293. Why What Happens After The Date Matters Most (First Date Vibe Check)

What can you learn from a first date that was just okay? And why does what happens after the date sometimes tell you more than the date itself? This is another episode of First Date Vibe Check, where I bring on a listener to walk me through a recent first date, from matching and messaging to the date itself, the post-date feelings, and what happened next.

This time, I’m talking to Katelyn (39), a single mom looking for a long-term relationship. She met “Trey” on Facebook Dating, moved the conversation over to Instagram, and eventually went on a two-hour dinner date.

We’re getting into:

• Why she prefers active first dates over dinner
• How she uses Instagram in her dating life
• The green flags she looks for in dating app conversations
• How she realized she wasn’t actually that excited about him
• Why feeling safe and having a “good enough” time doesn’t automatically mean you should go on a second date
• The post-date interaction that gave her a whole new data point
• Her firm boundary around second dates at home
• How she decides whether to give someone another chance
• And how to spend less time on the apps while getting to the date faster

Plus, Katelyn shares her best advice for staying positive when dating feels like a never-ending series of almosts.

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