Dave Franco Returns

0:00Welcome, welcome, welcome to Armchair Expert. I'm Dak Shepard and I'm joined by Monica Badman. Hi. Are you just cleaning up your computer over there? Hi, I am. Okay, I hope you get it. Speaking span. We have a returning guest, but first time in person in the difference was profound. I couldn't believe that because he, we had him on in COVID and that was revealed when we were talking to him and I had such, I had like, if you would ask me to bet half of my money. Yeah. I would have said we had him in person. Yeah, that's a testament to his charisma even through the computer screen. You thought, you know, of course we're talking about Dave Franco. Dave Franco is an actor and a filmmaker and a cutie pie. His credits include Together. We're greeting you. Now you see me. Hoppers. He has a new movie in theaters August 28th called Idiots and another movie September 25th in theaters called Forgotten Island. Please enjoy the charming Dave Franco. We get support from Quince.

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4:07He's an outstanding sport. Yeah, good to see you. Don't want a nice car. I don't want a nice car. Yes, it is. It's just a nice car. Let's so fucking much I would join you because I have a dazzling collection. Of course. Yeah, car to bees. Have you tried them in here? He kind of perspirationed too much. You'll see at the end of this in this t-shirt, this thin t-shirt, what they see on, I'll be damp as hell. Yeah, okay. Yeah, do run to the air. Look at this cute little space, man. I knew you were Zoom. I know, last time I was over Zoom. Did you remember that? Of course. I mean, I remembered that obviously we had you, but I guess I didn't clock it that it was Zoom, and then I listened to like the first 20 minutes of it, and it was PTSD. July 2020, like three months in. That's wild. I was gonna ask when you guys have returning guests, like, do you go back just to make sure that we don't cover the same stuff? A little bit. Don't worry, I did it. I'm like such a nerd that I'm like, I don't want to repeat myself. You're such a good student. Yeah. That's crazy. I would have bet all my money that you were in person.

5:10In three years ago. That is wild. Yeah, I know. I know. Six years ago. But yeah, of course. What? You know what happens is the other thing is when I go back and they're in that period of quarantine where we're doing Zoom, I have all these feelings about it. One is like anything that was recorded in media for a year is almost singularly about that experience. Yeah, right, right. Exactly what we're just talking about what we're going through in the moment. Yeah. And it's just like unprecedented times. And it was weird looking back on that. Because what, we were like a few months into the pandemic at that point. Yeah. But it was long enough to know that like we were passed. Remember very early on, we were like, okay, this is gonna be two weeks. Yeah. And then we'll go back to normal. But we were at the point where it was like we don't know how long this is going to go and it feels kind of hopeless. We were in like a little bit of a hopeless place. Hey, you were at Apex. Oh, wait, this is actually terrible. Yes. Yeah. Which is why it was nice talking to you guys. It was a nice like a highlight in the middle of that. Okay, I have a quick question because I got to say it made my 2025. And I do wonder if it was reported back to you.

6:11Okay, tell me. So I was on a hike with Jake Johnson and Vincent to Nafrio. And we got up above the observatory and we're just about to take the trail up to the very top. Yeah, yeah. And we ran into your lovely wife, Alice. Okay. She stops. She's like, oh, hey, and we're just chatting. And then she goes like, oh my god, you look great. And she like touches my shoulder. Yeah. And then she goes, and you guys look great. And Jake goes, oh, bullshit. You just knew us. You know, like it was a hysterical moment that Jake Johnson called that. Oh, she first said it to you. And then he's like, oh, you guys also pretty good over there too. She was like actively grabbing my shoulder. Yeah, yeah. And then she was like, oh, wait, I gotta get everyone in there. Yeah. But anyways, the rest of that high guy was just kind of tiptoeing up the hill. Can I say, and this is going to sound like I'm just piling on the hug that I got from you when I came in here. And you're a good hugger. And you gave me that bond. I want to give you that. I want you to feel me because I've been I've been working a little. Yeah, funny enough, I bring up this question to ask you. You're 41 now. Yeah, later this week.

7:12Oh, yeah. Yeah, thank you. So thank you. Yo, okay, so you're about to turn 41. Correct. And you're very spelt. And I was curious. Are you genetically an anomaly? Are you mindful of all this? I think it's par genetics, but I'm definitely mindful. We take care of ourselves. We really look at Kevin Bacon and Kira Seduick. And we're like, look at them, man. They are keeping it tight. They look good. And they've always looked good. And they make him look effortless. Totally. But like Allison, she's been going to this gym rise movement for 15 years now. And it's like some of the best trainers around. And I was like intimidated to go in there for a long time because you got like heavy hitters going in. She is. And she's a bad guy. Oh, my God. It's incredible. I know. Her physique. Yes. Maybe subconsciously, that's why I was staying away. I'm like, I can't have my wife show me up in here. Exactly. But I finally started going in. And it's nice. It's nice to have a trainer. It makes such a difference. Yeah, let's go through it. I think for, and I'd love to know the female perspective.

8:13I think I have a hunch on it. But it's like, even when I was young and started going to the gym at Bally's total fitness in San Bernardino, you had the whole ride there. I have all this anxiety that I'm going to get there. And everyone's going to be so muscular. Yeah, yeah. And then I'm going to be working out and I'm going to look stupid. I'm probably doing it wrong. It's just the amount of fear I have. And it's kind of crazy. It is kind of crazy. They're not shoving the skinny guys around at the gym. Sure. But have you ever been like a really skinny guy? Yeah, when I started. Sure. OK. I was a bean boy. Really like really skinny. My father. I was like, I was like, 23 or 4. Yes, I know the feeling well. But there was some stat that someone threw at me recently. Who knows if it's true. But it was like, when you're working with a trainer, you're working like 60% harder. I believe. Yeah, right. Yeah. And it's like as much as I can do at home, which I was doing it pretty consistently, you kind of plateau. And since I've been going to the gym, I'm like, oh, I feel different. What were you wanting to hear a female opinion on? Yeah. So what's the hurdle when a girl thinks

9:14about first going to the gym? Oh, I see. You guys have like an outfit you got to worry about, probably for starters. Yeah. What are you going to wear? Is there makeup going on before the gym? Not for me. OK. Because that's not good for the skin. Oh, totally. But some people probably do. Other than sole cycle, have you ever been in like a weightlifting gym? Like, have I what's it subscribed? Or just like go onto like an equal nox in like, yes, you have. I have, but I've never joined a gym. Yeah. OK, good. Because I know you can't quit. You know, I've learned about that from friends. Oh, interesting. It's like the Seahort commitment and Scientology. It's like, yeah, I'm saying. Bill, you're like you. They take you in a separate room. I've seen this and I'm scared. So no. Oh, oh, but I was a cheerleader in high school. I had to bring that up. Comptitude cheerleader. And we weight trained three times a week in the football weight training. But with your team, right? Oh, you're a fellow girls without other people. Yeah, I do think it's scary to just you feel like you're in a fish bowl at the gym. People are looking at you.

10:14I know. That's why I like this gym, though. There's only ever like three other people working out. They're at the most. Everyone's kind of in their own world. There's the other famous people. Of course. That's good. Extra motivation, baby. Wow. That's good. But I'll see you look stupid at the gym. Like if you're doing it right, you're like breathing. For sure. For sure. But again, when it's so intimate like that at this gym, you don't care. Everyone's in it. We're all looking like idiots. We're all sweating our ass off. It's fine. Would you feel unethical for you to tell me the biggest celebrity you've seen there working out? Oh my gosh. I only say this because, oh gosh. I'll match you. Okay. When I do charades and we'll get it. Okay. You know, I say this because I think it's known that his trainer is the guy who owns the gym. Oh, great. Is Jake Gyllenhaal? What if it's a funny beast? Jake E.G. Oh, Jake E.G. Well, everything the last that's he's got it all, man. Did you see Roadhouse? Of course.

11:16That vibe, man. It wouldn't quit. No, tell me yours. Put it on me, Jake. What up me, baby? Well, this one's special because A was in the wild. Oh, oh. And I would agree it's like a top five body of all time. In cinema. Go on. Daniel Craig at a hotel in London. Tell me about that in person. Well, sadly, I didn't get to watch him in action. He was exiting with a good sweat and I she. Oh, but he was it was all over. He was he was. Post-coil. And yeah. He had the pump on. What was crazy is our friend Molly was there and she had observed him through the whole workout. Oh, and I was like, Molly, could you just not take your eyes on all of them? She's like, I was so afraid to look at him. Oh, that's interesting. That's cool. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You know what? We respect Molly for not looking at you. Yeah. We don't quite understand the not looking but we respect it. I respect it. I respect it. You can't just be gawking at someone again. Yes. Breathing. People are doing weird breathing. He's in a place though where it's like he's in his element

12:18when he's in that gym. And typically when you're doing something that you love that you know you're good at, you don't mind people gawking a little. He's like a stand up doing his routine. There we go. I like that. I like that. He's throwing the fucking big glass or whatever. Let me circle back real quick to why we started talking about all this. My wife giving you a compliment. Doesn't it feel good coming from Allison? Yeah. You can't imagine. I mean, you can because you're married to her. Every day does she let it rain on you? There's times where she like really lets it flood, man. And I'm just like waking up every day and she's like, you look good. I'm like, really? Tell me more. I'm going. But like she's just this ray of light that it's like when she shines it on you. There's no feeling like it. Tell me more. Because virtually the only line of reasoning that I won't interrupt is you. You've got a lot to say about my physique. I have all day for that. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm just so right. Well, it's a good trick if you want to get you to stop talking. That is. It's easy. It's a steamroll. Yeah.

13:18I'll say this about Christmas. Christen has found the magic ratio of withholding approval from me and giving me a proof. Interesting. Because I don't do well if I think someone likes me too much or I have a quote fan. I don't want to find Getcha. Does it ever get to the point with her though where it feels like she's going too far? No, this is what I'm saying is I tip my hat to her for 19 years somehow. She's kept me at like 1% below what I want. Okay. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, yeah, yeah. So I'm wondering is something to work up to still? How do you do with too much affection? I don't know. Like here's what it is. I want to win her over every day. Oh, I get it. Where are you at? That's interesting. I don't know if I put a limit on it. Just shower me, baby. You should let me have it. That's honest. That's what it is. When she is like feeling super cuddlier affectionate, I think my natural inclination is to be like, stop. But I actually bring it up because there's this hilarious moment.

14:19And I had already heard the story the first time you were on about the wonderful night in New Orleans where you guys had your 72 hours of bliss. But a new detail I heard in my research this go round was that after that first night of fun, when you woke up in the morning, she was gently kissing your shoulder. Oh, yeah, man. See, now that's the kind of thing that might make me panic. It's interesting because with the wrong person, that's panic material. Yeah. So basically we had this crazy first night together. Literally on drugs, just going nuts. And I think we said it before, we slept together the first night and then we wake up. And she wakes me up with these gentle little bad kisses. And like, wow, yeah, that could go either way. Totally good for her. Good for her for you. Well, she must have known. Yeah, but what she reminded me of recently, she told me maybe was that next morning, she was like, hey, I'm not looking for anything serious. I'm here to basically like, let's fuck around

15:20until you find the girl that you're gonna marry. And I was like, whoa, did you mean that? Or was that a boy? Monica, how are you in terms of withholding, giving affection? I'm pretty withholding. Okay. I think. Why is that? I think I can be quite affectionate. I also didn't grow up with a lot of like physical affection or even I would say verbal affection. Okay, yeah, yeah. So it's not like all that natural to me. It really requires a full body butterfly. Like I can't not. I get that. Do you feel a little even uncomfortable or vulnerable when you're fully going for it with someone? Even with friends, will you allow yourself to be like very effusive with friends? Perry, that's a good question. Well, you can feel it. Yeah, I think she's a lot better at doing it behind their back. Oh, that's interesting. Yeah, so I think she doesn't have it. I just think you're more prone to like tell all of us how spectacular Jess is before you would ever tell Jess how spectacular. Yeah, that's right. And then so there's something interesting there.

16:22Yeah, I know, I know. I don't want anyone's like a dick at two. I mean, I will if somebody's down. Oh, oh, oh. Maybe if somebody's down, I do think I'm like, what do you mean? You're so great. But if someone's doing great, they're flying like, I don't need to boost them even further. Oh, my goodness. Can I ask this really tasty question? Of course. You think it's if that you lay it on that much and they realize how great they are, they won't want to be around you. I feel like people are the opposite. I feel like if you're telling someone how great they are, they're like, oh, I want that person around me all the time, right? Yeah. Well, we know that to be true. Right. But I think a lot of people think their friends with somebody that's out of their league or they're dating someone out of their league. And that's why dudes who are insecure want to control their ladies. That's why they're nagging them. Like they think, oh, if I lower their self, the steam, they'll feel like I'm worthy of them. These sound like unhealthy relationships. Oh, yeah. I'm thinking of the people in my life who are like my close circle.

