A Listener Whine: Never Too Late

0:00This is an I Heart Podcast. Guaranteed Human. You know, I talk a lot on the show about showing up for people. Even when life is messy or you can't physically be there. And recently, someone sent me a spoonful of comfort package. And it honestly stopped me in my tracks. The soup, the rolls, the cookies, but also the way it was packed. The little ladle tied with the bow, the personal note, it felt like someone was giving me a hug from afar. And since then, I've actually sent one to one of my closest friends because I know Kristen, you guys all know and love her too. She loved some good soup and some good comfort food.

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3:01Valveline Instant Oil Change Wisely. Wine Down with Jenna Kramer and I Heart Radio Podcast. Well, this week's listener episode we've got Sam Barrego. Thank you so much for coming on the show. Thanks for having me. I'm excited. Have we met before? We have. Very briefly. Okay, I was like, I always feel so bad if I don't remember meeting someone. Like it just makes me sad. When did we meet? So my sister and I were extras on Love Song for a Texas Ranger. Oh. And you were so gracious enough to take pictures with everybody at midnight. And we were one of them. So thank you for that. We really appreciate it. No, of course. Of course. I always feel so bad. I think extras have fun, but I also think it's hard work. You know, I mean, you guys are there. They're just telling you where to stand and then go here. It's just it's, you know, it's not the most glamorous work.

4:02But so I always just have, you know, I have, yeah, it just made me sad. Listen, I know I'm not the only one tired. You guys have been here all day and it was a very long day. So I'm like, the least I can do is come say thank you and take pics. So I'm glad I was really great. Thank you. Of course. Did you have fun now or were you just like, was it your first time being an extra? It was our first time. We had so much fun. Oh, it was. It was great. We had a really good time. And then also I saw I live in the Pearl area. And I saw I also saw you a few times that I was nervous to say hi. Because I was afraid you were going to think I was stalking you. But I like, my sister was like, it's not stalking. You live there. You work. I work out of Baker, you're learning all the time. Oh my gosh. I love that place. Yeah. Yeah. So a few times you might have seen me in passing, but I was afraid to say hi. Oh my goodness. That's a thing too. Like I'm always like, I love it when people say, hey, I really do. I mean, it's, I always feel bad too. Like if it they caught like a bad moment where it's like, you know,

5:05the kids are, you know, running in every which way. Like because I always want to have like a good connect and, you know, conversation. So, but I'm, I always like, I love it when people say, hey, like it doesn't bother me at all. If anything, I'm like, okay, like I'm people care, you know, like I'm not a loser. Like, but thank you. And yeah, the Pearl, I honestly miss San Antonio so much. Like I, I loved it. Like loved it. I always hear that from anybody tourists or people visiting people just love the city. Oh, yeah. And the Pearl was the best location. We had this little Airbnb that was just, I mean, it was walking distance. So I, I just, I fell in love with it. And like I could live here. Oh, yeah. It's great and dangerous because I can't tell you how much money I would save if I didn't go to the point market all the time. Oh, that market. I walked in there in the last day. And I was like, is there someone I could talk to you to see if we could like, like, franchise this or like, because it's so good. It really is. Yeah. It's a great area. It's amazing. All right. What is it? What's your question, girlfriend?

6:07Okay. So I'm going to start off with, so I'm 38. So I'm basically around, but saying my 40s are close to it. Don't do it yet. Stay in your 30s. You can do it. Just don't listen. You will have all your time here. Okay. Like you got stay in your 30s. Time is going by way too fast. I will say that. Yeah. So one of my questions to you is, what is your advice to somebody in early 30s or 40s who still has goals, but might be nervous to pursue them out of fear or intimidation or maybe even time. Yeah. No, for sure. I get that. Do you see those things that go around Instagram where it's like, um, vera winged and opened her first weddings shop until like this age. And this person didn't get his first, you know, until like he was 50. And I love seeing those because honestly it puts me when I start to question things. It highlights like, okay, there's a lot of people that have dreams and aspirations and they're not doing exactly what they want to be doing.

