(BEST OF) CHER: Life Advice We’ll Never Forget

0:00Welcome back to We Can Do Hard Things. Okay, pod squad. Today, what we're doing is, if we could turn back time, if we could, we would revisit the time that share was here. Share, I know. I still don't know how I kept it together during this conversation, and if you make it through the first minute of this episode, I'd personally like to thank you for enduring my first rendition of, if I could turn back time, and my second one. I regret nothing. Here's the thing. We all knew share the icon, share the legend, share the Oscar winner, share the voice, share the hair, share. But after spending an hour with her, I walked away thinking something completely different. What I love most about share isn't that she's extraordinary. It's that she was just relentlessly human. Publicly, she told us the truth about what really happened behind the Sunnian Share story.

1:01She talked openly about emotionally abusive relationships. The moment she realized she didn't have to stay and the life-changing advice Lucille Ball gave her that she later passed on to Tina Turner. She shared with deep honesty, her regrets about how she responded when Chaz came out. Not because she wasn't loving, but because she was scared for her child in a world that could be so cruel. And she reminded us that getting it wrong at first doesn't mean you can't keep growing into the parent and the person you want to be. And somewhere in the middle of it all, she gave us one of my new favorite life metaphors. Life, she said, is like driving a bumper car. You hit a wall, you back up, you turn, and you keep going. That's share. She never expected life to be smooth. She just kept going. Looking back on this conversation, I'm even more grateful for it. We laughed, we cried, we completely lost our cool, and I have a feeling you're going to love this conversation

2:01even more this time around. Let's go. Pod Squad, if I could reach the stars, I'd give them all to you. Love, like you used to do. I don't think we should go there. I think we should just introduce the guest. I think we've gone there, Abby. And I don't think there's a damn thing you can do about it. I know, but it's like kind of. Pod Squad were a little amped up because we just spent the last hour with share. Okay? With share. Share is on the podcast today. And the first amazing news is that share is on the podcast. The second amazing news is that share was so warm, so wonderful. Share helped us solve all of our life problems. Just the whole thing is so beautiful. She's a joyful, beautiful person.

3:02She is. And I just, I loved her before this interview. And afterwards, I love her even more. And you will too. And I actually think that this conversation's going to help. Get ready. The one. We give you share. The icon. Let's go. Can you hear me? Yes, we can hear you. Okay, there I am. Share. Your share. Yes, I am. This is Abby. I'm Abby. And that's my sister Amanda. Hi. Hello. And I'm Glenan. And I'm going to be cool. I'm going to be cool. Share. We love you. We have loved you. We're all going to be cool then. Yes. I can't promise to be cool. I am rarely cool. Okay. I'll be cool. We love you. We'll just start with. Thank you. All right. Well, that's a good start. Okay. I like that. You haven't heard that often. That's a new thing for you to hear. Your book. I absolutely loved. I started and didn't stop.

4:04Abby came up to me and said, how is it? What are you thinking? And I just thought we know share the icon. We know share the Oscar winner. We know share the singer. We know you. But this is so personal. This book is so personal. And it was such it's such a gift to learn about you as a person. And I said to Abby, I just wish I could sit with her for an hour and ask her advice. And Abby said, well, don't we get to sit with her for an hour? You can ask her advice. And I thought, oh my god. I have to tell you too. I had to write that thing again. It was three times. And it was just it was such a bitch. I cannot tell you because it's hard. First of all, it's hard telling things you don't really want to tell. And then it's hard trying to get things in your own voice and be very careful. But then after a while, it was actually after a while. It was pretty good, but it was never easy. I was more proud of it. Even though I think I should have done it one more time.

