Ask Dion, Vol. 7

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2:04Have a seat. Welcome back. We are back with a brand new episode of Mori. The television show. The television show where in the case of 5th month old Jamar Junior, Jamar, you are not. Look at his nose. Look at his nose. Look at his eyes. His face is easy. The laser he is using and my nose is blue. Oh, the attachment was very visible when we attended music shows.

3:07Look at that! The in premise andathoglobin effect is so different. to this day. We know the olives. Oh, he said, they're not saying you just get fighting the olives. Bring out the olives. Like, why the olives? That jar was biggest here. That was about a five-year-old. It was big. It was just a head. You know, I don't know. I used to dislike the shows that wouldn't about paternity. Why am I watching this? I used to keep this on the back. You know, I was reading the look here. This piece got me full. I'm 13. Don't wear that. Don't wear that. Don't wear that. What am I? What am I? What am I? What am I? You can't fight me. Me being 13, I was 13. I was like, I'll be dead. I don't think I can do this. And they beat me up. I've lied to it.

4:07No. This guy, you feel it. I'm not. I'm not like that. No. This guy, you feel it. You ain't be six feet on your feet, don't you? Eight feet on the hook. Eight feet on the hook. Hey, guys. And my big brother is a third of eight years old. I would never tell my mom the way they beat me. I could have said. For this day, and you 13, you can't even take care of yourself. You can bat a baby, so far. Hello. Listen to me. The machine is stopping me like this. We know you would be in prison. You know, you would be. We are. Absolutely. I could be 21 years old next month. I could give him the look right now. He going. Turn around about favorite. Well, yes. The funniest thing happened. Choose the choose. Do something. And it's like, no, stop. Stop. My brother's like, man, she was all hit. I said, watch this. I go in and say, hey. I said, yeah, you know, you know, you.

5:11I don't want to play with you, man. I know what I'm playing. And the week I'm all trying to pop you somebody. They can either but two of you still. The benefit. Well, you turn five. I. Probably. Well, you know, sometimes I believe I was. No, no, no, no. He gets pop. I don't know. He gets pop now. I was. Oh, that you hit you. You didn't buy the rest of the restaurant. You try to chop chop. If I was to have a piece of those. Yeah. Like I didn't even do it. He. When the party wouldn't know what happened. You just lean him crazy. Yeah. That's it. I'm there. I'm there. I'm not. I'm scared of you. They post to be. We're here. They're scared of you. I. I rather be them be scared of me than me.

6:11Scared of them. They're. This day and age. You got the folks online. Stop. He's whooping my ass. I would never be her. That's. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. I'm. Good. I. I often. You. Cake andiggly guy. I don't. Nothing else. That's. That. You guys. Any time. It's. Whatcha got? Okay. On inspection. All the spectra from round is best. I wish you my. My, my mom's, uh, friend. She had one night, with. For a week or week straight. She had to sleep with her. What there's no way yeah, she was like he can call me here Because when I she was over here, he was above her No, he's above her being with a knife in his hand. So for like a week straight. She put her dresser He would either he would be in jail or dead or out being jail or dead because somebody

7:14Leaving here All kept some body bagger handcuffed with and I played a bit of something. I'm leaving And I understand like the non verbal and artisticism Teach them and and help them develop and learn They don't Don't always and he and I always the answer is One of the answers they always be answer but he yeah, so where you ain't or you scaredy don't you walk around your house? Oh, and that you pay There's an opus and they don't see Absolutely My mama they had the police over there my mama apartment complex. They girl pooled a knife on the grandmother and the mom She went to Jufe. I said they would have been called in the corner

8:19And they would definitely be calling the call You pull a knife on me in my house Oh I'm if But we are back. Let's do a little quick little check I'm not gonna start with Wayne because I hear Queen shenanigan almost oh we don't know weekly basis King how are things? You don't understand a shenanigan that shenanigans are here I Missed them so much. I know what it is. I just they're new no she I remember I come a baby head. Oh Lord Jesus. Oh So I would say no one cried as such his mama He didn't even cry. He just was he was just an adiver but

9:20Yeah, she said my back acid go I said go sit right now. I see you ain't crying. We ain't crying nobody's crying go sit down She's a back like go sit down Oh I'm It's the first time I'm asking The first heck it so I remember right there my mom kept my right I said she likes to have it She had it is green wallet. She killed because you said you cut your red tell all I was like yes, ma'am Hey, that's not blue. I cut off like third grade If she had it if she might still have it. I don't know if she does this weird, but yeah That's a thing, but yes, so that's happened two some Now keep in a half from the first half good because I can't have No, I didn't have no I didn't keep in a half because I didn't want to put it into my pocket I didn't bring no baggy. I was meant to bring a baggy and I forgot That didn't make that couldn't supply bag for you

10:23I'm pretty sure somebody had a wee bag at the bar I could be okay. I'm positive Sorry, I'm positive somebody did I know for a fact Yeah, all of his hair and that one little bag Yeah, I can fit two weeks please Two weeks please I get two questions I'm here please I'm just playing about playing the wedding trying to get the count correct because we're debating on doing like Milly Sarah Monty with just like Post family close friends Mike the microwave is yeah, and then do a big reception The counts are not Because you know Close family you got these are down. Uh-huh. No, so the problem is all the Lot of got kids so when I'm doing my count. I'm not counting the kids

11:24I'm missing close by these are nephews without no It's stupid because I need to get them in there but Kind of just like yeah, my best friend. I have husband of three kids. That is five people We only have a spot of 30 to 35. That is one third of your side Right You ain't had a party your uncle and nothing. Yeah, oh, yeah We so we're we've done the list Last time the list and we Had to go and take the kids out of it is And the Michael wins that that's that's the way if you want us to be like this super dupe Labish and students and the Michael wins this the way to go miss Then you got it and pick a little extra 35 hours per person if you want to be yeah I think it's like it's I think it's 30 and you can take 35 dollars for extra person Which we want to have end up doing anyway not from children

12:25We have to get some out with that out. I'm sorry. My my new Seneshews yeah But I'm other chair by my kid like like So so you knew Prior to this wedding planning that you have a slew of family members That no my list is fine. No, so the reception part we knew it was gonna be big We know we want all of these that's why we went the microwave way because of not a good way to for 120 people My god Yeah, yeah, we see one that would give us 400 and I think 125 people 135 people something weird number like that Now this one include yo DJ alright, this one clear where you could go buy your stuff But the venue would provide the decorations 125 people is what it was

13:27Like the dishes to serve the food but not food they give you a cake and stuff like that 15,000 and you said it goes yo close And this is for the day That's no food no food So I get plates and a cake that you probably got from the public for 15,000 dollars And you get the seats for 150 people you get the decorations they give you a boot near and the flowers There's no DJ that's not close for yourself No, that's 15 that's don't include the winters That was so the KL was one packet if you if you get the whole weekend like from Friday at noon until Sunday morning at 10 You can have the whole little thing to yourself

14:2920,000 So why don't we need a weekend? Yeah, they're to come over to this house Okay, we don't have a good family You know, right? But I'm just gonna go to the late I go to the late bottle a hello We're gonna have a party. Did you want to say I'm sure there's like a good people that's talking to do your vows there It's so prickly out my sister's loss into oh my god, it's so pretty we put a thing up I said it real Did you look at that? She's not as into your pretty I know Oh I'm gonna run into the mega mega We going straight down to the I'm gonna wait today In the new cold house so we could be in the new one taking pictures. Hello

15:30Mr But yeah, so the market awareness the way to go they're like where are all of us the most I've seen for bigger spaces like 2500 but just fine Want to get you got to get your food and get you a bit of a reception all that That that 1500 took me for a loop and I'm sorry you don't even And it's like you get all day that's different. That was one for 12,500 but only difference between the two You get like two extra hours with you get the fancy I miss all wear the saucer all be fancy So when we get The the basic one is have to place and they expect one the extra two hours is the have to place with the voters I worry about I'm gonna go to the dollar 25% tree store and get someone in charge of

16:37I mean my sense crazy And like we got people at DJs know we have we know photographers, but some people don't do where they're so and I had to go look for another Photographer Okay, okay, okay I'm Am invited to if we're close friends and I'm invited to your wedding why would I have to work at your wedding not the We're just the engagement pictures and stuff God Dang Well says I'm Do you mind at the justice for the peace? I didn't get man, let me stop putting that out there. I'm like it. I don't have because because I'm pushing his unhobitation It's gonna bust out there when he hear that that inward

