How to Maximize Your Energy 3/7: Pack the Bus — Enthusiasm Is Contagious #WinItAllWednesday 4 of 7

0:00Greetings and welcome. Welcome back to the sweet spot. Today is Wednesday, but as you know, it's not just any Wednesday around these parts. Around these parts, we call it will it all Wednesday. It's all about winning this Wednesday and I'm so glad you're here. I'm Dr. Derek Sweet. I'm your host here on the sweet spot. As you know, I'm a board certified skydress. I work in performance circles. More than that, I'm your teammate here in a game of life. We've been unpacking this week in the sweet spot. A great book here called The Energy Bus. It's a book that has these 10 wonderful lessons that we are unpacking and learning about that are helping us be really strong and really optimistic as we go through the game of life. And on Monday, we established the foundation. We said the first lesson was, you are the driver of

1:05your bus. We're not going to let the circumstances or the history or somebody else's opinion drive our bus. No, you. You're going to drive your bus. On Tuesday, take action Tuesday. We talked about the tank. We filled the tank. We talked about how desire, vision and focus remember those three. We said that the desire, vision and focus, which was the second lesson that this character George learned on the bus, desire, vision and focus formed a three-part ignition system. And we linked that yesterday to how the brain's reticular activating system is literally wired to orient us and to orient our attention to whatever direction we're giving it. Remember that? We talked about running on clean fuel yesterday. Take action Tuesday. And the clean fuel was purpose, joy and genuine

2:09belief. That was as opposed to the dirty fuel that corrodes the engine over time, the fear, the anxiety, the stress, the comparison, the negativity, right? That dirty negative fuel we talked about that. So you know who you are. And you know where you're going. And your tank is full. That's where we are because we've been in the sweet spot unpacking the lessons from this book. So now that you know who you are, you know where you're going and your tank is full. Wednesday, when it all Wednesday asks the next great question. Who is on the bus with you? Yes. Who is on this bus with you? Remember our character in the book George has a horrible life. Things are going wrong. His marriage is job. Family, everything is going south on him. His car gets

3:13a flat. It breaks down. He gets on a bus. He meets his woman named Joy. And she's giving him these lessons and we learn the lessons. He learns that you have to drive your own bus. You have to have the right fuel. You have to have the direction. But we are reached a point where the first three rules that we got are good. But the question is, who's driving? Who's on the bus with you? The bus that you're now driving? And that's where rules four and seven, the relational heart of this energy bus suddenly appear. Up to this point, the author has been talking to us about our choice, our direction and our fuel. We're clear on that. Your choice, your direction and your fuel. But that's not enough sweet spotter. He adds rule four here. And rule four says, you have to invite people on

4:13your bus and share your vision for the road ahead. And then he adds another rule. I'm going to skip to rule seven because they go together. He said enthusiasm is the secret sauce. Enthusiasm attracts more passengers and energizes them during the ride. So rule four, invite people on your bus and share your vision for the road ahead. And then rule seven. Enthusiasm, you're being enthusiastic is going to attract more passengers and energize them for the ride together. Rules four and seven. These two rules address something. No, no high performance. No individual worth his or her soul can avoid forever. You cannot win alone. This is when it all Wednesday. You just don't win alone. Anytime you are a winner and you really look at it, other people have been involved

5:15in helping you win. Absolutely. You're not going to win a championship alone. You're not going to win over a company alone. You're not going to create a legacy alone. You can't create a family alone. You can live alone and you can be alone. But many of the things you want to accomplish in life require connection. At some point in your journey and my journey, our bus needs passengers. Especially if we want to be winners of what we do. And how we fill it, how we fill the bus determines everything about where this bus is going to go and how it's going to go. And the author writes that the main character George needed to do two things simultaneously in order to ensure that his bus was going to get to the destination in the right way. Rule four and rule seven.

6:18Rule four was invite people and and share your vision. Yes, these two things have to be done together. You have to share your vision and invite the people in. Don't just tell them what to do. Don't just recruit bodies for seats on the bus. But open the door nicely and lay out the destination and let people choose to get on board the bus. Here's a line from the book. You not only need to invite people to join you, you must tell them where you're going and how you plan to get there so they know what they're signing up for. That's a leadership principle. It's disguised as a bus metaphor, but that's a leadership principle. People need to know where they're going with you and how you plan to get there. The greatest teams in history were not just assembled. They weren't just put together. They were they had an attractive force

7:22around them, right? The players wanted in. The staff wanted to be contributors. The communities and the audience and the fans wanted to belong to this. They loved it. Everybody was in this synagogistic attractive force thing because someone cast a vision clear enough and genuine enough and everyone saw it. People were attracted to it. You cannot attract the right passengers on your bus if you're going to be vague and if you're going to be selfish and if you're going to be just sort of closed off. You have to be clear though about what you're doing. People don't like being around vague people that are ambiguous and it's shifty and they can't figure it out. So this rule about the idea of you inviting people in, got to open the door and you've got to share your vision. Does that make sense? And then the other rule that went along with this,

