Whine Down: Cuddle in a WHAT??

0:00This is an I Heart Podcast. Guaranteed Human I survived nine months in captivity and I've spent my life exploring how other people survive what should have destroyed them. I'm Elizabeth Smart and these are the survivor files. Every week I'm with survivors who live through the unthinkable, abducted, stalked, controlled and nearly silenced. These are stories about what it takes to make it out alive. Listen to the survivor files with the Elizabeth Smart on the I Heart Radio app Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts. If you're a bookshelf and you're a for-you-page or equally important to your personality, welcome home. Pro Society is a weekly podcast that's part book club, part group chat for anyone who thinks pride and prejudice and love island deserve the same level of discourse. Each week we're connecting the dots between books, the internet and pop culture. With your favorite writers, book talk creators and plenty of overthought opinions. Yeah, I'm obsessed.

1:00Listen to pro society on the I Heart Radio app Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts. On the new podcast, Solita, we share the messy reality of traveling alone as a woman. I can wait four hours for the next bus or this random dude is offering me a ride on his motorcycle. I choose option B. I'm Julie Pinero and I travel by myself because it's a rare space where I can say yes without asking anyone else first. I'm on a mission to reclaim the word Solita, trading the pity for possibility. Listen to Solita on the I Heart Radio app Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts. Our hometown is not a test tube. 90 miles northeast of Nashville, a battle for the future of America plays out in one small town. Developers with right wing ties have purchased hundreds of acres of land. We need cities on a shining hill. This is our town. A podcast about what happens when a small town becomes the site of a social experiment and fights back.

2:05I guess you didn't move in on a bunch of dumb hillbillies now, did you? Listen to our town on the I Heart Radio app Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts. It's the US Open, which means the tennis world is about to lose its mind. And I'm here for every second of it. Join me, Renee Stubbs on the Renee Stubbs tennis podcast as I break it all down. The matches that matter, the drama that doesn't, and the stories everyone's talking about. No cliches, no sugarcoding, just host analysts from someone who's actually been there. Coco, looking real good, her surf looks so much smoother than it has in the past. I was really happy to see Yiga back to what she looked like a couple of years ago and she was winning dominantly. Listen to the Renee Stubbs tennis podcast on the I Heart Radio app Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts. Wine Down with Jenna Kramer and I Heart Radio podcast. Hi, ladies. Hi. Well, so I got Kat hobbling in, which I was like, this is so 40.

3:06So 40s. You can't wait to tell you all this story. I can't wait to hear it. I missed you. And then what do we have? Certifiable? I think this might be my quietest podcast ever. Well, there's, I'm just going to sit in a corner and shut up. You called me. It's all just like, but I was in PT for my neck. So she's like, how's your back? I don't know. I'm just like, you don't need to get to the point where I'm just like, I'm just I Heart. Yeah. Anyways, next conversation is on board of that. So. And that's about me. How, and then you said you were certifiable? Equally board about my conversation. So yeah, I just, but then I like watch Catherine hobbling from her car. So I was like, well, this is just I came in and popped my cottage cheese in your refrigerator because I'm just trying to keep the protein up in hopes that it keeps me out of the eye of my own emotional storm. So is it, are you pre period? Oh, yes. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I sure am. And it's what I don't feel tearful.

4:08But then again, you never know with me, right? Right. And then I feel so anxious. Hmm. Like the anxiety is another level. And the dreams have been weird. It's. And I also, I will say this because my personality type. Cluttered house cluttered mind. And I know that is a lot of what's happening for me. School started. I'm the teacher. So that's all a little bit clunky scheduling. And I'm, you guys fifth grade math. I feel like I'm dumb. Like I'm like, what is happening? And so we're just trying to find our rhythm. Lion went to meet the teacher yesterday. Her school hasn't started yet. So I have, you know, like it's just a lot of like, there's no rhythm yet. And I think that's a lot of it. It's all fine. I just feel like I shouldn't talk for a living specifically in the next four days. Yeah. Yeah. I have a question. Lion's school hasn't started. Oh, okay. Because she's still doing like a preschool that starts later. Yeah. She's a week. It's really cute. Yeah.

5:08Okay. She also must be potty trained in six days. In six days. Three days. They need me to come over into Janet. I actually got my rule yesterday. I actually said we may have to enlist anti-janna for the three day. They would be in honor. Oh, you, she, and you'll just eat her up. I mean, she's like, I'm sure she's fine. I'm sure she's pretty much there anyways. She is. And actually while we were at school, she went potty on the little potty. And she was smitten with how little it was. And everything was her size. And she just thought that was the best thing ever. And then we got home and she goes, I put a diaper on. And I was like, I don't think you need one. And she's like, I got a poop. And so the poop, yeah. And I was like, that's fine. But we do need you to be potty trained. So we're kind of fraudulently entering our preschool year. We met her. Yeah. We're potty trained totally. I even said to her, I was like, it's a little hitter miss right now with the potty training. Yeah. But surely, most kids are kind of hitter miss. I don't know. We met this dapper young man in her class. His name's Bobby at a polo and khaki pants on. And he seems to be nailing it.