17:23I want to tell them every second how great they are. I want to build them up. I don't think that's how I love. That's okay. I think most people, maybe I'm wrong, we'd have to do a poll. But I think most people who I do love who I'm very close to feel loved by me. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I don't think that they're like, yeah. Through your actions. A lot of it's through my actions. I also do a lot of checking in. I am very much like, I haven't talked in a while. Yeah, yeah. Instead of just like, I love you. You're so great. So it's different approaches. But when we think about this, this makes me think how are you guys in terms of, because I was just talking to a friend about this the other day, are you guys generous lappers? Yes. Well, I know I am and I don't know what it was like before the Grandlings, but I certainly know because I was at the Grandlings and on Wednesday nights, everyone all week long has written five or six sketches. So you watch a hundred sketches from like 6 p.m. to one in the morning. Well, it's a team as people who love each other, like you show up for those sketches. And if your sketch goes up at 10 o'clock at night, everyone knows like, let's fucking go.

18:24Yeah. So I think I did have years of really learning to be that way. Yeah. But I'll be at table reads and stuff. And I'm like, guys, what the, why aren't you giving it up? Maybe they think it's rude. I don't know. How about you? I think I am. I think I am. And it's nice. It's nice to be around those people who are always laughing. It is. If you really break it down, there might be a tiny bit of insincereity. Maybe. But like for the most part, they're just want to have a good time. And they're just trying to encourage you keep. Yeah. Of all the things you get caught doing, trying to make someone feel good by adding 10% to the lack of, like I'll live with getting busted for that. Totally. That is very true. I was talking to my buddy and he was like, I don't know if I'm a generous laugher. And I think that is something that I actually can change about myself and that I do want to change going forward because he's a funny guy himself. Right. And maybe that's why he's not a generous laugher because he's like, I want you to earn it from me. I'm around really funny people. If I'm going to laugh, I want to really laugh. He's ahead of it sometimes. Maybe. Maybe he's not coming. Yeah. Well, also, nothing's tricky because I have kids as well. And I did feel this crazy obligation.

19:26I'm like, I also need to teach them what funny is. So I'm not laughing at their shitty joke. Okay. They'll know when it's real. Yes. When they get me. Okay, this is a dangerous one. I'm going to say it anyways because I'll stand by the fact that it is not racist. Oh, boy. Good way in to any story. Absolutely. So we ordered Katsuyu, our favorite sushi place on Friday night. And everyone's kind of waiting. You know, I was impatiently waiting for the food. Someone was like, where's the food? I look it up and I go, okay, the Japanese food will be here in 13 minutes. And my kids are on high alert for anything racist or homophobic right. Because they're little kids in our life. And they go, dad, as soon as I say Japanese food. And I go, guys, it is Japanese food. That there's nothing racist going on. You're allowed to say Japanese. Right. So it was basically I'm three to one. But then five minutes later, the little ones watching TV. And she goes, dad, what's that Japanese food get here? That's a great call, guys.

20:28I was just leveled. Yes. Yes. Because I was so unexpected because I was already in trouble. And she flipped. That's good. That's good. But like when you don't laugh at one of their jokes, it doesn't deter them. They're not like, oh, I'm going to, oh, I feel like, oh, I can't maybe put myself out there again. Yeah, I don't shame them. Yeah, this is my own. It's not like good at times. Not funny. Try again. I'm not passing on like accounting skills to them or manufacturing wherewithal. It's like, I know one thing. You got something that you really can't pass on? That's all I have to pass on. Both of their parents are funny. Exactly. Some automotive knowledge. You know who the friend I was talking about who's trying to be more of a generous laugher is Hunter Cope who you did his show, The Perfect Parfait. Oh my god. And Hunter loves you. And he really appreciates you coming on the show. That was so fun. Oh, good. Is he single? Hunter is not. He's not in the open to a divorce. Yeah. God, if I pay for the legal fees. He's pretty newly married. Okay. We can dissect it. We can check it. We need to let that linger for a little bit. But Hunter, he's got this interview show

21:29that has some DNA from Between Two Furns. Yeah. And Monica went on and he truly said, you were the greatest and I watched your episode. And you were just such like a team player. You were just game for everything. That's so nice. Well, you know, part of the reason I went on is I was like, what's this? I was like, I'm going to go to my agent. Yeah. And then I was like, oh, Dave did it. I'll do it. Is that why I really? Oh, cool. Oh, good. Yeah, it's like, oh, you signing up on this. And then it was so fun. They're very fun. Yeah, yeah. It's nice when you see your friends do something that is just so purely them. Yeah. It's just like unfiltered Hunter this show. And what that means is on this show, he's asking me about anal English. Yeah. Yeah. Scar's guard brother, I'd rather fuck. Yeah. But like that's Hunter. Yeah. Yeah. That's like this show really. Oh, I was going to say that when we were talking earlier about intimacy sort of, I think holding hands is more intimate than anal English. Is that of true statement? I mean, I never thought to just say I get the hyperbole

22:32not her go. Yeah. But I do think it's the most intimate thing you can do is holding definitely than kissing. But Monica, I have to throw a hypothetical. Yeah. You just got an Uber ride home from the airport, filling the blanks to who the dude is. You know, I, and at the end, you're about to get out and Angel comes out and goes to save the world. Do you either have to hold his hand or have him butt fuck you? What are we picking? How long we holding the hand for? As long as the butt fucking would take that. Are we going? fingers interlocked? Lots of caressing while holding hands. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. How's the way he's the head? It's a plan. Well, he's been driving. He's been driving. He's a dirt bag. He's a dirt bag. He's a dirt bag. He's a dirt bag. He's a dirt bag. Yeah. If it was a stranger, I'd hand hold. It's not when it's a stranger. It's if you're on a date, like I went on a date with someone and he started holding my hand and I was like, oh no. Get me out of this. My ass is yours to do with as you wish.

23:34Yeah. Just picking this apart. The holding is very intimate, like we're in a relationship. This is a more serious thing. A butt fuck. It just feels a little more raw. A little more raw. Where is more trust? Well, I mean the butt fuck. Well yeah, of course. Yeah. Trust me, I'm trying to get on board with her theory here. I don't agree with you, but I'm trying to see your side of it. It's because. That's okay. More trust in that. Cause they could do something bad to me. You need them to. Really, you need them to be proceeding at a velocity in tempo, they have to be very dialed into what you're up to. It feels like you're kind of remembering one instance where someone may be held your hand that you didn't like it. Yeah, I really didn't like it. But it was just the wrong guy at the wrong time. I know, but even like sometimes just my best friends, sometimes we'll grab my hand. He's my best friend, I love him, but I'm like, oh, it does something weird to me holding hands. Can I hold your hand by the end of this interview?

24:35And then, Gax, I want you to feel me up. I hope we stop talking to you all the time. That's what I mean. And then, just do it. Do whatever you want otherwise. Yeah. I'm not gonna get to make this a full circle. You'll be making me a salad. Oh, great. Yeah, that's fun. How fun. Okay, but I want to circle back to, so when she said the part about inflating someone, and I made the other way, I just get a little sweaty, thinking about holding your hand. I'll continue, continue. Yeah, I'll be a dream strike. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Cause you know how high the stakes are. Sure. You either be a life partner or not, I know, and I just want to change your whole mindset on this. Oh, that's really nice. But the thing I was touching on with her, giving a lot of compliments to me, asking if her fear would be than they would might leave her. It was a pattern that she had told me about before, which so many people have, which is like, you're into somebody, you think they're out of your league. And then lo and behold, they start liking you. And then what the brain does, cause it's corrupt, is it says, not, oh, yeah, I got the thing. It goes, oh, you're not as good as I thought you were, cause you like me. Oh, yeah, yeah. I'm not into you cause I went me into someone that likes me. So you can wrap your head around that frame of mind, right?

25:38Oh, 100%. But that isn't you right? Cause the approval thing doesn't appeal to you or wanting to win it. Gosh, I guess I can only just talk about my own experience. Like when I first met Allison, and I know this is a rare thing, and I personally don't always feel this, but when we met each other for whatever reason, both of us just allowed ourselves to be vulnerable and just be like, Hey, I'm in. Let's not play any games. This might not work. One of us might get hurt. We both might get hurt. But for whatever reason, there's an energy here that I feel safe to just go all in on. No protection. Exactly. Yeah, yeah. Didn't even use economy first. I was like, my own. I did. I did. Yeah, the only protection. The only responsible thing you did that. Because what I love about you as a kid, I find this so endearing, you just were so in love with being in love, right? You were sensitive and you were listening to music. Oh, oh, yeah. And you got a girlfriend, a home, a very young age. And then you had another girlfriend on Valentine's Day. You went to every single classroom and to put a rose in the classroom shoot,

26:38get it and then you've later admitted it was way too early to do it. I was sensitive romantic boy. Yeah, yeah. It is interesting because I guess think it about even like my dating history before obviously I met Alison, I had always been the person who, I didn't have many one night stands. I would kind of meet someone through a friend and whether it became like a real thing or just for a few months, it was never a quick thing really. It was always like, ooh, I don't know how to do just a quick thing with someone that I have no connection with, which also became tricky because when you kind of have a connection enough to hang out for a few months, then feelings do get involved. It was a little tricky and I've getting that, but I guess this is a long way of saying, I don't know how to just kind of be that guy who's like, oh, I'm not going to be nice to you. I'm going to just come in. We're going to fucking that's it. So I know at least minimally a couple of times you got broken up with. Definitely my heartbroken for sure, yes. So these girls that broke up with you. Yeah. I mean, you're so fucking cute. It gives me butterflies a little bit.

27:38I'm not even kidding you. Like the way you smile and close your eyes and I see your wisdom teeth are so cute. And you're so, no one's ever talking about these eyes wisdom teeth. I've been waiting my whole life. Thank you for your years, baby. Move it around. But you're so cute and you're really, really smart and you have got a great personality. So I guess my question is why were these girls leaving you? And do you think it's because you were too available that you didn't withhold enough? You know what's interesting? When I'm thinking about this one person, it might have been that. I was all in where I was like, this is the person I'm going to marry. Without going too much into it again, I didn't hold back. She knew exactly how I felt. I was going above and beyond to let her know. And even when I could feel a change, I knew things were changing and how she felt about me. I wouldn't allow myself to accept it. I was like, okay, she's not treating me great, but that's okay. This is the woman I'm going to marry.

28:39This is a face. So my wife doesn't like me. Okay. I've heard that's normal. But it would be, not that I would ever ask for this, but it would be interesting to be like, hey, was he too available? Was he piling it on too hard? Yeah, and you know what's interesting is like, that is the right thing to do. I would not want to suggest people shouldn't do that. What I will say for a lot of people, I think that's the line you're trying to tow. And sadly because I think a lot of us are very insecure and a lot of us are operating like Monica did and how I did. I was constantly figuring out what girl I couldn't get and then spending my entire waking life trying to get them. And then if I got them, just this mask confusion would follow. I didn't like myself more, which I thought was supposed to happen. Like why don't I now think I'm worthy of that? Yeah. And then it just gets all murky. What I'll say about just this girl I was just talking about, I wouldn't have done anything differently. It's not like knowing what I know now, I'd go back and be like, ooh, maybe I should be a little more coy and not give her everything because ultimately she wasn't the girl for me.

29:40Exactly. And what I'll argue is she might have been insecure whereas Allison is very secure. Up to me, definitely seems like Bale where it's just like some pre-natural fucking confident. For sure. That was part of the reason I was drawn to Allison, it was like she knows who she is, she's very confident, she's so independent, she doesn't need me, but maybe I can bring a little extra boost to her life. Yeah. So if you look cute dude like you is super into her, she's not thinking something's wrong with the cute dude who's super into me because I'm not worthy of that. Yes, yes. So I guess that is if you can assess appropriately, your partner is a little insecure then I do think it's at least tactically advisable to monitor that. And then like we slowly lift the self esteem over time. I don't know, I agree with Dave. I feel like all it means is it's not the right match. You are you. So if you are trying to not be you to sort of do this thing for this other person it's like it's just not gonna work for us. It might last for a while but you're not gonna maybe be happy. Exactly. Ultimately you're just not the right fit.