8:25the author said, is be enthusiastic. Now why would he say be enthusiastic? The reason is enthusiasm is a magnet. When you're enthusiastic, you attract, you attract things, you attract people not only that you energize what's around you. So it takes rule seven here, takes rule four further. It says your enthusiasm is not a personality tree. It's an actual tool, a recruiting tool, a retention tool. It's an energy transfer mechanism. Don't you like being around people who are positive, genuinely positive, not fake positive, but genuinely positive and genuinely enthusiastic. The authorized enthusiasm comes from the Greek word and fields, which means inspired or filled with the divine. When you bring that level of inspired energy to everything you do,

9:31you know what happens? Other people feel it. Energy is transferred. People feel your energy and they want to be around you and they want to be your team. If you're not getting people on your team part of this, kind of think about what energy you're giving off. If you're going to walk them and be all negative and like it's a bad day and you're going to be pointing out all the stuff, if you're going to flatten the rule without giving any energy back, well then that's the issue. And remember, it comes from the Greek word enthusiasm comes from the Greek word and fields, which means inspired or filled with divine. Let that breathe for a second. Filled with the divine. That's energy. That's not manufactured high pour forced positivity. That's genuine overflowing energy that comes from a person who truly believes,

10:31who actually believes in where they're going and what they're about. Have you been around those kind of people? Aren't they fun to be around them? Are you one of those kind of people? The author Gordon, he says that you lead from the heart by becoming the CEO. That's right. Becoming the CEO of your workplace. But what's interesting is that we think of CEO's chief executive officer and I know quite a few, but that's not what this author meant. He meant chief energy officer. You lead from the heart by becoming the chief energy officer of your workplace, of your home, wherever you're functioning. Are you the downer? Are you the Debbie downer? Are you the chief energy officer? Not fake, but bringing some enthusiasm into the moment. It can change everything.

11:39Because before there was strategy, before the structure, before your systems, you know what people are reading? They're reading your energy. The energy you as a leader, as a parent, as a husband or a wife, as a father, as a student, what you bring into the room. You could be a patient and your doctor walks into the room and if she has the wrong energy, he has the wrong energy, you can feel it right away. So because energy is important before structures, before systems, before strategies, it's super important that you figure out your own energy and your enthusiasm. And if you want to be a winner, you've got to have that level of enthusiasm. And that's why this is one of the important lessons that this character had to learn on this bus. Remember this dude had a bad day. He had a lot of bus and he's getting 10 lessons. We just got like four of them, right? He knows he has to drive the bus. He knows what kind of fuel he has to get.

12:41The direction he has to get. But today he's learning that he's got to invite people on the bus. He's got to be enthusiastic about the bus. He's got to share the vision. That's what we have to do brother, ancestor, sweet father. And the reason this is important and the reason this works, I'm going to give you the neuroscience. Why? Because here on the sweet spot, we're all about one. Science, soul and success. And here's the science of enthusiasm, the science of why you and I really ought to take pride and take real caution to be sure that we're not a downer because there's such a thing called mirror neurons, mirror brain cells. Yeah, your brain contains a class of neurons called mirror neurons. They go back to the early 1990s they were found. And these brain cells, these mirror neurons, they fire when you perform an action and when you observe someone else performing that same action. So they're a part of a

13:46neurological architecture that underlies things like empathy and imitation and social connection. It's why people kind of do what other people do. So and here's what this means in a room full of people, right? When you walk into a room with positive energy and the people around you begin to sink with you emotionally and neurologically if they're your brain start to sink. And the research on this sort of emotional contagion stuff shows that our system are designed to pick up what other people's systems are doing. It's why when people are clapping, everybody claps, we're laughing, everybody laughs, some people want to run, they all run in a crowd. The brain has this mirror neuron thing going on and it's real. That's why certain cultures I've noticed over the years could walk into a locker room and it can change the locker room just because of their energy. Certain leaders can make everything feel and make everyone feel like everything is exciting and we're going to make this

14:47happen. Some players even on losing teams can make everyone around them feel better. So enthusiasm is not a soft thing. It's not an optional thing. It's a biological force and science. The science says that you're either using it intentionally or you're losing it passively. Where are you on the enthusiasm scale? If I asked you today, how enthusiastic are you as a person? 10 being super enthusiastic and energetic, one being like flat and with no enthusiasm. Where do you fall? Because your energy is not private. In case you think that it's never private, it belongs to everyone in the room. People know and read that. Absolutely. So think about that today as you move through when it all Wednesday. And as we close on when it all Wednesday, I want to speak to

15:50somebody today who's doing everything alone. You have the vision. You have the desire. You've been filling the tank. You've been listening to the sweet spot. You know what we said on making those Monday take action Tuesday. You're in when it all Wednesday but you're doing it alone. This is for you. You've been treating the bus like it's a solo vehicle. You've been afraid to invite people in and you have probably have good reasons. You're afraid to share your vision anymore. You're afraid that your enthusiasm would look like some kind of weakness or like you're being naive. I want to say this to you directly today. Isolation is not discipline. It's not. It's a trap. Silence about your vision is not humility. And keeping people off your bus is not protecting you. It's limiting you. You will get more done in team fashion. The greatest performers have