6:09So I don't really know. I gotta say Roman's nailing it. But that's just because I know. I don't know. I think because we pulled the plug and we did a three day thing. I really think that's the, I mean, from my previous experience, that's been the best thing. Did you do three day with all of them? Every single one. Yeah, same. Second day, I was like, this is not working. Oh my gosh, third day. Yeah. And they just get it. Yeah. Can we definitely, can you, can you come over both of these? I will say, I mean, with all three of my kids, you know, everyone pretty much got it. But poop was still an issue with some. So I think that that can depend. But I do stand by the three day. Yeah. Poop can depend. Roman was a unicorn in the poop department. Yeah. And I honestly think it was because I said, do you want privacy? And that was the only way. Yeah. So I do think part of our issue every door. And so I've. So you guys are for fun. He locks it then shuts the door. And I'm like, yeah, you lock it from. That's funny. Inside. But now I have a little, I got a little thing from Amazon. You just push it all. I just think part of our issue too is that there has been workers in the house.

7:12So the nakedness isn't an option. And the panseless isn't an option. Right. That's tricky. So everything is just a little gridlocked, including my moods, emotions and anxiety. And that's my update. I'll try to dance over there. What are you going to have a face? Not even exciting. It's so stupid. What did you do? Kit Kat in my room. Okay. So clutter has been a little bit better in my life. You know, I'm a little bit more cluttered than you all. But my old dog who is on his last leg still somehow likes to get in the trash every night. So if we forget to take out any, any trash, like if there's any in there, like he gets in the, she gets in the. Yes. He can't even get the trash cans. I mean, she actually, it's unbelievable. Get somehow. She is like 15 and like can't not pee on the floor, but she can get into the trash. Right. So I guess at some point yesterday, whenever that happened and I was picking it up, I had missed something because then I'm walking in my bedroom and all of a sudden I step

8:15on something. And I mean, it goes like straight through my foot. It is a piece of a plastic fork that had been broken off. And I mean, full force. I have no idea it's there. And it's, I mean, it's stuck in my carpet like straight up and down. No. Yeah. So I wouldn't stop bleeding yesterday. Like, do I go to the origin gear? Yeah. I stepped on a fork. Yeah. And I'm like, I don't think I need stitches. The problem is it won't really stop bleeding because we've made. I'm not complaining. I'm not complaining. I'm not complaining. I'm not complaining. I mean, it's not bleeding like right now, but the more I walk, you know, whatever. But it's also like super bruised because it like, it wasn't like sharp sharp. It was like blunt sharp, you know? We probably hit like a nerve too. Yeah. Oh, yeah. I mean, it's pretty, it's pretty, but it's fine. Should we get you a step? No, because I don't think it needs stitches. It just, I just need time to not be walking. But I can't, you know, so like I thought it was fine yesterday and I got up and blood literally followed me all over the house. So anyway, it's not that exciting.

9:15It's not that I'm old. It was just somehow, I think the dog, I think another dog probably ate half of that fork, which we might have an issue later. It was in my room and I stepped on it and I said, so many gut swords. Oh, that's the worst. It's like Lego. It's like, it's like, legend's room and the Lego's so many gut swords. But I have to be able to walk tomorrow because it's senior night at football where we have to like walk like across the field and get your flower. Yeah. Oh, I know. Well, love you, limp along. So I'll just, I can, I'll just walk on it and be in pain and then hopefully there's not blood everywhere somewhere. It'll be great. So that's, that's my world. That's my, that's amazing. It's not really like an old thing. It's just, there's nothing fun about being stepping out of Lego. No, no, no, they haven't. They haven't either dated me too. And Jolly's room, she'll like, oh, they all, there's three Lego tables, one in each kids room, the bedroom. And I'm just like, every time I step on it, it's like, oh, and also like, how do you not? Right. They're literally everywhere. So little, I know. Speaking of cussing though, y'all, we have to figure out what to do with Roman.

10:18I see like, cussing a lot. So like, I completely, like, I messed up one time because I stubbed my toe the other morning. And so, you know, stubbing your toe is like the most frustrating thing ever. Second too, stepping on a plastic fork. Like, oh, yes. Yeah, all the things. And so I did, that was the first time I've sworn in a minute in front of my kids. Okay, let's be honest, we all. Right. For sure. Our voice my mouth's here, like, you know, totally. But like, kids, you guys, it's like, I'm often busy around Pam. Um, I mean, not much. Like, we'll walk over there to like go because he loves Harlow. So he's like, mama, walk to Harlow or whatever. So we'll just stop into like, say hi to Harlow, but no, like she doesn't either. But it's, it's like, he's now turned it into this thing where he'll be like, like the other day he was playing with Jason, he's like, da, da, da, da, da, da, fuck. Oh, he's turned it into a top. And then like, what?