5:07But I was more proud of it. But it's not easy. It just wasn't easy. Or maybe it just wasn't easy for me. I don't know. I'm a book writer. And I agree that writing books is very hard. And I think one of the things that's hardest is telling the truth while also honoring your people. And you did that so beautifully. I loved everyone in your book. Even the complicated relationships, all of it. I thought it was beautifully done. Thank you. I have to tell you that the first book that was written that I didn't have anything to do with, it was more like the encyclopedia. Then when I started doing it, I kept telling everybody, these have got to be stories. They can't be information. Yeah. Yeah. Speaking of stories, you start with you and your mama at an Elvis concert. And you're surrounded by all of the fainting girls, the screaming girls. And right from the beginning,

6:07that story got me because you looked at Elvis and you said, I want to be him. And I thought, oh, I bet the other girls were thinking I want to be with him. Right? Yeah. Yeah, I've been changing. My mom, my mom was crazy. But my mom could be so much fun. And like when I said, mom, can we get on the chairs and scream too? I had no idea why I was doing it, but I wanted to do it. And she said, sure, babe, get on. So we got up on the chairs and we were screaming and yelling. And my mom was so different than my friends' moms. My mom was really cool. And she was excited to be there. And we didn't have much money, but she got it and we just had the best time. Yeah. There's so many beautiful things in your book about your relationships. And since this first one is about early relationships, there's a lot about sunny and shit. And so much beauty was born from that relationship,

7:09but I was very grateful for your honesty in discussing the hard parts about how you lost yourself a bit in that relationship. So when you look back, what parts of that relationship were hurtful? How did you lose yourself? So many people write to us about losing themselves inside of relationships. And your story can be a real gift to them. So can you talk to us about that a little bit? Yeah, well, I was only 16. So I didn't have much self to lose. And sunny was a much different person. And we just had this thing. You know, if sunny came back right now, we would be sunny and shit. It's just that thing. Not that I liked him at the end, but even if he came back, we would be sunny and share. We couldn't help it. And I'm very forgiving. And so it was so complicated. It was so fucking complicated. He was really nice in the beginning. And then when we lost all of our money,

8:12it was maybe one of the best periods for us, except maybe then the beginning of the sunny and share show, because that was so much fun. And it was a time where I had power that he didn't have, because for me, it was just pretending, you know, it was just having a good time. He didn't come by it easily. It was harder for him to do the show than you, like harder for him to get into that character. Is that what you mean? Right. Well, he ended up doing a character who didn't study his lines. That does make it harder. Right. So that was where he was going to go. And then that was fabulous because we all laughed. And, you know, and that was him. And then it started to get not so much fun. I mean, before that, I was not having a great time. But in the middle of the sunny and share show, I was just not having a good time at all. I was having a great time with the show. I was not having a good time with him.

9:13Yeah. So you would be in your relationship, suffering and then get on stage and be acting out the parts. But you know what? This is what's going to be hardest for people to understand. We weren't acting out the parts. We're really having a great time. But it was the only place where I had a great time. Because I couldn't be under his thumb. And because I realized this happened to me twice. Once when I had a chance, and once when we did the sunny and share show, that I had freedom and that he knew he had to give me freedom in order for me to help him and in order for us to have a good time. And thank God we worked most of the time because it would have been too hard for me. Yeah, sure. It felt like when I was reading it felt like, oh, she's allowed to exist on the stage. But then off the stage, it was very controlling, right? You weren't allowed to where what you wanted or where perfume or have friends.

10:17It was kind of controlling off stage, right? Well, wait, babe. Say that one more time. Because I think I'm losing you guys for a minute. Okay. Let's try this again. Okay. You said something about what? I said, I said, sunny was a hassle. Well, well, I was saying it felt like when I was reading that your relationship was good on stage because he was wanting you to exist in all your shareness on stage. But then off stage, it felt like he was controlling you. Oh, yeah. Yeah, it was terrible, actually. Yeah. It was like on stage, we were equals. And also maybe he needed me more than I needed him. Yes. But off stage because I had started so young, he was not interested in me being a human being at all. Okay. Now, share, there's this story that you tell in this book that I think could save lives.

