Jared Freid Is Back and on The Family Plan!

0:00The following podcast is a deer media production. Welcome back to the not skinny banana fat podcast. I'm your host Amanda Hirsch and I still can't believe I get to chat with some of my favorite stars. I'm a very own podcast where you'll feel like you're just talking shit with your best friends in your living room. Hey guys and welcome to a new episode of not skinny banana fat. It's your girl Amanda. Happy Tuesday for listening on the Tuesday and happy week. Who anybody listening on a later on a later date? How's everybody been doing? I've been obsessing over the Lindsey Clancy trial. I'm like I hate my sister Ariel. She's the one that brought me into it to this one fine day. She was like have you heard of this and I was like yeah I heard but I made a decision to not get into it. You know you try to protect yourself of things in this world. There's enough things out there that drive us crazy and that eat away at our brains.

1:06And I was like let me stay out of this mom murdering her kid situation. But then she was telling me all these crazy facts and I decided I need to know more. I don't regret it because I think it brought out a lot of interesting points and a lot of things to think about. Obviously there's my world which I like to keep kind of like fact based and pretty normal. And then there's the TikTok rabbit holes that I was trying to get my information on TikTok at first. Silly me because everyone was just conspiring and deciding that the husband did it and you know coming up with their own. Form of the trial and I was under the impression that it was you know she's on trial for whether she did it kind of in cold blood and intentional and all that. Or did she do it but she did it because she was in psychosis and then it's like you know you don't go to jail you would go to like a mental hospital or something like that.

2:06Exactly. But now with the closing arguments coming in today which I listened to the closing arguments for the prosecution and for the defense. I understood that there's kind of a third option there's not guilty. That she just didn't do it because the prosecution didn't prove it without a reasonable doubt which I do agree that it wasn't really a proven case. I do agree that like Ruddington said no investigation was even made it was kind of just decided that that's what happened because that's what Patrick said which I do understand that that's tricky. I'm still not in the conspiracy theories that he planned this whole thing he was the voice in her head. I do think though that we are basing her guilt on what he said happened and her admission on what he said happened which is a crazy thing on its own. I said that jury is now deliberating which is just crazy to me. I definitely want her to get the help that she needs. However I do have in the back of my mind all the time that these three kids were freaking killed and in a horrific way.

3:11But because I can have multiple feelings at the same time of course I feel sorrow for her and for how much she screened for help how much you wanted to get help how much you tried to get help. And I'm not necessarily at this point after you know listening to the trial saying that every medical person failed her but I will say that like she didn't get better and she definitely definitely tried to and I personally feel like I blame more than people around her like the fact that Patrick did live with her and she was going through all this telling him she even had thoughts of harming the children. It's like okay well peace out. I mean I know he worked from home but this should have been taken way more seriously by the journals that she was keeping by the amount of doctors that she was going to this was a dire dire situation that could have been prevented if it was taken seriously enough by the people around her. It's hard to make a judgment like that but in a sharp turn to today's guess which will bring light and levity and fun to our lives.

4:17This is somebody who was on the pod many times friends of the friend of the pod friend of mine. We kind of started at the same time I find him hilarious his new Netflix special is hilarious it's called the family plan and he basically goes through what a vacation looks like with his a very quirky family it's Jared. I have so much fun whenever Jared is on and this time was no different so polymarket when you're asking well will be the number to us Netflix show this week beauty and black season three or outer bank season five I want to add Jared frees special the family plan to that list all right. New entertainment culture sports and politics markets are coming to the app every day so be the first to trade on them use code not skinny for a special sign up bonus when you're there 18 plus only restrictions and eligibility requirements apply not available in all jurisdictions treating is risky 100% loss can occur anyway enjoy my episode with Jared and don't forget to watch his special the family plan on Netflix it's one hour.

5:30Just pure giggles watch it with your partner watch it with your siblings watch it with your fam is a good one. I know now sitting on this couch this is not a good guy this this couch is gonna make me look like I need to lose by the way you look great I'm feel good okay I'm a listen I'm proud GLP one you the best baby haven't talked about this I could talk about it for weeks you're on a GLP one my whole new hour so you watch this yeah we yeah we're going to be. I was going to my whole new on the road is about my dad offering me his ozempica dinner wait this is varying not your brand to be on a GLP one what's my brand my brand is body issues right that is issues needs to be okay on a gym how has it been for you I love it it's the best right you lost a lot of weight it's not even that that's the way thing gets overplayed I think I've lost like 10 and I just I don't feel the pressure the pressure to like go to the gym if I ate wrong yeah

6:30the pressure to like you know to to if I eat one this golf on a plane the day is ruined. Well this is what I always loved about you because maybe it became a little bit more you know in the world that men deal with body image stuff to you know Taylor Lautner came out talking about on twilight he was you know people expected a thousand abs out of the highlight right people are talking about a little bit more men I mean you were really always talking about it and it was a little bit taboo well yeah you don't take a man over thinks a biscop you're like oh a man can eat a thousand biscops and nothing will happen I walked so Taylor Lautner could run I've always said that I love how you're like Lautner Lautner is that how I mean now you're making me I was always a patented guy I you were your team what I loved Chris and sorts response that she's on a press tour as well yeah and she's been in here you're like the open up you are do you I feel good about your success

7:33do you have that with certain I have that with you do you I really do means a lot because when I we did your podcast in your apartment I'm very well I thought you were going to murder me yeah I almost did you came in grumpy lishes grumpy coffee coffee it was like a New York it wasn't like a Starbucks it was like a deadly coffee totally right it was if anyone wants to picture it it was Bethany Frankl apartment season one of real housewives of New York it was Bethany Frankl going and doing skinny girl at farmers markets yeah that was your apartment and like you walk in I don't know if it was like a raincoat like I know you don't smoke but like you might as well have just smoked downstairs like the stitley it was that coffee cup from the movies yes of like you got it a coffee yeah but yeah so we've been doing this for a while look at us now look at us now this is it don't fucking hustling right truly I mean that's we were talking about it before we started like they you're promoting your special and that it's on you you watched it right I watched it I was wanted to wait till air to tell you like I was and I told Regina like I was cackling

8:42that means the family plan on Netflix on Netflix now as we speak my my it's an hour beautiful timing thank you love that one hour jokes every 10 seconds for an hour and I love the way you tell I love how you tell jokes because it is a story and I don't know how you do it but you like come back to the thing so like my mom ADHD whatever tick tock wants to diagnose me with would never be able to come back well that's that's the whole the so it's a one hour story about going to the beach with my parents yeah it happened in 2018 my dad and I my mom my dad my brother and I were at the beach we are sitting in a circle as we do and my dad staring at me and he asked me how much I weighed while we were sitting on the beach with our bathing suits on and I was so mad about this is a true story in a beach chair and I do the I show you I'm basically a beach chair right now if you're watching this is not a proud angle for me