11:19He's turned it into like a Danny go episode. Oh, wait. Okay. I know you'll have probably talked about this when I was in here, but it started with he said that word, right? Was there like a major reaction from it? So the problem is is the kids will laugh. Uh-huh. And so like, we'll be so hard. Yeah. And we'll be like, you know, we'll say like, Roman, like, that's a bag. That word is like bad word, fuck. Bad word, fuck. And we're like, and it's, and it's so hard not to react. Like a couple times I had to go. So the other day when he was like, da, da, da, da, da, da, fuck. Like I'm like, he's on beat, you know what I mean? Like it's kind of, and it was funny. So I like walked into the room and gave like the chuckle or whatever. I tried to change the word. So like the other day I've been going like, cherries, but I'm like, well, shut up. I can't say cherries because I'm like, you want some cherries? You know, so I'm trying to like find a different word that like, he'll maybe hear like a bad word so that like we can switch it. But like again, the other day he said something and I don't know where he hears this, right?

12:22So this is the part where I'm like, we don't speak like this, but he'll be like, cuddle in a fuck. Why am I in elementary school? And I, this is what? I can't go to a black house. I can't go to a black house. I'm just gonna go to a black house. Like we've never said that. You know what I mean? Like we don't speak like that. Oh, I love it. We just don't. I also just want to say from a friend who has watched your babies, you really had such a gentleman in Jace. So I thought a gentleman. And I was always in my legend life. Like, God, I love that. She loves it. She loves that you have this now. Let's just be real. So a little bit, it's just, wait, would legend have said cuddle in a fuck? No, but he definitely, I mean, he's, he's the wild card. And he's a drummer and he's great, you know, whatever. He's all boy, but Roman's all boy. And Jace has always just been so diplomatic and like such a gentleman. Yeah, like he's the one that's like tattling on legend.

13:23That is on birthday party. I'm like, but he can't do that. Really? Yeah. And I'm like, things will let me know. I know the guy that tips me on. No, but like, yeah. Interesting. And then like this, no, the other morning, not the morning that I accidentally said it, but he was just like, I mean, he looks me dead in the eyes. He says it. He's like, fuck. I can't love it. And I'm just like, hey, Jace, you want it? But then like, you know, they again, if they're, there's, we've tried to tell them like guys, it's to the best of your ability. Yeah. I know it's funny. Right. But like, we don't say those words. Right. You know, what is Alan saying? Because this, I don't want to all throw him under the bus here because I'm not his spouse. But it's like more dialogue like, like there's a lot of words being used in the UK that you wouldn't use. They're very offensive to us here. Like, state words and that words. And you're like, whoa, you know, yes. So it's just like part of, I mean, even here in Pittsburgh, as we know, because we're all friends with the Pamster. Like, you know, like you just said that for us.

14:24She does. She cannot open that voice memo on speaker. Cannot do it. And so I just like, what is, I mean, is it, is he like, well, this is kind of ridiculous? I hear him say it a lot though. He does. He does. Okay. And then he's like, I'm better now that like, he, he's seeing that like Roman is still saying it. But like, I thought it would start going away. But now he's now he's turned it into a song, you know? So I'm just like, and I catch a one speaking of my sweet Jace. And kids say the darn dissing. The other day. So again, I've never farted in front of Alan. Okay. Just never. He has like, he's gone in the other room or whatever, but like never farted. And so we're in the kitchen the other day. And Jace goes to Alan. And he's like, Mommy farts all the time when you're not here. Yeah. Good for him. I was like, Jace. Do not know how to go. You let her rip. I was like, I didn't know. What? Also hilarious. I was like, wow, I love kids. We just go back to dinner. No, no, no, no. Back to you, Roman.