17:39Is he on it is he on it? Yes, this young Yeah He's on it and drinking as we speak so yeah, okay We're having a cut water in that by the sea Yeah, the wrong play or through the absolute wrong play Hopefully I almost stop talking my conversation I was move on to the next because we don't need no problems Well, Quain tell everybody including King Yo updates because I already know You know I talk so much I have so much they're going on when comes immediately to my recollection if I'm doing okay. I will I'm feeling a little down and I pressed because my scale is going in the wrong direction my way scale and

18:40Who child it is rough out here? It's rough and tough with my afro puffs I'm trying to exercise and get my life to girls. I've been doing p-lots is That's a lot It'd be like the day after I feel like I got a 18 pack of helps, but Hey, baby, it They call work in the midst of it all my love My god on today. Yeah, but I got to do something about this scale and Yeah, I know what it is. I'm two years post-op so of course my appetite has picked up I'm not eating very small portions like I used to I'm no longer on a Simp because I didn't need it medically anymore. So yeah, we got here We got here just living regular life like regular people and I'm like I Don't know how to do this, you know Aside from that I was down at the Wal-Marx and

19:45One of my co-workers down at the Wal-Marx in the midst of a conversation. She was like hey Have you ever thought about And no have you ever been diagnosed with all-tills No, I'm not Well, that's somebody with all-tills I feel like you might want to look into it. Oh That's a way and then my subconscious is that like maybe Maybe Maybe I might have For it always though that me and my family we got a touch to everybody got a clutch to I feel S giving out to us because you were like yeah, I don't know I'm gonna get along with people. They don't have autism and I Don't know what you

20:50You know people with all-tills I'm just tell the straight. They don't have no field Nothing that comes out they know I'm sick. Oh sick So I'm dealing with that I Could possibly be autistic and don't even know it Oh Trying to figure out exercise life. I just been trying she that's how I feel I didn't think of it I was like you know, I never know what I like it till I try it There was Not say this but you have to cook for your family, but Mill prep is a big help like I still I do that now. I don't necessarily cook air. I don't prep every meal I don't But I always win Yeah, but I do Mill prep is a big help and all the only problem ideas you want to kitchen almost all Sunday. That's on the problem I'm trying to cook dinner for them dinner in the midst of cooking the meal prep food. Yeah

21:58And then with meal prep and you can also control your portions that way, you know, it's Don't feel like you're kind of stuffing the container with food. You can just have But that's how like I do I do my rice like a cup. I measure it put the rice in there and just dump it into the container So You try to bodybuild you try to body be you want to so a cup of rice does you just buy a cup of sweet potatoes and then whatever protein you know you Yeah, and you know, I go to the gym to just be active and just put on some weight I'm not you know, I'm not competing even though they want me to but I Feel like once you get consistent league active on it is gonna be something where You can yeah, it will it just come second nature but yeah

23:01Amalou let's break something taking a walk on the river One thing I realized too I didn't think that I could fall Into it, but I have with social media and compare myself to others one because we know so many people that has had a surgery Seeing how other people have progressed, but you know, we only see it with on social media So I've fallen into that and the comparison has really killed me the Being down on myself because I'm like I lost all this weight, but I lost it so quickly because I wouldn't eat in this much and it was right after surgery and then I'm like I got to this certain weight and people was like What should go what should go? I'm like I really didn't have a go. I just wanted to be Elf beer so I feel like I'm on downfall and I'm being hard on myself and that's what's making it worth So yeah, I had that rofie last year and that's what I blamed it on because I stopped doing everything

24:07I stopped walking every day. I stopped because that's all I was doing was walking in the beginning. I didn't exercise. I was just walking walk so Yeah, which it was enough in the beginning, but I need to get back to Something and I think I'm over Complicated it because if that's all I was doing is all I would have to do a unit But I can then gradually introduce more stuff So I think I'm I'm just being hard on myself and and that comparison thing I was like I probably need to take a birth from social media because it's not even seeing people like ooh these my weight loss goals. I did this idea that it's just seeing people that I know it had the surgery I'm like damn Good look at me. I said they could have a place I know I was with you to the end until you said people that had the worry because Because some of them look ugly

25:07I'm sorry Some of them don't look together. Not when I was I was with you on the part up until you talking about the people that you know that had the surgery And you compare into them some of them do look ugly. So You know we we ain't in that category to pass with them But they they they look like tails from the crib like the great value kind Yeah, it don't take because I think I think what they do is In the midst of like this urge or stuff like that they're Starving themselves like you know like you Want to eat these smaller portions your body would gradually come back to where supposed to be You can eat them saying small portions Unless you could like you do it like five meals a day because All his all his missy small owner how All his missy small, but he likes five times so You know saying three meals that's meant for a three year old you can't do that

26:08Right at one point she was even one chicken ten out of a exact sweet I'll be pissed off still if I'm still eating one chicken ten to two years late Yeah, just what you eat how you do it no false of starving And it's not okay Do you do you got on to me say take the snacks out the bed? I mean like get you get you some drizzle issues Get you some rice cakes get you we can get some alternate alternate snacks Some apple light Some yogurt I think you can yeah Yeah, that's a Nutella that other Nutella. Yeah Nutella You know

27:09I do rice cakes, but you are pressing any peanut butter so I get the Nutella I Did you do that but I try to not eat as much Nutella because you know there's still sugar in here But I have made some changes, but if I can let go of you You know sweets and trees and soda as I'd be like I'm a cut out soda this week and and sweet And then I get down to Do once no you got to do one you can't do both at one time and Be influenced at the Walmart. Yeah But you can't do that do one of time you had a graduate do one if you could do one for 21 days did it a second one I could do that But I Hard on my fill because that scale is doing because this month I started off the month I was getting up early in the morning doing the exercise every day. I have started now on the days I work in office. I will take the stairs every time I have to go downstairs

28:10I started parking farther away from the building to walk to the building But it's like as I made those small changes. I'm still seeing the scale go in the wrong direction And I'm like work the point then I get to like fucking hang on. I'mma just be a fat ass The Dressed How it is like in my That body this more fear is crazy. I told you this boy. I had a whole therapy session 25 minutes into my in my therapist session. I'm crying about my body. I was like I just I don't know what I'm doing I'm keep I keep working out. I don't see no muscles and then my therapist like well, you look great No, I don't I don't look great. I had a whole milk Well a girl that used to be on my team back in the td day years ago prior to your pre pandemic

29:16Thank you like I asked You Take it take the compliment Mm-hmm. I have therapy. I'd be like that haven't seen me in a long time I have lost weight to them, but to me up like I did lose more weight than this But it then went back in the wrong direction and I'm I beg you Which I was always bad. I was never in it. I'm saying that I When Why are we so far down the ditch? You know we so far in And then I can talk to my boyfriend if he was like I'm still going why was What Okay, I'm trying to talk to him Thank you Why is that is a valid statement that is a very valid statement. That's a loving man Services not

30:18And then I think about it. I think about it long. Or you have to know I've known this man 20 years We just started really dating this year. So He didn't know me when I was a much better bitch I Was a big So if I'm like I just don't feel I don't feel fake for you like You do know how long we've known each other right? I'm still going It What long does that make me feel any better? No, it's no no why it is a loving and he has good intention just the not right time to make that statement But the good intentions are I'm I'm struggling mentally with this to hit his it's Like I've increased my dose on my antidepressants

31:20Yep I just be out here living man. All right you back you make this decision to increase it yourself Well now Oh I was on the lowest dosage and I was she told me to start taking a half a period because when I first started I was like I don't like how this making me feel like I feel like a zombie I Last week when I drove down to the wall marks and was crying and didn't understand why I was crying I was like yes time to increase that dose because I'm on the lowest dose, but I have in the peel my prescription is half of the lowest dose So now I take a whole peel that's why I'm increasing I'll just concerned I was like first stop that is That is not right I'm gonna do a lot of sorry taking a whole pin you so she just gonna change it in the system never

32:22It's good You're the kid my face like Go Everything's good people I'm not this I'm making the decision, okay? Yeah, yeah, okay All right, I feel better Well, D how you how you waiting there Well, I'm closing the 38 chapter and a Right next week actually Uh The 39 is coming up so it's gonna be the last Whoo last who all um I have been dealing with a minor health scare I fainted at the gym and I had to go to the hospital Um, I will say this for a faint If you don't have an insurance in today's America's it's gonna cost you about 8500 85

