Don't Date to Marry

0:00It's important for you to understand that life is beautiful when you know the direction and the details for dating. Dating is not meant for place. Don't date to marry. Don't date to marry. This is the voice of a post of Prince Victor Machu. And I'm coming to you from a special home. It's to marry. For the past 15 years I've sat down and I've washed many people messed up their life because they are dating to marry. A lot of people in their marriages today regret it because they were dating to marry. Inasmuch as it looks as if it's what you've grew up to meet and looks as if it's what is right doesn't mean it's actually right.

1:04Don't date to marry. You might be asking if I don't date to marry then what else should I be doing? Before we get into that I think I need to let you to understand what dating really means. Data is a mutual decision or agreement of a man in fighting a lady. For the man and the lady to own the study issues values, priorities needs to see if there is a common ground to build a married journey. Wish means dating is not the final stage to get married. It is the space for all the study issues.

2:06You might say what are you saying? Hear me. Can we date is different from William Marry me? Can we date is different from William Marry me? So this is what I want to suggest to you. Date to get another person. Date for common ground. Am I saying that you should play with people's emotions? No. I must say this. Before you decide to date somebody, if you know that when they are lying to where you are going to, you won't marry them or you won't push forward to take the relationship serious. You don't even take a first step. People's hearts are not toys you play with. There is nothing like, let's see how it goes. And if you know that you do not have the mind of settling down in the next one to two years from now, then you don't have any business stepping into dating. It's funny enough to see people date for nine years and they break up.

3:10Four years and they break up. Why? Because of lack of intentionality and lack of the knowledge of what date is really meant for. I want you to understand that stepping into the place of dating is not a place of you trying to impress this lady or trying to impress this man so that he will finally put a ring on your finger. That is not the real assignment of dating. It's an understanding of each other. Now, there are a lot of people that I even confuse. It's funny when people tell me, I'm in a relationship with this guy, I'm in a relationship with this lady. I don't know what to talk about. That is the first thing that you have no business doing with dating. If you don't have what to discuss with your partner, then what are you doing there? Relationship is for communication. It's for action of question. It's for understanding values, priorities and needs.

4:18What are values? Values are your belief systems. The things you believe about love, the things you believe about relationship, the things you believe about life, whatever phase of life. It has to do with your state of belief, what you can accommodate. Then your priorities are the things you can do without the necessities of your life. So, dating is you coming to see if this person can compliment you or you can compliment this person and if both of you are in the same direction in life. You don't need to marry. You need to find alignment and if there is no alignment, without your respect, you can work away. So, this is not you looking for the right person. It's you becoming the right person and then ration out to look for who you can align with and who can align with you.

5:23Amos tree trees can too work together, accept the agree. Can too work together, accept the agree. Emosa agree in the direction of life. Emosa agree in the place of values. Emosa agree in the place of priorities. It's important. No lady is doing you a favor, my brother. For deciding to date you. Am I sister? No man is doing you a favor. For choosing you. It's a mutual ground, it's a mutual interest. You need a relationship. He needs a relationship. And you guys are individually attracted to each other and you are here to get to know this person. I want to say this because I say a lot of people are doing this. You are hiding your real self. And you pretending to be what this guy would like or what this lady would like so that he will take you seriously.

6:25The worst thing you can ever do to yourself is to pretend to be what you are not. Just to get married. And God cannot support you. Jesus is the way is the truth of his life. The moment you begin to move away from being truthful. You are frustrating yourself with toxic person and you cannot sustain a healthy relationship. You are proved that you are ready to set it down. You are proved that shows you are ready for a healthy relationship. It's when you are truthful from the very first beginning. This man acts you. What is your name? Truth about your age. Truthful about your age. Truthful about your age. Truthful about your age. Truthful about your age. Truthful about anything. Hear me. I love the God. Don't date. Don't argue. Date. To find a common ground. The fact you are treated to this person doesn't mean you must date a person.

7:28You can be attracted to who you don't need. You can even have feelings for who you don't need. You can have feelings for who has no assignment in your future in your destiny. Oh yes. So before I end this episode, I want you to ask your question, have you found yourself? Have you discovered yourself? Have you come to a place to understand your journey in life? Because if you don't know you, you will never know who you are supposed to date because you are supposed to date your kind. So if you don't know you, there is going to be a big problem because that is the beginning of setting yourself up for an abusive relationship. Many, many people have set it for less because they have no idea. So people get into marriage.

8:30Five, six, seven years after they are now married, their eyes are opened, they discover their self and they realize that men have set it for less. What is too late? They are already in the marriage. Your worst thing that can ever happen is to get married before discovering yourself. And then realizing this person has nothing to do with you in destiny. It's miserable. Many people are frustrated. So I want to encourage you today to find yourself as a lady or as a man. The first thing you should be thinking about is not who like did or who asked me out. No, that's not a question. It's first of all to know, who am I? What has got created me? Where am I going? What is my purpose here on it? If you don't know who got as great editing become, you will not know who fits in your journey. You don't need for the noun, you need for the future, for sight is very important.

9:31Stop dating because you want to get married and by so doing overlooking all the red flags just because you want to get married. But no, as a man, date and take a lady seriously. When she compliments you, she values you, she respects you, she honours you. And as a lady, do you then stick on dating relationship when this guy protects you, brings out the best of you? And let me tell you, date and is not a joke. The fact that a man is dating you doesn't mean he pays a place. Until he pays your bride price, you are not his responsibility. So get an angry with him because he didn't give you money to make your hair to fix your nails as an act. Of him I shall return, he's even showing that you are not even yet qualified to be in the primary derelict relationship.

10:32And here my brother, the fact that a lady doesn't mean you have access to her body. The fact that a lady doesn't mean she becomes the object for your sexual satisfaction. Can we date me? Can we understand each other to say if you want to get the primary derelict relationship? That's what it is. I hope you could impart it for your time. I'll continue in the next episode. Without you there, remember, you can dream again, you can love again, you can trust again. God bless you.