Ep# 89 - How to stop Negative Self-Talk and stop the Bitch Talk

Feeling precious? Me too. In this real, unedited chat (recorded on Halloween—yes, with the blow-up dinosaur costume is on the sofa), I share a life update and a lesson I want every woman to learn: how to stop negative self-talk—aka the “bitch talk”—and create emotional safety on the days you feel precious.

This week I talk about navigating grief after a client’s sudden passing, period vulnerability, and the big leap my husband and I have taken into self-employment. Underneath it all is the skill that changes everything: speaking to yourself with kindness. You’ll hear how I name my primal brain “Sue,” why telling your body “I’m safe, nothing has gone wrong” works, and how to practice compassionate self-talk without fluff or fakery.

In this episode:

Why feeling vulnerable isn’t a problem (and what your nervous system actually needs)

The evolutionary reason negative emotions feel urgent—and how to calm them

“Bitch talk” vs. kind self-coaching: same words, different intention

Simple, no-BS steps to stop the inner critic in real time

How practising self-kindness helps you hold other people’s emotions, too

Try this today:
Catch the first nasty sentence in your head and interrupt it: “Uh-uh-uh, we don’t do that anymore. I’m learning to be kind to myself.” Then place a hand on your chest and tell your body: “I’m safe.”

If you’re ready to build calm, confidence and emotional resilience—with loving, no-bullshit support—get in touch. I’d love to help.

You can also watch this episode on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@TheWorkingWomensLifeCoach

If you'd like to have a chat about how I can help you further, please send an email to [email protected], I'd love set up a time to meet you virtually.

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