
She Couldn’t Feel Love Unless She Was Performing | Adam Lane Smith
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What happens when attachment makes love something you have to earn? Adam and Annie uncover how childhood trauma and disorganized attachment make people perform for love instead of feeling safe being real.
TOPICS COVERED:
👉 The hidden pain of growing up unseen and emotionally neglected 👉 How childhood trauma leads to disorganized attachment 👉 The difference between loud and quiet disorganized attachment 👉 Why many people equate love with performance and compliance 👉 The psychological cost of people-pleasing and self-abandonment 👉 Why traditional therapy sometimes misses attachment wounds 👉 How coaching and brain rewiring can help restore authentic love
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