33:2585 hundred dollars for a faint Um, so I fainted. I got dehydrated. I suffered from um, basil bagel syncopy Now I told my best friend about this and he was like you got bells in a wet. I like Yes, I have a uterus. I'm pregnant, but no, baby No Right, uh, it was a hit it in quid it. I think I'm pregnant. I got a uterus. That's that's what I got But no, basil bagel is really no hole here But but basil bagel syncopy what that is is that blood start flowing to my brain Which caused me to lose consciousness Um, and it could lead to quite a few things Uh, anxiety Fear of something or dehydration So in my case, I was dehydrated how I know the doctors told me how they figured it out they can draw no blood from them

34:27Yeah Uh, about eight hours in the ER um of nothing we did CTs, EKGs, Elements, all the alphabet codes and everything checked out great and they released me I had to do some follow-up to the doctor. I had to go to a cardiologist today I actually went today and it's like everything's good. You look healthy. You look fine Um, just you know, stay hydrated. I had to go to my back to my primary care physicians do a follow-up And this primary care physician he's an older white man. He is a A straight no chaser. He was like you should sit. I don't I was like oh okay to me have a seat He was like no you should sit now. You're you're doing too much I was like okay, so I followed the doctor's orders. I took days off I rest Oh in the midst of all this faint um, I don't remember shit So I fainted I ended up in the bathroom floor somewhere

35:29I came to and the guy who sees me regularly at the gym. He was like what do you need? I said I need my mom and some water And then he left and got some water and then about two minutes later I just came to and I just got up and left. I drove home Yeah, it was a it was a weird episode, but uh I told uh, my doctor I said hey Emily Yeah Well With the insurance that we got Uh, I will drive even when I went to urgent care um I told him I said yeah, I hit my head on the floor and they were like you what You hit your head where I was like oh I was like yeah, yeah, they were like yeah, we're gonna take you to the hospital. I do need to get an ambulance. I like not ma'am I'm going to get give me the papers. I'll go So Yeah, but you got to get the working place in order for you to hit the head at the working place on the floor

36:31How the ambulance How the ambulance we get don't get me Let the scruncher come get me. I'm not getting about to flow Until the ambulance get him laid out But yeah dealing with that so there've been numerous doctor visits lots of doctorials I actually had to go to the eye doctor Because I lost well my vision changed a little bit So that's fine Um, there's one little eye I dilation and a little scan and they were like yeah, you're your vision's fine Um, the reason why the business changed because my nerves were shot Because I didn't have no blood forms in my brain um So uh, he said that it was gonna be a temporary thing and it should come to within a week or so which he did but It's all what If vision insurance is in the good it's something you play glasses and I'm just I'ma find out next I'ma find out next week that goes to the eye doctor

37:31Next week because it's around the time I always get a new study glasses and context Yeah, I really do seem like the botanian from our other insurance. It's that medical insurance destroy issue with it This yeah, that's for the medical insurance is terrible and you know The info sent me a Lab course like hey, you got a pass-do bill. It's like no, I paid everything up front and I paid for the search now that Why the hospital had been sent the portion to lab corp. It gave me a credit back and was like go pay them Because we just like what is that is someone might have from me? No, they say I got I got a credit the next day Yeah, that's just stupid Um, but what I did hear that they were supposed to change the insurance based on what we previously had But this is coming from a person in the human resources and I don't trust them bitches so But other than that also means that

38:32The pay ain't gonna change so absolutely not Um, even though I've been looking at the glass doors and seeing what we supposed to be making but that's that's another store But uh, no, just dealing with that um birthday coming up Uh Yeah, that's it just glad you're doing better Just been trucking I'm on my skin care journey. I've been trying to skin care shifts. I've been getting body scrubs uh, I get roach pussy which is my moisturizer and my cleanser. I Get I get I'm doing eye patches. So uh So I'm like, why are you so greasier? Why is that that's not greased? That's moisturizer. I'm hey I want to I'm gonna be 39. I want to look like I'm 26 leave me alone And as a uh millennial we do look real nice for our ages and

39:37And people tell me all the time. I do not look like I have a 21 year old Thank you. Thank you So we want to keep out the good way Want to keep it that way and uh Jim was I don't know what's been happening. I'm on peptides too, but my body has drastically changed uh Physical appearance wise um, how I know this he's got a neck on the internet. He's got a neck it like And and y'all know me and y'all know me. I do not be posted stuff like One of my one of my uh old classmates who I've known for 23 years I post a picture of me shirtless at the gym and he was on that he said This is an historic moment because Dianne is showing you a titty and you know He said this is his story

40:38Please y'all remember when I old co-worker had posted here birthday features that one year Yeah On that note we are moving on I'm gonna have to go find them. I'm gonna feel that Please don't That was the only day when it about who's right there fight queen at one simultaneous When I say I said all the screenshot I didn't say nothing It wasn't like hey look at this it was like bo bo bo bo bo I then then get a status and then get tonight for hours and then Just come out Okay, oh We are moving while we're not doing this we're not doing it Moving right along. Okay, so we did not do this last year Our apologies, so I got everybody together. This is x d r

41:40So we have had a collective questions some of them are recent some of them um a euro, but they I thought being relevant I guess But if you have any questions or need advice shoot us an email at dions rout table at gmail.com All right, this is a quick one first question. What's your take on AI music I don't know it is like I'd be confused Like I get confused some of the mumble rap was saying on four or two. So I'll be know who be who They all wear a new as artists Well the AI music they're all motivational quotes that they just harmonize I don't now I've got a happy birthday Uh, like happy birthday to my main one like I it sounds All the same, but I do not know that these AI musicians be having record deals Oh, yeah, I read somewhere

42:42Yeah, I read somewhere that they're gonna be having like AI concerts concerts. Yeah Yep, I was the fuck I would be in queue at ticket Visual it's not like a actual artist like a artist artist. It's like a visual Type-Dale like hey, they had like the silent parties when you go away headphones and like the silent parties Something like that. Yeah, yeah, yeah, it was it was weird Yeah, I know about the AI stuff. I've been it's this case of something the man's close has emerged his wife And he wrote a AI song for his mistress that they think the mistress is in on and they played the song in open court in front of her family the person that was Uh, unfortunately So yeah, and it was a song he talking about how she delighted his life and

43:43And you just seeing the faces in the courtroom Just looking like really you talk you telling this hell for and you don't murder my daughter. Yeah So Yeah, and your music is trash if I want to listen to run on scenic songs, I can listen to Taylor Swift Because they grilling her ass on social media. Oh my and it's the Swift for hug So Yeah If she doesn't hear something don't Yeah, she got married and she did anybody know she had the game She had the game Like you girl this man you but you been you been in them games every left one of games for the left Exactly, it was great. Yes, it was great though. I mean it was great. That's my That's like yeah, go ahead. Oh, she is one of the reason Well, I don't watch the chiefs anyway because I already know the outcome, but

44:45I like my mom. I like mom. I don't I do not that is one sassy bitch. I do not like him. He's sassy My whole is sassy Look at his mannerisms when he's on that field. It's like limp twirl walk It's it's uh, I don't know This is from the person that has never had a date on his life. So yeah, whatever Anyway, well next next question This is how do you break up with the friend lately? I've been super supportive of my friend with their business ventures and overall career change But they have not been supportive of me. I recently graduated college and they did not show up when asked why did it come to my graduation They responded. This is your third degree. So it's not a big deal if I show up I was extremely irritated but didn't show it when I have something new in life when achievement There nowhere to be found which you can see being friends with someone who even want who won't even show up for your support

45:49Short answer to me. No because if I am doing the bulk of supporting if I'm going to queen stains and king stains and All this stuff going out of my way Feeling up my queen's quote unquote social calendar to do things for you but if I say hey Can you come to such and such with me or hey, I'm being awarded this and At this public space and could you show up or something if you can't be doing just that or just show your face for a good five 10 15 minutes I can't be cool with you Cuz I feel like in the world The song we used to love the most back in the day. It ain't nothing good that Smith You know No, that's just trying. That's right. I've done that Cuz I'm to you tell people hey just right here at column

