Repairing Attachment Wounds, Fixing Relationship Insecurity, and Finding Your Voice with Adam Lane Smith

Episode Highlights With Adam

His own story of attachment issues as a child and how he got into this work as an adult
What is attachment theory and how attachment styles impact relationships
How attachment styles can shift throughout life and in different phases of life
Why having kids can change the attachment styles of the parents
Anxious attachment can sometimes stem from not getting enough oxytocin in childhood and how this can lead to seeking partners who are avoidant in relationships
Steps to shifting from anxious or avoidant attachment patterns to healthier patterns
How parents can help create strong attachment styles in their children
The importance of context in understanding attachment styles
Curiosity not judgment in relationships
How to build a self-correcting family system to benefit your kids
Ways to help your kids communicate with you with non-judgment and curiosity
Men adapt to problems and change for circumstances, not for relationships
Women constantly adapt and iterate within relationships
Why men are more stressed and depressed in today’s world and some factors that can help
Men only change for circumstances and why this is important to understand in relationships
Three pieces of life advice: 65% of adults have an attachment issue, attachment issues bring the most relationship issues, you can absolutely change it and you just have to understand the steps

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