Shadow work: when nothing is working, do this. | Quazi Johir

0:00Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fake. Carrier. On my channel I've always avoided this topic, the topic of the shadow. Why? In the past I always wanted to keep things positive, but the truth is I would be doing you a disservice if I weren't revealing to you the whole truth. See over the last seven years I've been on a very deep personal development journey. From being a people pleaser trying to get everyone to like me because I was bullied as a child, caring about how I looked and always fearing embarrassment and ruining my social reputation. It kept me stuck in a victim mindset and always far away from the life that I truly wanted to live, the kind of money that I wanted to make and the relationships that I actually wanted to have. It felt as though I kept attracting the same situations over and over again and I just couldn't understand why. Until one day I realized what

1:00was happening. That day was when I first read that quote by Carrier. There was something unconscious that was controlling me from a very dark place that needed to be confronted, but I just couldn't pinpoint what it was. That's when I found out about the shadow and I finally confronted it. Within a few short years I was able to create the exact life that I dreamed of for years. The relationship, the wealth, the fulfillment, it all fell into place as though a huge block was just lifted. The term shadow was coined by Carrier. Still to this day it remains a mystery. Young believed that there were four main personality archetypes that we all possess. Number one is the persona which is the self or mask that we wear in public. Number two is the animal or animus. Our inner child. Number three is the self which is our higher self that is united with God. And number four the shadow, the deepest darkest parts of us. We don't want anyone to know

2:09about. And in the red book, Young says, he who comprehends the darkness in himself, to him, the light is near. He who does not want evil will have no chance to save his soul from hell. In today's video, I want to share with you how to confront the darkness within you so that you can create the life that you truly intend and not have a dark force keeping you back from experiencing it. But more importantly, how to become aware of that shadow side of you that has kept itself hidden for your whole life. And that's been sabotaging your results. To do that, we must understand how to perform shadow work. But in particular, I'll share an exercise that has helped me the most with this. Before we get to the exercise, we must first understand the shadow a little bit better. With that, let's get started. To begin with, what I want you to understand is that

3:12every single one of us, we all possess a dark side or a shadow side to each and every single one of us. How you deal with your dark side determines how your life turns out. Whether or not you're going to be successful, whether or not you're going to live the life that you want to live. To give you an example to demonstrate this point, a few months ago, I was having dinner with a very good friend of mine and he was a very successful real estate investor telling me how I am. I feel so dialed this year, everything's going great. But then all of a sudden, I just get these negative thoughts. And so I ask him, how do you deal with these negative thoughts? He's like, oh, well, I just stuff them out and you know, put them to the side and they just try to focus on the positive. And I told them, they're in lies the problem. That's where the problem is because you're not properly dealing with them. So the big misconception people have is that having negative thoughts is bad, right? Especially when you get into this personal development journey, you start to think, oh, having negative thoughts is a bad thing. A very long time ago, I learned that the desire to have positive thoughts itself is a negative experience. I remember reading this book by Mark Manson. He was talking about this

4:16in the book called Suttler Out of Not Giving A Fuck. And that's always stayed with me for a very, very long time because when we try to desire the positive, that itself is a negative experience within our psyche. So that's what Carl Jung really talked about, learning how to properly deal with their shadow self. And the very first time I was introduced to my shadow self was when I was four years old. And I remember one day just getting these very, very negative thoughts. At the time, my parents traveled a lot. One day, I just had this negative thought of what if my parents have like a plane crash and die. What's going to happen then? And that thought just kept recurring. And every time it came up, I just tried to push it away, push it away. I just didn't know how to deal with it. And throughout my whole life, up until the point that I really learned the yogic sciences and the law of karma, I was always haunted by these frequent pangs of negative thoughts that I didn't know how to deal with, that I stuffed them to the side. And they always kind of showed up and crept up in my life in different ways. The mere tiny ones actually manifested into physical

5:17existence. And they really stopped me from experiencing the life that I wanted to for the experience until the time that I was around 19 years old when I started to learn about the yogic sciences. So for those of you who have dealt with your negativity and you see that negative thoughts are the bane of your existence, you don't have any control over it. And you are controlled by this dark force holding you at your heels. Once you understand the law of karma, everything's going to change for you. Within the karmic laws is basically four main laws. Okay, there's four main types of karma. The first type of karma that the yogis believed is what's known as the san citta karma. If you believe this, that we have multiple separate lifetimes. San citta karma then is the karma that we've accumulated across all lifetimes. It's like the total storehouse, the total factory of karma that we've accumulated. The word karma literally translates to action. Whether this be mental action in accepting or resisting thoughts and feelings or in physical action. You might think your mental actions have