15:25Oh, I have no advice on that one. Please, don't me. I got nothing. I really don't know. I have not really. I have no advice on that one. I have no advice on that one. I have no advice on that one. Please, don't me. I got nothing. I really don't know. I have not really dealt with, I've dealt with a couple of cuss words, but not ones that kept going. Yeah, they're keep going. And I've changed the course. I don't wear. Yeah. So I'm like, moms, I've done the things. So now what? I mean, I see how grow the tick of saying it. It does kind of sound like a tick. Wait, remember Jace had a tick? Yeah. Yeah. I mean, Amy did like the blinking when she was younger, which is totally normal. But like the cuddle in a fuck. Can we get back to that for a second? That's funny. It's part of that. He's like cuddle in a fuck. And Alan goes, I mean, I was thinking it too. I'm like, is actually not do well. I wonder if he's heard it or if he's coming up with that. You know Alan doesn't say that word though. He's like, he's like, me glove and like, you know what I mean? Like, he doesn't say it. No, no, no, no. No, no, no. And I don't. So how does he, that's why I'm like, is he like somehow putting, he wouldn't have no

16:29we don't speak about. Yeah. No, he probably isn't. I wonder if he's probably that. I don't think he means it like that. Yeah. Obviously to us we do. But like, that like I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I really don't know. A three year old is almost three year old is coined though. Oh, man. I don't know. I was like, I mean, it was just, I mean, other than reaction and having literally no reaction, I think you just have to ride the wave out. Is that what you do and just keep no reaction as much as possible? We have so many great resources. Who can we ask that's an expert in child? Actually, let us know. I'm going to ask my friend Mary Reams and see what she says. Because I've really course corrected. I've tried to, you know, say that's not, we don't say it's a bad word. And then he'll be like, fuck bad word. Like he doesn't care. How are you keeping this? Why am I seriously 10 years old? I can't stop laughing. I have a video because I ended up videoing it. Oh my gosh. I'm going to put it on here. But like, you know, I have him just like, you know, going off. Going off. Who is this dude? I love him so much. I'm so excited. But he doesn't seem to be. I'm so excited. I'm so excited.

17:29I'm so excited. I'm so excited. I'm so excited. I'm excited. I'm so excited. Sweet. I don't want to talk about his video. I'll just give him the reaction. Of course. I just put it like down like this. I can't handle him. I just love him so much and you have yourself a true blue boy in this one and he does. He does. And Havcot's Men, which is a different. It's a league of its own. When I was 14 years old, I was kidnapped and health captive for nine months. I was kidnapped and health captive for nine months. I survived and I've spent my life exploring how other people survive what should have destroyed them. I'm Elizabeth Smart and these are the survivor files. You just remember this low taunting voice next to my ear saying, shut up, don't say anything. Every week I'm with survivors who lived through the unthinkable. I knew if he woke up. Without a doubt, he was going to hurt me.

18:30I started feeling that there was someone at the end of my bed and I just started screaming. They are abducted, stalked, controlled, and nearly silenced. But these aren't stories about what's taken from them. Their stories about what it takes to make it out alive, listen to the survivor files with Elizabeth Smart on the iHeartRadio app Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts. If your bookshelf and your for you page are equally important to your personality, welcome home. This is Pro's Society, the weekly podcast that's part book club, part group chat for thought daughters, pop culture obsessives, and anyone who thinks pride and prejudice and love island deserve the same level of discourse. I'm Eli Rallo and every week we're connecting the dots between books, the internet, and the conversations everyone can't stop having. I'm gonna have to look up this story. I'm obsessed, I'm obsessed. From bestselling authors and your favorite book talk creators to the latest pop culture moments, nothing is off the table.

19:33It's like if you can hide some real messages inside compelling characters and that is a Trojan horse, whether you're looking for literary deep dives, smart pop culture conversations, or a community of readers who love to think a little too much, you're in the right place. Listen to Pro's Society on the iHeartRadio app Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts. See you between the pages. On the new podcast, Solita, we share the messy reality of traveling alone as a woman. I can wait four hours for the next bus or this random dude is offering me a ride on his motorcycle. I choose option B. I'm Julie Beniero and I travel by myself because it's a rare space where I can say yes without asking anyone else first. I'm on a mission to reclaim the word solita, trading the pity for possibility. Every time I tried to be alone, I kept meeting people and they were like, you smile good, that's not a lot of people smile around here. It's when you're alone that you're most receptive

20:34to the world as it is and not the lies you're sold about it. It can be a time where you push your limits, change your mind, or wake up to a new version of yourself. So whether you're a solo travel veteran or you're too nervous to book your first trip, I hope you listen to Solita on the iHeartRadio app, Apple podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts. Our town is small taters by most standards, right? But to the people who grew up here, it's everything. What happens when a quiet Tennessee town becomes the front line in a battle over the future of America? Developers with right wing ties have purchased hundreds of acres of land in the area. The first thing you see when it pops up is high nears and apple etch. But they weren't just planning houses. We need cities on a shining hill that exemplify and embody the Christian way of life. Stop right there. Is that normal? A podcast about what happens when a small town becomes the site of a social experiment.