30:41With Allison, as open as we are with each other and as much as like we don't hold back on affection when she's watching a project of mine, I know if she really likes it. That's what makes you can't hide no matter what. And when I get hurt a laugh there's literally no better feeling in the world. I remember the first time she was watching the studio and I've never seen her laugh at me like that. And it just like it gives me goose bumps even say it right now. And I was like, ooh I got it. There's cat in yadda. Oh it's so lovely. Okay I had one curiosity. You are not on social media and people are astounded by that and I've heard you answer questions about that already. So I'm hoping to bring a novel question to the table on this topic, which is, because you're not in the bubble with the rest of us, do you feel like you have a unique perspective as an outsider of watching us all get infected by these memetic moments that sweep through social media? An example I'll give is like currently we're all obsessed with ADHD. Oh, and I don't think if I had Instagram

31:43I would think about it at all. I'm not aware of that yeah. Okay so you're not aware of it but you don't observe, like are you ever somewhere and it's like you notice seven people at dinner are all talking about some topic where you're going like how is everyone abreast of this weird topic? Yeah you know what it is? It's more going off of what I just said where I'm just blissfully unaware. I don't even know what the trends are. And because of that I actually do feel a little on the outside sometimes where I'm like I don't know what people are talking about. I don't know what the latest trends are. Is that affecting my own creativity of what I'm putting out there where I want it to be relevant? I wanted to hit the zeit guys. But like so there is fear of that I guess of just not being tapped into what's happening but at the same time it's worth it for me to not have the mental anguish of being on social media. I just know for me no shame to anyone else. I get the advantage of it. I get why it's so addictive. I get all the stuff but it just scares me. I just don't want to put myself out there to a bunch of strangers who inevitably will tear me down

32:46every single day. I don't want that negativity in my life on a daily basis. I love it you are too sensitive for it. Maybe and maybe I'm too sensitive for it to get it in there. I think we are. That's why everyone's like so messed up right now. I know. Stay tuned for more armchair expert. If you dare we are supported by all state. Checking all state first could save you hundreds on car insurance. Not checking whether someone is actually waving at you before waving back. You saw the wave you went big and then they walked right past you to greet the person behind you. Yeah. Checking first is an excellent plan. So check all state first for an auto quote. It could save you hundreds. You're in good hands with all state. Potential savings vary subject to terms, conditions, and availability all state North American insurance company and affiliates North Brook Illinois. We get support from YouTube premium. Okay, I got to tell you something. I just got YouTube premium this year and it's completely enhanced how I use YouTube.

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37:56or anything shitty about me or my family, you're just gone. You're blocked. This is the party I'm hosting. I don't want someone like that at my party. I've figured out a way to do it where it's not. Because I am very sensitive to it. Would you say though almost every day, you'll still come across something that gives you a little pang. It makes you feel bad. Totally. I'll tell you the even weirder thing is that I will often instead of blocking someone, I'll restrict them, which means that they're free to comment, but it'll never be seen by anyone. And they don't know that. You can see it. No one else can say it. Exactly. So if someone comments on my thing and I don't like it, I can restrict them. And then going forward, they're not blocked. They go to my page, it looks the same. They'll write a comment. They don't know nobody can see it. What does that do for you? Well, I'll tell you what it does for me is like, I took this from Kristen who took that approach. She gives people on their calling or you know, a devil for vaccines. Crazy shit. And she's like, I don't want those comments on my thing, but I want that person still exposed to how I'm living my life because I want to win them over. Oh, that's interesting.

38:56I was like, oh, that's fascinating. Yeah, I guess I still want my message. I don't want to exclude someone from something I believe in putting out there. But anyways, this is all to say. People have written terrible things, right? And I'm like, oh, they hate me. Why are they following me? They hate the show. Why do they listen to it? And then I'll notice when I uncover the restricted so I can read it, it's like a really beautiful comment three days later or a week later. Really? And I've had to acknowledge, oh yeah, I'm also putting way too much weight on the one I saw. Like they could have been cranky. They might not feel that way all the time. It might have felt that way for four minutes and made a comment. Like I've written them off as an asshole. Yeah, yeah. And then I've had to recognize, oh, they're back and they've written something lovely. So that's been kind of eye-opening. That all makes sense to me. I guess I'm curious if there's an element of it too because you can see it and no one else can see it. Is there something where when you put something out there, you almost don't want that person to infect how other people view your thing, right? And largely it's protective of the guests. Because generally, most of my posts are just episodes of the show. I do not want one of our guests to go see

39:57how people like the episode and see shitty things about the show. It makes a lot of sense to me. And that's very kind of you to protect the guests because it's for our guests. That makes a lot of sense to me. Okay. What's your relationship with social media right now? I hate it and I'm on it. And I don't see how to get off. Like I don't see it end in sight because also for promotion, for the show and work and campaigns and all these things and it feels like I need it. But I only look at the comments, the first chunk of comments that are people, not only who follow me, who I know. Are the first chunk always from people you know do they filter those to talk? People you follow. Prioritize who you follow. Okay. Okay, that's nice. I just look at those people and then I stop once I get to the first one that I don't know. Just being totally candid. Yeah. I gotta imagine sometimes you get a little curious and go further. I don't. Good for you. That's amazing. One time I got in trouble on here for something and then I got curious. Okay. Yeah, anytime you're in trouble, you're kind of breaking up. And not the worst time to be doing it.

40:58Yeah, yeah, yeah. But I was like, oh, no, oh my God, they're saying this. Oh, no. So that was bad. But for the most part, I'm very, and we've had so many conversations about this because he used to look at the comments on our armchair page and I was like, don't do it. Because did it actually affect how you were in here? We would get, sometimes it would not in here, but I think like, well, we should do this and it's like, well, we don't need to necessarily do that. That's one person saying this. I think it would really affect me is like, I read it and I can intellectually write that off. That's a person with a parrot on their shoulder. But three hours later, I'm driving down the 101, absent mindfully thinking, and the comment just flashes across my eyes. And I'm like, oh, it has an effect. I mean, more than I'm willing to admit, is there any part of it that you feel like you're missing? Like is there anything that sometimes you go, like, huh, maybe I do want. Yeah, I mean, some of these trends seem fun. I'd be curious to participate in that every once in a while and there's an element of, especially within my people I know on Instagram, they follow each other, they keep up on each other's lives.

41:58Yeah. Instagram is seeing pictures of their kids and stuff. And so I'm definitely missing out on that. Do you have hobbies? I've realized recently that my hobbies sadly are revolving around my work a little bit. I don't even know if you'd call that a hobby, but it's like, I've gone to the point where when I have time off, I get excited because I'm like, oh, I have time to write now. Yeah. Yeah. So I don't know how healthy or unhealthy that is, but maybe it says something about how I feel very lucky that my work is something that I love to do and that even on my off time, I want to keep working. Yeah. I think that's great. And more of the reason that you don't need an Instagram because like I love off-roading and motorcycle. Yeah, right. And cars and boats, I'm seeing the coolest new boat. Oh, yeah. Some do this with a motorcycle. Like I'm just like, oh, all my hobbies, I'm kind of following accounts that are people doing my hobbies. And I love that. That's cool. The only other way it hurts me is that I've never really done like a paid campaign. That's what I was about to ask. That's such a huge part of it is they need people with Instagram or with social media followers. 100% And no one wants me. That's trust me.

42:58We've tried. No one wants me. Have you ever been in a commercial? It's been a while. What was the last spot? Who? I did these two, you know, ODEA MADs. Exactly. You know, Madden, the video game. Oh, yeah. So I did these two back-to-back Madden commercials. They're so cool. They put so much money in it. They get like real NFL players. It was so fun. I did one with Kevin Hart and then one with my buddy Chris Mints Plus. And I think the reason that maybe I was able to do the first one with Kevin Hart is because they're like, oh, Kevin can take care of the, he's got enough followers. That may be we can pair him with someone who people maybe like a little bit, but like he's not going to help us on the social media front. Allison and I in the past handful of years, we've found a way and we feel very lucky that we've been able to kind of like build these projects from the ground up. When you do that, it's so much work. It kills you every step of the way until the movie is released for years. But for those projects, these passion projects, you're making no money. It's all for the passion. And so it is amazing when Allison does do these campaigns

44:00sometimes in one day, in four hours, she is making 100 times the amount that we made on our passion project that we spent four years on. Yeah, but it's a given time. Because I think that's how you have the money to do those things. Okay, now you and I share a funny distinction that not a lot of people have earned. And I feel like it's a real two-sided coin. So you were voted like sexy as cat owner. People sexy as cat dad. It's something like that, yeah. And I similarly had a very small window in that issue as like a dog owner. Okay, they call it good news. You're going to be sexy. And I'm like, you mean Kristen's dogs? Did I tolerate that's the only way I got into that issue. And it was for having a dog. And I felt like flatter and very disappointed. We'll let feelings all flattery daily. Oh, no. This is the selfish mean to come on, man. With not to like. Oh, God. Here's the thing. Here's the thing. I realized a long time ago that being the guy who's obsessed

45:03with cats, especially when I was the single guy obsessed with cats, that was a rarity. And I realized that when it started coming up in every interview I did. And people couldn't wrap their heads around. I was like, is this not normal for a single guy to have two 18 pound cats? Were they manacus or whatever they call it? Not even. They were just big tabbies. They were just big boys. They just grow up with cats. Yeah, okay. And you know, also at the time having 36 cumulative pounds of cat also weeded out the dating pool. Not a lot of girls are down with that. Right. I don't know. There we go. Would that be a deal breaker though? No, not if it was you and there were some keys. But you know, all that. Plus though coming on pretty hard at all times. What's that? The cats plus coming off. Oh, it's an energy for sure. That's a unique energy. It's like this guy. I know. I know. Nobody actually makes sense because aren't cats also

46:04withholding. And so you're trying to get their affection. This is it. We're dying to keep. We're getting deep guys. I'm starting to sweat. I'm starting to sweat. God, this is so fascinating. Because like they are very sweet cuddly cats and they adore us. But like they're not giving it to us all the time. We got to earn it. Except these cat dad, baby. Yeah. So when I hear about this, I'm like, you know what? I feel like I've been silently campaigning for this my whole life. And if anything, I'm like trying to use this platform to be like, here's what I want to change. Is there's a stigma against cats in popular culture where every movie, every animated thing, cats are the villains? Yeah. And I'm like, no, you look at the movie flow. Did you guys see flow? No. See you guys aren't cat people. I was shaking my head, yes. But I was thinking of hustle with flow. Oh my god. No, no, no. No, no, no. Flow is a movie, foreign film that came out maybe a year or two ago. And the cat is finally the hero.

47:05And guess what? It won the fucking Academy Award. Oh, shit. Oh, shit. Let's change the narrative. That's why we haven't given him a shot. It's like they're going to sweep everything. That's true. You love your foreign films. Where are you viewing all these foreign films? That was a big movie though, wasn't it? It was. Yeah, best, best. But he's also seen every single foreign film. Oh, really? I guess that's part of not having kids is we have time to watch everything. And like, the reason why we're doing all this is because we love movies. And I know that's like an obvious thing to say. But like yesterday, we watched four movies. And like Sunday, we really kind of cherish our Sundays where we're like, lazy Sunday, it's just us. We mostly don't leave the house back to back to back movies just in bed with the castle. Okay. Was it now you see me three? The newest one. Where you in Woody, which by the way, just had the honor of working with recently. Oh, you did. Yeah. Recently. February. I think January's February. Okay, very recently. Isn't Woody a trip? I love him. We interviewed him. He interviewed me for, he and Ted show.

48:07Then we interviewed him. Yeah, he was so fun. And then to me, Maling, talk about someone I like. He's one of a kind. He's living life better and harder than anyone I've ever met. He's literally floating. Nothing bad can happen to Woody. Yet also always has an injury. Should he show us? He's in a small family. Literally. That is interesting. When we interviewed him, he had just crashed some motorcycle. Yeah. When I worked with him, I said he like limped in, couldn't put a shoe on because he fucked up three of his tons. I'm picturing him showing up on set, just gashing the middle of his forehead. That happened. Yeah. Yeah. He's doing both. He's got receipts. When you live that hard, something's going to come back. Yeah. But Woody has the best sense of humor, not all the injury. He could care less. The most fun guy in the world. I heard you tell a story when you did, like, show. Oh, yeah, yeah. About partying with him. Was that on three where you guys like in Manila? Oh, we were in Macau in a Hong Kong. So we were filming in Macau, which is like the vagus of China. And we had the weekend off. And so a few of us, we were like, let's go to Hong Kong.