9:42I and I it was a minute story I was so mad at my dad for asking me how much I weigh at the beach randomly out of no randomly out of nowhere and I went home I podcasted about it I got out of my system and I tried to tell it on stage yeah generally like it kind of didn't work people are like is your dad a dick like is he being a why is he being a dick and then I was like well maybe I got explain my mom and my dad and the fact that we vacation together and I'm 41 and I'm on the family plan I my you said 39 I'm 39 in the special but I'm 41 now it's been two fucking years two years I taped it so this is the hustle and this is my ask of your audience I love I did your live show we share you know the people that follow us and go to our shows and you know get into the show we share a a sensibility you know and I really do believe that and it makes me so happy and proud but this special is for us it's anyone watching you will relate it is for you to watch with your parents with your cousin that smoke weed with during things

10:42you think it's a little it's a little Jewish code Ed well that's the point yeah so a sign fell yeah yeah sign fell those are Jewish show without being Jewish right and that's how I explain this is an episode of sign fell so if your parents like sign fell I told people bring your parents to the show and the best joy I have is someone in the crowd was like hitting their dad being like he's talking about you last no my mom like I was thinking of sending them the screener you said I was like I just watch it on that plane you know what go explain to my mom put in the fucking password right now you know they might you might this is my mom okay get us in the holo get us in the holo and then I go to help them get into Hulu and my mom goes he can't do anything he doesn't do anything he's got two left but thumbs he can't do a thing so they're just heckling me as I'm trying to help them and I'm like this is no therapist would believe this we can I ask you why you said in the special that because it's true that millennial relationships with parents are weird they're weird yeah it is we are the first generation

11:45that's going to do financially worse than our parents just by the numbers so we are attached to our parents in a way that our parents were never attached to their parents so our relationship it's like you know boomers are confident no one's more confident than a boomer and no one's more unaware of a boomer they're confident on aware and I envy it I wish I was confident on where millennials we have no confidence at all and we're aware of everything so what a bad combo and there are parents and we have to deal with them and we because they have the money they pay for the cell phone bill and you really are truly still in their cell phone bill I am on the cell in the process of being kicked off really my dad's like enough enough enough we're moving yeah we're done yeah and it's like listen I can pay for my own cell phone I'm not saying I can't it is just it's the weirdest of the relationship you fly somewhere your text your parents landed like that's weird that's true what cracked me up was when you were saying that we call that you're a walk

12:48fill in you're you're a fill in for the walk you're filling for the walk I think we're calling them for help but it's like no the help is I just want to hear someone on the phone I just want to talk about myself right on the way somewhere right and then I'll hang up with you the minute I get there and I won't feel bad which I want with a friend with a friend you'd be like and how are you I'm not asking how that with your parents you go but do you ever feel bad because for me there are two things I feel bad about one if my mom like can tell oh you're walking Leo my dad dog walk company totally and two that I really don't really listen to her when she talks no we are never listening to them no I you know why not I feel bad my dad goes what am I cheap filler because a cheap filler because I'm cheap filler you you're just trying to get me on the phone so I can accompany you on this car ride you're on yeah no they they feel it they feel it but they'll take it is the thing of course because they you know my parents all they want me to do is come home when you come and home when you come and home and then I get there when

13:51you leaving when you leave how long you're for enough what is what is wrong with us that we can't I feel so bad is that there's stories are not interesting because I'll be telling a story I could tell my mom tell me it sounds like your mom is the same way about like my friends sisters friends sister yeah and she'll be invested eating it up eating asking questions remembering but you said meanwhile she'll be like I work today I you know miss miss filed something and I'll just be like wait what did you say yeah you're like mom I got a guy like we can't focus on their stories because why because they're so like not in our scope it's well their stories let go in like crazy directions also their stories my parents they always have like some part where they're just talking about their sickest friend like their stories gets like oh my god today I woke up late it's so hot out Alan Harrow what's is dying I'm like this is I'm dying at the pictures at the get in take a picture

14:59take a picture these are all bits I'm so happy like I but it happens a little bit right because you're saying everything happens every story I tell is true yeah I don't you know that's though I think the you know stand up comedy where the state of it all I'm there to tell stories about myself that someone goes he's telling my story right I want someone to relate so much and it made me feel so good I did the show in all the whole when you say it's Jewish coded it's so funny I did the whole show the whole country Canada all of Europe I went around Europe I did the show I had people in Norway going that beach story was awesome oh my god how do you sell tickets in Norway the internet no you're counting on having a follower population in Norway when I went to Europe and I told you buy comedy tickets no matter who's before how does I was told when I went to Europe and did a tour there like the first time it'll be someone that's an ex-pat who's in the country that knows your stuff that like forces a friend to come uh-huh and they were like the next time you come those people have fun and they'll tell the rest of the Norwegians that we got it to like that's what I did Norway

16:10because I did Norway Denmark I did I want to Berlin I did London I London's easy London is like yeah bell fast Dublin Copenhagen Dublin Dublin is that I'm like I'm an idiot I say Dublin Dublin Dublin Dublin Dublin was great I had a great time Dublin is fun I like I like Ireland I did it in Australia New Zealand Canada so you're so you have people in all these places that you do too they're out here watching and listening right now and they're out here watching and listening right now and they are eating this up and the world just keeps getting smaller and that was the cool part is that I would have people I take pictures after every show a family that looked just like mine just being like oh my god we go to the beach and we talk about how much we're going to eat and how fat we are too and it's like like when I met your family at the live show I knew those people yeah I knew your mom I knew your husband I knew everyone before I met them didn't need like oh what's your name what do you do didn't need any of that yeah yeah and that's like the beauty of it all I like like it made me feel fulfilled like I you know he did this whole thing and

17:15And then you want it to be somewhere. I want it to be on Netflix because I was like, I can't tell my parents how to get on Netflix never mind YouTube. I'm gonna get someone to watch this. So right now it's on Netflix and you know, you're a big doll, big doll. Big doll. It's a big doll in Dublin. It is, it is huge, but I want people to watch and share it. I love friends. Like for you, you're like, I'm looking for like a number one spot on Netflix. I want it more than anything because I love doing it. I love it. I love that you watched it and you're like the one story. I want to put, I'm, I think of stand up. Like we do this, we talk about pop culture. We I come here, we hang out. It's great. It's all for stand up. Yeah. It's the prize. You get to do that if you do all this other stuff. The podcast, the face to camera, the TikTok. And that's what you're love. That's your love. That's it. I'm good at it. But aren't you sick of the touring? I enjoy it. Really? I would like the touring to be like, I've been the whole country.

