Low Libido in Midlife: What's Really Shutting Down Your Desire

Low libido in midlife is likely not just your hormones. There are other factors at play that are important to know about. Let’s talk about what's actually shutting down desire for midlife women, and what helps bring it back.

Brooke Bralove, LCSW-C and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and I talk about what women over 40 actually need to know about low desire, sexual ruts in long-term relationships, and how unresolved trauma can live in the body and affect intimacy for decades.

Here’s what we cover:

• Why familiarity and too much emotional safety can kill eroticism in long-term relationships
• The myth of spontaneous desire, and what's actually more realistic
• How mental overload, exhaustion, and resentment shut down libido faster than any hormone shift
• Why "willingness to try" is more useful than waiting to be in the mood
• How trauma, big and small, can show up in the body and affect intimacy years later
• What Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) is, and how it's helping women resolve sexual trauma in as few as one session
• One thing you can do this week to reconnect with your own desire

Brooke Bralove, LCSW-C, is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, psychotherapist, and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist with over 20 years in private practice. 

brookebralove.com | @BrookeBralovePsychotherapy 

Chapters:

00:00 Understanding Low Libido in Midlife Women
03:11 The Role of Familiarity and Newness in Relationships
05:57 The Myth of Spontaneous Desire
08:55 The Importance of Communication and Willingness
11:49 Addressing Resentment and Unmet Needs
14:21 Exploring Root Causes of Low Libido
17:03 Healing from Trauma and Its Impact on Desire
19:49 Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) Explained
22:37 Practical Steps to Reconnect with Desire

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