7:12But my biggest thing is when you are and I tell Chris in this all the time because she, you know, she wants to do comedy and stand up and skits, but she's like, but be off like when do I have the time and I'm like, and I get that like we are in a season. Are you a mom. No, not yet. Well, it would be probably work is like your big thing like right like you're just working so much exactly so like when you don't have kids too, it's like your work is like everything. And so I think especially now like if you can find a time like whatever it is that that thing that you want to do. If you can give yourself a cut off and be like, okay, this from this time to this time, like I'm going to do something that helps me get to that goal that I want to get to or the thing that I want to try or that because I personally like I don't want to be 70 because by 70 in my opinion, like it's kind of like it's it's a little hard. I mean, you could still pick up like a hobby like playing piano or things like that. But like I don't know like if you want to be you know, something and listen, maybe an 80 year old will be like, well, that's not true. You know, but I just think when you get to that age, you're kind of like shoot what I would have given because if you think about it right now, you're 38 years old, right.

8:22So at 6870, if you would have said 30 years ago, because that's a lot of time. 30 years is so much and every time I start to think like I'm too old or I can't do this. I'm like, what am I doing? My dreams are like, there's no way I'll be able to do this. I'm like, all right, I'm 42 years old. 40 years ago, I was two. You know what I mean? Like and look at the life that I've lived 30 years ago, 20 years ago, 10 years ago. I'm like so much can change. And like it's actually a lot of time. Like if we are given that time, God's like, you know, we are blessed with being healthy and safe and all the things. That is a lot of time to be able to do something that we want to do. It really is. It's just whether or not you want to put in the like the extra. Okay, we're doing this. Like I'm going to do one thing that puts me on that path to that thing. So that way when you are 70, you could be like, I did try because do you want to live with that didn't try?

9:26No, no, no. And that's like my biggest thing to it's my biggest thing with relationships. It's my biggest thing with with anything where it's like, I have to at least say I tried because listen, there have been I've had multiple failures in business. I hate saying that, but at least I tried. You know what I mean? Like the wine business, it failed. There was a lot of reasons why it didn't why it failed, but it's still ultimately failed, but I tried. You know, and I can blame and point fingers and be like, well, that person left the company in this and that. And I still tried, you know, and now I know something better if I want to do it again, but I don't because I don't really drink anymore. So I'm like, I'm good with it. You know, or it's like the clothing company. Like there's so many things that's like, OK, at least I tried and I learned a lot from it. If I really really wanted to do it, now I'll have better tools to like do it better. Is that make is any of that making sense or register? Yes, it makes great sense. And I think you touched on the point to like the fear of failure essentially. Yeah, and girlfriend, like every day, like I mean shoot, I, you know, I got an audition the other day and I just texted my manager and I was like, listen, dude, I, it's he's a new manager and he sent me a comedy audition and I was like, I'm not funny.

10:36Like I, and I don't, but in the piece of me is like, gosh, I don't know sterling Jones when I was in set with him. He was like, you're so funny, but I have this like, no, I'm not like I'm not and I can't do it. And so there's a piece of me where it's like, all right, this winner when I slow down like I'm going to put myself into like a, you know, there, there's like an acting class down the street where I'm going to put myself into like a comedic something because at least I'll say, because my brain saying you're not funny. You can't do that. You're stupid. Like it like don't. But at least I'm going to go try. You know, and that way I can be like, you know what? Because I don't think comedy is my thing. I love to cry. Like I love drama. I love like. But also like maybe I could find joy in doing comedy. Like I think about like when Alex D'Priand won tree Hill. The reason I didn't want to audition for that role was because I was like, I don't know how to act like big like that. Like she seemed so much like I was like, how do I do that? She was funny too. But like, you know, it was, it was uncomfortable for me to play that character because I didn't feel funny.

11:38Like I didn't feel like, but I just kind of did my own thing. But like, yeah, I mean, it was, and I'd get the, the creator and the producer in my head all the time being like, you push more, push more like beat like, make a bigger choices. And I'm like, I feel so uncomfortable. And I don't know what I don't know. So I think like what is the thing that you want to do? And that's the next challenge. There's so much, right? So I'm like, okay, what avenue do I want to go and focus on? So I want to get part of me wanted to get into academia and do research and write books and textbooks on leadership and emotional intelligence. My husband and I have recently gone to Venice and functional health in the last few years and I found a really huge passion in that. I've been wanting to write a book that's really been tugging on my heartstrings for years. So it's just there's a lot and it's like the challenge is narrowing it down and focusing on something but also like the imposter syndrome, which I know you ladies discussed quite a bit on the show. So yeah, there's a couple of things. It's just trying to figure it out and then telling myself to go for it.