18:16I go to the Atlanta airport and I play a game where I go to every gate. I'm like, been there, been there, been there. I see which one I haven't been to. It's like very few I haven't been to. And I'd like the touring to be simpler. You know, the, the goal with this special is it for it to be number one and find more people like the listeners who already know me. You know, I want the algorithm to go find people just like the people I perform for all the time so that I can go and do 10 nights in 10 different cities with a work that is out hour and then taped the specialty in and then take a month off. Right. I would love for that. I'm not there yet. You know, I, that's my, you know, that's my goal, you know, but we'll get there. I'm having fun enjoying it along the way. Like I love doing. I go to this comedy seller and work on jokes and like that. How long have you been doing it? 16 years. 16 years. 16. I'll stand up. Stand up. Then you did. And then so stand up came first, then kind of Instagram. Then podcast. Then podcast. That I was writing online doing like I always, I never had a, you know, I never had anyone

19:20go, you're the guy. You know, like I had friends who got to like you have to push for yourself. When I was starting comedy, a lot of friends of mine and people that I know well, you know, guy code and girl code. They were getting plucked up by MTV. And I'm like, I'm the most guy code guy. There is. But it never happened for me. I didn't get. And then I saw that quickly and I don't have the confidence. I'm very, you know, when you have body issues, you hustle because you're like, you're like, who would want me in my Kleenex shape body? What MTV show would ever want? This broad shoulder thick man. So I went and I would go and like, you know, I work with batches a lot. You know, batches. I saw their audience and I was like, those are like my sisters. I get it. And I was like, so anytime I had a, I was posting tweets on Instagram, I would send the tweet by the way, me too. Right? You and I both.

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27:36And we're back. While used to having to you when you would write these things and like a place took it and didn't take you. Oh, I hate it. I would drive me crazy because I hate it. Again, it's my livelihood. And then it was so like dependent on that. Like that's how you got kind of out there of like a bigger place took one of your things and tagged you. So when you wouldn't get credit for it. No, it was very frustrating. Yeah. And like that would just hurt me. Right. And the problem was you couldn't complain to anyone. No one. Oh, you're twinked. Stalin. Like your friend with a baby would be like rocking the baby. Really? You're twinked. Stalin as they're like, yeah, I'm dealing with puke on my shirt. Right? Do you feel so alone? I felt so alone. And and well, bitches, I got to know them. So I would text them. I'd be like, this feels like a betchy tweet. And they'd be like, and what I love what I love about the badges is they've always been straight up with me. They'd be like, now and not for us. Or they'd be like, oh, great.

28:36And then I get to the bachelor screams. So then I would yell at the bachelor on social media because I was like, here's my own show. Yeah. You know, and I make fun of the show because I know something about the people. The people I perform for are generally like me. They're not like in the Reddit threads discussing stand up comedy beef. Yeah. Like a lot of like Joe Rogan fans, they're like in it. Like it's professional wrestling. Like I'm dealing with an audience that they got better things to do than worry about my comedy career. They want to just want to be entertained. They want to be entertained. They want to go out on a Saturday night with their husband or their boyfriend and they want to just like laugh and forget about the world for a minute. And that's why when I tell these stories like, you know, I'm telling a story about my family that you can go like, I want people crying in the aisles. Like I don't want to sit there and change your mind. I want you to go, yes, my mom too. I love her, but fuck her. Yeah. Parents. They came to the shows and they brought their friends and their friends are like, this is unbelievable. Wait, so you talked shit about your parents and the special? It's all about the.

29:36All right, right. Do they are they flattered or are they offended? They love it because they know it's with love. Yeah, and here's the thing. I brought them to the comedy. So when I first started doing I use to you know, and when you first start comedy 16 years ago, the goal is be funny. Just make people laugh and the jokes might not be you. When I got the first Netflix special, it gave me the confidence to tell the story I wanted to tell. And I started talking about vacation with my parents. And a lot of comedians, they go up with their sad tale, their tragedy tale. I don't got a tragic tale. I grew up pretty well. Things are good. My parents hugged me. I went to Penn State. I had a good bar mitzvah. So I dug into that. I'm like, I am on the family plan. I do vacation with my parents as an adult. It is weird. And what I found from that is I found the people who related. You know, and I think most people do. It's a bigger audience than I maybe I even believed was out there. And I was at the seller.

30:37I'm doing these bits about my mom, my dad every night. And I'm friends with the whole staff there. I used to host there every night. So when you host, I'm as much part of the management team as I work at the seller. And I go on, I brought my parents and I put out the jump seats at the seller. These seats that you can put out for like family and friends. And they sit down and I go on stage and I start doing it. And the staff is like, have they seen it yet? Have your parents seen it? I go, they lived it. What are you talking about? Yeah. I go on stage. I'm like, yeah, so my mom, you know, I start telling the story about my mom and dad. My mom stands up. She's like, no, no. That's not what happened. No. And I'm like, I'm like, yes, it is. Because she has her own side of these same stories. Right. And the audience is like, what the fuck is happening? Right. And they're like, I'm like, that's my mom. And the place like blows up, you know, like, and it's it. So they get it. They know that I'm telling a story. They were there. Right. My dad did ask me how much I weigh at the beach. I was horrified. My dad does go off of bread randomly. That was so funny.

31:37The truth. All of it is true. All of it is real. I am on the family plan. Like I just, I think it's, there's something. When I do comedy now, it's like, I want to tell a story about me. And I only want to make fun of people I love or would stand to be in a room with. The Rob Lowe bet. Rob Lowe, I'm waiting to meet him. I've known him. But I want to talk to him once he sees it. It was so funny because I feel like I've seen those commercials. You were talking about how Rob Lowe is the face of Abkins. And I've seen those commercials and I feel like I never, you know, we're so inundated with content and ads and whatever that you don't overthink every single one. And maybe I didn't feel like it pertained to me in that minute. But you saying that I'm like, oh my God, Rob Lowe is the face of Abkins. He hasn't had a chubby moment in his fucking life. Not one more. How does that decision made? He would have sat on this couch that I'm sitting in right now and not thought twice about how he'd look on camera. I'm sitting here the whole time being like, oh my God, I look like a bean bag chair on top of a bean bag chair.