49:09Just have a nice little adventure in Hong Kong. Wherever we go, Woody has some sort of hook up. And so he had this white guy in Hong Kong named Jazz. Oh, my God. That's what he was. Yeah. That's Jazz, the hair guy. No, by the end of the night, we were all just like, you got a little jazz on your head. So Jazz is leading us like, we're not getting the authentic Hong Kong experience. We're going to like these restaurants where it's like, also a club. And so anyway, cuts to the end of the night. We go to Woody's hotel room. And he's on like the 50th floor. And of course, he's in the one room where you can actually open the window. Because Woody has this whole thing about fumes and just clean living. He needs some fresh air in there, right? Again, the paradox that is Woody, which is like, he's injured, but he's floating above everything. He's so healthy, but he is not healthy. Exactly. Exactly. I love it. So we're in Woody's room. It's 4 a.m. We've been partying with Jazz for fucking hours. So at one point, it's 4 a.m. We're all fucked up. So we talk about Woody in his socks, is now standing on the open window sill, cackling.

50:16Thinks is the funniest thing in the world. We're looking over. We're like, Woody, this isn't funny, dude. Yeah. And we're about to fucking watch Woody Harrelson Fally 50 floors. And we're going to be fucking like it's going to be on us. Exactly. Exactly. This is not a time to be a generous laugh. Boyle, he doesn't die. He thinks it's the funniest thing in the world when he's an inch away from fucking death. He also might have survived that fall. Oh, he probably would have had a little fucking. Oh, that's so scary. Well, you gotta keep in mind too. We've been partying all night, too. So we're not thinking straight. We don't know what to do. It's just this like, oh, God, the worst thing that could possibly happen. We just blew past the fact that he does have a man in Hong Kong. Which is nuts, but he's just world traveler. He's just one of those guys wherever he goes. He's just pied pipe or everyone's following him. Everyone wants to be friends with Woody. That could be a fun reality show. Yeah. Woody doesn't know where he's going. Yes. We take him to a country and then he has an hour to get the fixer.

51:20And it's like a test to see will he have a guy in Nairobi that he knows. And just to see how big of a crowd he assembles within a short amount of time. Yeah. Just like, okay, Woody, how many people can you get in this city? Such a fine line. You could have definitely for the rest of your life. Oh, views like this and it's like, so what happened? And that's my legacy for the rest of my life. Exactly. You're connected with that. No, I had a moment recently. Oh, God. We were in Venice Italy and we were at the Guggenheim Museum. Beautiful museum. Very small, very curated. And I'm in this room. Most of the artists paint things on the wall or whatnot. In the middle of the room, there's this table and these little tiny figurines on the table. And I'm talking to my friend and I'm backing up and I bump into the table and it literally rocks a little bit. And in the moment, we were like, we're okay. That's fine. Not a big deal. We looked up those figurines. Like 80 million dollars.

52:23And right. That's my legacy for the rest of my life. Oh, no. Oh, no. And when I found that out, Hort Palpatations, I was like, oh my God, I was that close to my entire life changing forever. That's on the Guggenheim though. They need like a rope. It is. We were also joking around a little bit. We were having a good time at the Guggenheim. It's a lie. Yeah, bro, what would be good? A room for a free smart. You travel quite a bit for work. Yeah. Have you mastered like A does Alice in Comic-Gen? You don't have kids, which is incredible. Do you guys go with each other when you are shooting? And then B, have you figured out how to be living your life while you're there as opposed to just hitting paws and then working? Have you made an art out of filming in Venice and actually taking the day and going to do the things? What I love to do when I go to a new city for a while is I'll find all the best food spots. And part of that is I have the greatest friend in the world. He is someone I've noticed I was 10 years old and he happened to be one of the creators of Chef's Table. And so he literally has job to travel the world and try the best food. And so no matter what city I'm in, he's got me a list.

53:25And so I start with his list. And then when I go to a place that I really love, I'll ask the people who work there. I'm like, what are your local spots? Where do you love it? I just compile this list and I feel like it's a really good way to get to know a city just by eating the food and talking to the people at these restaurants. And so I really try to like, hey, this is an opportunity to get to know a new place for three months. And in terms of Alice in Coming with me, we're pretty good at it. I mean, we've been very, very lucky that we both been pretty busy for a bit. And so it's hard to have one of us go with the other for a long period of time. But we'll definitely make trips out of it. And we'll find out the week I have off and have her come out and really explore the city together. We've been pretty good at finding ways to make being a part bearable. Part of that, and I've talked about this before. And this is going to be the cheesiest thing I say, this entire podcast, but stay with me. Basically when we're apart from each other, and this has been since day one, instead of going to sleep and writing like, good night, love you, text, we essentially write a love letter to each other every night.

54:26On paper or via text? It can be a few things. It's usually just a stream of consciousness, things that happened that day that made you think of something in the past. An old photo that you came across, you can get really creative right up home, you can do whatever. And what it does is it really makes you kind of sit there and think about the other person in a real way, no matter how tired you are. Let's say I'm in New York, she's in LA, so I go to bed first. So she gets my text before she goes to bed, and I wake up in New York, and I start my day with hers, and so to end and start the day where you're really focused on each other, I swear to God, it's part of the reason why we're so together. That's incredible. But it takes work. You gotta sit there no matter how tired you are. Yeah. And sometimes you're apart for four months. What is that? 120 texts? Have you ever woken up to a stinker? You know, like, she didn't put the time in. I mean, some of them you're re-trading certain territory. You're like, I've heard that one before. But that's part of the fun too, is finding new ways to tell her how much you love her. It's almost a writing exercise. Totally. 14 years. I know. 14 years, yeah. That's a big number.

55:26I know. It's not like you're two years in, you're in your honeymoon, but you're not. But I think that work is what makes it feel that way. What's cool too, and again, very cheesy, very cliche, but like, it's getting better. And that's when you know you found the right person, you just settle into this thing that's so fun, and we just laugh together. It's just a good time. I thought of another fun trip story. Oh, I think it's the one. Yeah. Okay, so my publicist reached out at the end of last year, and she goes, hey, I received something. I don't know if it's real, but let me know if you want me to look into it. And it was an invite for me and Allison to go meet the Pope at the Vatican. And I go, yeah, look into it. She's doing some digging. And it's like this very mysterious thing. Like she can't really get any details, but she gets to a point where she's like, okay, this seems very real.

56:27And so my next question was, why did they invite us? Right. So she goes, you know, it's this thing celebrating cinema. And I was like, okay, why did they invite us? Yeah, yeah, yeah. And so anyway, we're like, we're going to go with what an honor once in a lifetime thing. So we fly ourselves out the room. Well, good. You just answered a question. Yeah, because Sidaris has a great short story about him being invited. David Sidaris. Oh, oh, being invited with all these comedians to meet the Pope. Okay, yes, it's an incredible short story. Okay, I got to go all the time. I was reading it. When they invite you, do they fly you? They don't. We didn't get flown. Those bitches are rich, though. The Catholic Church. They're not the government. I'm happy to pay. I'll come. Okay. We get in the dress where they drop us off on this kind of street corner outside of the Vatican. And we get there and there's maybe a hundred other people and seemingly mostly Italian. But then some people who it makes a lot more sense than being there, like, Cape Lanchet and Vigil Morin Singh. Primo. Greta Gerwig. Exactly. Exactly.

57:27Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. We're just looking at each other. We're like, just keep your head down. And don't ask any questions. So they bring us through this back beautiful entrance of Vatican City. And we eventually get to this gorgeous room. All these seats lined up. Everyone takes a seat. Pope comes out. We all stand standing ovation. And he gives this beautiful 20-minute speech, basically about the importance of movies. And I found out after the fact like how important this was because I was talking to some of the Italians who were there and they were telling me, I guess pretty recently, there was conversations of getting rid of all movie theaters in Italy. And so to have the Pope speaking out about like the importance of cinema, it's a huge deal. So then everyone lines up to meet him. You know, you get like 10 seconds with the Pope. And so we knew this was coming. So going into it, we were like, what do you say to the Pope? We kind of Googled fun facts about Pope Leo to see if there's any common ground. And I found one. And it's that he's also the youngest of three brothers. And I was like, what an in.

58:28Yes. Okay. So we're in line and we're looking ahead. And we're seeing him interacting with other people. And like, you know, he's being very warm, very gracious, clearly listening intently giving people their moments. For new immigrants. He's American, right? He's from Chicago. Right. And he's the first American Pope as far as I know. I'm pretty sure. It's very warm interactions, but he's got a pretty straight face. You know, he's not emoting too much. And so we get up there, Alison's before me. And she says something along the lines of like, you know, thank you for inviting us. Like what a beautiful speech and so on. So you should have grabbed his shoulder and said you're in great shape. Yeah. Totally. She won't. Yeah. You will not lie. So she goes to the side and now it's my turn. And I'd say to him, hey, I am also the youngest of three brothers. And I just wanted to say thank you for everything you've been doing for younger brothers everywhere. And Alison looks back and the Pope is smiling. And she's like, your mother, Parker. And I realize at that moment, the Pope is heard everything. Hundred percent or that.

59:28Yeah. You have this beautiful photo of me shaking his hand. And he smiling. Oh, no. It is so wonderful. I don't want to see that. Is that on the line? I can. You'll show it to you right now. Yeah, I got it. And let's see. Okay, here we go. All right. So. God, you're quick with a phone. I'm shocked. You're not on social media. You were kidding me. Twelve minutes to find a photo. I said you're with Alison. Pretty straight face to the Pope, right? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Look at that little smile. Oh, I am. I am. Tables are out, maybe. That's the thing. That's the Pope. Oh, my God. That's so cute. I feel like he's not even allowed to do that. Oh, interesting. No, he broke the law. Bro, he is. He's a good. He's a good. We've had to bring that up in confession. Smile that a Joe. Oh, yeah. What if he reimbursed you for your flight? Just you. Okay, the last time you were here, I just find this interesting. You were here to promote the rental, which you had directed. Yeah. It was number one at the box office.

1:00:30Right. At 400 grand, which already might be a record for number one. That is saying. So we came out the very beginning of the pandemic. No other movies were coming out. And the distributor that we are with was like, let's come out. There's power to coming out now because there's no competition for, I think the second time ever in the history of film, we were number one at the box office and on VOD at the same time. Wow. All I have been twice. And again, there's a little bit of an asterisk to it. No, no, no, no, take it. Yeah, we just take it. It's like sexy as cat dad. Whatever. We're going to take it. That's right. That's right. We'll take what we can get. No, and we just must publicly folate you over the studio. Appreciate that. What a ride you took us on. Oh, man. You're so good in it. That was so fun. So when you're doing press for a TV show, they typically will send you all the episodes ahead of time so you can watch it and be knowledgeable about it when you're talking about it in press, right? So I remember, I think I appear in like the third or fourth episode.

1:01:30So I remember being at home and watching the first couple episodes. And I just start sweating. And I'm like, uh-oh, I think this is my new favorite show. And I'm about to pop in and ruin this fucking... And like luckily, I was just so protected by those guys that I think I came off okay. But it's just another example of a situation where you're surrounded by these people that I've known them for 20 years. And because of that, I am so comfortable. In my scenes in this show, I'm technically playing Dave Franco. But it's me, a version of myself, a nibriated on alcohol weed, cocaine, and mushrooms, right? And so it's like the most extreme manic version of me. And it's weird to say this, but it was a difficult part to play. Yeah, that is. The nature of the show, as you guys know, every scene throughout the entire season is a one-er, right? No cutting, just these long continuous takes. And so they've said they typically do like 15 to 20 takes per scene. And sometimes those scenes are six minutes straight.

1:02:32So for me, I'm coming in, I'm on this cocktail of drugs. My energy is at 1000s and I'm doing these six-minute takes of that. And so in between, they call cut, I'm in the corner literally bent over, huffing for air. And they're just waiting for me. And they're like, Dave, you're good for another. I'm just like 30 seconds. Well, let's go. Let's go. Was it talked about getting you some oxygen in between? It wasn't talked about. Just like that. We need another producer on the set. That's sure they would have accommodated. If I need a oxygen on the down. But also, there's a scene, I don't know if you guys remember the scene where I'm supposed to like go out on stage and like, present. You've gotten your ass kicked by three dudes you ripped off from doing magic. Yes, so there's this five-minute take where it starts with me coming in, bloody dumb. I've just got my ass kicked. I'm still on all these drugs. You're in a great mood. You've got a great mood. You're like one of the best! Yes. Yeah. Channeling wooden. Totally. And then it's on just full manic. And then on a time they want me to like bring it in, go like super swob, come out onto stage and do this monologue in front of a couple hundred

1:03:36extras who are there in a New York accent and then shift again, walk off stage, lose all my faculties, pass out, and beg to go to the hospital. Celebrate. Then lose all your stuff. There we go. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So it was this thing where like, if they hadn't written that for me to do, I don't think I would have had the confidence to even try it, but because those guys like know me, it was like, oh, if you guys think I can do this, let's fucking go. Yeah. You're like fucking A for Alphabet. We're fucking GD Philippi. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, oh my god, you're so good in it. It's just so rewarding and there's moments from that episode where I'll be at the airport now and the TSA guy will look at me and go, 21 grams of shroom. I'm like, I'll be you, you can be doing that. Everyone runs over and down the queue. That's a line that will follow me forever. Yeah.