11:21And when things got really bad, you started thinking, maybe I have to end my life because I don't know how to get out of this. And then you're standing on a balcony and you have this epiphany. Well, I was having a really, really hard time. And when we were on the road, I just wasn't allowed any freedom at all. So I wasn't allowed to talk to the band. I wasn't allowed to do anything. I wasn't allowed to go any place. You know, I just wasn't allowed to do anything. So I kept thinking I can't take this. And then one night I stopped eating, I stopped sleeping. And one night I just thought I got to get out of here. I just going to jump off this thing. Then I thought I could leave him. Yeah. It's such a beautiful thing because when you're in a bad relationship,

12:21your vision narrows and you think you only have this one option. So when I read that, oh, I don't have to jump. I can leave him. I thought that's going to save lives that moment. So then what happened? Right. I mean, it was like, I was a phenomenon like, oh, I don't have to do this. I can do that. And it just never occurred to me to do it. I think because he had so much control when we were not doing the show. And when we are in stage, it was the same thing. We were equal. And there was nothing he could do. So at those two points, we were having a fun time. And he was enjoying it. We were, I think, always destined to be sunny and chair. And so it was really fun, you know? And then the moment it was over, then it was, you know, I don't know. I don't know. It wasn't fun. You hear these stories about this. And in my experience, I'm just wondering like, was it the more popular you got,

13:25the more life you had on stage? Did that correspond with the more control he was exerting over you? Like, was it in response to you getting bigger that you needed to be smaller in the relationship? I really don't know because when I was young, I was kind of sickly. I have the strangest kind of a lot of energy, you know, a lot of emotion, a lot of just vitality and then sickness. And when I met him, I was in a sick kind of period and he took care of me. And then it kind of stayed like that and stayed like that. And then it got a little bit worse and it was more than taking care of. It was telling you what to do and what not to do. And I never thought, I just never thought to rebel because the one time I told him how I felt. And I remember saying, I'm just not happy. And he just started screaming. I mean, it said, do you want me to divorce you?

14:27I should have said yes. Yeah. But you know what? I wasn't ready till I was ready. I just hadn't taken so long. But because our careers were so entwined with our personal life, I didn't know what to do. You know, also, I have dyslexia. Not that that has anything to do with anything. But it's like, I never made out a check until I was like, right before I left him, I just was terrified. So I wasn't, I knew how to do what I did. And I didn't know how to do much else except when Charles was born. And that was a great thing. When Charles was born, now this is before the show. When Charles was born, it lifted me up. When we started to do the TV show, it lifted me up. And there was nothing he could do to me in those times. And I don't think there was anything he wanted to do to me. How did you leave? Do you remember those moments like how did you do it?

15:29I read in the book that you talked to Lucille Ball about what to do. This was a beautiful sisterhood chain that you talked to Lucille Ball. And then after you left, Tina Turner came to you. Right. To ask you for advice. What did she ask you? What Lucy? Yeah, you asked Lucy right first. Yeah, I asked Lucy. I said, you know, you're the only person that I know of who's ever been in this kind of a position. The only one. I said, I don't know what to do. And she said, fuck him, you're the one with a talent. That's an evergreen statement if I've ever heard one. Yeah, and that's so Lucy. I knew Lucy when I was little. God. And then what did you say to Tina? What did Tina ask you exactly? How did you leave him? And what did you say to her? I said, I just walked out one night. So what would you say right now? You share who's been through all this, who's gotten out of this. What would you say to a woman who's listening right now,

16:32who might be in a physically or emotionally abusive relationship? What would your advice be to a friend? I would say it was easier for me to leave, except I ended up with a car and my clothes and that was it. And a $2 million debt. Yeah, well that's true. I forgot about that. I remembered at the time, but I would tell if you have any way to do it, do it. You know, because as I got older and more kind of like angry about having no freedom, that's when all of the, I can't do anything. I'm going to have to jump off. I can't do anything. I'm never going to be able to do anything. I'm just going to be caught here forever. So I don't know. Tell a friend, tell your mom, tell somebody, and get out. If you can get out, get out. And if you can't get out, get out anyway.