32:37I am going to be in trouble. You know, yeah. So that bit, I actually met him. Yeah. So in the special, I say that if I ever meet him, I'm going to say it to him. And then I literally, I did the bit on the road and then I go to California. I'm at the Netflix's a joke festival. I'm in the golf tournament. He's there. I was like, I got to talk to him. I go up to him. I go, Rob, my name is Jared Fried. I'm a stand up comedian. I've been doing a bit about you for two years on the road. And he goes, yeah, I can spit. He goes, I heard about it. I heard it's hilarious. I can't wait to see it. So. And I was like, I melted. I was like, yeah, that's that. I was like, I immediately liked him. Yeah. You know, I'm like, thank you. And again, like I don't, I'm not talking shit about Rob Lowe to like, get him taken down. Right. I'm just like, that's annoying. This is a guy who's at abs for 40 years. No, it's crazy. And he's telling me to eat the Atkins cookies. He put your part about the, the Collins to the Atkins. That was a real commercial. He would take in the commercial. He would read emails from Atkins people.

33:40And I'm like, who's writing to Rob Lowe? No, and like, you're, you're calls. Oh, yeah. I just, I did that bit on the road and I didn't do great. And then Michelle Wolf, who's a good friend of mine. She, I opened for her for like a year. She's like, that bit. You got to keep, like keep making a better kind of work on it. Keep going on it. Like you're on the right. No, that was so good. And it fit again, like it fit with the story because the story is all about parents, body issues, generational body. It's so wild to me. Like you and I, that's why we get along. Right. And that is not skinny. Not skinny, but not fat is like my, that's my, that's my life. Right. But I saw that and we first met. I was like, I knew we would get along because not skinny, but not fat. Like we share the same annoyance. Yeah. Like, like the, I, because we don't identify as being like, you know, tragic. Right. You know, but we're also not like looking at a supermodel and being like, oh, I can't

34:44wait to wear the, the, the naked toe shoes. Like you can't relate to the woman wearing the shoes that are half a shoe. Oh my God. Do you know what I mean? Like in the same way that I wouldn't relate to a guy wearing cuts t-shirts, cuts t-shirts, don't fit me. You've tried. I tried. I was like a sausage casing. It was horrific. And they, they sent them to me for free. And I had to be like, enough. They go, maybe we'll send you a triple XL. I would die before I go on a triple XL. And here's a thing that like fascinates me about Santa Pcomedy is like, because I've heard about this about kind of like doing a bit. And until it gets good, what does it call like tagging or or there's tagging a bit is like putting like a, you know, putting a joke onto a laugh line. But that means, but that means you have to go up on stage for however many times and for it to not be as good as it will be, right? And for it to not, how does a person handle that? So how do you handle like, because we talk about like your mom says you're a sensitive

35:46boy, right? How does a sensitive boy get on the stage at points in your life and not get the laugh or have some empty seats? Like how do you deal with that? The, this is why I love stand up so much. There is a large barrier to entry. You know, you might in your head think you have the joke, but you don't have it until you go on stage and do it. And it's a, it's a humbling thing. You know, sign felt has this line about like when you meet a comedian, you both have killed, you've both bombed and you both have like a pad of paper and a pen in your pocket. So you do, I feel the same way about being Jewish as I do about being a stand up comedian. Like stand ups, if you do it, you're like a family to me. I know you want a certain level that's very different. And you can't really get too cocky if you're a stand up comedian. You can't, because every night if you're writing and you have a new bit, you're just trying

36:46to figure it out. It's a puzzle. It's a puzzle I love doing. Yeah. And you go up and like right now I'm doing a bit right now about going to a nutritionist. And I'm on a GLP one and how a nutritionist like I've gone to like five in my life. And like I'm just trying to figure out all the times I went to a nutritionist and how hopeful I was that the nutritionist would have this answer. Would change your life. Right. How many times did I go to a nutritionist thinking, well, they're going to give me a schedule that is truly going to fit my life and make it all easy for me. When really all I needed was, you know, illegally obtained diabetes medication. Like it. And so that bit about going to nutrition and then I went and looked at my email. I'm like, let me go find the snacks that the nutritionist sent to me and the snacks they sent to me are enraging. The idea that I'm going to eat a date. A date, I feel like is really high in sugar and carbs. Where the, you think I'm shopping where a fucking date is? I don't care what's in the date. You can ask me something. Are you worried to get too skinny where you won't be funny anymore?

37:49I'll deal with that when it comes. I'll deal. Let me, let me just tell you that that's the last. That's like when skinny, you're on a GLP one. No. No. No. No. But thank you. You look great. Thank you. I'm seeing all the fraud skinny people. That's exactly when someone's like, you worry about the sugar and a date? Well, yeah, I'm not fucking worried. If I'm eating a date, I got bigger problems if I'm still fat. So, but how many times do I have skinny people when you're on a GLP one? Are you worried about bone density issues? Fuck off. Fuck off. Bone density of you. We're going to wait until the science comes back. No, no one ever cared when I had a cheeseburger and each hand. And I was chewing on each hand. No, you worried about your health in 20 years? No, you didn't care about me then. Who was I listening to? Somebody like eight through the ozemic and that really makes me laugh. That was Tracy Morgan. He ate through it. He ate through it. Yeah, which I get worried about. That's the part about the ozemic is like people want to know how much of you lost.

38:49How much of you lost? And I think the mindset that's given me the calm, the peace, the pressure that's taken off of, I went and did Jeff Lewis live. That guy is great. I did his radio show. I've done it. It does like a little hang before. Carney Wilson was there. Carney Wilson turns to me and she goes, you got to try my Biscoph cookie cake and it was a Monday morning and I try and I was on a GLP one and I'm like, I can't believe I'm having the most LA moment. I'm eating Carney Wilson's Biscoph cookie cake. This is crazy. I take a bite. I have it. I go, it was delicious. And then I go, thank you, Carney Wilson. And you didn't overthink it. Didn't overthink it. Yeah. If I wasn't on a GLP one, I would have done one of two things. I would have been a crazy person. I'm like, Carney, I'm sorry. I had a bad weekend. I can be good today. I have a gun to the gym in a week. Please, I'll eat it another time. I'm sure it's good. I'm sure it's good. Or I would have eaten it. Been like, thank you, Carney Wilson. And then gone on an eating binge that would have led to me being naked in an alley covered in brown sugar.

39:49Because you fucked up for ready, right? Because I fucked up on ready now. I'm free to eat as much as I want. So it's like, and now people are telling me, I'm coming. Cutting corners. No, I was fucking sick in the brain. And you have to save my life. It's funny. I was just telling my husband just in the eating thing that it's like, because you know what it's like to like struggle with weight in your life and be on a diet basically your whole life. I mean, I like your struggling and you're always overeating. You're like mostly saying no to Carney Wilson's fucking cake. Totally. And having my mom in my head being like, you're going to have the disc golf game on a Monday? What's wrong with you? So we said it the other day. Regular Coke. My husband was like, I'm getting on the sandwich. Do you want one? I was like offended. I was like, do I eat sandwiches? Right. Like, am I eating sandwiches? And then I thought like, I might not look like somebody who's like never eating the sandwich. But I'm not eating sandwiches.