6:19no consequence, but they do. If you're watching this channel and you're into the law of attraction and creating a reality, you know that your internal thoughts and feelings, they influence your reality, even though it may not be direct. So san citta karma is the karma, the action that has been accumulated throughout all of our lifetimes. The next below that is what's known as the parabda karma. The parabda is the allotment of karma that gets triggered and activated for this lifetime because we can't handle all of our san citta in one lifetime. So only a certain amount gets allotted and when you run out, if you're spiritually world developed enough and you have proper satin and proper practice and you've worked out a lot of your karma, then you can activate more and more until you work out all of the karma of all of your lifetimes in one lifetime. But that requires a very high degree advanced level of spiritual awareness, spiritual growth. Okay, but it's not entirely impossible and a lot of yogis, that's what their journey is throughout this lifetime is to undo all of their karma so they can no longer be reborn into this same cycle of samsara or

7:25suffering. Parabda is the current allotment of karma that we have that gets activated that we can handle in this lifetime. Later on, I'm going to give you a story that demonstrate this point. So I want you to pay close attention to this because once you understand that story, you'll no longer be held back by this dark side, but you can use it to actually create favorable circumstances in your life. The third type of karma is what's known as the agami karma. The agami karma are the actions that we take today, the karma that we have today that gets stored up for the future, for our future lifetimes. It goes straight into statured. So this is more of a long term consequences of our current actions. And the final type of karma is what's known as the kriya mana karma. What the kriya mana karma is is the short term karma. So the actions that we take today that immediately produces a consequence in this current lifetime. For example, if I were to drop this piece of chalk, the consequence is that this chalk breaks into multiple pieces in this lifetime

8:29and I can see that consequence. That's kriya mana karma. However, the long term consequence could be that in a future lifetime, this piece of broken chalk, it causes ripples in the atmosphere and it creates a tornado because the disturbance of this chalk breaking. I don't know, it's a highly unlikely scenario, but it's not impossible. So that's the difference between kriya mana and agami. Agami is something that affects you in the very, very future, more of a future lifetime and gets stored in the san citta because there's not enough space to be handled in here. And kriya mana is something that you're going to experience in this current lifetime. So the kriya mana is more of a cause and effect kind of chain in the short term. Let's listen to this story to fully understand this. Let's say we have someone by the name of Jane, a lady by the name of Jane who becomes a medical doctor. She has a legacy in Harvard Medical School because her dad went to Harvard Medical. Her spirit takes on the womb of that particular family because of her san citta karma and she has a deep desire to care for people and heal them. That's her san citta. That's why she's born into

9:34a family of doctors. In that instance, what parabta would look like would be that Jane becomes a surgeon and not a medical doctor or a nurse because of certain things within her own san citta. The allotment of karma that gets activated is being a surgeon because she can more effectively let's say heal people or actually directly cause a healing in someone. Agami karma would be the actions that she takes today. Let's say she does something that's unethical that affects her future lifetime. She gets born as someone who is a criminal. Kriya mana in this instance would be the actions that she takes today. Let's say she has neglected her health because she's been working so hard at being a great surgeon. She's suffering physical ailments and her family won't talk to her anymore. She's completely estranged because she's dove deep into her work. That will be an example of a short term kriya mana karma. So I hope this makes sense. The real question now is an understanding what this really means. Why do we accumulate a certain kind of karma and not

10:35another kind of karma? What does this mean for our shadow site? Well going back to the previous example of looking at these negative thoughts and how we deal with them, how we deal with them determines the kind of karma that gets stored up. When we deal with our negative thoughts by resisting them, it creates more of a negative karma. Of karma, there are basically three main types that we can pinpoint. There is what's known as positive karma or desirable things that happen in your life that you would like to experience. There is negative karma, undesirable things as a result of your actions. And there is what's known as no karma, which is dissolving karma. In reality, there is only karma and no karma. Positive and negative are our interpretations of karma. If I like something to happen in my life, I say positive karma. If I don't like something to happen in my life, then I say that's negative karma. The charge of karma is solely determined by me. But yogis don't see it that way.