21:35God need men to rule. Great. And decides to fight back. Do not use my hard work to sell your bull. They're not just opposing what's being planned for here. Our hometown is not a test to. They feel like they're standing in opposition to an entire administration. Guess you didn't move in on a bunch of dumb hillbillies. Now, did you? Listen to our town on the I Heart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hey, it's Bobby Bones. Join me and former NFL quarterback Matt Castle every Wednesday. On our podcast, lots to say with me, Bobby Bones and Matt Castle. We also bring in friends and mostly mat friends who are current or former NFL players. Some of the biggest names in music and entertainment. And then we have some really great conversations that can pretty much go anywhere. The great. Pac-Man Jones. After the game to hold national task force for police officers was at the stadium. Like, hey, buddy, yeah, you out of. Come on. And one of my favorite segments we do is called situational awareness, where Bobby and I

22:37give each other real life situations and figure out what we'd actually do. You're in training camp, and the rookie quarterback has one good throwing session in front of the media. Suddenly, everybody online says he should start over you week one. How do you handle this? You just go back out to practice the next day and wait for him to mess up. Listen to lots to say with Bobby Bones and Matt Castle on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Same thing got to whine about it. Mine is the fork. No. It's really the only thing I might actually have to do with forks. This is minor and so dumb, but I just need to know, do you guys load your silverware down, down, or up like a psycho path? I'm so frustrated. The rest of my family does up, because like, the kids will do it too, and they all do them, and it makes me so mad. Wait, so that was part of my whine. I think we're opposites. Up, I'm up.

23:37I don't want to stab myself with the fork when I'm getting the stuff out. They get to go down. Knives go down. Everything else goes up. You're a little sharp if you're not paying attention. No, we're throwing your carpet as learned earlier. Exactly. Yeah, I don't, that was my only whine the other day. I thought, okay, plus I lay the pattern now. Please, everyone just adhere to the pattern. I did have a whine though the other day that I wanted to bring up when you were present, Kit Kat, because it has to do with teenagers. So maybe I don't really know if it is true blue whine, but certainly we can come up with a way to make it one. That's how we operate. But so in her neighborhood, and we're gonna go back to just the e-bike for a moment, this is not the whine, but it is a situation that has to do with that. So my other friend Kat is if I could have another friend Kat, Kat Nail. She lives in my neighborhood. But do you call her Kit Kat? I do not. Okay, cool. I call her Kat Nail. I never call her that her last name. Like Sarah Brighton. Our red lad, I'm a sub-sum. Okay. She was at a red light at a stop sign.

24:39And two e-bikes come up. And they pass her on our, we live in country, you know, so she's on a country road. They pass her on a double yellow line. No helmets, teenagers, whatever. She's like, I honestly, Kristen thought I might witness something that was gonna forever change my world. Like that's how dangerous it was. And so she followed them into the neighborhood and she got a picture at the back of them. They were going like 45 down her street to 20 mile an hour street, whatever. So she goes to Facebook and she says, post the back of Kat's already nodding. Kat knows this drill. So she goes to Facebook and she posts the back of them. She's very respectful. Kat's a very level-headed human. And she just says like, these two teenagers passed me, genuinely was nervous for their safety. Yeah. And said, I would wanna know this if this was, you know, my kids and just blah, blah, blah. So it wasn't, honestly, I read it from both sides.

25:42And not just like as an advocate of her. I was like, okay, where is she messed up? But I shall often call and say, I need your Detroit to meet my Memphis on this poster, you know? So I read it and I do not, it does not feel shame in it all. The mom writes to her. And so, oh, major, major piece of this story. I hope Kat's okay with me telling the story, actually. I didn't ever ask her for clearance. I'll ask her for forgiveness later. So the woman, so she follows the kids, the house she pulls over and she says, you guys need to, Kat is telling these kids, she's like, you must, I need you guys to be careful. Like this is really dangerous. You can really hurt yourselves or someone else. But like, truthfully I'm worried for your safety. And if I was your mom, I would want someone to speak this to me, you know, like for my kids, whenever. And they drop F-bombs. We don't have any care. A little bit of Roman in there. Then, then, then, then, then. And so, we, so she's like, floored by the behavior. Makes the post, the mom reaches out. The mom goes off.

26:45I can't believe you ever talk to my kids, don't talk to my kids, blah, blah, blah, loses her mind. So Kat's like, am I doing the wrong thing? Like this is, she wasn't trying to be like, it wasn't judgmental. She was like, truly worried about the safety. And so I had this moment where I was like, well, and there has been a Facebook post about Legend Brust. By the way, he was unnamed. They didn't know. But it was Blond Mullet, Mohawk Helmet. I'm ready to share. I was like, and I wrote on there and I said, I'm gonna DM you. I think this is my son and I want every detail. Thank you for posting about this. Because he had cut between a car. He's not supposed to even be in the street. So that was a violation already. But I was never offended that it was posted about, at all. Like truthfully. And I'm like, I really appreciate the village of, or the, yeah, the village in parenting. But I'm shocked that, I'm not shocked that not everybody feels the same way. But I, especially when it's like this