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21:40We just get along. Except sometimes. How do you guys do conflict when you're not getting along? How do you argue? Well, I'm the older one. Yeah. So I'm pretty good with conflict because I'm better at it. I've had it longer. And I love him. So it's easier even even though sometimes it's not. But it's kind of give and take. But I give more and he gives more. He thinks he gives more. I think I give more. So I don't know. I heard you talking about how slow to anger you are. And as I was reading, I was wondering. That's baffling to me to be slow to anger. When you're thinking about all of your work and you're also thinking about your life, what do you attribute being so slow to anger? And it just part of you wish that you were like when I think about your relationships,

22:41do you wish you were faster to anger or do you think it has served you or not served you to be so slow to anger? Well, I don't know what it's done, but I know that the reason that I'm slow to anger is because of my father because everybody else and my father, I met my father till I was 11. And my mother and my sister are quick to anger. My grandmother's quick to anger. The man who I call my father quick to anger. My real father boy, you just, he'll just wait and wait and talk to you and you know, he was very easy. He was like, there were two things I learned from my dad. Well, actually three. One, he ate slowly and my mother used to say, share, don't dot with your food. And I wasn't doddling. I was just eating slowly. And he had the long fuse and he had a good temperament in all ways, except he was a heroin addict. So that's always a rough one.

23:42And I don't know. I'm so happy that I have some of those things. Oh, and I smile like he does. My mom used to look at me every once in a while going, huh, I was wondering what is she thinking? Because I know it doesn't have anything to do. And yet it probably does have something to do with me. So I'm glad that I don't. And people who know me just, but God, if you really piss me off, run for the hills. Okay. Because it takes so long to piss me off. But then, you know, you just don't want to be there. Share, when's the last time you were really pissed off? Can one was the last time with Lisa? I honestly can't remember. It was in sanctuary. That would be like 20. And who was it? Lisa. Lisa. Yeah, 20s. How many years ago? 27 years ago. Oh, wait. No, I was mad at my sister. Okay. And how long ago was that? 15. So one is 20 something at one's 15. Holy shit.

24:44I don't even understand. But you don't have like a simmer. You're not pushing it down. Your anchor, it just doesn't exist. It just takes a lot. And I, it's just, I don't know. I just don't. Maybe I should have more. But I wouldn't like that. And I'm not doing it consciously at all. I think it's beautiful. I'm just jealous. I just don't have it too much. I can't find it. You know, I mean, like it comes to me every once in a while, like every 15 or 25 years. But oh no, there was, there was the one about Rosie. Can you tell us one of those three stories? All right. I'll tell you the Rosie story. So I love Rosie. And she works on the road with us. And I just adore her, right? And we had this new guy as a road manager. Was that what he was? Yeah, it's a roadie. And he didn't think much of us because he had worked in rock and roll and thought we were just idiots. And so one night he came to pick up

25:44everybody from the hotel. And he saw Rosie come to the bus and shut the door on her. And so Rosie called me. So when this guy came in, I pushed him up against the wall and I said, Motherfucker, you will be gone when she's still here. God, I love you so much. Oh, of course. Of course, it was a righteous anger. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But I was pretty much uncontrolled. Interesting. Okay. I'm glad you picked that one. I want to talk to you, share about women and money for a minute. So I have, there's the two favorite sets of words that anyone has ever said that I've ever heard anyone say. And the first set of words is when my children have said, no, the second, my second favorite is when my children told me that they loved me. My first favorite set of words that has ever been uttered by a human being

26:46is the words. Oh, my average man. It seems that girls like that. Yes. Okay. So just in case no one has heard it, your mom sits you down and says, share. Well, we were standing. You were standing. Okay, you tell the story. You tell it. You tell it. So we're in the kitchen. And we're by the dining room table, which is not in the dining room. That's like the kitchen table. And I was telling her that I wanted to make this movie, but I didn't have enough money. And I didn't see where I was going to get it. Or I couldn't figure it out. And I didn't know who to go to and blah, blah, blah, blah. And my mom said, baby, you should marry a rich man. And I went, mom, I am a rich man. Okay. And the other day, I saw it on a painting. And sometimes I see it on a needle point like on a pillow. Yes. Yes. It's names to appeal to us. So you have made and lost and made fortunes.

