Vault: She's Moving Back In With Her Mom, But There's A MAJOR Problem

0:00The virtue I we are going to call her Mandy. Hey Mandy. Hey. Hey, how are you today? Okay, how are you? So you're feeling the economy in a different kind of way, huh? Yeah Yeah, I live with my boyfriend and he has been laid off and I wait tables So you know the economy kind of just sucks and tips aren't what they used to be and all this stuff. So So it's kind of bad right now and we've been laid on rent a couple of times and our landlord has already been like, you know, guys this is not working, you know, whatever you're going to need to find any place. When your lease is up and my lease is up now, my mom, you know, knows that things are bad right now and she was like, you know, you can move in here. There's plenty of space, but you know, and I understand she wants to charge us rent. She wants to charge us $250 a piece and that'll cover expenses, you know, utilities, whatever.

1:03But she wants us to not live in the same room. So you have to be in separate living separate rooms in her house? Yeah. And how long have you all been dating? Over and we've been living together for a year. We've been together for over two years. So she's ready about the pre-marital no-nose. Yeah, she's okay with you living with them, right? I mean, obviously not. Yeah. Okay, with it, she's not thrilled I guess, but has she ever come over to your house together? Has she ever come over and visited you at your house with your boyfriend or your apartment with your boyfriend? Yeah, yeah. I mean, she likes him. She just doesn't, you know, if she's old school, that's just what it is. But the thing is like, okay, it's fine that she's old school. But, you know, she wants to charge us rent and say that can't, you know, be in the same room.

2:06So, you know, any other landlord, you know, you pay them and you don't have any choice. I mean, they don't have any suggestions. You have it in your room or not, you know. The problem here is you have zero leverage. You got to know me. You're totally right. It's her house. And if you're going to stay there, I mean, it's the old cliche, but if you're going to live under her roof, you got to live with her rules. The thing is, you know, I'm living under her roof and paying her rent and it really is helping her out as much as it's, you know, healthy. I mean, it's definitely helping us out. You don't sound very appreciative. I'm told, I mean, you know, we don't have anywhere else to go. So I really do appreciate it. But I also, you know, I love my boyfriend just because we're not married. You know, I don't know that I want to get married ever. You know, she's my mother is divorced. So I could totally under I 1000% understand, but you're, I mean, it's the my house, my rules thing. Even though you are, I understand your argument that you're paying rent and it sucks. But if you're, I mean, you can find it. You go look for another place at 500 bucks a month. If you find one, you do it all you want.

3:14What does your boyfriend think about it? He's really angry. Angry. Yeah, he, I mean, he thinks it's more anything, you know, we're paying you rent just like any other apartment and you know, it's kind of rough because I'm like, it's my mom after respect her. So he's looking at more like a business transaction. Yeah. Yeah. And he's saying, look, if I'm paying, I should be able to do what I want. And your mom is saying, well, this is my house. So you guys have to do what I say. Yeah. I mean, it's different if your mom was charging. We had a tenant all the time. And she's charging rent. But I mean, basically you are imposing on upon her to live there. So I mean, there's. Yeah, I'm imposing it upon her though. I mean, she's the one that brought it up and she's the one that offered it. You know, just trying to help you out because she's your mom. Yeah, I, the tone just is making me less empathetic to you as you keep talking. Hey, Nicole, go ahead. You're part of the bird show. I don't understand this generation. I mean, and then your boyfriend, he doesn't have enough respect for you to get you to marry him, even though you say you don't want to marry.

4:19And he's getting that at your mom for allowing you to come and stay there. I wouldn't even have a man come and live with my mother if we're not married. When me and my boyfriend go and visit my mom, we sleep in separate bedrooms because you're not married. I mean, why don't you go to his parents house? And just have your mom. I don't want you to tell you whatever she wants to tell you. Go ahead, Mandy. I was confused. She's married and when she goes to her parents house, they don't sleep in the same room. So it sounded like no. Oh, that's crazy to me. She said it was a boyfriend. She said it was a boyfriend. Oh boy. Okay. I don't think they're okay. That would be that'd be a problem. Hey, Latoya. Yeah, that's different. Good morning. I need to tell me at the first of all, quick, right? But that is your mother. And you need to respect her. She so sees you as her daughter. And as long as you're under her roof, you live by her rules. Period.com. If you can't live by her rules, the baby takes that $500 and gets you a department.