40:49Totally. You know what I mean? No, I, that's the thing. That's what's frustrating. It's like I, I'm like thinking about the sugar in a date yet I don't look like somebody who's not, who's thinking about the sugar in a date? That's the hardest part. Like I understand what you're saying intimately. Yeah. Like you're, you're telling me to have Wednesday bread. Are you out of your fucking mind? I bread on Sundays and after I've had a drink on a Saturday. Right, right. Like I totally understand that mindset. And when people don't understand it, you're like, and you're like, not only am I in this mind state, but it doesn't look like I am. That's the most embarrassing part. Because you go, oh, you know, when I talk about I go to the gym and then you always have to apologize, but I know I don't want to go with that fuck. I'm sorry. It was like run clubs. Like Adam Pallion, like a while ago. And I remember he was, I was like, what's one thing people would be surprised about you? And he was like, that I go to the gym every day. And the shock on my face. And he was like, and he was like, you thought I was like a disgusting like, slop.

41:53Right. Right. It's the hardest part about having body issues is you talk about being sensitive. I talk about being sensitive and the special. Yeah. You know, when you have body issues, you have great hearing. You know, you hear everything. Right. Like you hear, oh, you don't think I go to the gym. Like Adam Bally is probably feeling the same way. Right. You know, and it's like I have that with everything. You know, I feel I have the sense of, but sensitivity I think makes you a better comic. So like a great comics are great listeners. And that's what makes you good is you hear when people don't laugh and you go, that needs a fix. You know, you hear when people do laugh, you go, go keep going with that. You also mention it in the thing, which I feel like is a choice, right? Like you in the while you're doing comedy, I'll be like, okay, you guys laughed at this. That means that this, you know what I mean? You pointed kind of out in your specialist. I feel discomfort from other people in a way that I wish I could explain. Because I, when I hear a laugh that wants to go with me that doesn't, my job is, I got

42:55to figure that out. And then maybe there's a joke there. Yeah. Because if people are, I got to, if people go, that's not a, that's not a bomb. That's me getting information. You know, when you talk to someone and you can feel, you know, when people ask me like, I, I did my brother's best man speech. And it got like, it got a lot of views and, you know, most important. Most important thing happened. Thank God. Thank God I got views. Is he married still? I don't know. So the video got like a lot of views and whatever. And I, you know, people are, I get asked, what do you do with best man speech? So the thing is about best man or made of honor speeches. Like you, you should always tell a story you've already told before because you've already worked out the story. Yeah. Because you've told, if you have a friend that thinks highly enough of you to be a best man, that means you have a story about them that you've told a million times. So you've already edited the story. Because you've told it in groups and you've seen where people go start looking at their phone. Right. You've seen the parts where people start laughing. So you, my job, especially in stand up is like, I got to make sure I listen for that

44:00all the time. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I go, where's the laugh coming from? Right. I'm going to repeat that. Where's the laugh not coming from? Okay. Never say that again. Right. That's why you have to make mistakes. You know, like, you know, sometimes they'll say things and then as the words are coming out, I want to pull them and put them back on the mat. Yeah. You know, we'll be right back after the break. Can we talk about the fact that fall is basically here? Mom actually excited because I love fall. I love a sweater. I love a jacket. I love leather pants. Okay, maybe leather pants are kind of out, but I just love getting dressed for fall. It's so much more fun. Even though I've gone comfortable with showing the arms, okay, was free the arm summer. I'm excited for for fall fashion. I love fall fashion. But also I love fall food and I love fall drinks. Okay. Summer is fun. Okay. Summer is vacation. Snow schedules could stay up too late. But by the end of August, I'm like, I need structure. I need everyone back in school.

45:01I need routine. I need a schedule and I need to know. And there are certain things that immediately make me feel like balls here. And I know some of us like to speed that up. And we can't wait for pumpkin spice. Okay. And we're thinking about pumpkin spice since May. Okay. But pumpkin spice is officially back in fall. And Starbucks pumpkin spice is the first taste of fall. Okay. It's the joy of returning to routine and comfort after a busy hot summer that asked you to go, go, go. Let me tell you pumpkin spice Frappuccino and pumpkin spice. Latte's are the fall classics you know and love that are back for a limited time. Okay. You deserve to indulge a little and fall is a time to do that. Okay. I am obsessed with Starbucks Frappuccino drinks in a bottle or in a can Starbucks double shot

46:02energy Starbucks chilled. Okay. All of that I love because I love drinks that are, you know, you could take them on the go. And I love that you can cap them. Okay. Cap it right back up. You could put in the fridge. So you're going to have half now, half later. It's just everything I want. Okay. The second pumpkin spice comes back. I'm in fall. Okay. I don't care if it's still 85 degrees out. I'm getting a Starbucks Frappuccino drink and I'm getting pumpkin spice. Okay. Starbucks pumpkin spice is just nostalgic at this point. You taste it. You're like, okay, we're back. We're back. Sweater school routine, a little crispiness in there. I am ready. Now that Starbucks has the bottled and canned pumpkin spice drinks, it's a fall moment without having to make a Starbucks run. Okay. It's creamy. It's indulgent and it's a treat. It's a treat with caffeine. What better than a treat with caffeine. I keep them cold in the fridge. So it's good to go when you want it. It's something sweet. It's something coffee, and the afternoon, it's something you can offer guests in your

47:06house and they'll be like, oh my God. I want to come back every day if this is what you have stocked in your fridge. They also have Starbucks chilled multi-served pumpkin spice lattes, which is perfect to have in the fridge because you can literally pour yourself one whenever you want. This might be a little dangerous for me because if there's something in my fridge that requires zero effort and is so tasty, I will be having it. There's also Starbucks double shot energy pumpkin spice, which is those days that you need a little extra, a little extra something. Okay. You're back in a work mode. One all day and you're like, I need energy. That one is way more coffee forward, which I love and gives you that added boost while still giving you the pumpkin spice moment. There is something so comforting about returning to your routines and your rituals. And for me, having that first pumpkin spice of the year is one of those lovely, lovely moments. Find bottled Starbucks pumpkin spice drinks wherever you buy your groceries. I remember the day I found out about primal kitchen.

