295. How to Give Someone a Chance Without Settling w/ Jordanne Sculler

How do you stay open-minded in dating without settling for less than what you want? And what happens when someone treats you well, checks a lot of the important boxes, but something still feels… off?

In this episode, I’m joined by licensed therapist Jordanne Sculler to talk about the messy, nuanced parts of dating that don’t fit neatly into a set of rules. We unpack why familiar relationship dynamics can feel more attractive than healthy ones, why self-awareness alone doesn’t always break old patterns, and how to tell when you’re honoring your needs versus shrinking yourself to keep someone around.

Listen for...

• How to be open in dating without lowering your standards
• Why dating checklists can get in the way of real connection
• The difference between self-soothing and suppressing a legitimate need
• Why someone healthy might initially feel uncomfortable or unfamiliar
• How to stop focusing so much on whether someone likes you and ask whether you like them
• What dating disappointment can bring up about your self-worth
• How social media can reinforce negative stories about dating
• Grieving the relationship or life timeline you thought you’d have by now
• Why processing disappointment is different from simply “getting over it”
• How Jordanne met her husband after initially writing him off

And at the end, we answer a dating dilemma from a woman wondering if she made a huge mistake by ending things with a great guy who didn’t feel like her person.

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