46:50like The first please say like like a cancer pocket and everything is always always always about you You you and we saw me do stuff over here Is it's nothing no, let's let no no no you can't give me Tip of sit. I'm giving you the floor 100. I'm sorry. Okay. That's just right Even with my merch stuff like you can just Be supportive of the merch now these are regular regular t-shirts or sweatshirts or whatever You know, I'm not forcing you but you know, this is a new business adventure of mine You know if you want to just show support you can even share the links It calls nothing to do that Just share the links. I have a best friend. I have been friends with him for 10 years He knows I have a podcast Does he likes podcast or does he listen to him absolutely not but what he does have Is a deans roundtable podcast sweatshirts that he out there fully supports

47:52He don't know shit about what we talking about but he is going to support it Like it doesn't take much The night That website is kicking my ass. I'm gonna go back and look at it again when I Get out of here. I Was I say I'm about to call I'm gonna call a deal no here. I'm gonna sit on be out and say they don't want to help me with the shit Yeah, I was the thing I listen to Beyonce every day. I did not listen to Beyonce at all today I was listening to house music and Afro beats. I can't listen to anything I'll just get at least one Beyonce song room come on in the mix and but that beat that be unshuffle that be unshuffle I don't intentionally play it That every time I'll go to this. I've heard Indian superstar and I know that's the name was I feel it I thought it was just that That is my favorite. That's my favorite one of my favorite I Guess

48:56Any who no cut cut them all if they can't be supported for you for just a 10% of the time and you giving out nine days cut them off I will say before you do the if you think the friendship is worth saving have a true conversation if it still continues after the fact Cut it off. Okay, I'll get it. Okay If you have when you have this conversation and they get all well, it's no big deal. I don't think Yeah I'm a good Yeah, yeah, it could be jealousy also too. You gave that to you That's true But yeah, cut them off. Congratulations on your graduation Yeah, congratulations on your third degree. That's our degree We're going through the graduation here All right, you go

49:58I'll have to meet Bob at your party. Okay, I'll go to the deal Uh-huh. We're wearing the fine spin you feel a little sliding. Yeah, head and cheese Our next question I'm not entertaining. Our next question comes from Dan the fam Dan my guy my guy I'd be so terrified Okay, well Then the fan X what hold on What What I know That's why I stopped

50:58Oh Fine go. Okay Every year Jesus This question is from Dan the fan Dan the fan asked What happened to Mike? Did you fire him? No, he would never So it's easier for us to record Well, Dan the fan to ask your question due to our very intense schedules We cannot be in the same room at one time Because of our Hick-dick times all we got multiple jobs plural um, we are Things are happening we had a recent career

52:00Well, y'all are parents um We had a I would say career change I guess So we're adjusting to that That's shift to oh, I bid our big shift unexpected shift at crazy times But no um shout out to Mike we appreciate Mike for letting us Mike Yeah, so um shout out to Mike. Thank you so much for letting us Taint your studio for what two years I guess three years of like yeah, two um, but no We didn't get with of Mike Mike did not get caught him caught fired Um, due to our schedule we got King who is a dad of two under two and Queen so yeah That's that was for fake me that was it

53:09Yeah, so yeah, we just been been super busy with hence why we have not Gave y'all any episodes of quite some time because we have been this year and life we can't Well, I don't know Jason I was go to speak that support your friends go to um my homeboy stepson's work sons Um for fuck out game this today. I got off the clock at since the clock was for the league of the house I got puke don't at six oh one and in a midst of me like oh snap I got puke on me She she didn't shit on me, but she shouts like you know what The day is done off you go sit on his cow today is over it. I think I've puke don't and me. I shit like to eat meat the after No, no there have been days where I will pull up at the workplace The park and light is empty a bitch will park right beside me I will miss is my manager. I'm sick. I'm not coming in. I believe

54:12They ruined Laugh brother that happened that has happened he was he went to work. He was like anybody see me put up in the parking lot I'm watching football tonight and he left because he works at this show if he pulled up in the parking lot was like Anybody out here. Hey, look, he's like yeah, I'm gonna watch the football game That's a good day. I had a friend. Oh, it takes me from the parking lot said I'm looking at the building. I'm not gonna come in bitch And they never came in flat One little small thing I will eat meatly about face and turn it right back around and drive home Small thing you just look at the building sometimes it Sometimes I look at the building. It's just too much. Look at the scene So like you got your new bed. I was like I cannot drop down there

55:17I would love to see my people in person No It's like I don't want to Yeah, no You you come into the office there is no purpose stay at home This are no purpose. Are you guys are like do we do we need a badge? According to our uh The the gatekeeper of the atrium If you are not fully working in the office you are not a part-order to get a badge I know that's right God, no, that's right. Let's work for you. Oh, no rush. Yeah, I know that's right But shout out to Mike. Thank you so much. Yeah Uh next question birthday actually Yeah, his birthday coming up happy birthday, Mike Um, if you were getting jumped in a fight which cartoon character would you have help you Charlie Bravo First off, John and brother could be focused on getting the bitches

56:19You cuz he gonna be with what I'm oh's it you as he is not concerned about no fight He is going to flex the muscles for them hose He want to know what if what a hose that was a person it would be John John and brother it's not gonna fight There's a full-fledged grown man who watches all the superhero stuff I'm going with Bubbles all for power puff girls That's what's going hands It's not you break the yellow is was a yellow crayon the peak For your crayon it's over. Don't add Yeah First off you pick you pissed Bubbles off in the simulator because you had that level set on low Bubbles like I watch Bubbles said oh, I got this you like no no no you say you stay cute you be cute see you be cute see Bubbles that now it's cranked that shit up Actually, actually sweet over here

57:19Get them to a fight Bubbles is gonna tear that ass up With some college just pick the off one more time it wants one time or take a candy or whatever Any better trick her she is going to have your ass Oh But this is so him You should get as well Mother dollar yesterday he could add with two but how do you get that little other friend I like that humiliation that beaten like how do you get so Every every time He used to carry to the dude at dough like he's the character to be like you Right my you know talk about bus my to now. Yeah Yeah Yes Whatever you whatever you doing I want more than I want more than

58:20No, it's gonna rock the bank real fast and get called yeah, I can't about that like Yeah, pull up on Bubbles All right All right, then what would you do? I'm a black gay man whose friends with a white tatted straight guy We made that work and hit it off well. We take lunch together share tic talks and give each other advice One day he friended me on Facebook and the majority of his posts are filled with racism homophobia and talking badly about black women I wanted to unfriend him, but I didn't want it to be awkward being that we worked together One night I'm on the hook-up apps Uh, and I Get a message from a blank profile wanting a quickie I explore a pic and he sent me a headless pic and a pic of his dick When I saw the dick pic I knew exactly who it was it was my racist homophobic co-worker The tattoo on his wrist gave it away Oh

59:22He doesn't know he's talking to me so I played along He went in detail about what he wants to do context. He's married. He's a married man with kids I find it crazy that he talks bad about gay people online, but what's BBC behind closed doors What are you doing in this situation? I know his secrets. I want to out him based on what he posts, but I'm conflicted Don't out nobody. I'm about anybody And homophobic are no secretly like it so yeah All most homophobic are just full out gay but uh me I've I have seen people on those particular like apps or whatever They are married. They are you know pro Naga and I don't give a fuck about black people and all this other type of stuff But when they say they are at the whole the motel six

1:00:23I want to south side one of their holes bread It be them It be them Yeah, they get very vulgar they get very vulgar as far as what that okay, so If someone wants to someone was seeing you a message saying hey, I'm in the room 602 I want you to breathe my hole What they're talking about is they want you First off, you're gonna have on particular sex one You have you're gonna fuck them in the asshole and breeding coming in their asshole. That's what Read my whole list I thought you said breathe because I was like well, we where to use them I did jump like I don't even understand bread I thought you said break. I was like why what is that mean? So I heard bread to But bread I was confused. I was confused. I was trying to do past tense of breed a bread, but any who okay

1:01:28But yeah, I have I know To this day, I know people who be on those apps who are you know pro mega and I don't like people like that and I suddenly cut away from that because I'm not gonna be your prop friend Oh, I'm not racist. I have a black friend or oh, I'm not homophobic my friends gay. We're we know we ain't we're doing it over here um What I out him know But if you continue to engage in his situation Knowing that you know who this is and he don't know you on them apps. Please be careful Yeah, I will should get hurt One thing about these discrete men they are going to protect All they can to not have they go out and keep in mind. This is a straight male Uh, and and you know