1:04:37You know what? I just feel so grateful to be even a small part of that. So we had Seth on before it came out and I got the season as well. Yeah. And I got to the episode called The Warner. I think it's number three, maybe. I just was in awe. Yeah. When we talked to him, he was saying, you know, unlike other projects of theirs were improvs, hugely encouraged. The stakes are so high, he gave a story of Chromeholds. Oh, yeah. He's like the last button on a fucking 12 minute tag. Because you improv, that's why I want to get to. A little bit. And you do it during the first handful of takes. Yeah. Because what I like about doing 15 to 20 takes is you can try everything. And so by the time everything's honed in by that 15th take, you feel like, oh, I know the best version of the scene. And so in those early takes, I remember, this is a small moment, but scripted, I'm supposed to say, oh, I'm going to go win some money at the tables. And so on the very first take, I was like, hey, I'm going to go win some money at the

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1:10:55So let's talk about idiots. Yeah. So the premise is, it's these two guys, me and O'Shea Jackson Jr. We're down on our luck and we pair up to drive this wealthy teen to rehab. What we don't realize is this kid is a full on psychopath and he's just, you know, making our life hell every step of the way. And so it's essentially like a fucking balls out comedic version of the last detail if you've ever seen that with Nicholson. Exactly. I read this script like 10 years ago and it's by this writer, director named Maken Blair. If you haven't seen his first movie, it's called I don't feel at home in this world anymore. It's on Netflix. It's fucking awesome. Check it out. I saw that movie about 10 years ago. I've been hounding him ever since. He's also an actor, right? Exactly. So anyway, I read this script 10 years ago and at the time I was too young to play this part. And so we were like, all right, it's not meant to be on this one. And then like a year and a half ago, I just reached out to him. I was like, whatever happened with that scripts. And he's like, oh, it almost went and then fell apart.

1:11:55And I was like, if I can be helpful in any way, I'd love to help just push this thing and get it off the ground. And he said, you know what? Fuck it. Let's go. What's step one? I'm now getting some more cast. I had worked with O'Shea before. I was like, this is our man. I just worked with this kid Mason Thames. Do you guys know Mason? He's like the main kid in the how to train your drag in live action. So I was like, okay, these are our people. And this is just like speaks to how I'm loving making things right now where I'm just bringing in the people I know and love and I know we're going to kill it together. And yeah, it's a grind. We don't have a ton of money, but every day we're just coming in and making each other laugh and having a blast doing it. Yeah, but it's violent. Oh, yeah. So making he's got these sensibilities where he goes hard on the comedy. He will give you a belly laugh and then immediately give you the most dark, violent moment in the movie. And so you're on edge. Yeah. You feel comfortable. He's going to pull the rug out. And for me, it's my favorite thing.

1:12:56You know, you're watching a movie or halfway through and you're like, I don't fucking know where this is going. How it's going to end. It's like an impossible thing to pull off these days. Audiences are smart. They usually know from the first five minutes how the movie is going to end. Well, I am encouraging people to make them even dumb or so you can be on a dual screen. Exactly. So it's like, yeah, it's getting even. Exactly. Yeah, but it's got a great cast. It's the three of us. It's Peter Dinklage, Nicholas Braun, Kieran and Shipka and everyone just fucking brings it. It's these larger than life characters. Monty, wait till you see Nicholas Braun's character. He plays a rapper named Prickabush Del Wehrwolf. Oh, my God. He's got Gold Grill, tattoos all over his face. He's got like, what can only be described as little baby pony tails all over his. And his character is like voice and his character are fucking incredible. It's unrecognizable. It's amazing. And what about Dinklage? What a hero. My wife was going to leave me for anybody. If we're all leaving our partner for anyone, it's Peter Dinklage. I've never met a dude that was so universally attractive.

1:13:58It's killing. Yeah. Every way, it was the first time in a while where the first day meeting him, I was a little star-struck. Yeah. I was just like, OK, I want to be, I want to make sure he likes me. And the cool thing about him is that he is so unassuming and disarming, immediately he's making jokes and immediately putting a U at ease. He's not reminding everyone he's better than them. Yeah. At all times. But then he comes in and he can't miss. He's doing it straight in the can. That makes a violence in comedy. Yes. For me, my very favorite. It's something when you introduce that danger early on. It makes it so that you set the stakes where anything can happen, anyone can die. Yeah. And it's just so unpredictable and fun. What had you worked with those Che on prior? Do you remember Quibi? Oh, sure. I'm happy Quibi. Took down a lot of folks. We did a show for them. And I think the reason we did it was for us to meet each other. Oh, OK. Yeah. Yeah. Now, if I got to work with O'Shea, I would be thinking, OK. How long?

1:14:59Do we have to be friends before I start asking questions about ice cube? Do you know how it's his son? Didn't know. He played them in the straight up. Oh, yeah. And he looked so much fun. Yes. What's crazy is O'Shea was guest hosting a podcast like two weeks ago. And he had me on. And the first question he brings up was, you know, how is it kind of navigating this industry with a family member who was also in it? We realized in that moment, we had never talked about it before. Yeah. Maybe it's because we both have been in that situation. Yeah. You don't want to talk about it. We're so consciously. It's not that we don't necessarily want to talk about it. You've talked about it. Yes. We talked about it. But also when you're meeting people, I want to be me. Yeah. And so I think both of us just had that internal like thing where we're like, you're not going to bring it up. And that's OK. I'm mutual kindness. Totally. Well, it is funny because I've had many friends beyond the show. And in a weird way, I've been like, oh, this is fun. I get to kind of ask them something. I would never ask them. Exactly. I remember interviewing my brother a long time ago, but I came in with all these questions.

1:16:01And I was like, whoa, we've never talked about any of this. And you get kind of vulnerable. And it's kind of nice. You learn about each other. Yeah. Yeah. The craziest one was interviewing my mom. And we have a crazy open relationship. I was encouraged to ask any question I would ever want to. Was there one or two that stood out of like, wow, that was really fun to get into? Yeah. The one that I never had thought to ask her is my first step that was super abusive. And my mom's a badass. My mom raised three kids on her own, built this incredible business. She's a fucking tough gangster. By the way, it wasn't pre-planned. It was just my instinct of having interviewed a bunch of people. It's like, I just heard the story. And then my natural question would be like, wow, how does someone like you that is so tough end up in that situation? Like it's just so not in keeping with the rest of your toughness. Yeah. Yeah, I hear you. She was like the shame of having failed at this the second time was more painful than getting beat up. And I was like, oh, you want to quantify shame? Yeah, yeah, yeah.

1:17:02That you'd rather get your ass kicked. Oh, that's heavy. Then experience shame. Yeah. But this is like so deep about you. It's weird to think about just asking these people that you know so intimately, like these kind of earnest questions. Again, with my brother, these earnest questions about his process. And like, if I asked that in real life, he'd be like, too. Yeah. And as your brothers, you don't give a fuck. Like my brother can cure cancer. I don't think I'd ask him how he did it. Totally. David, I don't know how the fuck he did it. I guess he did it. I know. But I have been trying to do that a little bit more in my real life where like my mom was in town last week and we were just kind of walking around the neighborhood. And suddenly we started talking about drugs. And she was like, if you ever done cocaine and he's going to get into that. And like, I'm not the drug she did when she was younger. And it was cool. We never talked about that ever. Did she go hard? She didn't go hard, but she didn't say it. She was at Stanford in the 60s. Totally. And she had a face. Hey, Dashberry's just a stone-star-all-weather playground, baby.

1:18:04It is so fun because you're a family. They're an extension of you. Like you grow up with them as an extension of you. And then when you're in these positions and you get to ask, it's like, oh no, they're really the wrong person. Yeah. Exactly. Yeah, when you get a confront that they exist. Yes, but outside of you. And other people have interest. That's a good point. Yes, they're without you. They're there. Do you still think that though about being connected to him? Because I actually, it's funny when we were just bringing this up. I was like, oh yeah, I forgot that. Like at this point in your career and your life, I feel like you're so your own person. Yeah. And I've felt that a lot more in recent years for sure. It's a complicated thing where I love my brother. I'm so grateful for the advice he gave me coming through this business and just even watching how he navigated certain situations. And I'm always grateful for that. But I think in recent years, I've kind of gone down my path long enough that people have started to give me my own do. He's almost done the impossible by shedding that connection. I think that's very hard to do actually.

1:19:04Yeah, especially because he's a very fucking talented. Yeah. It's someone who could keep the toe in. Exactly. That's what I'm saying. I'm going to hang out alone in Sylvester. And then you rose up to be co-sylvester. Exactly. Yeah, but it's a big shadow. It is totally. He's totally. Yes, he interacts to you. I've worked my ass off. I'm trying to think of my, um, my sexy ass cats. You can go back to that. Oh, my last. I have a question. Did your kids see the movie Hoppers, the Pixar movie? How old are they? 11 and 13. Okay. What was their reaction? Well, I'll tell you the very funny moment. So we are also supposed to watch TV last night. I'm like, I'm so sorry, guys, I gotta do research. So then I'm in bed reading about you. They file in separately one by one. And the 11 year old sits down and she's like looking at you. And then I don't know what page I'm on, but somehow she goes, oh, was he in hopper? Wow. She leaves. My 13 year old comes in. She's staring at you and she goes, oh yeah, yeah, I know him.

1:20:04What did I see him in? And I go, now you see me? She's like, oh, yes. She's watched all three. I'm surprised that she could place me from hoppers because obviously that's just my voice. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Like most of my friends don't even know I'm in hoppers. Right. But what was fun about that movie is so I play the villain. And this is a kids movie. Yeah. But like we were going for it. So the point where I was like, guys, is this too far? Like are we going to be scaring the kids? I can't tell you how many texts I've received from parent friends of mine basically saying some version of, thank you for giving my children nightmares for their fucking lives. Oh, I have one friend who I grew up with. She is a three year old. And she was like, it's crazy to say that you are the scariest thing that has happened to my daughter in her lifetime so far. Oh, no. You are the boogie man. Yes. This character is so scary. And like even during the process of making the movie, and this wasn't on me, this is on the animators,

1:21:05they realized they went one step too far when they animated my character doing the backwards walk from the exorcist. Oh, wow. Oh, wow. Oh, wow. This is literally scaring the adults now. Like a reference to the exorcist in a Pixar movie is one step too far. At the premiere. Oh, my character comes on. 30 seconds later, this mom is carrying out this screaming child. And Allison turns to me. And she goes, you did that. But here's the thing. I did these reviews of like my friend telling me, oh, you're the scariest part of my daughter's life so far. What a great review. Oh, that's funny. Yeah. That's something in your life, baby. Before you ask this next question, Monica, hold my hand real quick. Oh, yeah. Get over here so we can interview. Oh, my God. Yeah. Get over here. Get over here. He knows what it's called. He's in a break of them being sweaty. Here we go. He knows this right now. Here we go. Oh, my God.

1:22:05Interlocking. That's nice, isn't it? Oh, my God. Immediately nice. Okay. Mine if I take my bans off. That you're getting over here and you're feeling me up on it. How much? Okay. That was good. I'm ready. I'm ready. And about the same duration of a butt fuck. Honestly. Honestly, I forgot we were doing it already. I would have done that as long as you would have given me. Tell me about your journey there real quick. I was ready to be done. Sure. But it seemed like it was nice at first. Listen, this sensation is nice. Okay. I'll trust you and like you. Yeah, yeah. But that felt very intimate. Interesting. You need to apologize, Allison. A little. You done. Allison felt that. I'm sorry. I'm not fun. We took the other. We took the other option. Oh, wow. That was weirdly my very last question, which is Allison's and Masters of the Universe. Oh, yeah. Did she have to get like extra rip? She's already in phenomenal shape. She was already there. It was maybe like 5% more. But she loves and excuse to get extra ripped, man.