11:36Yogis see it as karma and no karma. Their whole goal is to transcend all karma. So they don't care if they're born into a positive life where good things happen, they become really rich, they don't care about any of that. They want to get rid of this cycle of life altogether and they want to completely annihilate themselves. That is the sole goal of the yogi. You may not want that, you might want a positive experience and this is how that works. In order to create the desired karma, the karma that we like, we have to know how to deal with our shadow side. And most people when they have negative thoughts, negative feelings, a side of them that they don't like, what do they immediately do? How we deal with our feelings? There's a great book on this. It's called Letting Go by David R. Hawkins. I've read it four or five times over the past five years, so I really want to hear it. But in this book, he outlines a mechanism for dealing with our feelings properly, but he also shares with us different ways in which we do handle our feelings that create more karma. At the lowest level, what happens is once we've suppressed our feelings so much, they become repressed feelings.

12:41This can be our shadow side or our unconscious side that we're not fully aware of. A level above that how we deal with our feelings is through suppression. Okay, this is conscious. We consciously choose not to deal with something until they become repressed. And when they become repressed, they start to act out in ways and influence our lives in ways that we just can't explain. Oh, I don't know why I just can't speak in front of a huge crowd. I don't know why I have social anxiety. I don't know why I eat this way and I eat junk food all the time. I don't know why I keep participating in the same destructive behaviors. There's a side to me that keeps pulling me back into those. What is that side? That is the shadow side that has not been addressed, that has not been dealt with. And that's why that unconscious side of you deals and controls your life until you make the unconscious conscious. You will always control your life. You will always call it faith. So a level above suppression is expression. When a shadow side perhaps finds

13:42healthy or unhealthy expression, even this is limited. Think about it this way. If you're angry and you immediately express your anger, you punch something, you break something, you slap someone. There is a consequence. There is a kriyamaana consequence. You're building karma. There's also an agami karma consequence of you doing that. So you're still building karma when you do that. And most of the time it's undesired karma karma that you don't want. If it's coming from a negative place like anger. But a part of it does get dealt with in process. But the most powerful method to deal with karma. The karma that actually makes us emptier gets us to dissolving most of our karma. The most powerful way to deal with that is the method that David Hockins outlines in this book. It's called the surrender method. So the four ways in which we can deal with our feelings are through repression, suppression, expression. And the highest level is through surrendering to them. Now you might not like the word surrender, it might make you feel weak. That's something I suggest you deal with. But surrender to God, surrender to the highest power is a very empowering thing if you ask me personally. And that's that's that's really how I see it.

14:46But there's a three step method to surrendering that David Hockins talks about that is going to help you deal with your shadow self. And once I started to use this, my negative thoughts had no power over me. My life completely transformed. Once I religiously started to use this. And I've coached over a thousand clients every single one of them once they learn to deal with this shadow and perform this method of letting go properly. Because there is an improper way to do this. So I'm going to show you how to do it properly where you don't build up more and more karma or undesired karma at the very least. The three step process to letting go is as follows. Whenever you have a thought or a feeling come up, accept it fully and let it be. Do not try to let it go. Because when you try to let it go, you're actually trying to push it. Pushing is resistance. Newton's third law. Whatever you push will push back on you. Let it be. When you let it be, you let your guard down. You open yourself and the karma that needed to be worked out has now space to be worked out. It can move through you and pass through you. Sure, it's going to be uncomfortable. But it's

15:47kind of like working through a sickness. I don't know if you've ever been burned out. But if you've worked so hard and you've tried to suppress everything for a very long time, finally when you take a vacation, your body gets sick. I've had so many friends who that has happened to. Personally, I can say I'm grateful that's never happened to me because I've learned this method and I know how to deal with my feelings or at least I think I do. But this has majorly, majorly changed my life. And I've only seen ease and freedom in my life because of being able to fully utilize this letting go method. The second step is to focus on the underlying feeling of that shadow. Not the thought that comes up. The thought is the illusion. One feeling causes a thousand different thoughts. Every single thought that you have is trying to justify the presence of a feeling. If you feel anxious, you try to justify why you feel anxious by a multitude of thoughts. Oh, I feel anxious because of this bill and of this customer that's dissatisfied or this thing that's happened to me online, this negative review that I got. It's trying to justify the presence of that feeling of