1:02:29We shake white blue A straight white male with stuff to lose now as far as black black deal man You can they can they can fuck your shit up. They can shoot the club up. They can rob a stole. They can do all that they can go home You going home gay as a black man? She is a combination But this tatted white man The fact that if his wife finds out and lose all that stuff he is going to snap So I Or that's probably what I would protect yourself. I want him to get involved in that Um, let him do his shenanigans on them hook up apps. Let him do what he needs to do to get his rock song But uh if you feel like you don't want to be friends with him anymore that is your decision Based on moral stuff Because me moral stuff especially with the past two years that we have dealt with in this current climate of America I don't give a fuck who you if you support in that

1:03:32dementia tangerine burnt onch Sleeping ares shitting in his damn uh on his damn self Currently, oh we ain't cool. I don't get fuck how long we lonely. I'm on we knowing each other I am cool. I'm good. If I see one post repost comment about how Black women are abominations or all this other type of stuff on frame block If you're talking about gay people need to be uh, he was from the earth or trans people need to stop Gruming the kids which they don't blocked on friend I ain't doing it here I'm not gonna be your prop friend. I'm not gonna be your oh, this is my gay friend. Oh, this is my black friend Or this is my we're not we don't do it over here Sorry, but no be careful be careful Uh speaking of black boys and men and all that stuff king and queen

1:04:35As parents of black boys slash men what should take on the Nolan will situation I Well, yeah I don't even know what to say because One thing I tell my child because he loves to hang with uh With people at the white napkin. Yeah, um, the napkin American seat has his that's that's his niche. I don't have a problem with it but Every time he leads in homes His ultimate goal he harder than oh, it's to come home. That's that's that's it I don't care what you're gonna wait here who you with who you're around he has very good situation or awareness Because it was one new year He asked if him and his friends can go back in my house before we move nowhere Sure, all right, and he's I know we yeah And he told me a reason he was supposed to go to a party and the person who's part day was going to

1:05:39Didn't like him for whatever reason and They was like they call and was like what can DJ come because he with us and it was like well He can but I don't you know, I don't know He was like you know what I don't even want to be a part of that. So y'all can go but I ain't gonna He has very good situation or awareness But in that situation, I'm like That I don't know what I would do if I was the mother in that situation But you don't hear me. I'm not stopping you you're not gonna tell me This makes things I'm gonna post a lot of you on bitch your house. Hey you you gonna let me figure this out Parents of parents because all you talk to them because they've been lying I knew you understand what I'm coming from I know right I Well, I understand don't have to worry about that But like he ain't necessarily got like friends to pick whether it's black wire or distance or like that but unfortunately as a case where like he

1:06:41Starts go to school. You help me like a Like that's the next step for head start. You know, let's talk the conversation Then we just and say But you know, yeah He had to go to school and they got to learn from it. They friends like they first year I'm so many friends everybody's not for friends. How do you explain it to it? Pre-game Right, and it's not about teaching oh white boys and ladies and but it's never about that who your friends are who your friends are you Have to be aware of what's come out of the mouth. How did you have you hurt a parents taught like oh Well, like who is this or who is this there's a difference And you have to learn to feel the tone and learn to convey that or To start a van that's a so-and-a-be-three role is insane It's insane My least like my brother is a good job of it too, but yeah, and my husband says one girl she's like one girl She didn't know funny that might be the right other that might be the right mindset

1:07:44Because what would you do like you can't tell me oh yeah, we all were not there And he was like he don't catch a rock day later with who Just like this trip we've been to go on to New Orleans. You know one of DJ friends want to go I'm like okay cool. I need numbers of Emerging for contacts. I be because we ain't gonna have no situation We leave together we come back together because DJ well like we want to get a we want to get a A rental car and if y'all want to go Friday, we'll just meet y'all Sunday Uh-uh, and we gonna come back a different day y'all leaving Monday. No We have a district trip. We going Saturday to Tuesday now Yeah I need y'all my brother and your mother number. You know that number of necessary grandma. I think don't I need You know Let me add to my life three seats. I can see where y'all it because I get separated now Yeah, cuz if your child is in my kid don't tell us my child and so you can come back

1:08:48thank I'm so sorry. That's that's just me. No, I don't I I hate for I really hate to say this But knowing when I saw that it happened in Mississippi I said they're about to close this case expeditions They are known they are known for killing black men to this day. They are lynching black men Because and black people black women and people black people black people do not hand themselves from trees I don't give a fuck What the police say I don't give a fuck what the witness say I don't give a fuck with the the corner office says or anything of that sort black people do not get a rope or News and just go to a tree and hang them. We're not doing that The history behind all of that you think we just actively doing it absolutely the fuck not and I feel bad

1:09:50If I chose to commit suicide Hanging myself is not the at the forefront of my mind like heat. There's not I'm just that stuff to happen to the movies and it's sure me Older white women who do that Like no one writes that out. No, and I don't think we know how to do a news So we ain't got time to do and know you know Boy Scout. We just have right right but I feel bad um because They good quick if they quickly Kind of Try to brush it under the water, but the people that is responsible for that because there are people responsible for this I hope your life. I hope life hits your ass super hard for the rest of your damn days Y'all gonna quick start

1:10:53Y'all gonna come this side as a hope is on this side. This side we just defied it will open to the next side But you will get I hope you suffer because uh Joey Zimmerman you are suffering What you are You are suffering They're telling your way that's a bit of a sign they see you and you homeless stay homeless Hey, you home. She then your ground on that right All right, that's all right. That's it It's the public property and ground gray Dirt out of it. Don't stop walks the woodman All right, how does it feel being black and corporate America and 2026

1:11:57I don't like it I think we've said it all things with the club. I think we've said it though We I think we I think we've talked about I think we have never said it here but um Us as millennials knowing the the workforce and the jobs and all that stuff And I was on tic tucks and I think every millennial is going through this and we probably y'all could be going through this too We are we are hitting a pause somewhere We feel like we need a career change, but we don't know where to start over at We feel like we we we we're hitting a slump because Say it again for the people in the back I want to say since 2021 wait no since 20 For the thousand one No since 2001 we have understood the workforce and the work field and all this other type of stuff and

1:12:57Us being in the same you know company we didn't expect for us to be It this company for this damn long now that we're at this company for so long We don't know what's next. We don't know what to Where to go we know we won't out, but we don't know We don't know where to go. Do we want to go into another corporate America field? Absolutely not Do me and do me and queen want to continuously manage people? Absolutely not My part time job the freedom I help are not telling people what to do is the best time ever like Let me tell me what I need to do. Let me have my headphones. Let me listen to the podcast Let me just do a podcast and let me be free. I got to direct people what to do. I got to show them how to try I got a train about to do nothing This this corporate America and the in the black and I'm not and I'm talking to that mind you

1:14:00We are working with baby boomers who are not who would die in their seat till they're rather than the retire You got Gen Z while I was y'all one is who don't listen to a funk You Gen managing me and queen well king because you kind of you teach it Dilla with Gen Z's and corporate America is not When I tell you they don't know shit They don't know shit like it It don't stay in their frontal lobe at all I've discovered that you have to have illustration you got to be like a damn Miss Rachel Or PBS to kind of say hey This is how you puts your time see like you got to do shit like that with pictures No, they would get dope and they would still not get it No real shit like no No like every day And I will and I will say this what I do my job training

1:15:05I love that piece I This year makes me is training for job of training is great It's like you said the baby sit in the manager of the outside that that's just the problem I can go I could train something all day. This is a bother me but for me to sit there and like I have to put on All right you got to what you're going to do next is you're going to go here y'all see my screen I have to like you see my screen I will be going to click on this right here All which you scroll down and click where it says next now Says cave you're typing your username and your password Not bush and you it's I think so I didn't even you have to put on a boy. I'm looking like when I was trained My trainer talked to me like this straight. Okay. Oh, yeah, do here Yeah, number one Those were just my friends. Oh, man. I still draw. Oh my god. Hey

1:16:07B He got to the point where he used to do like when we got that wild train and he had to do it It was like yeah, he hated it. Yeah, he hated it. I'm miss Because oh he didn't do mile wild trying to do they let somebody else gonna do my like as he can do it Yeah, yeah, it was bad You're bad and it's pretty but corporate marist is ghetto. It's very good. Yeah, I'm sorry my phone was just Like I should but no, it's I could I could do My job possibly in like leadership train as opposed to Call center that's it all light calls and because sometimes it's fun like I have good time That great classes Everything is like clicking and joining the all 30 something is oh generally when the classes are fantastic is a bunch of 30 year olds