5:20Because you can, for that same five, you two are paying, you can live on your own. Cause that's what I'm doing. And I pay less or five for bills, rent and utility, either respect your mom and live by her rules or baby. Do it on your own. Go to do it on your own.com. Period. That's dot com dot work. TC. What's up? Hey, how's it going? Good to hear from you. Hey, what's going on? I knew you're. Yeah, the parents got up her hand. I mean, first of all, they're not married. And you know what? All you need to do is just invest in some gift cards, the restaurants and the parents out there to dinner a couple of nights a week and you'll be good. I mean, the truth is, I mean, it is an old cliche, but she makes the rules. She makes the rules. Look at it just like a business transaction. If you're going through some classified ads or whatever, right? And you're looking for an apartment and it's said $500 rents. But you have to live in separate rooms. You can only have one person per room. If you didn't like that classified ad and that didn't fit your needs, you'd go on to the next classified ad.

6:21If you're looking at it just as a business transaction, if you don't like it, you got to find some place else to go. And if you, I mean, if you don't like it, you can't fight your mom on this. Even if I don't move in, I feel like, if we don't move in, my mom is still going to be angry with me. I mean, it's just like, now I feel like things are just messed up and we should move even discussed it to begin with because she knows that my boyfriend is mad. And I'm not, I mean, to me, it's a tough, weird kind of spot, but I'm not angry. It's just kind of like, okay, but you know, now even if we don't live there, my mom's going to be mad. That's another topic. Hey, Tracy, go ahead. You're on Q100. Yeah. This whole thing is just silly. She's an adult. She's a grown-up. If she needs her mom's help. I mean, she's going to be living there, so she's going to have to walk over something. And this whole section, the boyfriend is just annoying. I mean, he's just, he's just annoying in me. So just, this is just ridiculous. I'm a parent and I know if I put that on my kids and my daughter's boyfriend would not be living in my house with her.

7:25Because he needs to be handling his own business and making care of his daughter. I said, how old is your daughter? Oh, I'm not, my daughter's not, not an adult, but I'm hoping that when she isn't an adult, that she's handling her business. If she needs to come back home, she's not going to come back home with any craziness like this is ridiculous. Isn't that something? My mom needs help with her mortgage, too, you know what I mean? So I don't feel like it's so, I mean, I'm 25. I'm not a kid. I'm her kid. I know I'll always be her kid, but I'm not a kid and she offered it. She offered it with certain stipulations and she isn't an adult and that is her house. We got one on all the calls that came in. Everybody's saying the same thing. You got to suck it up and quit griping, except one call. Hey, Rob, go ahead. You're on Q100. I mean, I completely agree with you. You know, I can see where the other colors are coming from and unfortunately your mom doesn't have you between a rock and a hard place and you know what? It's just ridiculous. I think it's completely ridiculous. You're paying a rent. All these, I just think, you know, the colors before just, you know, self-right.

8:34This is 2009 for God's sake. If you want to make it a business transaction, then it's a business transaction. Well, you know, I don't think you should move in. There are places that you can go. You know, there are places 500 and you know what? Your mom will get over it if you don't move in. Yeah, great. Yeah, I, you know, the thing that irritates me the most is that mothers are usually mothers and fathers sacrifice, but less to focus on mothers because this is what this is about her and her mom. And mothers sacrifice for their children for a long time. And we've had a conversation on air about children coming in and moving back with their parents before. And I just feel that, you know what, they've done, she's done her time, you know, she's done her time as a mother when it comes to taking care of you day in day out. So what she's offering, she said, my see my daughter is in trouble. I will make her this offer, but it's an adult transaction. I'm not just taking you in so I can do your laundry and cook for you and take care of you what I'm doing is charging you rent. But when you live in my house for me to stay comfortable in my own home, I don't feel comfortable with you living with your boyfriend in my home.

9:36So that's what that is the regulation here used to say in separate room so that you're happy. I'm happy. And what I hear from you is, well, she's mom, she said to understand I can't, but like there's no respect there for as an adult woman with her own values. And how are you going to respect your boyfriend when he moves into your mom's house? Seriously, you know what I'm saying? You need to lay it off. It's not like it's not like he's some deadbeat boyfriend. I mean, I understand he's laid off, but would you guys do that? Would you move into? I wouldn't be an option for me. I would find another way. If it was a free situation and they were completely broke, but you know, you can find $500 a month. Like you may have to move a few miles away from your comfort zone, but I think there are apartments to be had for not too much more than that. It can be found.