27:49You have supported so many people. You have had times in your life when you've had complete control of your money. And times it's been stolen from you. And times you didn't even know what you made. Share what do you want women to know about money? It's hard to learn about money, especially when you're poor. It's really hard because it scares you. And what you have to do is like, keep your head down. And find out what people are doing with that. Because, oh, you know, some people are not always good. So you have to try to find out what it means, what your money means, what you're doing, what people are doing to you. Because it's not easy. Yeah. Also, I trust in sunny, big mistake. Yeah. And I ask him, which was always like a huge thing for me. It was like, son, when just tell me, what day or time or year or situation were we having

28:51when you thought it was okay to take all my money? And he said, I always knew you'd leave me. Which wasn't an answer. No, because he didn't have a good one. No, no. Or maybe that was his answer. Because he knew that you were the prize. You're the talent thing. And that so he was at least going to get the money when you left. It's kind of rough to, I mean, that's a good answer in theory. But, you know, it's still bullshit. It's just not good because, you know, I was there by his side working every moment. It wasn't like he deserved it. Oh, God, no. And to say I did it because I knew you'd always leave me. It's just bullshit. It's abusive. It's a terrible thing. What was the moment like when you learned that those contracts that your company did not in fact belong to you,

29:51that you were contracted to work for a company that was named for you, but you owned 0% of. Right. Share enterprises. Share enterprises. He owned 95% in the lawyer owned five and you owned zero. And then you could only work for that company. Yes, that made me really, really angry and disappointed in him because it wasn't that he was just taking my money. He was making it so I couldn't earn any. Yeah. And David told me. Yeah, that was a beautiful story. Yeah, David just said sweetheart, this is not good. It's, you know, we have to do something about this, but it took us kind of a long time. And finally, my lawyer said you have to get divorced. And then you could break the contract. But when I broke the contract, there was no money to get. And the judge made me pay him $2 million.

30:52He just said miss in America. We don't well show in contracts. We don't try to pull out a contract. And I said, well, I didn't say it. But I thought, well, what do you do about people who steal your money? How does that grab you? Well, in America, we let husbands steal money from us. Yeah, that's what we do. Right. Okay. Fine. But then I went to work. And you went to work? Yeah. And you always went to work. But then at the end, I said, son, I can't do this all by myself. I just can't do it. So you're going to have to help me because I know I'm killing myself out here. And you're going to have to help me because I, you won't get your money very soon if you, if you don't give me a hand. Yeah. We just are so delighted to ask you as queer women and queer advocates. We are big fans of Chaz who you have called the strongest person in your family, which is so beautiful. Yeah. Talk to us a little bit. We have so many listeners because we are queer,

31:54whose children are coming out or transitioning. It can be just a wonderful but scary time for a parent where so much is gained and some things are lost and it can be confusing and hard. Can you talk to us a little bit how that has gone for you and what you would say to parents? I was terrible. I was terrible. Okay. I was just terrible. And I was terrible with Chaz and I'm gay. I was terrible. It was just, I was ridiculous. And I don't want to support all my friends. I mean, disappoint. But I was really nervous about what Chaz would face. Yes. And I couldn't, I couldn't do anything. But then we were going to Alonon together. And we've been going to Alonon for a while. And then Chaz came in and said, I want to do this. And I was like, okay. But then after that, I started to get really nervous.

