296. How to Spot (and Break) the Dating Patterns Keeping You Stuck

There's a reason you keep dating the same people in different fonts: it's your dating patterns.

In this episode, I'm sharing the three patterns I discovered while tracking my own dating life, how they were getting in the way of the relationship I actually wanted, and what I did differently once I could finally see them. I'm also walking you through a simple way to identify your own patterns and turn them into experiments so you can start getting different dating results.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• What dating patterns actually are and how they can quietly influence who you choose and how you behave
• Common patterns like getting attached too quickly, chasing unavailable people, staying too long, or writing people off too soon
• The three dating patterns I discovered in my own dating life
• Why I stopped rushing physical intimacy and started approaching sex differently
• How I realized I was trying to earn affection instead of evaluating whether someone was right for me
• Why consistency can feel less exciting when you're used to chasing someone's attention
• How tracking my dates helped me spot behaviors I couldn't see in the moment
• How to turn your own dating patterns into small experiments that help you make different choices

Plus, I answer a dating dilemma from a 41-year-old man figuring out how to start dating again after a 13-year marriage—and how to avoid falling back into old people-pleasing habits.

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