How rude is lateness?

0:00Lunchtime Live with Andrea Gilligan on NewsTalk. Now, punctuality, are you perfectly punctual or always lace? We sent our reporter Biber Holmes out on the streets of NACE this lunchtime to ask people. No, it's not. Get up five minutes earlier. It's that easy. How long would you wait for somebody if they're running lace? Four-bought, half hour? Max. And you have anyone in your life that is always late? Yeah, my wife. What's your reaction when somebody turns up late? It depends. If they have kids that you kind of understand. If not, then no more than five minutes. And is there anyone in your life friends or family who you give fake times to when you're arranging it? To meet up? Yes. Oh, my family. We have to give them half an hour early because they're always late. If we've got like Christians or anything on yet, they have to tell them half an hour earlier. I'm always late for everything. Everything.

1:01I'm on the way. And I'm not wearing the way. What's the latest you've been? Oh, good hour. This survey today tells us about the really specific line that exists where tiredness officially goes from being that bit annoying to total rudeness. And you know what it is? 29 minutes. That's what those surveys said. Is there official cutoff point? Some people think that 15 minutes late is still acceptable. Tony is with me on the line today because Tony, you probably attend a lot of meetings. How important is punctuality to you? Well, I certainly wouldn't give them 28 minutes. Either way, Tony. Long gone at that stitch. It's context. Is it work? Is it fun? Is it community? Is it social friends? Is it funny? If it's work, it starts from time. Because I learned very early. I was told once we start on time because we don't punish people for being in time. And we don't reward people for being there. And once you have that ethos, it works really well and attitudes change.

2:04Now, there are reasons. And anybody can have a different control. There's beyond your control. Yeah, it just happens. Not an issue. Absolutely not an issue. Would you and I both know that person? The lady said about a narrower. They're all this way. Yeah. And your time doesn't matter. You're not important. This is the thing. It's about understanding that the person you're going to meet, their time is also important. And people just, I know people, Tony, in my own life who use the meeting time, it's kind of like a guide. That's the time in which if you're meeting of three, three is the time at which you leave the house like that. This is the one thing that absolutely antagonizes me as people being lit. And you know the one that swans in 45 minutes less and doesn't have the good grief there. I'm sorry, this happened that happened. There's just a definitely nothing had happened. Or if you started the meeting, you actually started the meeting without me. Or if it's a family situation with the food.

3:04And if you're cooking food for somebody, you know, there's a time when it's ready and it's ready and it's overdone or it's not nature is cold. My attitudes, and when we get to the Arduino and then I'd say, look, serve it up. Order the same for them. Go on, I always. Whenever they're raised, whatever. Most precious thing we have in life is time. I'll tell people. And everyone's time is important. What about you, Warla? Do you think myself and Tony are completely crackers? I think that for some people, it's more difficult to be on time than others. And particularly if you have ADHD, it's not always about respect or not wanting to be on time or not trying hard to be on time. But you know, there are things fundamentally different with your brain's executive function. You know, you're trying to cope with time blindness and transitioning from tasks, path

4:07analysis, working memory problems. There's so many things that, you know, people with ADHD often use adrenaline because there's a lack of dopamine. So it's like that last minute panic that enables you to actually be able to get moving. And what kind of, what, what, what's where are you on this, Orly, yourself? Are you somebody that's on time or are you admittedly lace? I'm mostly on time, but it's because I've developed techniques over the years. What kind of techniques? Like, if, you know, having time because I'm absolutely time, time blindness, you know, I could lose hours without realizing it. So I wear a watch so that I always can see the time. And it's friends and family. They helped me by reminding me so if I've agreed to some family events or you need to help out that they will form me early in the day to remind me that it's happening.

5:13And often I have completely forgotten and they'll form me to make sure that, you know, 15, 20 minutes before I leave, form to make sure that I am getting ready. And you're ready, yeah, and you're there. And it's funny you say that just about the techniques because other listeners too, getting in touch with some of their own suggestions, ways to try and navigate. Maybe people that aren't on time for whatever their reason, legitimate or otherwise, this texture, oh, 8, 7, 1400, 106 is the WhatsApp number. This listener, Tony, tells me that we've actually started lying to my sister-in-law about the time of the dinners because she was all was so lace. We as a family found it beyond rude. So we've now started to lie to her. This texture tells me 5 to 10 minutes isn't lace. That's on time in my book. The last thing you want is somebody to be early. You see, like for me, the meat and thyme, Tony, is that's the time everybody has to be there. I like to be there about 5 minutes early. I have to be very careful. I have a few friends in relation to her, I use that technique as well.

6:14I do it half an hour depending on the person. Maybe an hour, I give them a different time completely. And it's very few still in time, but it's so important. It's just, you can. Particularly if people have another meat and a half, that's in business. But if you're a volunteer, volunteers are multiple of the commitments and they're one of them one meat and the other. Or doing a job or delivering meals and meals and whatever. And you know, it's good their day up. Now as a chairman, I'm a chairman of some committees and just a member, I started at a time. We started at a time. People get to know I started at a time. You don't want to submit it every sometime. Yeah. It's funny you say that because another text from a listener here who tells me I was in the defense forces, I was in the military and I was always told that being on time actually meant you were late. And I still live my life by that. By that to this day, another text says, what about the doctors in the doctor's surgery who always keep us waiting without ever an apology?

7:14But you know why that probably happens? Because some patient arrived into the surgery late. That's probably the knock-on effect of this. I've no doubt that's the reason that you're probably kept waiting in the doctor's surgery because somebody else used that appointment time as a guide and showed up late. 087 1400 106 of the WhatsApp number. This listener too says, I am the person who's late and I've lost friends over. You see, I don't blame your friends for that. And this instance, I've no sympathy for that text or email is launchtimelive.news.com. Orla and Tony, thanks a million for joining us in the program today. launchtimelive with Andrea Gilligan. Weekdays at midday on News Talk. Conversation that counts.