12:41Yeah, I mean, I actually don't think imposter syndrome is a bad thing. I think it can be if it's like to an extreme. But like, I know what I'm good at and I know what I'm not good at. So when someone's like, you're amazing at that. And I'm not going to like, when I know I'm not like, and I'm not saying it from like a self deprecating place or being like, no, no, tell me I'm good. Like I know I'm not the best at X, Y or Z. But thank you for the compliment. But like, and I think that's okay. I don't like, I think that's okay. I think it's just when you go to like the extreme of that. But like when you're talking about your wellness journey and what wanted to write a book, honestly girlfriend, like, even if it's just once a week for one hour, just sit in front of your computer, you have all the knowledge. It's not like something that you're like, I want to learn how to do something that you have known nothing about. Like, this is your passion. This is what you know to do. And I promise you, like, if you do that hour, maybe do like the next week, another 30 minutes or, you know, add another hour to it. And then you're going to, like, your notes section and your, your, you know, documents are going to be flooded because you have the information. You just have to allow yourself to have the time to do it. And then yeah, because it's like listen to a book is, is a thing and it's a lot of work and it's hard and I get it because I'm still like,

13:49I haven't put in the effort to finish or even start book three because I'm like, I don't have time. But I'm also, there are other things I'm prioritizing because I want to prioritize it over at the moment. And I don't think I have the words yet, you know, so. But like, if you have the words, sit, you know, just sit down and right now, I don't know if you want to have kids or not have kids, but now it would be the time before that goes on your plate because I'm like, that's a whole other ball game of like, you know, I have to end today at four because I need to go get the kids. I don't, you know what I mean? Like I end because it's a sports and I love that because being a mom is like my favorite thing in the world. So I get to, but I also have to stop what I also love to do too. That makes sense. Yes, yes. And it's yes, it is complete sense. So I would just like, open up your notes, open up the word doc, whatever and just be like, all right, Friday at four, Friday, whatever. Like, just one hour. I'll try that. It will.

15:01This summer, we've got a lot of family coming into town and I just booked the cutest home on Airbnb in Nashville because let's be honest, it's also fun to have a little vacation when family comes in to see the kiddos. And what I love about the home that we booked on Airbnb is there's so much to do around the area. They can be tourists when they come in not just grandparents. They're close to Broadway, all the bars, all the touristy attractions. And they can even have a little rest and relaxation in the sweet back door living space. Now, if you're planning any upcoming trips, do you ever think about how your home will just be sitting empty while you're gone? Why not consider listing your space on Airbnb? You could be giving travelers like me a place to land while they visit somewhere new and earn some extra cash at the same time. And with the co host network, you don't even need to stress the little details while you're enjoying your own trip. You can hire a local co host to handle everything like creating your listing, managing reservations, guest communication, on-site support and even styling your space.

16:07So while you're making your own memories, your home can be helping another family make theirs. Find a co host at Airbnb dot com slash host. Pull up a chair to at the table, the food allergy podcast each episode they explore how food allergies shape the way we travel date celebrate and connect because living with food allergies isn't just about what you can't eat. It's about still having your seat at the table brought to you by Genotech and Novartis listen to at the table the food allergy podcasts on America's number one podcast network. I heart follow at the table and start listening to the free I heart radio app today. You know, I talk a lot on the show about showing up for people even when life is messy or you can't physically be there and recently someone sent me a spoonful of comfort package and it honestly stopped me in my tracks. The soup, the rolls, the cookies, but also the way it was packed the little ladle tied with the bow the personal note. It felt like someone was giving me a hug from afar. And since then I've actually sent one to one of my closest friends because I know Kristen you guys all know and love her to she loves some good soup and some good comfort food and she said it was exactly what she needed.

17:15It was a thoughtful way to show love when you don't know what to say or you can't be there in person spoonful of comfort a warm reminder that love can travel any distance. Send one today at send a spoonful dot com that send a spoonful dot com. I realized recently that one of the most annoying things about my home was something I looked at every single day or entryway. It was functional, but it was always a drop zone for shoes bags and everything else and it constantly looked cluttered. So I found a new entryway storage bench on wafer and has honestly made such a difference. Now we have a place to sit down put on our shoes and actually took everything away. It looks really nice in the space to so instead of trying to hide the mess it actually feels like part of the decor. I was also really impressed by how easy it was to shop I could compare different styles and price points read reviews from people who had actually purchased the pieces and see photos of what they looked like in real homes with more than 20 million verified five star reviews. You're definitely not shopping blind and I love that way fair verified gives you another level of confidence because their product specialist hand that pieces using a 10 point quality inspection.