16:51anxiousness and fear. Focus on the feeling. Focus on letting the feeling be. And once you do that, you'll see like a pressure cooker. You're going to get lighter and lighter. You just focus in on the feeling and you let it be. You say, I allow it to exist. So in the case of my friend who was the real estate investor and he had that negative thought, what was the underlying feeling? What if I don't become successful with my real estate investing? What if I fail? And remember every single fear or negative emotion. It all arises from the fear of death. The ego believes that in order to survive, it needs to be fearful. It needs to be angry. It needs to be anxious. And so it convinces you to continually feel this way because it's keeping the ego alive. That's the greatest lie we've been told. We just to find ourselves that we need to feel this way in order to survive. We need to feel desire, otherwise we won't want things. Is that really true? I don't know. I don't really think that's that's the illusion that we believe that the illusion of separateness. When you dissolve your karma,

17:53you become one with the greatest source of creation. The third and final step is to get into the witness mode where you completely observe and watch. You just observe and watch this play happening, this feeling, how one feeling evolves into another feeling. You're not it. You're not the feeling. You're simply watching it. You're watching the body feel the feeling. You're watching the mind think the thought. You're merely the silent witness behind it all. And you'll know that you've surrendered something when your general attitude towards it is it's okay if it happens, it's okay if it doesn't. When you get into that state of equanimity, more likely than not, the thing that you've wanted to happen does happen because now all of your attachment, you've no longer put it on a pedestal. You're okay either way. You're full internally either way. You're no longer in scarcity. That's the power of letting go. As you do this continually, this is by the way a completely dynamic process. You could be sitting at work and you're feeling something that's making you anxious. Perform this three step method.

18:54Let it be. Whatever is happening. Let it be. Oh, a negative thought comes up. That's okay. It's just a thought. If I have a thought that my parents might die in a plane crash, it's a terrible thought. Let it be. I can't do anything about it. The more I fight it, the more I'm creating that karma, that undesired karma, the more I'm creating resistance. And even now and then I still have these thoughts, but the thoughts don't run my life. When I go on a plane, I might have the thought that this plane my crash on my die. But you know, that's the shadow side. It too is allowed to exist. It's simply a thought. I don't know where it comes from. Maybe it comes from the accumulation of San Chita from my previous lifetimes. I don't know. I don't care. Let it be. It exists. It is not me. I can choose to identify with it. Freedom comes when you have the choice to identify with whatever thought you want to identify with in order to experience whatever you want to experience in your life. But if you're unconsciously identified with your thoughts and feelings, that's slavery. You are enslaved to your thoughts and feelings. You know, every single day you wake up, oh, today I want to do this. Today I want to do that. Yes, I feel like, oh, you know, I don't feel like doing that. You're a

19:57slave to your feelings. That's not freedom. Unfortunately, that's what people think freedom is. True freedom is having the ability to do what's necessary in this moment. Joyfully. I can do anything right now. Even if you put me through hell. You know, it's funny. There's a story about the Buddha. Everyone during that time, they wanted to go to heaven. They would come to the Buddha and say, you know, I want to go to heaven. I want to go to heaven. And he was like, what's all this fuss about heaven? You know, forget heaven. I don't want to go to heaven. Send me to hell. I'm great within me. I'm so perfect and still within me. It doesn't matter where you send me. Anyway, I'm going to be free. Be like the Buddha. When you can have true internal freedom, it doesn't matter what's happening outside of you. You're bulletproof. You're untouchable. It doesn't matter. Everything could be falling apart. Sure, it doesn't feel great. But that feeling too is not you because you're completely surrendered. Whatever is happening, life is going to take care of you. And more often than not, when you do this, life does take care of you because you don't sabotage. You don't get in your way. And so as you do this more and more, your cup gets empty or an empty. When your cup gets empty or an empty, you have the choice to fill it up with the

20:58thing that you want to fill it up with. And this is the conscious creation of that positive karma. And so you could experience the life that you want to create, which is your positive karma. I made a comprehensive video that shows you how to create that positive karma by focusing on positive attention. It's got over 1.7 million views. It's literally on YouTube completely free. I think it's one of the most valuable videos I've made and it's been one of the highest viewed videos that I've made. And I'm really grateful for all of you guys for watching it if you have. But it's called the quantum law. So go and click here and watch it. If you haven't and you really want to learn how to build conscious karma. Click right here, watch it and I'll see you in this next video right now. Let's make 2024 your year. Thanks.