27:46and it feels so out of the right place, but I don't have teenagers. If you're a bookshelf and you're a four-year page or equally important to your personality, welcome home. This is Pro's Society, the weekly podcast that's part book club, part group chat for thought daughters, pop culture obsessives, and anyone who thinks pride and prejudice and love island deserve the same level of discourse. I'm Eli Rallo and every week, we're connecting the dots between books, the internet, and the conversations everyone can't stop having. I'm gonna have to look up this story. I'm obsessed, so obsessed. From best-selling authors and your favorite book talk to creators to the latest pop culture moments, nothing is off the table. So like if you can hide some real messages inside compelling characters, and that is a Trojan horse, whether you're looking for literary deep dives, smart pop culture conversations,

28:46or a community of readers who love to think a little too much, you're in the right place. Listen to Pro's Society on the I Heart Radio app, Apple podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. See you between the pages. On the new podcast, Solita, we share the messy reality of traveling alone as a woman. I can wait four hours for the next bus, or this random dude is offering me a ride on his motorcycle. I choose Option B. I'm Julie Bignero, and I travel by myself because it's a rare space where I can say yes without asking anyone else first. I'm on a mission to reclaim the word Solita, trading the pity for possibility. Every time I try to be alone, I kept meeting people, and they were like, you smiled at us, not a lot of people smile around here. It's when you're alone that you're most receptive to the world as it is, and not the lies you're sold about it. It can be a time where you push your limits, change your mind, or wake up to a new version of yourself.

29:46So whether you're a solo travel veteran, or you're too nervous to book your first trip, I hope you listen to Solita on the I Heart Radio app, Apple podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. When I was 14 years old, I was kidnapped, and health captive for nine months. I survived, and I've spent my life exploring how other people survive what should have destroyed them. I'm Elizabeth Smart, and these are the survivor files. You just remember this low-taunting voice next to my ear saying, shut up, don't say anything. Every week, I'm with survivors who live through the unthinkable. I knew if he woke up, without a doubt, he was going to hurt me. I started feeling that there was someone at the end of my bed, and I just started screaming. They are abducted, stalked, controlled, and nearly silenced, but these aren't stories about what's taken from them.

30:47Their stories about what it takes to make it out alive, listen to the survivor files with Elizabeth Smart on the I Heart Radio app, Apple podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Our town is small taters by most standards, right? But to the people who grew up here, it's everything. What happens when a quiet Tennessee town becomes the front line in a battle over the future of America? Developers with right-wing ties have purchased hundreds of acres of land in the area. The first thing you see when it pops up is high nears and apple etch. But they weren't just planning houses. We need cities on a shining hill that exemplify and embody the Christian way of life. Stop right there, is that normal? A podcast about what happens when a small town becomes the site of a social experiment. God need men to rule, great! And decides to fight back. Do not use my hard work to sell your bulls. They're not just opposing what's being planned for here.

31:49Our hometown is not a test tube. They feel like they're standing in opposition to an entire administration. Guess you didn't move in on a bunch of dumb hillbillies, now did you? Listen to our town on the I Heart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hey, it's Bobby Bones. Join me and former NFL quarterback Matt Castle every Wednesday on our podcast, lots to say with me, Bobby Bones and Matt Castle. We also bring in friends and mostly mat friends who are current or former NFL players. Some of the biggest names in music and entertainment, and then we have some really great conversations that can pretty much go anywhere. They're great. Pac-Man Jones. After the game to hold national task force for police officers was at the stadium. Like, hey, buddy, yeah, you out of, come on. And one of my favorite segments we do is called situational awareness, where Bobby and I give each other real life situations and figure out what we'd actually do. You're in training camp and the rookie quarterback has one good throwing session in front of the media. Suddenly, everybody online says he should start

32:51over you week one. How do you handle this? You just go back out to practice the next day and wait for him to mess up. Yeah. Listen to lots to say with Bobby Bones and Matt Castle on the I Heart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm a, this is obviously cat would absolutely feel, like she knows the side. I'm just from hearing this though. I still think as a parent, I would want to be talked to first. Okay. And I don't think that that, I don't know that that was an issue. I don't know. Like, if something was happening, like I would want someone to come to me as opposed to like parenting my kid first. It's kind of just how I like, so I want both perspective and what I personally. Maybe being defensive of like, I don't know. Like again, I totally see what she's, what she didn't, and I hear that. I'm just good, stepping in the parents' tune. I'm like, I, and I run defense a bit.