1:23:08Yeah, was she like lifting heavy or anything? Oh, yeah. She's in there not only doing 10 pull ups. She's doing that with weight fucking attached to her legs. I need to feel her wax. I know. Get in here and feel my legs. Yeah, let me get out of here. Get over the taste. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Get over it. Oh, fuck. It's like holding onto the back of a bag. Oh, shit. Oh, my god. Oh, my god. Oh, my god. Dude. Get the bicep real quick. Get the bicep real quick. Hard is hell. Oh, my god. Oh, my god. Oh, my god. Oh, my god. Oh, my god. Oh, my god. If I'm doing all this work, I know you're going to appreciate this more than anyone. He really is. Absolutely. You're going to be thinking about that. My religion. And then also do we just want to say two seconds about Forgotten Island? You're in another. Yeah. So Forgotten Islands, another animated thing, Dreamworks, beautiful movies coming out late September. 25th. Yes, September 25th. So first off, this is the first kind of big studio film that is ever focused on Filipino

1:24:09culture. Oh, and so it's basically a bunch of Filipinos in me. Oh, yeah. Oh, it's a really cool concept. It's these two girls who have been friends forever since childhood. And we are seeing them on their final night together before one of them is going to the States to go to college. And so it's just kind of sad type thing, one of them's leaving. And during that night, this portal opens in the sand and it kind of sucks them into this kind of mythological island that they've always heard about. And basically they find out that the only way off the island is to give up their memories. But if they give up their memories, they might forget each other. Oh, and it's like the most touching. Oh, my god. The most unsung-chained animated style. Exactly. Why are these kids movies so intense? Kids like it. Yeah. Beautiful. We'll cry if you don't cry. You are not human. If you don't cry, turn yourself in and be happy after police so you're removing from us. So we're all safe. Oh, that's so sad and sweet. Okay, great. So forgotten island September 25th, but more immediately idiots, August 28th.

1:25:10Yeah. Everyone check out idiots. Dave, this was so, it was fun and zoomed, but I wasn't getting the full magnetism that is you. I love being here. And it's just, you were wrong though. It gets a little toasty in here. Yeah. Now what are we going to do? All right. I adore you say hi to Alice and I hope I'm going to do her hiking again soon. That was so fun. Stay tuned for the 5 Shacks so you can hear all the facts that were wrong. Look at that present. Yeah, do you want some socks? Yeah, remember porous? I love porous. I know. You're one of my favorite artists. We love porous. Yeah, and he sent me some items and he said, thanks for being a nice person. That's nice. That's not a compliment I get very often. Nice person. So I really liked it. What did he give you? So this is called nobra. Like cobra or no bra.

1:26:14Oh, is it you see? I see. Oh, I see. Yeah. I see. Okay. Wow. That's a big king cobra with big breasts. Yeah. Large breasts and nipples are out. They're sure the whole gang. So I thought there's no reason we can't have this in the mix. There is no reason. And also there is no room. Well, we'll find space. If you don't want to run the cocktail or the milk. Yeah. Porous Walker is a great artist and he makes perverted art. Yeah. We have some shirts of his, we have a lot of his items and now there's saltwoods on the socks. Well, these appear to be, let's see, a lot of breasts different colors. Oh, I think those are classic. These are classic tables. Those are classic tables. Uh-huh. I haven't seen those pink ones. Let's see what the pinkies are. Oh, those are just, those are pubes. Oh. And this is a penis socks. That's just one big penis, yeah. Yes, uh-huh. And then what's the orange?

1:27:14The orange is, oh wow. Oh, balls. No, no, no. Oh, booze again. It's what a Z. They also look like balls with nipples. Okay. Well, humans like circles. Remember? Everything circles. Okay. Well, that was a fun treat. We can offer, um, if anyone feed or cold on the show, we can go to the news. To endorse something perverse. Oh, wow, wow, wow. Now I can't rely on you to notice because I know you're not very observant. Is it your hair? Well, I just washed my hair one second ago, so it's wet. Okay, that's what it is. So you're seeing that. Do you see all my blasts? Don't, don't, don't. And then look at my neck. Oh, God, you did your face. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I really win. Can't tell on your neck. Yeah, you can, don't. Oh, yeah. Oh, my God. What have you done? What have you done? What have you done? I really scheduled some time this time. I'm like, you know what, I'm going to take 40 minutes and go over everything with a fine

1:28:16tooth comb. And I did. And this is a zap here, zap there, zap there. But I will say, I'm not keeping track of while I'm doing it. But later that night, I did look in the mirror before going to bed. And I was like, this is the most dax thing I've ever done to myself. Yeah. He's got the apex dax right here. I hate seeing myself on third person. I feel it's gross. So it's so what else would you say, right? Yeah. You daxed yourself. So Chris didn't look at it and she was like, you got to minimally admit a dermatologist would never do that to you. And I said, yes, which is my point precisely. A dermatologist doesn't have an extra 45 minutes to go through every square inch of your face and neck to find raised hypoplasias, hyperplacias. Maybe your body's supposed to have hyperplasia. If you have so much of it, well, no, then maybe your body wants it.

1:29:19I know where this story where it ends because my father had the identical skin to me. And he just accumulated all these skin tags. And I'm not going to do that. Oh my god. I choose, I have not. Instead, you're going to have black dots all over your body. Oh no, this will be off in a day. In fact, we're not, I didn't think we were recording till tomorrow. So I even said last night yesterday, as look in the mirror and it's like, okay, there's still bad, but I got a hunch Wednesday. You wouldn't know. But here we are. We'll see. Yeah, we're in a hurry. So we'll see. I mean, I don't see it on your face, but I don't have good eyes as you know. So I also can't see from here it on your neck. What you see this up here, I did a triple up there. But I don't, is it black up there? It's a scap. You can't see the scam right there. Well, that's how good my work is. It's already faded. It just shows up bad. My eyes and they really are so bad. Yeah, they've gotten bad. They've gotten worse. I never know of any of your eyes just sucked. Do they just stay shitty or are they too degenerate the way mine are?

1:30:20I don't know. But I started with good. There's no way for me to know. Okay. I did bond with some folks at Smiley Tie, the Thai restaurant in Montjouli. I saw this couple probably my age and they were both fucking firehose in the menu with bright light. They both had their phones out. And I just had to stop and say, this is so comforting because I too have to blast my menu with light. Yeah, it's a real marker. The trickiest part for me is when I'm signing the receipt because I cannot read, there's no way I can read. I got my glasses. Yeah. And then I got to ask the server. Oh. Everyone's generally already bounced and I've waited. You know, I'm sticking around to pay. I see. And then I have to ask the server, but what's tricky about that? Oh, this is so tricky. I've already tipped and I'm going to add it up and that's when I realize, oh, I can't read this and everyone's gone. And so I often have to ask the server, but then I think it's like I put them in a position

1:31:22where I'm forcing them to see how much I can. Oh, no. Yeah. So I'm learning. So now I'm smart enough to ask them what a total is before. Oh, none of it's comfortable. They also don't want to have to tell you the total, you know, because then is there what am I like complaining about? How much is this? Anyways, I sure do look forward to science fixing this. Yeah. I'm optimistic. I like, in my mind, this is not, I'm not going to be dealing with this forever. But you have glasses. You just don't have glasses. I do have glasses and I don't. I understand. I'm not throwing stones. I have glasses as well. How was your labor day? My labor day was lovely. I threw a party at my house. How did that go? Who came? What were the festivities? A lot of people came. It was in and out. Like people stopped by, some people stayed. People bought. Okay. I'm going to sound so people are not going to like this, but whatever.

1:32:26I catered from Erwin. Okay. So I told people to come over after 130. All right. Yeah. Yeah. But then anytime is tricky because I'm like, when people, if they're not there right at 130, it's like, oh, no one's coming. Oh, you started getting panicked. Yeah. Of course. Yeah. This is like hosting so stressful. Yeah. So I catered, Erwin. And are you afraid like you're just imagining that person that arrives at 230 in the end turn? It's just you in there. Yeah. Of course. Yeah. Well, I knew that wasn't going to be the case. That moment is rough. That case. Hey. Oh, are you, did you cancel? No. Maybe I don't even know anymore. I don't know why I did this. You don't have to stay. Should just go. Go ahead and go. Take some food on your way out. Take all this food. I don't know why I bought it. Yeah. So. So, but I knew I'd at least have one person there because Jess. Uh-huh. Sure. I asked him to come early to help set up a bunch of yard games. Okay. So I don't have a pool. Right.

1:33:27Right. Which is fine, but it's tricky when you have a party because you do. You wish like for the, it's mainly for the kids because adults are doing whatever. Sure. Playing games, chatting, doing whatever they want. But kids that's a little trickier. A pool is nice. Yeah. A distraction. Yeah. And if you remember last time I did this was for the July. And so I bought this enormous in, I rented. Sorry. An enormous inflatable slide pool thing. Yeah. It's children occupied, which it did do. Uh-huh. So I was like, maybe I'll do that again. But I was like, am I the girl that just always has that slide thing? So hey, so then I ended up just going yard games. Okay. Okay. I bought two cornhole. Okay. Right. Two cornhole could be going. Yes. Great. Horses. Uh-huh. Later ball. Not. You don't know how to ball. Oh, you throw this string. Uh-huh.

1:34:27Yeah. So. I'm going to throw it in a kickball. I'm going to kickball. What were your plans for the kickball? Just end. I'm announcing it. Yeah. No, they'll kick it. My yard is huge. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Like people could have played a full, actually think I think. Also, it's huge for L.I. Let's just, let's. Oh, yeah. It's small. Yeah. It's like a probably 9,000 square feet of yard back there. I mean, but since there's nothing in the backyard right now, it's all grass. Yeah. It's lovely. And it's great for L.I. I just wanted to put in parentheses to America. It's not what you're thinking of when you think of huge yard. It's a huge L.I. Yeah. But all to say, you could get a kickball game going in there. Okay. You would have to run. Okay. If you use the whole yard, you know, but I hate kickballs. I would never play. But anyway, um, uh, oh my god, I used to go camping with Callie's family. And they would always, kickball was always on the menu. Okay. You know, and the docket. Yeah. And I just hated that part. You hated it.

1:35:27Yeah. I really like kickball. I feel like it's a good game because resisting this. Everyone can play it. No. No. I think it's hard for short people to play kickball. Okay. Tell me more. Because, you know, they throw it and it sometimes it, it's up high. Like, for kids. You can use it with dodgeball. No, I hate dodgeball too. No, but you know, like, do they throw it? They have to roll it. They roll it. Oh, but sometimes it's down. And it can't be bouncing across the pain. Sometimes it bounces. Well, if it's bouncing across the plate, then that's a ball that doesn't count as a strike. Well, I don't, I just always try to kick it. As you should. And then I miss it with my foot. It's too embarrassing. It's very embarrassing. Yeah. Okay. Well, I bought that for other people, you know. You buy bases and stuff. Well, I'm a little, I don't know that you have enough room for a kickball game. I don't think R yard has enough room for a kickball. Of course it does. I don't think so. Okay. Okay.

1:36:27Anyways, let's not get hung up on kickball. So anyway, I had all those things. So I had asked Jess to come early to set that stuff up for me. Right. He struggled, but it was okay. Okay. So at least he was going to be there at 130. Yeah. Anyway, people came. It was great. Tons of fun. I ordered Airworn catering. But then big hack. And I learned this from a girls party I threw recently. There's an amazing pizza place in LA on the east side called quarter sheets. I wasn't going to say that because, you know, how I feel about giving it. I don't want to get keep, but I also want to be able to go to my spots. Yeah. And there's already lines and it's already a thing. But it's a great place. And you can take out pizzas. Okay. Oh, and cook them at home. Like they're half cooked or cooked. Oh, they're cooked. Yeah. Pick them up. Well, every pizza place it. No. No. The business is pizza joints or in is. It's not. It's a restaurant. It's a sit down restaurant. Yeah.

1:37:27But they also do to go. Yeah. But like John and Vinnie's you wouldn't be able to get like a huge pizza, I don't think. Yeah. I mean, yeah, you can order John and Vinnie's to go from the restaurant you can order to go if you're there, right? No, no, you can call. On postmates. It's on postmates. Can order a huge one. I don't know. Or like a special one that they don't normally make. It's like a big pizza in a big box. It's not the ones you get. Yeah. So they offer a pizza to go at wood sheets that they don't offer in the menu when you're seated. Is that what you're saying? Quarter sheets. Quarter sheets. Quarter sheets. Yeah. You can get like a big pizza. Okay. As opposed to when you go to the restaurant, you get a quarter sheets pizza. Like a party sub. Right. Exactly. I can't. Right. Exactly. So. Okay. So it's a pizza place that you can order. Pizza from. Yeah. So you got. So I ordered quarter sheets to come at 515.