32:58After you told you about the transition? No. Oh. After you said this is what I want to do. Okay. And you'll notice that in the beginning, I called Chaz Chaz. Yes. And I got an okay. So it was really rough. And then it just was fine. And I don't know what I had to go through. But now it's great. But I don't know what made me go through all that stuff. I know I was really nervous about what was going to happen. Yeah. I was really frightened about what would happen. And what kind of backlash he would have. You know, and at that time too, it wasn't like everybody was doing this. You know, it was like there were people who were transitioning. But I was nervous for Chaz. Mm-hmm. Yeah. I think that is so fair. And we talk about it all the time. That it's often not that you're scared of your kid. You're scared for your kid. And you're scared about the world. And I don't think it's disappointing that you say that.

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38:24was Chaz and Gina, her best friend, and when we were on the road, they were working for me in Vegas, and they were having the best time, and we were all having a great time and leisure was little. And we just were out there in Vegas and having the best time, except it was a bitch in Vegas then, and everyone said, oh, Sherry went to the Elephants graveyard. I mean, Sherry, what? Okay, give us a minute. Everybody and their brother wants to be in Las Vegas. And everyone's wearing the naked dress at the Met. And everyone's showing their belly button. You know who did it first? Sherry did it. I probably didn't do it. I just did it. No, you did. You were the first one to show your belly button on to be naked. Oh, no, I know that. Yeah, that's true. That's true. And the Met dress, I must say, no one's ever done it like Bob, because I was naked under it. Oh, God, it was just a work of God damn art.

39:24Well, he's in the office. Speaking of everyone saying that you are going to the Elephant graveyard, tell us how to survive being any sort of woman in the world with people saying all the shit that they're always saying. How does one, if you can do what you have done and been so excellent for so long in the face of all of the shit? How? You know, I just wouldn't give up. I just wouldn't stop. I didn't know how to do anything else. And I have this picture in my mind that I realized it's like, I'm like a bumper car. And if I hit a wall, I'm going to back up and I'm going to go in another direction. And that's all that was left for me. I didn't really know another way. I didn't know how to do anything else. And so like when I hit one bad thing, I went to New York and became an actress. Yeah. I don't know how I did it. It was like such a fluke.

40:25A fluke. And then you are the most amazing actor on the planet. Like you just kept fluking your way into being the most to me. Yeah. Well, no, getting my first job was really an accident. And I have to thank my mom because I'd gone to do an audition for Joe Papp. And he said, you know, show you're really good. But well, first I got, I got to do an audition for Mike Nichols. And he didn't have all that much to say. And I said to him, you know what? I'm really talented. And one day you're going to be so. Yes. I loved that. Right. So Francis says, if you're going to be an actress and so did Shelley Winners, get your ass to New York. So I got my ass to New York, did the audition. It wasn't that good. Actually, it wasn't not good. It was quite good. But he said, and I can't tell you, but there are two kinds of women. And you're not the one I need for this part. So anyways, I get to New York and Chaz is living with Lee,

41:27Stras Bergen Anna, Leon Anna and their kids. And so Randy and I, who was also living with them, Randy and I were going to do this thing for Joe Papp. And so he went up to Lee and he said, Lee, share wants to know, would you give her some help on this? And he said, share knows too much already. And then he turned around and walked away. And I just, well, that's not very nice. So anyway, so we go to do the thing for Joe Papp. And then when I come out, there's a thing. You know, those memo things that say, somebody called, yes. So Robert Altman had called me. And the thing was that my mom and Catherine had been friends and Robert too. So my mom knew I was in New York and I'd given her my number and all that. So my mom calls, but she's gotten my number mixed up with Robert and Catherine's number. And my mom calls their house. And she said, how you share there?