33:51So like I could see myself maybe being defensive because I'm like, well, I want a parent, the situation, and like, why didn't you come to me? Yeah, she didn't know the parent to be the parent. Yeah, that's why I'm the post. But should she have said anything at all? Was kind of like, she was like, I said, you know, having that moment. I mean, we get these posts probably every other week and nothing good ever comes out of them usually. I will say sometimes parents will see and say that is my child. So glad you told me. Most of the time it is 50, 50 and parents are fighting about the fact that kids are posted on the internet. It was just their backs as well. Not their face. I don't care if it's their face. I don't care if it's the front. It doesn't ever bother me because I truly, most of the time I think people truly care about their safety and that's why they're doing it. We've had a few that accused the wrong people and parents let it very well known that this was not the kids that were accused. This photo is not of the kids that did it, you know, whatever. I'm a village mentality person. You have every right if you think my parents

34:54or my kids are doing something unsafe to come to them. Now, if my kids come to me and it seems unfair, okay, we'll handle that and I'll say, you know what? I disagree with how this adult handled it and you were not in trouble by me, but I will never not welcome that in my home. Our village mentality is gone. We don't have that anymore. And I've realized in this that I probably would get nowhere doing that with someone. A lot, not nowhere. A lot of the time I don't think you get anywhere. I think people have become too defensive of it and don't want that. If it's truly, if I were in that position now, I'd have seen all these people posting things and it not going well. If they truly were doing something that was unsafe and illegal, mind you, I'm calling the cops. Well, I think that was several neighbors have been doing that. Like they're like, because it is illegal.

35:55Yep, I mean, I'm sorry. And I'll let them deal with it. Yeah. This is unsafe. I'm worried about their safety. I do not know their parents because essentially you're posting it because you don't know who the parents are. And that was it to know. It wasn't a blast, yeah. Now, I have had situations too with driving, with kids driving, where someone posted and posted a car and said, I asked this child first for their parents' phone number and they refused to give it to me. I actually know the kid that refused to do it. He's a great kid. But he did. He refused to give the phone number and the parents did not want them dealing. That's their business. That's fine. But if they're doing something unsafe, I... Probably at this point wouldn't post it on social media, but if it's unsafe and illegal and I'm worried about it, I'm gonna call the cops and let them deal with it. I will say this is the private Facebook page for our neighborhood. So this wasn't like she put it on Instagram. Like it was... Yeah, I think we have like a Nolan'sville 411, so it does go pretty wide. This is not, this is... And people like about it. A lot of people don't think that kids' faces

36:55should be put on there. And I think that there's a happy medium. It depends what they're doing. You know, for sure. But... I kind of love the village mentality. I don't want to sit. I love it. I want it. And I was thinking about like when we were young, that's... I think maybe that was maybe my partial wine because I remember feeling like there were kind of eyes everywhere and I wanted to... You know, like I never wanted to make anyone... Well, and that's what I think we're missing now. But so, I mean, listen, I hear all this and I'm like, I am for the village mentality who I was thinking of an old, old neighbor back in 2020 when there was a kid that he was vandalizing some of the open homes or whatever. And I had saw him doing it. I was like, hey, you need to stop. Obviously, I then connected, you know, talk to his mom. But I just don't think I would post a photo, even from the back. I don't think I would. I would think I would say something, like if it was unsafe, like, hey guys, like...

37:55Like I've told people to slow down in the neighborhood. Like, you know, they've pulled in and I'm like, hey, you gotta slow down, you know, I do the mom thing. I do too. I used to be the, what I used to always roll my eyes with my mom. But yeah, I mean, I do that. But I don't think I would post a photo and be like this person was driving too fast. I mean, and listen, I've seen people on e-bikes that shouldn't be... Nothing against people to do it. No one can tell me what to do about that. And I've never posted anyone's. But I also don't thought the people that do mostly if they're doing it out of, you know, but I have never either. So I mean, I agree. I think it would take a lot for me to actually... I actually post it. Well, and for her too, that's where I kind of, and this is not on behalf of my client, like I don't. I just really, I think it was like more so that she followed them, had the conversation. They were not apologetic. We're dropping F-bombs and she was like, okay, this is kind of out of control. And that's what I think is the problem. You know, my kids know, you know, if you show up on that 4-1-1,

38:57we will have a major problem. That is like everyone, the my kids know that. And Emmy, actually she was not on the 4-1-1, but she was on a group text that got sent because she was following on a bike, following a friend, and they went out in the middle, like when they shouldn't have, they crossed or whatever. And I lost my mind. I was a little unrealistic, honestly, but like I was so mad. I was just like, you're coming home, you know, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, and all the things. So, I mean, I just think though, what you were saying is so important, like knowing that you have eyes on you, and that something will happen if you're unsafe. So, to me, what I'm hearing is these kids, they just got away with A, what they were doing. Nothing's gonna change there. And B, with basically telling you to F off. And which is wild to me. And then, yeah, because then the mom was like, you just, I mean, and listen, I also get that. Like, as a mother, these are our people, right? And they have to think that like our kids need to know that we will go to bat for them, blah, blah, blah.