1:38:28Oh, okay. And they have these amazing desserts there. And I asked if I could get a cake also. Okay. That's you're not allowed to get a cake to go really well. Oh, you're not. No. Okay. You did it for me. And so they brought the cake and we sang to Jess. It was the last part of his birthday. Oh, okay. And it was so fun. Also, we learned a new game. It's really fun. It's called Imposter. It's an app game. Okay. This is how you play. Everyone's sitting together in a circle. And like, we put everyone's name in the phone. Then I go first, right? I look at the phone. It says a word. Mm-hmm. And a category normally. It says a word. And then I pass it to the right. Let's use the word. Let's use a word. It says lines. It says blinds. Mm-hmm. And the category objects. Objects. Okay. Then it says pass to Erica. Pass to Erica.

1:39:28She sees the same thing. She passes. Everyone sees the word in the object except one person. One person sees imposter. Oh, okay. Okay. It's kind of like mafia. Yeah, okay. So then everyone goes, everyone's seen it. Everyone goes around and says one word to describe the word. Mm-hmm. To describe blinds. Okay. Now, so the imposter has to... Surmise what that word is and then... And try to say something. Yes. Sin an emmer. The problem is when you are... When you do know the word and you're giving your clue, there's most of the things going on. You want people to know that you're not the imposter. Yeah. But also, if the imposter learns the word, they win. Okay. So you want to give a weird enough clue that people... And truth.

1:40:29Yeah, it's really fun. So Venetian, would you say Venetian? Yeah, you could. Too much. It might be too much. Now, I was the imposter on the round. Oh, on the blinds round. Okay. And part of it is it's randomized. So I was second. Sure. That's harder. Really hard. Yeah. Okay. So Erica went first and she said sunshine. Okay. So then I have to go. And all I know is objects. Yes. That was like, fuck. Okay. I'm going to go with like yellow. Okay. So agitives. So now you know it's blinds, so it seems obvious. I want to say stupid. Yeah. But if you didn't know that, you wouldn't have thought this. So I said banana. Banana. Okay. Uh-oh. But do you think some people are like in their mind, they're like, I guess they're kind of shaped like banana? So, okay. This is what happens, right? So then everyone says their thing. I don't know what it is.

1:41:29Yeah. And then the deliberation begins, right? And people are like, I was like, but I don't know banana. Or like somebody else's they thought could be also. Yeah. Invariably someone's going to say something that makes no sense, even if they know the word. Exactly. And so at one point, Anthony, one of my best longest friends, he goes, I think I know Monica's doing. And he was like, I don't really, I think she might be, I think I know what she's doing. Because you can't, again, you can't be like, she's doing this because then the imposter would know the word. So you have to be kind of careful when you're delivering. Uh-huh, okay. And then I thought so guilty. Uh-huh. Because he was really having my bad and I was like, can you really self-conscious of what your body language is doing and stuff? Yeah. And then at one point, Jess was like, yeah, me too. Oh my God. He do agrees with everything that Anthony said.

1:42:30Yeah. Okay, because he's as close. He just wanted to also get up. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. But then later he goes, I don't know. She's such a good actor. I don't think. And I was like, you just said you understood. You're right. And he was like, yeah, I didn't. Okay. So then I did get got you did. Yeah. Okay. Um, which was annoying. But I was like, okay, everyone agrees. We're going to say it's Monica. And then if what, if you can say what the word is, you're clear. I win. But if you can't say what the word is. So let's say you had figured out, it was blind. You say blind. Then what happened? And then what there's a scoreboard or? Well, if you want, sure. It's a sign. Okay. Okay. Well, you know, where was some villagers that get smaller and smaller? You don't kick people out. You can just play however many rounds. I mean, you could kick people out if you wanted it, but that's not fun. Okay. I mean, you could have score. You could have like a scoreboard. But you can't really, the problem is it's not really fair because it's all randomized. So like, Erica got the imposter multiple times.

1:43:31Mm. And like, just never got it. Okay. So it wouldn't really be there. Yeah. But anyway, it was a really fun game. I recommend that. Yeah. Anyway, we just had a great time. I love hosting at my house. I bet. It's really. You love hosting at your apartment. I love hosting. You're a host. Yeah. I just love to do it. You're a natural host. Yeah. And it is kind of, you know, it's rude because like, you know, some people you like get away with things and other people you don't. Okay. Yeah. You know, it's like if someone's not tucking in the chair, I'm like, if it's one person, but if it's another person, I don't care. Right. Yes. It's very unfair that we hold everyone to different standards. Yeah. But it's also realistic. It is. It's also, it's based on the person and all the things we've told ourselves about the person. It's like this person, your story about that. So inconsiderate. Yeah. Yeah. They're so unconscious. They are not paying attention to anything.

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1:46:35Great. I know that's not going to happen. I've already slid it back. Good. I was going to say you were trusted. Yeah. So, you know, loading up, morning of the flight and sure enough, 845, no way. I'm in the van. Then maybe Delta gets in the van at 855. 10 minutes late. And then Christine gets in and then Delta gets out. Oh, this guy. And then Lincoln gets in and then Christine gets out to find Delta and then Delta gets in. And so this had cycled through like two or three times. And my commitment is just to accept that whatever it's going to be. It's like, I can't. I have no sway over how this is going. So that had cycled through and I was just like, oh my god. If I could ever get all three of them in, I'm just going to fucking floor it out of the driveway. And all of a sudden at like 902, I'm in the van completely by myself again. And I'm like, how is this out of this app? Why am I now by my set? Like, I had two at one point.

1:47:35I never had all three, but I have had all three of them in the van at different times. And so by the time they all come out at whatever 905, I'm just, I just have my head in my hands sitting in the front. Yeah. Yes. And so this is hard. And then, you know, a goal would be the next time we have to go to the airport that I don't go into it going, well, here's what's going to happen. They're going to all be in, you know, like, do you don't do that? I mean, I think you just fight it because people are inconsistent in great ways and in bad ways. And if my story is about them is that they are always late, all of them, then I'll just be looking for that. And I'll drive myself crazy. Like I do have to attempt to go into each situation with a clean slate, but this is hard. Completely unrealistic. And you couldn't like run a business this way, but I think for interpersonal relationships and family relationships, you, you, you have to.

1:48:35I know, but this is literally the op. This goes in complete contradiction with having expectation. So for I would say, actually, you do have to tell yourself, look, this is what's going to happen. They're going to get in and out of the car a million times. It's going to be past nine and we're going to. Because then, and I had done that, right, which is why I never, what was really great as we got to the airport and Ryan had had the exact same situation. He has three daughters. And, and then he had made, he had yelled, right? He had, he had given a, yeah, very natural. I'm not saying that to out them or throw them at the bus. I was like, oh, yeah, I didn't because I did. I knew it was coming. Had the extra. Somehow I have to straddle the line between having appropriate expectations. So I'm not frustrated. And also leaving lots of room for everyone to surprise me and not be this thing I've said they all are. I know, but then. Because that's also, I think, damaging or distraught. I know. But I mean, how do you do both?

1:49:36I don't know how you do both. And then if you, if you do the expectation one, then if they surprise you, then it's like, we're so happy. That's true. That's definitely true. And look, we made it. We flew out on time. Everything worked out just fine. So I'm sure their story could be like, oh, dad's neurotic. No. We've never missed a flight. I don't know why he's been out of shape about it. I, you know, often disagree with you about most things. I really, really be himmentally. I agree about being out the door on time when you're supposed to be. And well, it's definitely been something you can miss and it fucks up the entire trip. I think it's there are right. Like not, not all situations are the same. They're relatively different pressure and impact and outcome.

1:50:36If you miss your flight, you may have missed a whole day of vacation. Yeah. And you only have four days. I know. I mean, I feel this on smaller levels too. I just, I just think if everyone's agreed, look, things happen. I'm not saying things don't happen, but those need to be rarities. Not can, that can't be the consistent way. Do you remember being a teenage daughter though? Were you always on time? Yes. You are. My whole, like, there was no tolerance. Yeah. And also because, you know, I had friends picking me up for things like you can't make them wait. Yeah. Like that was not an option. Yeah. And I can't make my parents wait. They have to go to work. Like I just, it wasn't an option. And so I feel very strongly about when everyone agrees to get out the door on time. What would be great for me is if I could simply repeat my mother's approach, but I can't. Which is just leave. Yeah.

1:51:37Yeah. And that, and once you're taught that you, oh, yeah, you really can miss the whole family will go to Bobble, Bobble Island without you. I think you don't, you only do that once or twice. So I would love to be able to do that. It's not on the table for my family situation. I know. It's not. No, it's not. And it shouldn't be. And it probably isn't the best. But it's not for that. But it's what I want to do. I know. So I feel like it's on. I'm just defending you so much. You're not for the whole kickball situation. But I do feel like then you should be able to say, this is what I want to do. And I can't do it. And so can you guys meet me halfway? And like, let's be on time. Like, yeah. Now I have a similar story that sort of happened. Okay. Ish. And I am going to get in trouble for saying this, but I feel like I'm going to say it anyway. Okay. Great. Like, I'm going to get in trouble from friends. Okay. I know we're going to get back to them. I was in the car, the two people, two of my friends.

1:52:41And I look in the back seat. Okay. I've driven us. I've driven us to the restaurant. Okay. We eat and hang and stuff. And we're going home and we stop at a coffee shop. I want to get a coffee. So we drive to the coffee shop. It's right after dinner. Oh, sorry. It was kind of lunch. Sorry. Okay. Yeah. Okay. It's raining. I'll be a little honest. I think I was a little annoyed in this. Is on me. Okay. This part is definitely on me. I think I was a little annoyed that I was driving. Okay. Because I had just flown the party. Okay. And I think I felt a little bit like, okay. And now I'm doing this. But okay, fine. And it was my idea to go to this place. Yep. But okay. So then we go to the coffee shop. I look as I'm driving and the person in the back seat is not wearing a seatbelt. Okay. And I was like, oh, they must have forgot to wear a seatbelt. Yeah. And I was like, hey, friend, wear your seatbelt or put on your seatbelt or make sure you wear

1:53:41your seatbelt or whatever. And then I park, right? Okay. I get out. I get my coffee. I also like sense. The response wasn't like, oh, shit. Right. And I was like, okay. So maybe that wasn't an accident. Right. Or maybe that felt more like a direct to her, their autonomy. It was a choice for them. Yeah. And so then I was like, okay, now these friends are talking about this situation while I'm in there getting a coffee. Okay. Okay. And I didn't love that. And I didn't know what happened, but I know what happened. So then you got confirmation. I'm smart. Okay. So. Okay. No. Well, yeah. Okay. So then I. Jay. And my feet and her jack thoughts are. Yeah. Those are the whole thing roll. No, you can. No, I didn't get. I'm only flagging that one part. I know. I'm going to say that I don't have that. I just kind of need to be aware. I don't have that. But I don't have that. I don't have that. I don't have that. I don't have that. That's the thing where it's like you're convinced everyone talks about you and you're not around. Or that's a fear. How about that? That's a fear.

1:54:41That's a fear. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. So then I get in the car. Uh huh. And I turn on the car. Mm hmm. I look back. This person is not putting on their seatbelt. Okay. And I said, hey, can you put on your seatbelt? Uh huh. And they go, are you serious? It was like, yeah. You have to wear a seatbelt. And then the other person was like, I don't know if you have to. And I was like, you do have to. What are we talking legally? Yeah, I looked it up. Yeah, yeah, legally you have to wear a seatbelt. Exactly. I was like, it's illegal. Yeah, yeah. And it's on me if a cop drives by and sees that someone doesn't wear a seatbelt, pulls us over. It's on me. I just, I did say that, not knowing. And I looked it up and it is true. Even if the passengers over 16, I know that's true if they're under 16, don't have a license that they could be given a ticket for. According to my Google, or adult passengers, maybe we. Let me see.

1:55:43Yes, you must wear a seatbelt in California. Everyone in the vehicle must wear a seatbelt. The rule applies to both front and back seats. The driver, it says driver responsibility. The driver must make sure all passengers are buckled up. Drivers can get a ticket for any unbuckled passenger. Oh, wow. Okay. Okay. So you had the lawn on your side. And it's my car. Uh huh. I say you wear a seatbelt, you wear a seatbelt. Like I feel so clean about it. Yeah. And like I also, you know, then, yeah, then other stuff of mine starts where I'm like, if you're in the car with Dax and he says put on a seatbelt, you're not going to put on a seatbelt. You're going to say, are you serious? Well, then, if I say put on a seatbelt, that means stunt driving is ahead. If you say anything in your car while you're driving, no one is going to say shit. And that's the truth. Well, okay. Besides maybe your children. Slow down. Slow down. Can we, are we sure about that? Yeah. Okay.

