Vault: She Is Keeping A Major Secret From Her Parents...

0:00Hey, the birch show I back to Jenny here from Friday show About a year ago my mom got remarried and moved to Vancouver and she's coming out this weekend and in the year that she's been gone I have had a baby and I have gotten married and I haven't told her at all Mom was coming in from Vancouver this weekend Mm-hmm, and she was gonna be greeted by Jenny here who's gonna tell her a I'm married and be you have a a granddaughter Well apparently the relationship is not that close and and the mom has done this that she got married and I think Didn't she get married and go to Canada and so it was kind of it was kind of I Don't know this how the handle things is seems like so she said some sort of comment about how her mom has bailed on her a lot for men Mm-hmm. Hey, Jenna I hear you. Hi, good. Now I wasn't here on Friday So can you give us like a give me the 60 second detail version of your story? Okay, um well my mother got married a year ago and moved to Vancouver at the time

1:04I was two months pregnant and wasn't sure what I was gonna do about it and While she was in Vancouver of Vancouver. I had to have the child and I got married Okay, mm-hmm and in these conversations that you have with mom since you never said oh, yeah There's one thing that I really ought to run by yeah, I'm married or hey, there's really something that's been going on the last Nine months that I think you'd be interested in It just never came up like I How does something like that come up wait? We just do small talk, you know how's work blah blah blah So it just never really came up and I'm so used to our lives being that way that I just never thought to tell her and Lister's we're talking about how how do you how does a baby not cry in the background or make noises in the background and she not hear it but Apparently that didn't happen right? No, that never happened. I mean I just left the room So you're almost hiding it from her I Mean I guess I never really thought of it that way. I mean it just didn't occur to me But really it's really didn't

2:07It making me feel way better about my family for sure So your mom shows up this weekend and when do you break it to her that's a you're married and then the second part of the whole thing that you got a kid Well, I was going to take everybody with me to the airport, but you guys told me that beat that idea So I didn't do that. I just picked her up myself and You know, we just made small talk for most the ride and then halfway home I I was I said when I have something to tell you and oddly enough she said what are you marrying or something and Oh Like well, I said well actually. Yeah, I yeah And she was really happy about it. I think she was very happy about it and did you follow that with your grandmother? That that came a little more of a shock But um, she was happy about it too and and she met them and she got along with everybody and

3:13It ended up being a great weekend. She wasn't mad No, she wasn't she actually she told me she thought, you know, I was gonna end up you know just kind of being alone So she was kind of happy hobby can't understand this kind of family dysfunction when we talk about this kind of stuff Right talk about how jacked up my family is Jen looks at my case like she's looking at a display at the Smithsonian like wow Really? It is a little bizarre that you don't tell your mother about a child that you had so conversation. That's pretty unique I don't know. It just our family is Well, I mean it's mostly just her and me so it's always been very um, I don't know. I've always gone off and done my own thing so she I really don't know much about her husband Well, when you have like phone conversations don't you just say what's new? Well, you have a belly. I mean you're pregnant Yeah, that'd be the first thing I think about it It's just honestly, I just never occurred to me

4:16Yeah, you guys are about it just because she's not here and you know It's not like she's living down the street If you haven't been close to somebody your entire life like that It does seem like an unbelievable story But I can see the window of it being possible that you're just like This is not something I share with these people because they almost don't seem like relatives Yeah, I mean, I don't know but I mean she's my mom, but you know, it's different with us I guess I don't know how to explain It's just always been this way You know she doesn't know about boyfriends or she doesn't know really about that side of my life and or husbands Right or babies children But I'm glad that she was happy for you and I'm glad you had a great week And now my assumption is that you'll just go on as usual and you just have the same relationship with her and you see her again You see her again Yeah, I mean, maybe she'll ask me like how the baby is It'll pretty much be same as before I probably won't see her for another year. What's that look Melissa?

5:17It's an unfamiliar look for me. Well, no, I mean it's just just listening because it is I don't think this is the ideal family situation But it's her family situation. So it's just I'm imagining the grandmother not seeing the baby For you know until it's going to school or something. So, but if that's if that's how that's what they know relationship is You know established and you're all happy with that then I'm glad that there was no tension this weekend No, it was great. I mean she didn't stay with us in the end, but it was great What do you mean didn't stay with you in the end? Well, she was supposed to stay with us in my house and I'm seeing everything in a hotel. Was that her decision or is that something that you suggested? Oh, no, that was that was her her Decision She's like, oh, there's I'm not just staying with you. There's a husband and a baby. So now I'm not gonna stay with you Exactly. So in some cases mothers would go wow that's or grandmothers would go wow I want to be around that baby as much as possible But in other families and I know this it's like well, it's gonna be a little loud and I'll come check back tomorrow

6:19Hang out a little bit Yeah, she was more like that. You know, she she came to play. It's in my daughter You know, they had a great time and then she went home. Yeah, I got to say I understand where she's coming from That's wild It's like a stranger. Yeah, it almost is definitely have family members that are almost like strangers weird. I can't comprehend that I'm really trying I'm really trying a Tracy good morning. You're on Q 100 Hey guys, I just want to know do you plan to raise your daughter the same way that you were raised? No, no, I mean, I'm sure my daughter and me all have a close relationship. I mean, I don't know But no, I don't plan on doing oh boy She said all right good luck Okay, thank you for sharing I think yeah, bye-bye. I am more disturbed by that call than I was by far. Why? Because it sounds like she's turning into her mom You know, I don't know But it's all she knows. I don't even have the same relationship. I know it's a little early to tell. She's young and old. Yeah, I know

7:23I mean, I'm not surprised by that because that's all she knows That's what she learned. Yeah, like I think that I think in your case and her case bird because you talk about your family a lot At least you're making efforts with your family so that you don't repeat the pattern, right? If you don't make efforts You're gonna repeat the pattern. The same family tree over and over and over again. Let's see you decide to change it Well, I just feel like I'm gonna cleanse from the show today get it off of me. Yeah Hey the bird show