe need to just stop, like some people that are addicted to sugar, and sugar isn't bad, it's too much sugar that's bad, you know, sitting isn't bad, but too much sitting is bad. You know, sleeping isn't bad, but too much sleeping is bad, most people don't get sleeping, you know. So it's really, really, useful to go beyond just thinking about it, that's where it starts, and make a list, and then you're in a much better position, have clarity, and now it's more serious, because you took time to write it down, so that's a very powerful tool. And I'm so glad I discovered this, so I write things down a lot, because I know it

19:05better positions need to have more clarity, I think it thinks too much better, so that's the second application. Okay, the third application is, besides thinking about it, writing it down, evaluating, and along that line, I'd like to mention one of my favorite verses, says, do not judge according to appearance, the judge with them, as John 724, in other words, you can't just go by my looks, you can't judge a book by its cover, you can't judge a card by its color, you can't judge things superficially, or when I say judge, it means to evaluate, so don't evaluate just on appearance, so just because everyone else is doing it, doesn't mean it's a good idea, 89% of people eat way too much junk food, so you say, well, it

20:12can't be that bad, if everyone's doing it, well, yeah, it can't be that bad, so you want to think more deeply, not just superficially, okay, anyway, so point number three, that's really, really useful in determining what you need to stop, what you need to do more of, or less of, is to have a conversation with somebody about this, it could be anybody, it could be your spouse, it could be your mentor, it could be a best friend, but when you engage in an interactive conversation, it takes the ideas and insights to much higher level, I've been surprised that many times some of my best insights work for me just sitting down and reflecting and trying to come up with something, but it was in a conversation, I was in the floor, I'm talking, and explaining something, we're having a conversation, and

21:17it's in the context of the conversation, the back and forth conversation, that very often I get an insight, that it would not have otherwise, so you don't want to be too arrogant, like I've been most of my life, taking you, I can figure everything out, is when we engage with others, in a positive way, that we create a greater win-win, including this better clarity about things, and making better decisions, so, and just having a conversation about this, with somebody just greatly reinforces the idea, the concept, and it gives you a better perspective, and you're much more likely to fall through and do something, because, you know,

22:17how many people say, well, yeah, that's a good idea, but then they just move on like nothing happened, having a good idea is worthless, unless it's implemented, you know, like Peter said, you know, it's sort of obvious, but a lot of people, you know, that, first of all, a lot of people don't even think about these things, and then if you do, still doesn't make any difference unless you do something with it, so one of the best ways to make sure you do something about this concept, like stopping certain things and doing more of the right things, maybe you need to stop your job and start a new business, or maybe you're with a company, it's not working out very well, you're not so sure about the owner anymore, or it's just maybe the pay plan is bad, or whatever, maybe it's time to stop that and find a better company, or a better sponsor or something, so, another two words I like to use, that can

23:24be the same thing, is sort of a mathematical word, words, adding a subtraction, and we tend to favor and assume that adding more, or even adding new, more information is like the most important thing, but sometimes like Rusty Van likes to talk about, it's not so much learning, but the unlearning, what is it you need to stop, or subtract, so there's addition and subtraction, you know, I've shared before, it's sort of funny now, but I think first grade, you know, we're learning arithmetic, and addition was pretty clear and simple, but when we got subtraction, I had some kind of methyl block, I just didn't get it, everything's sort of silly now, because I went on to love algebra and trigonometry, I became really good at math, but in the first grade, I just couldn't get subtraction,

24:29yeah, I eventually did, but my point is that many times subtraction is more important than addition, and we tend to favor addition, but sometimes the brakes are more important than the gas pedal, you know, if the car, you're going down a member a few years ago, going down the freeway, and then all of a sudden we realized the car in front of us is stopped, so what's the best option at that point, the gas pedal or the brake, well it was the brake, you know, when we didn't break in time, we hit the other car, so it was an accident, but the point is, you know, stopping is, as important as not more important in many situations than starting or continuing or going forward, so if you want to increase the quality of your life, you need to consider what do I need to subtract, not just what do I need to add,

25:34now most people, they need to add a few things, you know, add more healthy food, you need to add a coach or a mentor, more personal development, and at the same time, you need to, and you're probably already busy, like well I don't have time to add this or that, well then you need to subtract something that is taking time so you can upgrade from good to better, and one of the activities that can enhance this is having a live conversation with somebody, even over the phone, face to face is better, you know, ideally, but if you can't do that, just conversation on the phone, or a video call is even better than just an audio call, and we tend to underestimate the value of conversations, even if it's just not even that

26:40important, it may be just somewhat superficial, having conversations, engaging, connecting with people has great value, more than you realize, and when you have a particular concept or idea or goal, like considering what do I need to do, less of what do I need to stop, so I have that conversation with somebody, it probably doesn't even matter, you can have the conversation, he was a child, maybe that might help, sometimes children have good insights, or talk with your grandparent, you know, if you have one, or an answer of somebody, but we tend to really under rate, under evaluate the value from conversations, I used to, most of my life, I didn't realize how important conversations were, I said, you just think it through and figure it out, you know, read more

27:45books, you know, like generals, you know, leaders or readers, I mean, so I'm really into books, I've read thousands of books, I've written 12, but when the best way to enrich your life on many levels is conversations, especially if you're married, you know, what kind of, how much time you have having conversations with your spouse, and what do you talk about? So conversations are really undervalued, people don't realize how much great potential there is in having conversations, and you know, on this topic, we're talking about, well, thinking about what do I need to stop, and considering that, and you'll get more insight, more clarity, when you write things down, and then when you talk about it with others, and even sharing this whole concept of thinking about

