You Are Not Your Parents

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1:01And this is coming to you from Hope, Inspiration Hope, where we provide solutions to relationship and ministerial problems. And in this episode of this podcast, I want you to have it at the back of your mind that you are not your dad, you are not your mom. The most frustrating thing that can ever happen to you is growing up and discovering that the only crime your mom ever committed was loving your dad. Or the crime your dad only committed was loving your mom. It's frustrating and it's annoying. Oh yes, your mom did a lot of good thing and your father was not appreciating it. You know, your mother did a lot of things, your mother was not appreciating it. And here you are, you're not having this mentality that if you choose to love, if you choose to be honest and do all the good thing that you end up like your dad or your mom that was not appreciated for being loved or for being lovable.

2:02Don't do that. The fact that your mom loved your dad and your dad, you know, went out to have a side shake doesn't mean that you shouldn't be loyal to me. And see that no matter how you love a man, he will still go outside. Don't do that. Yeah, the fact that your dad loved your mom so much and your mom ended up living abandoning you and your dad and went after all the men doesn't mean that. Forget it. I'm not giving my best to a new lady. No matter how you give your best, a lady will still go to where she wants to be. Don't be like that. You're not to die for your mom. And let me say a little flip to it. This man you need relationships with or this man that you marry to or this man that for being a relationship with you in your next relationship is not your dad. This lady is not your mom.

3:03Stop looking for your dad and your mom in all the people that you want to date. And that they have good attributes, that they have bad attributes. Stop looking for your father and your mother. Stop fighting that you don't want to date a man like your father and your mother and prepare to know how to treat everyone that comes your way according to their individuality. It's very important to know that you're not your dad, you're not your mom. So stop taking the experiences of your mom and your dad as a guide to stop yourself from being authentic, to stop yourself from being useful, to stop yourself from

4:04fighting to keep a relationship. Yeah, yeah, you must be intentional. You must be intentional because this is a real good for us. You are a special person. You deny she's your parent, you deny she's the family you came from, but you can choose who to become. It's your choice. Your upbringing is not an excuse. You are not the way you're that treating. I don't care how you're that treated. I don't care how your mom treated you. That is not the factor of your words. That's not a factor. What will you do with your life today?

5:07Now change the reality of your future tomorrow. That's what matters. I don't care if you're that guilty or not. I don't care if you're that guilty. I don't care if your mom took advantage of this actually, things are happening. My cousin, I hear funny things. You might say, you don't understand what I understand. And I love you and you came to the people I wish you. Wish you a feeling but I understand one thing that you can't be different from your dad and from your mom. They give better you doesn't mean you have to become like them. They give better you doesn't mean you have to experience this. No, you're different. That's what the Bible says in the book of some one thirty-nine. One verse, you know. For ten-fifteen system, you're wonderful to me.

6:09Wonderful to me, you're wonderful to me. So please stop projecting the pains of your father and your mother into your own future. There is more to you than this. You are not alone. You can be a better version of your life. Don't let anybody. Don't let the way people treated your dad or treated your mom stop you. From this plane, the house, to this good version of your dad or those good versions of your mom, that was the key for granted. Don't. Life is ten percent of what? Happened to your life and ninety percent of how you respond to what has happened to your life. Yes, you learn from it. I identify people that are on grateful.

7:11People that are on my religion are toxic. And create a boundary between them. There's the ones between twice shy, right? I identify how the people that took your dad for granted or took your mom for granted. I identify how they behave. So that when someone shows up, you'll be able to protect your heart. That's why I was a guard your heart. You took it as the issues of life, right? Yes. What they have gone through should become a guard. For you not to end up like that, to be a wiser, to succeed where they feel, to set boundaries where they didn't set boundaries, to speak of where they were hired. To stop being separate, you must stop being silent to read it to you, you must be better. So, by yourself, which you can use, cut out all the stories and narratives of your dad,

8:13your mom, your aunt, and everything they have gone through, you'll see it. After all they did, what did they get in return? Last time. Their experience is not your prophecy. You can do the same thing. Your parents did that was not valued, because they did the same thing when you be valued. Yes, you can. Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don't depend on your own understanding. In all your ways of knowledge, he managed to direct you apart. Oh, yes. He should direct you apart. This is Goswiy for you. This is Goswiy for you. And I trust a lot to help you, as you're ready to help yourself.

9:13You are not your dad. You are not your parents. You will succeed where they feel. You will strive for the way they were stranded. You will grow in places that are still in their comfort zone. The parents, the success of your parents, is not a limit. You can't outgrow your successes. And you can escape their trauma. You can overcome their trauma. You are not your dad. You are not your mom. So be free. No one is putting you in a fix or in your box. There is no other person that can put a limitation on yourself. So be here. Nobody. You are in charge. You are wise and strong. You are better.

10:14It's all in your mind. You are not your dad. You are not your mom. You are not this happy piece. You are responsible for you. So be sure. You've got to not consider your dad and mom before you plan for your life. I got a list of people. God is not about planning for you. God is not about planning for you. God is not about planning for you. God has a plan for you. Even before you formed into your mother's womb. So wake up or arise. Today. You will overcome your rise today. Yes, we will realize that. Remember, be free. To love you, and to dream you, and to trust you, to do everything with God's multiplying. Jesus is on the day of late. Do not avoid the lovely curd pulling. So tekrar que, per'enstehi fast as noni-necia que predict de愛 fast.

11:18No, I'm doing that. to bless for that. This is where I'm going to stop in this episode. And in the next episode I'll come with something on me. I say, until then, remember? To love again, to trust again, to do again. If you love, feel proud. It's all in your mind. Because as a man, think it as a woman, think it as so he or she is. Shalom.