1:56:44Well, unless you say to do something illegal, if you're doing something that's because you're like, I'm driving the car, this is my car. I say don't eat my car. Yeah, I mean, is it tough for me to know for sure because as you just pointed out, I'm generally with my children and my family. And yeah, the rules I put down in the bus are completely ignored. Like, you know, I'm like, no, no, we're dry. Just because we're in the bus, doesn't mean you can make macaroni and cheese while we're going to, you know, whatever. Okay. Your family, your kids are a different situation. Yeah, they're absolutely trying to think. I definitely think there are groups of my friends that would and wouldn't and there's, and vice versa. Okay, well, this person would. Okay. I know for certain. Both people in this car would. Okay. Okay. Now that's fine. I'm like, can I point out one thing now that's tricky. So I want it. Yeah, that's fine. Unless we were getting on like a race, I wouldn't tell someone to put their seatbelt on. That's fine. Other than my children, because they're my children, I'll make them put on seat belts.

1:57:44But unless we're like in the sand dunes off-roading or on a racetrack, I'd be like, well, you have to have a helmet and a seatbelt on to be in this. But I, so that's, I think that's in the mix. I also wouldn't do it. If I looked back in the back seat and Aaron weekly didn't have a seatbelt on, I wouldn't say a thing. I'd be like, he decided he's an adult. He's made a decision that he wants to or doesn't. So is that part of it or no? No, that's your rule in your car. You, if, well, I mean, again, apart from the law, which says it must happen, if you decide your driving, if you decide, like if I'm not driving, I might have been like, hey, why aren't you wearing a seatbelt? And then they would have been like, I don't wanna wear a seatbelt. And if the driver didn't care, that's fine. Okay. But if it is your car and you are driving, you get to, I agree that you get to, you fully get to say what happened to you. I agree you get to. So if you're not carrying as you, like you don't,

1:58:47I know that, that's fine. Because really quick, I'm very sensitive to authority, right? So I'm like predicting how I would feel if someone told me to put my seatbelt on. That's in my calculation, because I know what that feels like to have that real bristle against being told what to do as an adult. But it's being told because of the law. It's not like. But I can't really use that car because I'm also gonna drive five miles an hour over the speed limit. And I'm like, so I've already, you already know that it's not like I have a total respect for the law. So it'd be very inconsistent if I'm like, well, I don't care about speeding law, but I do care about the seatbelt law. Well, you do get to decide that. You get to decide that. You do for sure. But the people I'm talking to, it's well within their right to acknowledge, well, this is highly inconsistent. He cares about this, but doesn't care about that. I'm just painting the picture of like, the reaction you get is part of a much bigger story about yourself, which is like, A, I generally don't tell people what to do. Simply because I don't like being told what to do, right?

1:59:49That's just my own personal thing. I just don't think that's true. You don't think that's true? No, maybe that's true. Maybe that's true. You have house rules in your house. Maybe it's not true. People think they're just about one. I can only think of that one right now. Like that specific one, I just know I want to give him that one example. So I do wonder if like, say Aaron, who's known me for 30 years, knows I'm not the type of person that tell him to do something. That if I do, he gives me the benefit out of like, well, he's not like, he's not controlling a authoritarian person. If he's telling me this, something must be specifically, you know what I'm saying? I just like, if it's your house or your car, it's not authoritarian. I mean, okay, well, actually this is helping, this is gonna help wrap up my point, which is like, I think that's so childish. Uh huh. I mean, I'm gonna be like, don't tell me what to do. It's like, you're in my car, then you drive. Yeah, yeah. Or at your house in Nashville,

2:00:49you guys have a rule now, no shoes. I don't like taking off my shoes. I mean either. And guess what? I'm gonna do it because that's your house and your rules. Absolutely. Like, yeah, yeah. Okay, I might think that's arbitrary because other rules aren't, but you know, whatever. It's not my job to say. Right. And I think that's very childish. So that all happened and I was like, okay, they did put their seatbelt on. And then we're getting on the interstate. And the other person is like, uh oh, I have to pee. And I was like, I'm, I don't wanna be a mom. Uh huh. There's a reason I don't have children and I have two children in my car. And I had to pull over on the side of the road. Okay, so I want to build a good take off. And let this person pee. And then the other person is like, that's crazy. And I'm like, well, you're also doing something crazy.

2:01:53So, uh, frustrating for me. Yeah, yeah. I understand. Yeah. I understand all, everyone's feelings following in the situation. And I know that you're objectively correct. It's childish to disregard rules. When you're an adult, you're an adult. Just like, it is childish. It's not preferred. Also, people come with a lot more baggage than other people. And it might also be relevant. But when your baggage comes at potential, like the cost of me, uh, that's where I say no. Yeah, yeah, that's fair. You don't wanna take on their issues. If it's gonna come out of color, it, look, if it's on, it's, again, if it's on its own, people have their stuff. I have plenty of my own stuff. But if, and again, if I'm not driving, not my car, I'm not in charge here. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Well, I, everything in life's trade-offs, right?

2:02:55So I wanna drive. Mm-hmm. I want to be in charge of driving. And, um, so I, the cost of that is like, yeah, I have passengers and they likely aren't, behaving the way I would wish they were. My choices would be a passenger. Yeah. And then that stuff won't bother me in theory. But it sounds worth me being a passenger. Well, sure, I didn't wanna be a driver. You didn't, yeah, see, that's where it's very different for you and I. Yeah, you should just be a, you should just go like, you drive. But they, it was a pick me up situation. Okay. Sure. Okay, sure, I guess I already don't really wanna be doing that. Fine. I can take one for the team. And then that, no. Right, now, if you wanna ride, here are the rules. Yeah. All right, we should do some facts. Let's do some facts. This is for Dave Franco. Oh, what a charmer. Oh, he's so cute. We've since we had a double date with them or we exposed them to Baja, California, Tacos.

2:04:00How did that go? I think we're like six or six people we've introduced it. No, I've never had them. You've never introduced me. Hold up. What is, what are you waiting for? I don't know. Well, do you like a hard shell taco? That's the first one for my show. I do like a hard shell taco. Okay. Do you prefer to a soft shell taco? It depends on the mood. Okay. I sometimes do a hard shell taco night. Oh, okay. At the house. Then you make them. Oh, fun. I also make a special recipe. You put the pre-made shells and then put them in the oven. Yeah. Yeah, you buy them pre-made, but then you got a Christmas Michelle. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You can go too far. I've gone too far. And then you put them in a powder. You take a bite and the thing just turns to powder. Okay. Is this Pope the first American Pope? Yes. Okay. He said working with the professional trainer he heard makes you work out 60% harder. It does say study show. You know, that's general, but it says study show that 60% to oh, no, this is different.

2:05:00This is different. He showed that 60% to 70% of people who work with the personal trainer stick to their routines long term. Okay. Yeah. When I talk to people about exercise, what seems to be the hard part is not the exercise, it is committing to going. Yeah. So if you've paid someone, I can see where it could be hugely impactful. Yeah. Yeah. Definitely. Back to the aforementioned chat about not wanting to be told what to do ever. Yeah. You don't have to. I had to figure out how to get myself there because I couldn't do it. Yeah. Oh, our Pope's allowed to smile. Yeah. Oh, okay. Yeah. I wasn't sure. I wasn't sure. Okay. I prefer Bade. Because he smiled at Dave. And it was a big deal. And I was like, yeah, I don't even know if they're allowed to do that. Yeah. But they are. Okay. Great. Of course, Dave got a smile. How could you not smile back at that cute smile? I know. Um. That Pope's from Chicago too. Yeah. Oh, he was at like the 2005 White Sucks World Series.

2:06:05They have like a thing at the park for him and they've done Pope. Okay. In our giveaway. Are you a socks or a Cubs? I'm a White Sucks fan. He's asking, is it like, are there a Cubby fans or this? Yeah. White Sucks fans are more hardcore or this? Yes. Yes. The White Sucks fans are tougher. Cubby fans are softer. Is it because they're called Cubbies? Because that doesn't help the cause. Yeah. Cub is a term in the gay community. Bear. A bear in a Cub. Yeah. That's the baller bear. Boys and men who love bears are Cubs. Is it still? I wonder what the new lingo is. I'm sure there's new lingo. Yeah. You would hope. Like, I wonder what a salamander is. Ooh. Probably a slippery guy. I think as salamanders, a guy who is always at the um, steam room and the, the sawn on us. Oh, when I was watching. Ooh. And not ever participating. Yeah. That's the salamander. Oh. Gross.

2:07:05Spectator. Oh. Okay. Well, the, I mean, one thing about Dave is he loves cats. Yeah. He really does. And it's really cute. Yeah. Um, how, oh, we talked about flow, the movie flow, because he said that movie won an Oscar and it had the cat as the protagonist. Oh, right. Finally. Yeah. It grossed over 50 million to 57 million worldwide. Oh, okay. But it only had a production budget of 3.7 million. Oh, so very profit. Yeah. It made a lot of money. It did only gross 4.8 million in the North America. The international support was large. So maybe they like cats more. Well, no, I think it's like, is it a story about Mexico? Or is that a different one? That's a different, that's anything going to the Pixar one. Oh, flow is Latvian. So that makes sense. Oh, it's independent. Okay. Well, obviously, I guess since it was $4, $3 million, independent animated dystopian adventure

2:08:06film, a Latvian French and Belgian co-production post-apocalyptic world. Okay. The cat trying to survive along with other animals and a seemingly post-apocalyptic world as a water level dramatically rising. What a union Latvia, France and Belgium. Yeah. Okay. Well, this make, oh, it released a can. Okay. That makes sense because it said most, so gross $45 million with strong performances in markets like Mexico, France and its native Latvia. Oh, yeah. Huge in Latvia. That makes sense. I have an embarrassed admission to make. I couldn't point out Latvia on a map if it were to save everyone's lives. And I know what I'm bad at. They deserve to be gone. They do. I think I can't point out a lot of places. I'm getting really fint nervous about geography. Okay. Recently. Yeah. So some other country came up and I like know it, but I'm like, where is it? Uh-huh. Where did they put it? Where did I put it?

2:09:07Oh. Okay. So it's just under Estonia and above Lithuania. It's near Russia. Yes, it is. It's bordering Russia. Now Russia is confusing. In what respect? In that it's European and Asian-ish. Like it like... Well, it stretches 11 time zones and I think under USSR was 13 time zones. So more than half the time zones it stretches. So you might live in Asia. You might be Asian. Mongolian, virtually. Yeah. If you're in Siberia. Right. Yeah. Their ethnography is complex. Yeah. They're Sweden and Norway and Finland. Uh-huh. All your friendly neighbors to the north, the Norse. I've been to Estonia and that little chunk of Russia right next to Estonia where St. Petersburg is, but I did not go south to Latvia. And now I feel like a fool. Maybe you cross through and just didn't know.

2:10:08I definitely sailed next to it. Right. Because I had loved Denmark. Oh, yes, sailed. Yeah. Yeah. I've been there. Okay. I'm going to put a pin in my map, my world map. When I was in Spanish class, you know, we had to learn obviously the South American and all those maps. And there was a song to remember the capitals of these countries. And I think 30 times a week of two lines of that song run through my brain. Can you do the whole song? No. And then that drives me nuts. So I'm always trying to get the rest in his only like two lines. Uh-huh. That is right. You told Ecuador Lima Peru. We're not going to do that. When you look it up though. The song. In Rihlana. That might be nice. I kind of want Cass to see if Cali remembers it. Yeah. And have her sing it to me on voice memo.

2:11:09Free birthday. Yeah. Okay. I'll give her a heads up. That's what you want on your birthday. Okay. But it's just like, you know how some things are in your brain. You know, we're seared. They're seared, but they just pop up. Like I'm in the shower and I'm always like, keto Ecuador. We love Peru. That's it. Yeah. You're halfway there, I think. No, there's a lot more. There's a lot more. Um, anyway, um, that's it. That's everything. Yeah. Okay. Wonderful. Yep. Yep. Yep. Well, hopefully, I want to hear the song at some point. Yeah. Okay. Stay tuned for the next fact check. Hopefully I'll have it by then. Okay. Love you. Love you. Love you. Love you.