28:48how, thinking about what do I need to stop, just even sharing the concept of someone, like in a teaching mode, or sharing, you know, that makes them more clear for you, because you've wanted to really learn something, you got to start teaching it, it doesn't matter if you teach it, you can teach it to your child, and one of the most important words to say to the children that can save their lives sometimes is the four letter words stop, you know, they're running out into the street after a ball, and not looking what's in your box for cars, you know, you don't talk nicely, you yell, take stop, because of what's a stake, so because our whole life is a stake, we need to not just to live longer, in some cases, but have a better quality life, we need to stop certain things, we need to think about it, we need to write things down, and take you to the next

29:49level of having conversations about this, and both that creates more accountability, makes them more real, and it positions you to get more of what you want, which is to have a better life, like where you're happier, where you're healthier, and then just like on your physical health, you want to have, you want to live longer, and reduce your chance of ending up in a nursing home, you want to optimize your life, not just by adding certain things, but by stopping certain things, like, stop staying up so late, that was one of my bad habits for so much of my life, you know, I rationalize, I'm up to 12, 1 o'clock, you know, and a lot of people have that problem, so I endeavor, my target is to get to bed by 10 p.m. Still often ends up being 11, if it's just 11, I think, okay, well that's better than the night, but stop staying up so late, that really hurts you, that stressful staying up late,

30:54not getting enough sun, being indoors all the time, not getting out, you know, in nature, there's trees, and there's water, and the ocean, you know, all those things are stressful, because we need to be in nature, we need to stop being outside of nature, we need to stop being under artificial light all the time, getting natural light, so in many examples, so anyway, this gives you sort of a pathway of a way of looking at things, thinking about not just what do you add, what do you need to subtract, what do you need to, where do you need to hit the gas pedal, and where do you need to stop? Some people, you know, they need to hit the gas pedal, they need to be, if you have a business, you need to maybe be talking to more people, and being around more positive people, or if you're around negative people, people don't have confidence, and they're

31:54doing well, you just stop being around them, because it's infectious, people's emotions are infectious, if you're around happy, positive, optimistic people, you start catching that, and you automatically, energetically, through the quantum field, become more happy and optimistic and positive, but if you're around people that are negative, or they're down, or depressed, or they're angry, they worry a lot, they complain a lot, that affects you, pulls you down, so you gotta stop, or at least reduce as much as possible, being around much dark people, negative people, so, anyway, I hope this is helpful, I think, so my three point, just a quick review is, you know, start asking questions, I'll just assume, ask questions, yeah, what's good, better, and best, make a list, evaluate it, consider what's a stake, what's the price to pay, I mean,

32:58there's, like I said, there's advantages to junk food, it's convenient, and it tastes good, but there's the price to pay, you're much more likely to get cancer, and heart disease, and strokes, and Alzheimer's, you know, so it is a worth it to get the upfront benefits of convenience and good taste, when your life's a stake, okay, and then the third was, it's have more conversations, which will enrich your life in many ways, not just in regards to this topic, but in general. Okay, Peter, I think we'll call that a wrap, any comments, or questions about, no, stopping, all great stuff, all great stuff, so we're going to start, I suppose, next week with the acronyms, the first S, we'll probably have, you gave us a good overview of the theme of stop, so I like that, so that's a good thing, so for those people that want to learn a little bit more about you, and maybe work with you as well, what's the best way

34:01for them to get in touch with you? The best way to get in touch with me is my phone number, it's the 425, it's a Washington State number, 425-333-8472, you also can connect with me on messenger or WhatsApp, WhatsApp is actually a different phone number, telegram, I don't like that as much, but you can just call me or text me directly, that's probably the easiest one, so again that number is 425-333-8472, and let me assure you, I cannot help you, if you don't call, if you don't make a call, I cannot help you at all, but if you do, and we have a conversation, like I've emphasized today, I guarantee I can give you more clarity, maybe better direction, maybe some advice, hey Joe, you need to stop doing this, I need to start doing that,

35:06and so I don't charge anything, I'm here to help, but I can't help you if you don't call, so the ball's in your court, the door's open, you just have to walk through, so 425-333-8472, and then do someone a favor starting with yourself, listen to this again, you can't get it all the first time, sometimes it's like the third time when you get the most value, I remember the first time I watched the movie Matrix, I didn't quite get it the first time, still a little confused, the second time it became clear, I watched it like probably 8 or 9 times, so funny I asked my son once, we're talking to him about it, he's a major there force, talking about the Matrix, he said you know I've watched it 42 times, and this is like 20 years ago, he said he had the whole thing memorized, I mean 42 times, like are you good, so there's value to repetition, yeah, I've never watched a movie more than maybe 3 times,

36:133 or 4 times, like Matrix 15, several times, but anyway, how I get off on that, so anyway, happy to help if you are open, and maybe you want to work with me, or just let me give you some guides, do someone a favor starting with yourself, and like Peter said, do someone a favor and tell them about these programs, because it's valuable for you, it's going to be valuable for them, like giving them a free gift, it doesn't cost you anything other than just having a conversation, hey, yeah I've listened to this guy talk about this, I highly recommend it, here's what I got out of it, so do someone a favor, and recommend these, okay, now I think that's it for now, thanks Peter, and everybody have a good day, good week, God bless everybody, and we'll see you next time, you just heard from Rick Abauer, check him out, this is the beginning of the stop, success formula, we'll see you next time on

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