Good Advice is not Godly Advice || Hope Expression Podcast

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2:07to relationship and ministerial problems. Irrespective of your age, I want you to pay attention to what I want to share with you. There are different steps to evaluate if an advice, if an encouragement, if your suggestion is healthy or toxic because we have a lot of people in the name of being considered or in the name of good intention, have poisoned the heart of people. The moment somebody is encouraging you and advising you and those advice are projecting fear into you and those advice or encouragement is distorting your view about the older person. That is not a healthy advice. They call me in the name of I want to protect you, I don't want anything to happen to you, I don't want anything to hurt you, good and fine,

3:10it's good, but will you hold others to protect yourself, must you despise others to protect yourself, must be you be rude to protect yourself. Will you be happy if you treat, if people treat you, the way you treat them all in the name of your protecting yourself? Will you? I believe the respect is their first attitude. That shows you a healthy person because we have a lot of people out there who are on the pulpit, even counsellors who are on healthy people. And most of the set of people that are forstreet the youths are the elderly people, old age is not a sign of wisdom. We have a lot of adults which regret of their dreams, their failed, their marriages, their failed, their opportunities, their failed, and some of them are angry that some of the youth have prevailed to the things they have prevailed to which they wanted

4:15that they never got. So the only way they can feel comfortable is to encourage you to destroy your own relationship, destroy your own friendship, destroy your own relationship with your parents, destroy your own relationship with your siblings because they never had that. Are you listening? Someone is encouraging you to be disrespectful to someone that has been useful to you and you believed the person simply because the person said I'm doing it for your good. Any advice that is for your good will first of all respect every humanity. Every advice that is for good that is Godly must first of all protect the mental health not just of yourself but of others. Any advice that is Godly must make you to keep saying the good you use to see in them before you came to the present when courage or advising. We must pay attention

5:24to the truth. We have good but on Godly advices. It makes sense. It feeds your pride. It feeds your echo. It feeds what you can brag about but it doesn't give you a good name. It doesn't show you have dignity and it doesn't show you have value for humanity. So my question is how is it that you want a healthy relationship, healthy friendship but your own kind. You are not considered before you see or do things you don't act yourself. Is this going to hurt this person or not? Why? Why? We must pay attention to how our words and our actions are affecting other people. It's okay that you are fighting not to be hurt but it's not okay not to pay attention if what you say or do

6:29hurt others. It's not okay. And don't tell me you don't know what people have done to me. You don't know how people treated me. You don't know how people betrayed me. Good and fine. Whatever anybody did to you is the level of their own foolishness ignorance or maturity. But what you do in response to what they have done to you shows your level of maturity or your maturity. Life is about 10% of what people do to you. 90% of how you respond or react to them. So my question is, are you sure? You are not the one that has made relationship and friendship complex for yourself. By always trying to protect yourself from being hurt and that to you implies you being disrespectful, not appreciating people's efforts, respecting, presuming, assuming a little kindness you are already imagining the person have

7:37or to your motive. Why can't people be safe around you without you thinking they want to hold you? Why? Why do you believe that if I don't, you don't even expect people to be kind to you. You don't even expect people to be nice to you. You don't expect people to show you fear or yes, you believe the fear of God. But when it shows up in front of you, you are treading. When good things happen to you, it treading you. You're already expecting evil to happen to you. You're already expecting people to work out of your life. You're already expecting people to reject you. You're already expecting people to look down you. Every single thing people do. Even though they have a good intention, you keep seeing the things people do. True negativity. What has the advice or the advice you have received so far? What has it

8:44toned you to become? You used to be kind, you used to be loving, you used to care, you used to be considerate, you used to be patient, used to always insist because we will be done. When people go through pain, it breaks your heart, but now your conscience is dead. You're always in a fighting mode, fighting with the shadow of your past that you keep seeing in others because you are failed to see your cause plan for your life. You better than your past. And if you advise your God and I don't care who advised you, always advising you, that the person is your father in the Lord, that the person is your parent. I don't care if it's your seedling spot test. And George, every advice and encouragement and suggestion in the

9:44place of prayer, do you find peace of mind before you apply it? And if you don't find peace of my place, throw it away. Including what I'm telling you in the spot cast. George, all things but a scripture and test everything in the place of prayer. Even your only motifs, even your motifs and desire. Test it. Don't be too sure of yourself. The Bible say, he that stone should be careful. Let's see false. Don't be so sure because his your father in the Lord doesn't mean to be it is godly because his your fruit from your dad doesn't mean it's godly because it's from your childhood friend doesn't mean it's godly because it's from your spouse doesn't mean it's godly. It can be good. It makes sense, but it's godly. It does it at the fire you does it at the fire orders does it glorify Jesus? This is the best I have for you in this nation. And please stay tuned to my next episode because in this place we give you clarity

10:53and help you to be a healthy person, a healthy attitude, a healthy response to people. So hear me, irrespective of what has happened to you, you have no excuse, you have no more right to hurt anybody to protect yourself. And every good advice that projects, inflict fear into you and this pot, the Honourable view you have towards the present is actually poison to your destiny. If this has blessed you, I want you to drop something in the comment section, a question or the aspect of the spot cards that has helped you. Remember, you can dream again, you can love again, you can trust again, you can be a better version of yourself. You are not too far, you are not too broken,

11:57that god can't restore. And Jesus said in the book of March 11, 28, comment to me or you don't neglect what you believe in and I will give you rest. Hope you've got a value for my time. This is the voice of Prince Victor Mathew, and a custom that left for the body of Christ. A few you'll be, a few you'll struggle, but mostly but only. A consign will be useless. If you're not ready to be responsible and be intentional, about your destiny, shall I?