16:50ever worked with. The ones who sustain excellence over years and decades are the ones who learned eventually that they need passengers on the bus. Not passengers who drive for them. Remember Monday we took care of that. We said you got to drive your own bus. But you want passengers who would help you stay buoyant on your journey. Passengers who fuel the journey, who save the destination and say, you know what? I believe in that. I like what I'm seeing here. I can get with this. I can mess with this. I want to, I want to help. How can I help? One of the greatest things I love in full circle of practice or even here with the sweet spot is when somebody says, hey, I want to, can I get interviewed or can I, can I jump in? What can I do? Or they give me a topic

17:51or an idea? It's, it's so amazing. It reminds me that I'm not alone. And that's why we've been opening up the sweet spot recently to interviews. I hope you saw the interview with Darsal Dillard Sweet. Hopefully you saw the interview at Can Clark as well. I don't know if you saw those too. And we have so much more. We have Roger Hines. We have so many more great names. Coming up Kendall Blaspy is coming up. Oh my goodness. Lay on. Great. Oh, there's so many, right? Anyway, I'm digress. I digress. So you want passengers on the bus and trust me. We got a lot of passengers here on the sweet spot coming up for you. What I want to leave you with today? On the sweet spot. What I want to leave you with on when it all went say, here's what I want to leave you with. Vision without invitation is loneliness. Enthusiasm without direction is noise. But if you take your vision and you add the invitation to it, you invite others onto the bus.

18:59And then you combine that invitation with genuine enthusiasm. That's how you get to your destination with joy, with freedom, with love. That's how you build championship culture. That's how it gets built. People should feel that enthusiasm. When I do the sweet spot, I'm in. I'm all in. I love it. That's why something's I'm laughing. You're like, why is this dude like why is he so happy? I don't know. I just that's the end feels. That's the divine inspiration. You've got it. All of us have got it. Just got to access it. Nobody wants to get on a bus driven by somebody who looks like they don't believe in what they're doing or they don't want to get to the destination. No, your enthusiasm and my enthusiasm is what's going to recruit people to you. And you want to be a winner on Wednesday? Start by being enthusiastic. Be more enthusiastic.

20:02And the ancient wisdom back to some and then we're out. Remember Nehemiah he was a cup beer for the king of Persia, right? Nehemiah in ancient wisdom. That guy, interesting dude. Right? Wasn't a big time general or politician? Wasn't a man of like real power, but he had a vision. To rebuild the walls of Jerusalem, remember that story? You should go read it. I think it's chapter two. Nehemiah 217, right? He said, come, let's rebuild the wall of Jerusalem, he shared it. Right? And enthusiastically, he said, we will no longer be in this grace. See, he didn't try to build a wall alone. He did it. He invited people. He had a vision. He spoke up. And he shared the destination with clarity and conviction so there are enough people who were around them. They didn't say Nehemiah go kick rocks, get out of here, whatever. No, they were like, nah, I'm going to help you. I'm getting on your bus. And that's what you want today's sweet

21:06spotter. It's winning all Wednesday. Who's on my bus? Okay? Who's on your bus? And I know you got a lot. I saw my mom give it to me and I was telling her, mom, I'm impressed with you. You have like a lot of friends. And I'm impressed with how many of them are around you, how genuine they are, how you, they're such great people. I would call them my name, but I don't want to get myself in trouble with her or her friends, but she has a tremendous friend's bus, a bus, a bus full of friends. Mom, I want to get on your bus. So rule four and rule seven in this book, the energy bus that we're talking about written by John Corden really tells us to not only drive our bus, but bring people on board, share the vision. And it's backed up in the ancient wisdom. It's backed up in in story philosophy. It's, it's important. So as we close this window

22:11of Wednesday, let me challenge you. Let me give you a sweet spot challenge today. I want you to identify one person you've been doing life or work without. You've cut them out. Someone who belongs on your bus, but they haven't been invited. Maybe it's a collaborator. It's a teammate. Maybe it's a mentor or friend. Somebody whose energy fuels yours. Name that person. Name that person. Is there somebody that belongs on your bus today? Reach out today. Don't wait for tomorrow or event today. Make it now's always the right time. And share something about where you're going, your vision, your project, your season. In fact, I'm in. And ask yourself honestly. Ask yourself this today. What does my energy say to the people around me? Does it say the destination is real? Does it say I believe we can get there? Does it say

23:16I want you on this ride? Does it show energy? Does it show enthusiasm? Are you the chief energy officer? Are you the CEO of your space today? We often call the prefrontal cortex of the brain the CEO. Well, this is the CEO, but it's a chief energy officer in every room you go to today. In every phone call, in every interaction, I want you to be enthusiastic. This is the sweet spot. This is when it all Wednesday and this is not the sweet. Love and blessings. I'll see you tomorrow. And if you enjoyed today or if it spoke to you today, I would like you to share this with someone who could use a post who maybe needs to get on your bus or you need to jump on their bus. And let's let's go on a ride together. And if you haven't subscribed, I want you to join my bus for sure. Love and blessings.