1:17:08Probably 40 something and we are measuring really really good When you get me that 18 year old and that 52 year old that 78 year old who came back into the workforce Why all through it why y'all here what is happening? It If the baby boom much retire and so we're there we weaken the positions. I think we find but they will rather die in their seat But yeah, corporate America is ghetto. It's completely ghetto. It's It's not the fun ghetto. It's not It's just ghetto. Yeah, but You hit as you got to get paid and y'all make y'all pay us a no just Just to keep us to the dough because we know we're the start That's it just know to keep you on the hook It's ridiculous man for y'all so hopefully I mean things will have a things will come on a pipe eventually but yeah, you say

1:18:09This is it's ghetto It is All right, um, we all notice you three take breaks from podcasting, but I'm curious What if king and queen made their own podcast what would be the topic and then would you be upset? No, y'all don't want them problems y'all don't Well firstly, I would not be upset if y'all made your own podcast And secondly if we made our own podcast it would be probably four hours long Because we can't stay on task for yet We we will have that we'll be sitting up. Yeah, and I was talking to you Like I was saying I'm proud in the call Thank you man it out I'm all we're changing diapers. Yeah, you know, you know You don't want no problem. I'll be pissed off. Why is this why is this podcast my worksheet? What

1:19:14What is all talking about? No, I don't want no problem I forthetically if y'all were to have your own podcast Queen would just have story times everything is going to be just a random Storytime on something because there is a story for everything King I can see you talking about Marvel stuff I want to do so bad. I want to do it something. I'm also jump on it I'm gonna recap the lanchis. Yeah, I think I'm gonna recap the lanchis and do that I think I look a little overview of it. That's a good show by the way DC Lannister. I haven't watched it I'm not keeping on giving y'all show it's like moly, but DC Lanchis is a good show. It's only a few minutes. I haven't even finished X-Men 97 so I don't even I haven't finished richer and I need to talk Oh X-Men 97 be still my heart. Oh That's episode Yeah, I haven't finished there All right, here's the last question Should I be planning my future career goal flash locations around a man? I just started dating like

1:20:20Or shit his feelings being in consideration No, first off, this is me. I'm I'm not if I'm at a stable career and I'm enjoying the lifestyle that I have In a man or a woman whoever comes into the mix I'm not changing my career for shit because what if your career slot of flops then what I'm gonna do Who was click who was click a stuff who was clicking over there Okay, put it down Is that me I'm trying to cut a great foot Sorry I'm hoping Why are you visiting with their box cutter Open the package early

1:21:21What coin is over there looking like a neck then a boo boo It was me Oh, who was click your thoughts like shit something everybody will I I But what we shall do y'all have a nice career somebody comes to the mix you change in careers and We just don't say no And And yo, yo, job is secure like you all the business. No, well, I don't Yeah Or you the high the high end of the six radius like seven plus no And do you leave me high job nobody Especially when we talk about moving to a different city state. I don't have no support. Are you getting me out there?

1:22:25And you can just dig with me cheering button to half of my self on day absolutely not Well, you know, I'm here with them all the time anyway, but no, that's that's crazy That's crazy. Yeah Or when you get that cuz it was was a lazy we asked the question I have no clue Okay Well, and if it is like and he has stick your house in his keep you pregnant The more the more times you get pregnant the more children you're gonna take care of why he got it work Going over he doing oh, so you signed up for flavor. It's what you telling me Bites to do it. Oh, yeah, and sorry if you stuck at home Not saying that every woman who is to bread when it's like this But you run across that possibility where she really can Bitch you out and I mean that in The worst way possible like yeah, Mike. Yes, you go talk in the kind of ways You know, she don't talk to all for that time of the year movie, but worse now

1:23:28The only way I could see it I still don't I still say don't uproot yourself just for a person If it's a better job opportunity, but you not going out there blindly So when you get out there you got your own you got your own apartment you got your own call You ain't got to rely on this individual for shit Me and if you move for another job opportunity that's gonna get you more money get you you know farther up in your career goals or whatever That's cool, but don't go out there thinking okay, why I'm a little with you for xyz amount of time This just thought you got that your own before you do any of that you you better go with your head on straight Because that person can put you out at any given moment They might get you out there I don't like you like that You know You know You know No, you was different on the phone. I don't like doing person. Yeah, you hung up the fall and you went away. You just just

1:24:33Hill All the time yeah, like every day you know friends. No, they all well you live from Is that So yeah people go to different places and start all the time I wouldn't go and start over with the individual that I do not know that I just started If you like do the oldest rants well little. No, you don't know him from dating aspects. No At first we started out. We'll cool. Yeah, let's do early It's high like I don't know any man 20 you I see you want Lemon though I do love now Amir all right. Thank you all so much for y'all's questions um, sorry for the wait but

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1:30:59I will start let me just say this When has not Being yourself become a lame thing Why are we not being authentic This is for people in the social media worlds You have a people who are replicating Another person that they're influenced by by doing the same exact thing that they're doing and it's you're not being yourself Why can't we be ourselves on social media? I understand if you want to be a content creator and you want to do things and you want to Showcase certain stuff, but you're not being yourself while you do it I first off if you're doing it influencer come with me to get ready with me to come with me Like seriously get ready with me like if you're doing all of it Emedia swipe block you're not being yourself You are not being yourself I I would I I want you to be authentic stop trying to

1:32:03Copy what your influencer your favorite influencer is doing and try to put it into your space Create your own space make your own tables stop trying to put yourself at a table That you feel that you don't feel like yourself at Create your own space. I feel like there's a loss in that um I would rather give give me the crazy commentary like if you open up the Your start of the bill where you tell us how to cook and you cussing me out while you're doing it You're being your authentic self because I know that you will probably do that in real life Don't be me I'd be like in the kitchen. It'd just be me and uh like I bitch I'm gonna show you how to make some macaroni cheese like like start off with something like that because I know you're gonna be your authentic self There's no you guys Seriously like literally and honestly and occasionally like no, I don't want to

1:33:04You told was at least oh Oh my god It's so good self-play ripple like So good and so careful you're lying And when you start talking like a food network God definitely you lose me The salt and the butter and stuff I'm like no no I'm I'm gonna shit right here. Make this shit. This shit bus. No joke what you do Right This shit right there. I do. I need you to be your authentic self. Um, I don't like the the cookie cutter Esthetic that you think is going to give you likes to shares no being yourself gets you likes to shares Whether you get one like 10 likes 100,000 likes if you're yourself That's all that matters Let's let's let's go back to being authentic. We've lost touch of that

1:34:06Social media is a blessing and a curse and you feel like you have to do certain things based on what you see Just be yourself Just be yourself That's hard for younger people to understand that a sir exactly Yeah, today little thing they thrown up watching literally and we had granted we grew up watching like celebrities and stuff like that We saw like movies and the pills and stuff like that We had a sense of connection and we went outside and played with people Uh, they people you just in the house and everybody all your friends is either at school or on the game Yep Yep, and it becomes a problem. Yeah, it becomes a disconnect or you can't this associate you're like oh well Such a such does this all the time. I do this to that's not how life works No No, but that's mine and We'll quickly be also just say this next week. I'll be 39 years old

1:35:08Oh I got a cookboard in prison Uh It's about that time too. I'm gonna get off of here and I just okay. All right. All right Okay My birthday plan my birthday plans. I don't want a heartfelt happy birthday Instagram post Facebook post for my people. I'm gonna share an only fans link I'm watch out to subscribe for $10. It's gonna be one picture on there saying hey Thank you for let me get your money. That's gonna be my birthday money. Thanks. All right. Who's next? That's crazy Right I was Oh There's nothing to that there's nothing to download. There's nothing I have to use a tip subscribe

1:36:08Give me your money and that's it. You get one picture is a picture of my nipple and that's it I just can't you All right And anyways Let me just say this. Thank you um As the person that has identified as the singleest person in America for the last All right, we've been doing the plug You know I Am real life and This relationship that it's okay Um because king has said it a lot of times healthy relationships come with hard