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19:22And just when we were like, how are we going to accomplish the school? We won the AT&T small business contest grant that $50,000 got us over the finish line where we built the first AI powered grocery shipping container in the country. For Jalaya, it's about building a legacy to show the world that you can solve any problem when you work together. Having the support of AT&T, the city of Atlanta is huge. Look at how many people we've been able to help. Connecting changes everything AT&T. You mentioned it apostrophe syndrome. When that shows up free, what does it sound like? And what do you do to combat it or to like put yourself in a different space? I do the cognitive belief stuff. I'll say like, is that with 100% accuracy the truth? I do a lot of that. But also, again, I don't think it's a bad thing unless it's really self-deprecating.

20:26But I think it's okay to be like, you know what? I might fail at this, but at least I'm going to give it a go. And I think that's the part where I always go back to. Because I'm not going to be mad at myself for trying. I'm going to be mad at myself if I don't try. I think you could, I really think. I might be world's worst actress or world's worst singer, but at least I'm trying. You know, like I'm going to, I don't think I'm the best at singing or I think I'm, you know, I have other thoughts about other things. But it's not in a, I'm not good enough. I'm not going to do it. Like, no, you are good enough because you have all the tools and you know what you're talking about. Like, I'm not going to go on my platform and start talking about cooking. I can't cook. I don't know what goes with what. You know what I mean? Like, that's okay. Like, I don't know. But I'm not going to go pretend to be something too. So it's like, I also like knowing what your strengths are.

21:28And then just like believing in that. Like, and just being like, all right, cool. If I fail, I fail. Yeah. And you're going to do great. Thank you. And I know you fall along all like all about it. Like I think it's going to be great. I'm always like trying to search on, you know, health and wellness people's pages. You can go down a big, yeah, before with that. Oh, yeah. For sure. And you know, some people probably don't even know what they're talking about, but at least they're trying. And you can discern that. I can discern where I'm like, uh, it doesn't feel right. Well, that's probably not true. Because I'm going to do this. You know, so I'm, I don't know. I think it doesn't matter how old you are. It doesn't matter. It's just you need to believe that you matter enough to be able to do it. And that's the thing. Like you can have doubts and fears. We all do. Like we're, it's a human thing to have doubts and fears. But is it the truth? And the, and what is the truth? Like you know, you know what, you know, you know what you're talking about. And I'm, I'm excited for you.

22:28Thank you. I really appreciate that. Of course. Um, where can we follow your journey? Are you on Instagram? So anyone's listening that can start your following along with you? Yeah. Sure. My Instagram is at drdr. dr. Sam Ruiz. Are you, I say M. Are you IZ? Um, that's my maiden name, but I didn't ever change my Instagram handle. I love it. Good. Good for you, girl. Well, good. Well, I will follow along as well. Your, your journey. And I'm excited to see what day you start writing. No pressure. No pressure. I'll be watching. Okay. Thank you so much for coming. Thank you for having me. Have a good day. You too, girl. Someone recently sent me a spoonful of comfort package and it truly felt like a hug in a box. The soup, the rolls, the cookies, even the ladle tied with the bow. It was so thoughtful.

23:29I ended up sending one to one of my closest friends because I know Kristen, you guys all know and love her too. She loves soup and she told me it was exactly what she needed. If there's someone you want to show up for, even from far away, spoonful of comfort is such a beautiful way to do it. Spoonful of comfort is a warm reminder that love can travel any distance. Send one today at sendisboonful.com that sendisboonful.com. Zolaire Omalizamab is proven to significantly reduce allergic reactions if a food allergy accident happens. Zolaire 150 milligrams is a prescription medication used to treat food allergy in people one year of age and older to reduce allergic reactions due to accidental exposure to one or more foods. While taking Zolaire, you should continue to avoid all foods to which you are allergic. Don't use if you're allergic to Zolaire. Zolaire may cause a severe life threatening allergic reaction called anaphylaxis. Tell your doctor if you ever had anaphylaxis. It helps right away if you have trouble breathing or if you have swelling of your throat or tongue.

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