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51:15So if we put us next to each other, he'll be like, oh, Jared, well. So he's never had body issues. He's got, you know, it's generational. He's got the same thing we do. My mom, my dad and I, we all have the same thing. He's a coach for the Chicago Bears. Oh, yeah. Yeah. He is, I'm like so proud of him. So happy for him. He was sleeping on my couch telling me he wants to be an NFL GM. Oh, my God. That was his, he was like, and he's on my couch and I'm doing comedy and open mics. Six months in, I'm like, dude, there's too many dreams in this apartment. Look at it. And I kicked him out and he ended up playing for the Israeli national team LaCross and he ended up working at the league office and then making his way into the coaching spot. Then he's now with the Bears working with Ben Johnson and he's on the headset during the game. So now I'm like this huge Bears fan I never was before and he's married and his wife is unbelievable. And she's a sports anchor and like, oh, really? Yeah, they're like all American, beautiful couple like. What was it like to, because I have two boys.

52:16Yeah, obviously I'm like thinking about dynamic. Yes. How you are with your mom, which like you are, you sound like a good son. With all the jokes, it sounds like you're close with your family. Very. You talk about them a lot. You said in the special that you broke up a relationship because the girlfriend wasn't getting along with you around, which by the way, I think I remember. Yeah, you were part of my, you, you, you, you, you, you're, this happened. This isn't just a story, which is very interesting. Mm-hmm. How bad was it? I mean, I mean, the co-girl and the co-girl and the special, but like they were fighting? No, you know, I, it was uncomfortable for me. Yeah. You know, as someone who loves his mom and are your mom's boy? I get, I like my family. Yeah. You know, you want to keep going on free vacation. Right. And I can have someone in the way of that. I like the fun of my family. I like, I'm calmed by the craziness craziness. I love hanging with my family and like, there's a piece of loving your family and the dynamic

53:18that I didn't want to shake that up. But if you were like in love with this girl. Right. It's a, it's a, it wasn't the only reason. No, there's never, there's never one reason for a, generally, there's never one reason for a breakup. It just wasn't the dynamic I was looking for. And you know, it's funny, that gets talked down a lot. You know, the guy, you know, mama's boy and all that. Right. It has a bad concentration. I, you know, then, then you have the people online. But then you have the mamas. Right. Then my dream is for my sense to be mama's boys forever. Right. Right. And then you get the internet. Right. Because then you get the internet people who turn into, you know, therapists all the sudden, they use the word and mesh and suddenly they have a degree. Yeah. You know, and you're like, I don't, if you knew the dynamic of my family, they're considered, but they're not, they're respected and considered, but they're not who makes my decisions. But how many of these things? Like, we're going, we're going this weekend. Yeah. The special is going to come out and then I'm going to like Geneva with your family.

54:21With my parents and my brother and his wife. What about your girlfriend? And my girlfriend. She's coming. By the way, you have a girlfriend that I said development since the special. New girlfriend that how new? Well, we dated years ago and then I ended, I wasn't ready. And then we got back together like within the last seven months, eight months and I'm very happy. Like, I, you know, I couldn't be happier. I also stopped drinking. I went on a gel. Completely. And since like a year and a half, like a May 2025. What was that? Well, what made that? My dad and I went golfing. It was March. It was April. That was, I was going to take, I took a month off March 2025. My dad and I are playing golf and he's like, what would make you happier if you did it for a month? And I was like, I knew, I was like, okay, Danny Tanner here. He's going to go into his story about, you know, the music's turning on and I go, I think if I stopped drinking for a month, I'd be a lot happier. And he goes, well, there's your answer. Why don't you try it? I was like, well, I have Rochester coming up and that's like, I got a drink and Rochester.

55:24And then I'm like, and I got a, I got Nashville coming up. I got really got a drink and Nashville. That's the most fun place in the world. And I'm like, uh oh, I heard myself. Again, I'm a good listener. Yeah. I'm listening to myself. I go, yeah, that's probably a bad thing. If the, the boring city you want to, you need to drink in and the fun city you need to drink in. So I was like, let me see if I can get a mom. And my buddy's wedding was May 9th, 2025. So I was like, okay, if I get to the wedding, then I'll drink at the wedding. And I generally did feel better. I generally, my sleep was great. And I just was like, you know what? I'm going to keep going after the wedding. I was with some of my best friends in the world and didn't drink. I was having fun anyways. The only day I kind of missed drinking at the wedding was like the Sunday after when we all got together and like, you know, had lunch and, and, and kind of like, you know, we're hanging out. But I didn't really miss that much. I was, you know, I walked away from that being like, I'm okay. Are you like, I'm sober? No. Okay. I didn't want to co up the space. I don't want to make that my, I don't want to put the pressure on it. So I get a month, and now a month later goes by, I'm back with my dad.

56:26He goes, are you still not drinking? I was like, yeah, I'm still, I kept it going. He goes, yeah, I mean, I thought I'd kill two birds with one stone. I was like, what are you talking about? He goes, I thought if you'd stop drinking, you'd lose some weight. And I'm like, how did I run into that? Bealing's gut punch that I just got. So you think it's a Jewish thing, the weight thing of the body stuff is, it's got to be a Jewish thing. I mean, like, that's something you hear from like, grandma's and mom's. Yeah. I know it exists for everyone. Yeah. I do think is just for us. You know what my mom used to say when we were little, she would say that we're really healthy. You know, right? And it's all like they're eating well. That's what tell they're healthy, like meaning like we're not starving to death. Right. Obviously. I think the Jewish part might be the jokery that goes with it. Like, like, to look at your kids, all our beautiful children and go, look how healthy they are, fat ass shit, right?

57:27Like, it's like so mean, but also they don't, it's not mean. It's like, there's weird love to that. And also all Jewish things, all Jewish events revolver on food. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So that's the thing. You're told to come over and pick out. You know, my mom, my mom now in her age and her current state is now like on this thing where I'm like, you didn't eat breakfast. Like now I'm on a rec sec, which is funny. She knows that that's the problem with. Did you even eat breakfast? I'm like, mom, do you think you didn't eat today? She's like, it's your head hurts because I know you. You didn't eat until dinner time. And I'm like, you know, I hate like she's, this is her showing love because your big Hollywood Amanda now. And you're worried about, you know, in her mind, this is her protecting you. You're worried about being on camera. You're hanging with the Kardashians, you're, you know, all this stuff. And now it's, I need to, now you're not eating it. You're not eating because she knows you are her. Right.