1:37:08Conversations difficult conversation and I'm used to If being I in the EP in the ENT you know what they mean go to that she got a home house She got a home car two jobs work hard. She a bad bro. Okay. That's that's what I'm used to I uh But I'm realizing it's okay to say I need help Mm-hmm to say hey I'm not doing good It's okay To say you know Help me help myself you know Even though the response will sometimes be asked to your heat, you know, it's okay To ask your significant And you know this is for the cause Those are certain questions, you know that might seem difficult to for you

1:38:11And that has been something that in these last seven to eight months that we've been doing this thing In one household That I have I have struggled with Yeah Because try to make a custom yeah becoming a custom to the soft life does not make you soft And you ignore me okay Because I've been feeling like a week is big No, I'm in the coast of the soft. How about we were in fact this hey week What is happening? It's not what your business won't on in one row. Oh, I didn't think so hard on my friend lately I don't think I know No, yeah, the soft life is not made you soft. It's okay listen listen. Just talk this I appreciate it Yeah, people have do something. Yeah, no problem. It's okay to ask it's okay

1:39:14And I don't always have a head of You do not always have to have the attitude Because I was I'd be stewing like I be in my head and I'll make up the scenario in my head before I even asked the question I already got an attitude by the time the question come out So you don't care what his answer is either way, bitch. You got me fucked up And it don't even be your man. I don't focus. We've had hard hidden conversations and We we both just as mild and even told when we talking And then I it'll be something that's bothering me that I need to talk about And I don't stewed on it for so long by the time I asked I already got to attitude so Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. My block is looks like I don't hear you. I don't fucking hear you Yeah I will resume go ahead and tell me about a problem up front if you don't like my answer or if you still be meant after we've discussed it

1:40:20That is fine. That's your problem But you have to give me a chance to explain myself before you go down the world this nigga ain't shit Oh, this nigga. Oh nigga. I'll be single from be free. But this you can't do that and we've had it This was early on we've had this conversation like me and her but You have to give and do because some do it so you have to get other person to chance to explain themselves before You just go off Now they ask me you know I'm called a couple of time they ask just to restore but you have to give them a chance To explain their reason and buy on what they did because they might have to get thrown Yeah They don't understand why I either reacted the way I did or why I see it something I see it And it causes for a conversation to understand both sides of said store. Yep Yep, and you can't stew on it because like you said if you stew you are made your own assumptions of what's going on

1:41:25You already got your pre planned responses and regardless of what it said you're gonna say your pre planned responses Being solved oh going to the soft like just not make you solve I told that man Why I'm actually looking like that I don't like the fact that you ever want to get it What What do we move When we moved into this apartment and he's giving me ideas on oh you could put it You could do ex-wearsy over here and I looked at him I said I don't like the fact because you have opinions You Because you so you sort of think you'd like to use it in your house but you said they were how you want to do it My face and somebody else coming in and telling me a different idea from what I had the fuck me mean Having having a hero space so you

1:42:26Yeah Now the only time I do I say stuff like that and keep mine this house was about together Oh, this is like we want to both sign the mortgage of the the the the and I know this house about the other My kitchen like she like she don't buy stuff my office. The owner about that. Don't you go on my kitchen and move stuff around Don't you do that? You call his whole house your own key my bedroom my this money. I'd like yeah Okay, that kitchen One machine puts something somewhere she's like oh no mom ahead did some shit watch the dishes something cuz we Mama wipe must have that very well effort at you know going my kitchen. Yeah, but no I get it opinions are Unfortunately going to be part of the rest of Y'all's relationship or possibly ever if y'all are going to directly y'all are headed now Explain it because he came out hard to see you it came out real wrong like how I said it the others has it

1:43:28You know and then I will see you look at me let me explain. Okay. Let me explain what I mean Yeah, they told me I was doing a good job Oh my god Good good and the and the thing is you don't have And the thing is you don't have to take everything he's given you as a soul-sauce and use that idea Yeah, somehow he does nice to be heard So that first At first when he started before we had that conversation he'll tell me something I was like oh, so I just don't know shit in my shit Yeah And he said another that he said not enough. Yes, and we should put a picture right here because what he said Oh, so I ain't got no kind of artistic, you know, I don't do arching crap. I don't know how colors go together

1:44:32No Oh, it goes together. What it's so toxic. It was so toxic. I don't know Oh My god, I'm trying to do business. Even my mouth shit is it's really the biggest issue. That's fine Let's do what you gotta do. It's okay. That's fine No Yeah, I have a huge space To use it Yeah Oh look at black community, please do not this is not specifically prone to be or something about say but it's just Because I do it. I just want to say this though Let me just say this get out of them folks comments. I'm too wise. They chicken Little people alone don't be being the last time in the packers up chicken all these years and ain't that yet

1:45:35Y'all only limit a little bit good and they watch you watching the distance Leave some people alone when you go to pop five thing watch those chickens. They'll say they do not watch them They're not gonna do little fancy as restaurants for your birthday once you are they are definitely not watching the chicken Leave them folks alone who's seeing the people at their house get out of the house so every comment I see On a post Sure she does that strap the pack that sure yes, they may be things by all they like all people are different. They don't folks alone Stay out of Josh and mom say I don't know Josh and mom's We just if it's if it's party your If it's party your algorithm watch it and just grow you ain't gotta be no Because we already know we already know the outcome She can cook and fold the chicken so we know she's watching it She got a cat she did a she did a chicken wing boil

1:46:37Where she put the frozen chicken wings Along with all the other ingredients corn the salmonello just salmonello and just had it boil Yeah, it's this this woman Boyle degrees Put the flour in the grease then put the chicken In the pile I just recently saw it the one I saw yesterday She took the cooked spaghetti noodles Added sour cream to say it's spaghetti noodles And then took a boiled chicken vendor she had them cooked And put it over on top of them. Let me check them Her chicken to be as to just why the she is maybe just a plant and a spatula nothing over and then she a The ingredients are listed And she's like oh, this is good, but the thing is that's authentically who she is I think

1:47:41I mean she's like sour cream tastes like sour cream She ain't sour cream and a piece of bowl chicken. I'm surprised I'm surprised it's not mayonnaise because you know she like mayonnaise on Yeah, she's like a Romeo she's a little mayonnaise, but yeah, even folks even folks in law like it's enough Like we got bigger problems. We got people like her not a British native. We was we've been harping on Not baby, but we got folks like her nothing should their teeth because why I'm with a doctor as a kid doctor. Yo, yo, child shouldn't come with me Hey, I hit punched That should be a thing like We have to fight my son to make sure that we get in there and we're because Yes, you're two you can't really you know, you know what where you don't want to brush your teeth to prop way them so you know the motions you know, we got the song down Hey, he's gonna do it. No, we got bigger problems. I hear like we folks not brushing their teeth and I understand

1:48:45Why? Well, I'm not brushing they keep and they still not putting on the odor The I can't get it. They can't with the little little little The love's not brushing their teeth people not wearing your tongue Everything is totally spotter your mouth. You totally spotter everything is on everything is on recall Khawar's got Climidia in it like we got too much going on It's for y'all to be being discussed On That you know the outcome of you You You know, one you have not seen one white person ever own from Facebook to TikTok watch chicken And again, not saying that white folks don't watch this give you some up there. It's on black folks. It's like black shells Don't watch they chicken It's just Lead on folks alone watch your chicken in your house then you clean your kitchen down with chloros because you will have some of them if not That's what I do. I please are

1:49:46Spill it. It's on week hour on less is on week hour. They're not used for all this is on this one. We're gonna Yeah, that's why clean the kitchen down. It's fine. It's fine. Let's get on folks kitchen. You're in a food. You're in a food I'm sorry to be bothered because it I'll be saying I said too much. Everybody got to say that And I was hungry say and you ain't man and you play But then you got people that put everything on the internet too, so Because some people that you got to me would speak Absolutely, right you have people that put stuff on the internet But you still have people that utilize the internet and have all of the resources to make sure that you have actual information But you choose to be a dumbass you choose to be a dumbass on social media because that is That is the new norm the new norm is to be loud and wrong

1:50:46Not a personal goal Your person is gonna be loud on when you have the resources to have the facts on something But you will argue with a person to be loud and wrong I can't The funniest thing I've seen Is this this white guy he go to like the mega parades and the mega conventions I see him He get on camera with them people and ask them about Some Trump don't say but then he reversed psychology it but they what did you hit that from Oh, I didn't read it for myself wait a minute. Yeah, yeah Yeah The clip where he was talking about But why did you you blame Obama for 9-11? Yeah, he's always on vacation mind you Get me what he's doing. What do you mean? He's always on