39:57Like when it's this disrespectful. When I've also told my kids, I'm like, if you are doing the worst thing in the world and you get caught, yes, ma'am, no, ma'am, I'm so sorry. If you think you were absolutely doing nothing wrong and an adult is losing their mind at you, yes, ma'am, I'm so sorry. And you walk away and you tell me and you say an adult was inappropriate. Like, I don't care if you did nothing wrong. And I don't want to teach them to not stand up for themselves. But also, I think there's a respectful way to just say, yes, ma'am, I'm sorry, and walk away. Yeah, and it's wild. We have, I have a little neighbor, dude, who's like the love of my life and his mom knows it. I got to be there to see that he was a heartbeat out of IVF. Like, he's part of my, like, he's just part of my DNA. And I love him so much. And his mom and I are like very mutual. Like, we chat all the time. We have two eight-year-old boys out there running a muck together. You know, so like, she'll send Legend Back Home if you need to be home. I can send Be Back Home if you need to go home.

40:57Like, the village of it all is just knowing that there's other people to pour into your kids. So I guess my wine is that I just miss a little bit of the village. Yeah, I miss that. I don't love the new mentality of that we've got social media to like put it all out there. Yeah, for sure. For sure on some of these Facebook groups that are just, I mean, there's a lady that will always complain about something no matter what. And if she was to put something about my kid on there, I would probably get defensive because I'm like, you're complaining about everything. Right. Just because my daughter is carrying the typical blue bag of the dog poop, don't blame my kid thinking, oh, are you the one that left the blue dog? Like, we don't really leave it out there. Right. You know what I mean? But like, it is the taking picture to think, oh, this person's carrying a blue dog bag. It must be them. No, there's multiple call. You know, so easy, Nancy Drew. Get a half-o. Like, I do think there's like that. And he's kind of gotten out of control too, where I think I would do that. Well, that's how to say that. That's where I meant like the defense. And that's how to say that. Safety thing. Like, I don't think I'd ever even think about it or consider it. If I wasn't genuinely worried about someone's safety. Yeah. I mean, on the road and have a yellow line.

41:59And that's how I mean, that's terrifying. But honestly, that's, you know, that whole other story. So. Well, that's where it's like, you can only do so much. Yeah. And like those kids are not going to. I know. And I do believe that too. Where that's where I'm just like, it's not my job. I'm like, if you don't have enough for, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And that's, I do struggle with that too. And that's where that mentality kind of goes away. Because we're now, we get almost chastised more for doing things like that. So now it's like, it kind of goes away. Because people want to stick to themselves and not. And that was her thing. Am I so wrong here? Like, am I like a major brain for a second? Like, this is wild. I just got yelled at by a parent. I was like, no, I don't. We're just living in a different time. Yeah. It's different now, for sure. Hmm. And, you know, everyone longingly looks into the distance, dreaming of 90s childhood. Yeah. What a time. You guys, we were living in the best time of the year. But I also don't think, I mean, I don't know. Maybe I was just too.

42:59I didn't really get into trouble. I didn't mean like, I'd, but again, because I also was, I knew people. Yeah. I didn't want anyone ever going to my parents to tell my parents I did something wrong. Like, fear of God in me, you know? And so I, so I didn't kiss Andrew Bach at the bus stop. Because I didn't want to get back to my mom. Look at the bus stop. Look at the bus stop. That's risky. Good for you. It is risky. Public. Didn't want anything going back to her, so I didn't. And then I got copied. You all know the story. Oh, God. Funny how time's changed. Sometimes they did change. Anyways, I actually have a really good topic that something came up with Jolly about, and it's another kid conversation. So I'll save it for next week. Because it's, I'm pinning it. I pinned it and I cut it down. Oh, good. But it's good. It was because I actually didn't really know how to have the conversation. Oh, I mean, very interested. We're in the thick of a couple of those right now. Yeah. But I did it, but I know I hopefully had a good age appropriate way. So I don't know. Well, I still think I need to follow up on it a bit. And you would be great too, because you have older.

44:01Yeah. So it would be really helpful. So we'll pause into that for next week. But I love you, ladies. I love you too. I missed you, girls. We will see you next week. Yeah. Bye. Bye. So on the new podcast, Solita, we share the messy reality of traveling alone as a woman. I can wait four hours for the next bus or this random dude is offering the ride on his motorcycle. I choose option B. I'm Julie Pinero and I travel by myself because it's a rare space where I can say yes without asking anyone else first. I'm on a mission to reclaim the word Solita, trading the pity for possibility. Listen to Solita on the iHeartRadio app, Apple podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. If you're a bookshelf and you're a for you page are equally important to your personality,

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