58:27You know, she knows that what would her insecurities be. Mm-hmm. You know, her insecurities would be, okay, I'm on camera. So now I got to look a certain way and I'm going to skip a meal. Right, right. Parents are just, they're just putting their stuff on you. The hardest part about parents is that they're always 10% right. Right. And the 10% is what hurts because my dad looked at me in a beach chair and went, how much do you weigh? And it's like, I didn't sit, I wasn't sitting in the beach chair being like, well, what do you mean? I got abs. You cracked me up. You cracked me up when you were like at the, we all do the last check in the mirror before we go to the beach. Everyone. Like, and you're like, okay, okay. Well, it is what it is. But I knew this special was the most Amanda Hirsch voted special. I didn't send it to you for no reason. Yeah, I go to the beach and I have to deal with what I brought. Yeah. And that's what it is. It is what it is. And the only thing you didn't talk about is getting out of the beach chair. That's when you like your worst. I don't even want to acknowledge. Like, I don't want to, like, do not send me the video of me getting out of this couch

59:31that I'm sitting in right now. Those are angles that I'm not looking to see. Right? Like, it's like, it's like Facebook being like, hey, remember 10 years ago, and you're like, I'm getting out of here. I'm so skinny. Right. Like, it's like Facebook. Should have fucked up. Keep a secret. No, it cracked me up just in general that you're a beach family that has body issues and doesn't like being in bathing suits. Like, you know what I mean? My dad used to wear a speedo every time we went to the beach. He was a big speedo. No. You'd wear a tank top over a speedo, winning the pooling all over the beach. And like, I grew up with like body issues, but like weirdly, no embarrassment of that. You know, like I was watching my dad's balls just like wave around the beach. And I was like, yeah, that's what dads do. You know, no, a speedo. I can't. I, there's a moment. I'm like, if I had the body, I would, I would show it off. Yeah. Yeah, I know. That guy's running around on a speedo all over Instagram.

1:00:33I'm like, good for him. Wait, the point that was most Amanda Coded, which I had to to mention is the. Of your mom gas. By the way, have it, even before I was a mom, and I've caused almost car accidents. Yeah, no, it's the most annoying noise. And it really is so true that the that we do to be somebody died for a Courtney Kardashian got a haircut, right? Same. Same the mommy. So happens like I'll do that at home and my husband's like, what? Right. It's funny. Okay. You know, the kids, you know, and I'm like, I'm like, oh, no, no, no, just so and so commented on my posts. Right. You wonder why men die before women. That's why that's the stress women are putting on man these. Yeah. Wait, you were talking about your boys. Are you worried about them getting along? No. I don't know. I'm worried about having to boy. This is all selfish. My love. Please. Having two boys like is that lame? My brother and I. It does feel like a big enough family. Like you're both, you have a girlfriend.

1:01:35Your brother is married, but I mean, due to vacations to get like a net sense. I'm worried. I think I'm thinking about it. I think you're over thinking about it. But I would think the brotherly dynamic, the funny part, well, they're close. We're very close. We cheer for each other. Yeah. But we have a lot of the same interests. And I think the thing about my family and the reason like when I ended the last relationship, my brother, my dad and I were all very similar. We like to eat. We like sports. We like to make fun of each other. Done. That's it. Yeah. That's, it's pretty simple. Yeah. And then our mom is the only woman in the house. Right. So I'm sure over time that turns my mom into a monster. Yeah. You know, like I'm, I'm aware of that. But also that's what it is. That's, you know, she's always the woman. And say the queen of the house, Jared, the monster queen to some monster to others. Yeah. So, but I, it's the monster I love. You know, it's the monster that comes to me and makes me, you know, it is a part of me

1:02:35and who I am. So, well, who do you call on the walks? Your mom or your dad? Both. Depends on my mood. I call my dad. If I want to talk business, I'm going to call my mom if I want to make someone laugh. Okay. You know, she laughs more at your job. She laughs sometimes if I can get her attention. A lot of times my mom will pick up and be talking to someone else while picking up with me. So it's like the most annoying call you've ever been on. I'm like, I have to say, if you're not going to talk to me, I have to go. Like this and someone else in New York is like hearing me say that. And you're like, mom, if you're not going to listen to me, I have to hang up. And then someone else across the street on sixth avenue was like, I get it. Well, tell me about the book you wrote because you were supposed to come on for that and then did the walking red flag. It's a dating advice book that is made to help anyone who's dating and feels that dating is like a heavy part of their life to laugh. I love that too. The taking the break on the special. I talk about taking a break and dating and you got to take a break. And I've done it. The dating advice, you know, dating advice online is pretty much fraudulent.

1:03:39Like anywhere you're getting it from, it's either it's either pumping you with gas or it's trying to enrage you. So this book is really to get a reasonable guy, your brother. Again, who am I to betches? I'm like the older brother. The book was personal stories, personal dating accounts to get you inside the mind of the man you're dating. And it's called walking red flag because I'm the red flag. All of your husbands were someone else's red flag. Are they might be your red flag? And I went on Good Morning America. That was what was that? I go on Good Morning America and be like, I'm the red flag. And then the woman's like, take one to no one. And I'm like, yeah, I'm not. I am the red flag. And I go, so are your husbands? And they were like, no. And I'm like, well, I disagree. Like, you know, your husbands did just, they're not pigeons. They just all the sudden came out. What was that it like 5 a.m.? It was 8 a.m. And you were, you were hot. I was ready to go. I was ready to go. I was like, I was like, kind of surprised. I was like, I'm looking to talk about dating.

1:04:40I'm, again, I call it walking red flag because I, I'm the red flag. And then they got so like offended by that. But I'm like, that's kind of the problem with dating advice. It's married people who let, you know, my husband is a king who, you know, it has no problems and has never been a dick. And then that kind of separates the men into like, kings who are married and garbage. Do you like the trend that's like, there's a trend that's like, oh, things I left my husband to do when I like went in a work trip. And then it's like, none because I didn't marry a loser. Get out of here. That's a loser. That's, yeah, it's like, there's a lot of, in the female world. And again, this is me from an outsider. It seems as though a lot of your social credibility is gained through how pristine your relationship story is. I don't find a relationship story with, I don't think a relationship story with no struggle or no is even interested. I don't even find that something to learn from.

1:05:41If you have got together and everything's been perfect, I don't even think you're worth listening to. Yeah. You're not a real story. Me and my girlfriend, we, you know, I ended it because, and again, if you're not, if you're giving advice without taking some sort of vulnerability, right, giving advice. And again, the dating advice that I give is really what would work on me. Right. But that takes, I have to sound kind of bad. But also, you're giving advice as a man to mostly women. Yes. Yeah. And it's not advice. It's more like, here's what will work on me. Yeah. Give it a shot. And I can tell you how I felt in this same scenario. And not a lot of women can tell you how I felt in this, they can't. Right. My own feelings. And the premise of the book is I'm 10% away from every guy you've ever dated. The guy you're dating is not 100% different than me. He's maybe 10 to the right, 10 to the left. That's it. Yeah. And I'm saying, if I'm telling you, I felt sad, upset, indifferent. It's probably a right around where your guy is at.