42:29And the guy is kind of not so nice. He said, no. And she said, oh, well, I thought share was there. And then he said, what would share be doing here? Then she went, wait a minute, Robert. And he said, Georgia. And she said, oh, I thought, oh, I got, I screwed this thing up. So he said, what's shared doing here? And she said, well, she wants to be an actress. And he said, ah, okay. So in a little while, he calls me and said, so your mom says you want to be an actress. And I went, yeah. And he said, well, I'm going to send you a script. I'm not offering it to you, but I'm sending it to you. I said, okay. And so it gets there light. And then he calls me and I went, okay, I know the part that you want me to play. But I can't do it. And he said, do you have a job? And I said, no, he's able to pass over her. So I went over and then I said, well, you know, I'm dyslexic and I could read or I can act, but I can't

43:29do them both. And he said, I don't care. I just want to hear how your voice sounds. And I said, all right, but I can tell you, I can't do one of the parts. And he said, all right, he was exhausted and it's aspirated and whatever. So we sat down, all the women were there, Sandy and Karen and Souti. And we were all sitting down on the floor. And so I read the part that I knew I couldn't do. And then I read the part that I knew I could do. And Sandy said it was the worst reading I had ever heard in my life. But she said, from the first moment, you started it, I was fascinated. And then I said, okay, well, that's always good. And then Robert asked me, he said, you're right, you can't play that part, but you can't play that part. And then we're talking, we're talking. And he said, what did you think of Popeye? And I said, I thought you ruined it. And then everybody who was in the room turned like when a shark is coming in, they're just

44:33sitting on there, just they're swimming. And then they all turn in the middle sideways and you can't see them and they're going. So anybody, everybody was like, gone. And then he said, god damn it, everybody is that. So anyway, so I got the part and then I go on Broadway. And then on a Wednesday. So I'm doing my matinee and I was, I love doing matinee's. So I come off stage and Mike is there. And so he said, you were right, you're talented. And I'm really sorry. And the truth was I'd broken up with my boyfriend and he had come back and was backstage. And I was really more interested in seeing my boyfriend than getting a part in this movie. So then he said, it's with Meryl Streep. And I went, okay. And then I get back to my apartment, my sister's there and I went, she says, I can't do a movie with Meryl Streep. And I'm packing.

45:34And then I start unpacking and then my sister starts packing me. And so I end up getting the job and then I end up going to Texas. Do you love acting or do you love singing more? What do you love the most? What's the art form that you love the most to do? They're different. Acting is concentrating and singing is not. Singing is just you stand on the stage and you just let your voice come out and it can be really big and it can be soft, it can be whatever. And then acting is like getting kind of small inside and then letting things come out. And they can come out loud and they can come out angry. They can come out anyway, but it's more of an internal thing. Oh, that's beautiful. Okay, I have one last question. What's your next dream? Oh, my next dream is this album I'm going to do with Alexander because I shouldn't be singing at this age because it's not easy.

46:38And I didn't know I would be when I made the Christmas album. I didn't think I could sing anymore. And then all of a sudden I could. And then now I just want to be able to do it again because the songs he got, you know, he used to be vice president of depth jam. So the songs he got are so genius. How wonderful. Well, we can't wait for that. Your book is beautiful. Also, are the other two parts coming out? Like, how will that happen? Well, there's not two parts coming out. There's another part coming out. Okay. And when is that coming out? I have no idea. Okay. When she gets to it, don't push her. I'm just saying. Doing a lot. All right. Next Christmas. Okay. Oh, great. Okay. Wonderful. A long time, doesn't it? It will be worth the wait. Share. Thank you for never giving up. Like you just said, thank you for being just a gorgeous example of freedom and courage. Your whole life. This hour has been an honor for us. And we are forever grateful to you. Thank you.

47:38But courage has not been the strongest thing. It's motivate. It's just moving forward. You know, I never thought of it as courage. It was just not giving up. That's even more inspiring. Because then you don't have to have the courage. You can just not stop while you're scared. You just don't give up. Right. You just don't give up. Thank you so much, share. Bye bye. Bye, share. I never thought I'd be able to say that. Bye, share. We are proud to say that we can do hard things is an independent production brought to you by us. Treat media. Treat media makes art for humans who want to stay human. And you can follow us at We Can Do Hard Things on Instagram.