1:51:48He wasn't even That man now here defending cases. What did you talk about? Talking what's happening? What do you mean? Loud and over. That's the new that's the new norm loud and wrong and but they have these They they utilize these platforms to do that because they know the type of artists that they're gonna track and speaking on audiences White people with podcasts. I don't listen to y'all's podcasts. I look at the little clips Please stop proudly telling us that y'all don't believe that's the only thing that y'all talk about on a fucking podcast Every podcast clip I'm seeing they're talking about oh, I don't go up in there to wash my body or I don't shower Everyday why is that the main thing? I think that's a white podcast

1:52:48Requirement they you go by you go by these expensive as microphones these microphones are expensive with Your book you go by expensive microphones you get your studio setup the first episode that y'all come out with who washes their body every day Who takes showers every day? What y'all ain't got shit. Let's talk about and the fact that it's not everybody bothers me Perfect today. It's never it's always one person like yeah me and that'd be it Washclops You use washclops She said I think we're and then she was like I think we're the minority she said people use washclops Yeah, yeah, y'all could y'all could have had this conversation on FaceTime Why do we all have to be on a podcast talking about the child muster? I don't understand it I need some friction cross-possed skin. I need something to happen. Yeah, I need something to go Yeah, I

1:53:49Can't tell you how many times I took a white tie after a long day and that time come up with a little with a little brown spot on it And it embarrasses you cuz what you look like? I was on vacation Okay vacation We went a TV ride I did in the hot to make and sun I went to the bathroom after we finished that you're making a TV ride And I was embarrassed to pull my damn drawer all the time cuz that's And I know I took a child baby. I know I did And it was fun to keep but I knew that I was fun to keep And fixed it So you know, that was a 20 hour flight by itself But I so my flight was at night at like 11 30 p.m. Or whatever So I bought wake up in the daytime I was like okay, well, I'm taking a shower. Okay, what's the gym? I'm sitting in the shower

1:54:53No, I got on from gym to be shot like seven o'clock in the morning. I got that comfortable gym And I didn't either think like oh you're not gonna be able to shower again for 20 hours when you're just playing it ain't done on me We got to oh with destination and the first time went when it feels like All right, so let's go check in. What do you want to eat? I was like I know you can't smell me yet I have to take a shower I'm getting sticky and I know what's on the way I have to take a shower first Says no, I first did my first time that in the way that this is my first day here That came in be funky. No, I'm checking it go straight to my room. Absolutely No All right, or boy like you Y'all can y'all can have this conversation on FaceTime stop stop wasting these photos to you. It's not Tell them this

1:55:54About how your shots that you don't shower daily. I don't we don't want to know that Please keep that to yourself You Hey there go Deans round table is available on the Instagram you can follow with if you have any unlicensed therapy or have any questions Shoot us an email at deans roundtable at gmail.com Thank y'all so much for the questions that y'all send in Shout out to King and Queen About the deal shout out to All the Libras specifically October Libras. I don't care about the September That's great I'm sorry and I'm even follows out there fight that simple But yeah, there's a that's here's an episode for y'all asses

1:56:56Uh queen. Do you have any final words? You No I was trying to pick up Jesus I'm pleased To them being that all to them keep being a parent I am not With a real Because I thought she froze at one point

1:58:00I Thoughts he froze okay, wait don't say that to me else. Can you have any final words? Yes, uh love only people keep some clothes people leave here that never left before and the holidays coming up people don't Go spend all your money's love bad ass children for them to pay with the box And hello from back Thank you Jesus My keys That man right now he is playing with my daughter shoebox her shoes All right here and he's playing with her shoebox How about the sponge bar couch seat the chair and the couch I turn her I after bringing it out the box because it was heavy I turn around to this one Land in the box kicking his legs

1:59:02This is me all that should be high. All right, ain't nothing she At all nothing As you can with the box I can't make it you please got you some of these And this is the same child when he was younger with the sponge bar That his birthday was just on the 1819 no 15 losing birthday That touch that touch please I went and got this man what he asked for he asked for a pair of B-taps on 16 cake pops for his 16th birthday I got him a pizza And I didn't make him go to school. I went and handed him his gifts. He turned around and walking his room He did nothing else he thought about it came back gave him a hook and went back in his room Nothing else required. I was like well birthday over Birthday over my god

2:00:03He didn't want the family to come over we usually have hot dogs and have hot dogs I Said well you want the family to come over cake and ice cream. He was like, no Shit, I was looking forward to the cake and ice cream. I love cake and ice cream. What are you? I I I I gave him 16 cake pops. I made 20 there was four left. I had to split them between the niggas at my house. It was too much. Okay There we all want a piece. I had to because you did our hard work. Yes, no way And the fact that he is utilizing that birthday gift since he bought Oh Eat Oh, do you hear me? Well, I tell you the beat hit homes as they know us counseling

2:01:05It's one of the best things I ever had once you activated once you it's over once you activate it I have those once you activate it or maybe over He is gotten to the point when he wear men's school. He's not supposed to have them in school They don't say she to him because they think he has all to He walks around always when he's here phone phone. They think he has all to I am no there let it so he's Yep, that's You know, it was crazy like the skin and stuff they do now. It's nothing compatible. We used to have to do And I'm If he don't go back cuz Who gonna stop it? Who gonna stop it? That's Yeah, you just gotta get some That's insane

2:02:05Oh wow So I asked him he asked me he was like, you know people at school think I got all to them. I was like why I Said it's probably because you got them headphones on all day. They know more people. That's probably why I said we'll do it Bobby you can see it. No All right, just case He know he don't have it. He just don't be bothered about but he knows we bother nobody though. He's no one be bothered He's so unbothered he's the most unbothered child I have because that other one is bothered by everything He wears his part on his sleeve. He's a true Libra Hmm But they don't tell me I can't say that new so I'm gonna shit up then Believe you When she told me that story I didn't repeat it myself That's why And it was out the blue that's why I When I take breaks and go to Queens this I don't know when it's coming next

2:03:06I don't know because I will turn around Let me tell you You never know what coming after that statement ever like he Never know with that whole uh citation situation and everything I damn to repeat on myself I Damn their p and no one you I take all these goddamn supplements. So I got to pee anyway. I damn repeat myself anyway um My final words is uh It is okay to throw away those iPhone boxes There's any other box at that we We we are keeping them iPhone boxes. It is okay to throw them away Why would he put the phone back in?

2:04:08I don't know I don't know And we I have no talk to us from our parents because I know my mom will keep a box or something Like my why are you keeping the box? Oh, I can store it But it's in the closet in the hallway the boxes in the back room in the So I initially we don't know we had this conversation to be moved in here. We'll be able to get in half Why is the ninja blender box we end up in the wrong when the ninja blender is in the kitchen in the cabinet Because when we move we mean we got the packet up Or or it's your own On your own one 10 you got to use that box to take it back We got that little three years ago. We got a lot more to come up Just like who told us who told us that we had to put cereal on top of the fridge I'm looking at cereal by the way I

2:05:09Keep looking over there because I'm hungry. I I started this rant with the fact that I'm gaining weight if y'all have not noticed I have been chewing since we started recording I am started All right, that's why I said them because I have been here no crunching or no Or no much so All right This is example six while we can not be on the Okay It should just pull out the floor And just so that you know eat some flowers. See then I ate a grapefruit and I mean those potato chips We're also available on YouTube. Oh my god. We're also available on YouTube for your viewing pleasure um The link will be in the description on the Instagram page so But thank you all so much for

2:06:11Listening sorry for the wait We don't know when we coming back. I would just say that. That's that's how to shoot For the inner October beginning November. Let's just shoot forward Before we get into the midst of the holidays So because holidays y'all already know we ain't got time to do shit Yes, then So we'll give y'all a sweater sweater weather episode or so I don't know it's gonna be episode about nothing, but I'm gonna make sure it's limited because I got to undiagnosed People am I 80 my 80s. I know I know I got that Okay, all right Aaron I gotta touch the fields. So told to me by some out of the tails. I found out I'm gonna send it cuz what? No, okay, wait you didn't tell me I understood it. I understood what you said

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