1:06:43And you know, again, the book doesn't make me sound like a prince. And I, I'm kind of proud of that because the world is gray. The people you date are gray. The everyone's made mistakes and everyone has regrets and hopes to do better in the future. Like, you know, I tell my girlfriend, now I wish I had the confidence to have stayed within this. I didn't have, yeah, I didn't have the confidence. I, I, and I'm okay with that. That's about learning. But I, I think if you're going to talk about dating and you're not, and you, if you're talking about dating and you're also a hero, you're not really helping. You're helping yourself. Right. Right. I'm the straight guy in a woman's world a lot of time. Yeah. Sometimes I have to like fight for people to see when people are like, when, when men are like the frauds, who are the grifters and who are the, the guys that I'm, and I'm here to tell you Tyler Cameron could have cashed in, become the bachelor. Yeah. He would have made 10 times more money had he gone in the direction of faking it.

1:07:47Right. Then being him, he has a moral code. Yeah. So that to me is a real guy because he could have been, he probably would have had 10 million more dollars in his bank account. Here's how right. Had he gone in the direction that wasn't true to him. Yeah. Yeah. I said that about like when Taylor Swift went out with Travis Kelsey, I was like, this is a perfect guy for her to go out with. And you know, I was like, don't listen to anyone who says otherwise. This is a tight end. A football tight end is someone who catches passes and scores and also blocks for other people. So they can score. Who's more perfect for Taylor Swift, the most famous person in America than someone who can be the front person and be the, you know, the talent or be the blocker and stay out of the limelight. Yeah. Tyler, you know, Travis Kelsey fits that bill. And a lot of times I think a lot of people get, if I get any anger online, which I don't, you know, I don't get a lot. That's about GMM maybe. Maybe GMM. Well, it's when I'm trying to be truthful about men and it's disappointing for the women who have

1:08:52signed up for them. Right. To hear those women on GMA, they're disappointed to have me poke holes in the princess story. They've been telling. Right. And I, and I'm not doing that for because I want them. I don't have to do a whole podcast about what you think about different guys. Another thing that before we go, because I know we're at time, but another thing I think about all the time, two more things that I think about all the time for me. I know what you're going to say. No. Okay. What? Go ahead. No, you guess it. Is it Peter's mom? Yeah. Bring him. Bring that was another thing where I had a good opinion because I'm just a guy. I don't want to know. It was Pete pilot Peter and his mom, the whole premise of that whole season was her going, bring all all the best be the Oh my god. You guys went Jared did this and I can't remember if it's our first pod ever together. A second. I think it was. I actually physically peed my pants. It is because

1:09:52Barb, I think her name was. Barb. Yeah. To me, the star of that season. Mother of two boys. Shit. See, it's not good for us. You're going to be coming. No, babe. So I don't know if I can between your mom and Barb. Mother of two boys. It's tough for them. They, they're the queen. You know that is it is a tough dynamic, but it's also one that, you know, it's fun. It's fun. If you can figure it out. Yeah. And I think it's, that's the thing when I did the business special, like, I don't want to make it into like, oh, there was this huge fight. It was just, I was like, I don't know how to handle this. Yeah. You know, and I think a lot of it was my fault too. You know, definitely was my fault. You know, if you're not a hundred percent, moms can feel that too. Yeah. You know, and I think that's. Well, listen, there are a lot of stories out there like about relationships between mother and laws. I mean, they're, I don't know how the girls are always posting about it. Like some like isn't the mother and law? Can't you see it? But you hear more horror stories than not about mother and law and, and uh, daughter.

1:10:59Right? What do you know? The daughter and law and mother and law. Yeah. No, well, it's because that's an entertaining story. Yeah. No one wants to hear about the mother and law and daughter and law who get a law. Right. You know, so I, I think that's part algorithm. But I, I also, I think it's a hard dynamic. I don't think it's easy. I don't envy. When I, you know, going into a woman's family, like, if you're, I generally like nice to meet you, I'm having fun. I keep my mouth shut. I mean, I go on podcasts and they're probably listening to this being like, oh my god. He sounds horrific. I don't know. But, uh, I don't know. I think it's, it's easier for a guy coming into. Yeah, but I think it has to do with the parents too. I think for some reason, some reason a mom of a boy, it's, it's more that story of like, you have a son. He's yours until he belongs to someone else and that's a green in the mom. And then she becomes protective. She doesn't want the wife to take him away. You know, no, I notice it with like little things like, you know, decorating.

1:12:01And it's like, you know, the home now with your girlfriend is you and the girlfriend. Like, it's not your days. Yeah. And, you know, that's, I think it's, it's, it's very funny and interesting. And hard. And I do think it's also the, a lot of what gets underplayed in those mother and law daughter and law stories is how bad the son is at being the referee. Right. At a mediating the two. Yeah. Like, cause I know when I talked about it in the special, like, I, I didn't know how to do it. Yeah. You know, like, so, and I say it, no one cares. And in the bit, I talk about like, no one cared about my mental health. Right. I don't give a fuck about me. Yeah, yeah. You know, so it, but I'm excited to watch you have two sons. I think that is hilarious. Just on the top. Just on the top. And one other thing which has to do with your, your special being out, everybody go watch it. Please. The family plan on Netflix is you once said, and I can't remember because I said,

1:13:02like, let me know when you're showing New Yorkers. I want to come support it. And then you yelled or screamed or made a bit about that. You don't like when people come to support or watch the support. Has that changed? Do you want people to watch this special? I'm going to make you flip on your words. Here's what I want to support. You're putting me in a tough spot. Well, just think because I need their support because I need them to watch it. Yeah. I'm so proud of the special and I, I'm proud of the, the piece that I've made. Yeah. I think it's going to make your day better. It's really your best work. Really? That means the world here. And the support I want, the problem with the word support, people use it to let you know that they're doing you a favor. Right. Right. And so I don't, I do need support. I do need the, the, the NSBNF audience. The support to support. And the support I need is for you to enjoy the special, which seems like an easy thing to ask for. But also tell a friend.

1:14:03Yeah. Tell a tell and show it to your parents because. So are you flipping on the, I'm slipping. I'll flip for this. Okay. I have for this. I was wrong about support. I'll sell it. Sell out. Please support me. Okay. And then you could say to me, family plan. It's so funny. Thank you. You know, I related to it hard as you know. And I'm sure you guys will too. I can't wait for your mom to see it. I can't wait. I'll, I'll story her copilling. And to really stop. Thank you for coming again. Thank you for having me. Thank you guys so much for listening to this episode of Not's Kenny, but not Fat. Follow me on Instagram at. That's good. But not Fat. Subscribe to the podcast. So you don't miss any episodes. Rate the podcast that you love so much on Apple podcasts. And write a little review. If you tell me you did, I'll give you a big virtual smoocheroo. Thank you guys so much for listening. And I'll see you next Tuesday. Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements

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