I Kicked Off Her Abusive Husband | Financial Audit

0:00To watch episodes of Financial Auditor Week earlier, check us out on YouTube. He's been cheating since like six months in our marriage. I think he has been married. We've been 17 years. Brother, what the fuck are you doing? You called her fat all the time. You were calling her fat in the pre-interview, like 50 times. That's probably the reason why he decided that other girls are more important than me. It's fucked up what you've done. Hey, doesn't care. A CPS have been called in this house? Yup. She raised her hand at me. I'll get an anger at you too, and I slept her across the face. I have to ask, because he ever hit you? Yes. Once I got knocked out. Like I said, I don't remember when I met him. You had a panic attack. A severe one. I got arrested. Ah, why? I'm explaining what happened that night. I want you to get the fuck out of my studio. I never want to see you again. Securities here. I don't watch you here. You're a piece of shit. Dollar wise is about to launch its biggest update ever. My team and I have been working day and night. And in the next few weeks, Dollar wise Web goes live. For the first time, Dollar wise is coming to your desktop,

1:01giving you a bigger, easier way to see exactly where your money goes. Plus, we're launching the Dollar wise referral games with real money and huge prizes. You do not want to miss this. Download Dollar wise using the link below and create your account now. Because when the Dollar wise update drops, the games begin. I want you to be on the next episode of Financial Outlet right here in Austin, Texas. If you think you have interesting finances, with an interesting personality, or a story, or a life, or relationship, I will personally pay you to take time off of work, fly it down to Austin, get you personal transportation, a hotel, food, and we'll have a great time hanging out. Go to katelapamber.com slash apply or click that link in the description below. Hi, I'm Joy, and I'm 39 years old. I'm Peter, I'm 37 years old from Marlington. And this is Financial Outlet. It sure is. Thanks for coming down, guys. I really do appreciate it. Joy, I'll start with you, you're right in front of me. What do you do for living in Arlington? I do work from home. You do work from home, that's not a job. What do people, everyone that works from home

2:01on the show clarifies? Immediately when I ask what they do. I'm customer service from from home. Immediately clarify that they work from home. No one says I work from office. They, for some reason, when I ask what they're job, like I don't even get, it doesn't matter. It's just so weird, it's a trend I'm noticing. Why did you feel the need to clarify that? Because I may work from home, homeschooling mom. So it's all, I mean, how it's 24 seven. What's your job? I'm customer support. Okay, that's your job. That's what I want to know. What is a mom and customer support? I was gonna say. That's her job. Mom life is amazing. Mom's the job too. My kids are home all day. How many kids are there? We have five. Okay, very good. Ages almost four to 12. Oh, let's just give me each age. All right, so we've got 12. 10. 10. 8. Mm-hmm. About to be four. Okay, very good. That would be three, by the way. I know. He's only a few days from. Very good. How many hours a week do you do customer service?

3:02So I had been 24. At September 1st, I moved up to 32 hours. Oh, big job. Not really, but that's amazing more money. How much, how much money do you make an hour? $12 an hour. Okay, have you ever considered that working from home might not be working for you super. But that's why it's a good thing. The day's care cost to would be worse. What's that even about the day? Your costs I'm talking about, you know, the whole fact that you clearly don't move. Oh, I do. Don't worry. Oh, damn it. Because in the last nine months, I've lost 35 pounds. After I had massive surgery and discovered I'd been misdiagnosed for 11 years, so I'm good. Okay, so those were the firms in nine months. Dr. Nigh would be very displeased. He would call that a one month loss. Dr. would be really happy because I had to have a historic to me and most people gain weight after a historic mean. I've lost weight. Yeah, she lost weight. Oh, that's good. But still 35 pounds in nine months. Eight for her. Eight for her. For what she does. After being misdiagnosed, what does she do?

4:04So I do stair climbs even being overweight. So I've climbed 45 story buildings. Do you still? I've still done them up until I... Yes, she's here for my firefighter. Why, you just, she was a firefighter? Former, yes. Before I had kids, I was a firefighter. Your oldest kid is 12. Yes. I mean, that was a long time ago. Yeah. OK, then I don't think I do it now. Yeah, no. I used to until I started getting sick to the point where I was... Now question. Yeah. I mean, you know, we're on the second floor. Yep. There's also an elevator. Did you take the elevator or walk up the stairs? I was not there. We took the elevator. We took the elevator. We took the elevator. We took the elevator. We took the elevator because of the kids to keep them all together. You know what? It's just like up, and you're there. One of my kids doesn't do too well with stairs. My four-year-old. So he had to hold on my hand the whole time. He's not fun. He's scarce? Yes. Of stairs? Yes. But not elevators? No, he's not pretty good. He was home on my hand. He's done the elevator at the hotel and here. What's scary about stairs?

5:04I think it's because those stairs are a lot wider, because he didn't like... He's used to the stairs and our houses are really close together. But yeah, he's not fond of building in stairs. Hold on. If I'm not mistaken, did you say you homeschooled them? Yes. Have we ever considered that might not be going well for a four-year-old that clearly needs to go the outside? I think so. We have that here. We have that here. And other environments besides the park? Yeah. Yeah. I see a third of stairs then. I think if he was at school, a lot of them have stairs. He wouldn't be as a third of stairs. I know a four-year-old didn't really be in school. He's a daycare. And they don't necessarily have. Not in any ways, but there's clearly something a little weird. Yeah. Well, we don't trust the school systems at all. Okay. Why? Because during COVID, they had all those Zoom calls and stuff where people would hack into the Zoom calls and start posting... What are you talking about?

6:05A bill of context. A bill of context. How long were they not in school in Texas? Actually. So the 12-year-old missed three months of her kindergarten. In Texas? Yes. And then first grade. She would have... We're not. We're not. Yeah, no. And they're not schooling from home. Not this much. But for first grade, the problem is, she would have actually missed most of the year, would have been on different classes in her. I understand that you were supposed to not to go. That was also, if I'm not mistaken, oops. Six years ago. Five years ago. Yeah. So he's called them because he was homeschooled. So he's called them. You weren't a looney-tune shirt at 37. Because my looney-ball-mormon. I'm sure this has worked out. Are we sure we want to replicate this? That's why mom does the schooling and not dad. Yeah. Because he doesn't want to help. And do kids... No, I do want to help. Do kids eat what mom eats at a daily basis? Do kids eat what I eat? Mm-hmm. No. Well, do they eat different?

7:06Well, they mostly eat what we eat. They just eat the younger two that don't. OK. The one that's a verticers? Yeah, he has food aversion. He's going, we're getting new doctor to get him re-evaluated, to see if it's possible he previously had a ton of lettuce. He eats a lot of the foods. He's gotten better. I've gotten him to eat. OK. Very good. How much do you make for a paycheck? Let's see. It's been about $5.50, I think, Lili, because I had to take off quite a bit for blood transfusion and a major surgery. So $5.50 a watt paid every other week? It's twice a month, so... $5.50 every other week. OK, very good. So, there's a $100-oh buddy, Peter, I hope you make more money than that for this many kids. What the? But we'll get in that in a second. So, what was your biggest order that caused you to be morbidly obese? So, I had come to find out I didn't have fibroids. My uterus was five times its normal size.

8:07A woman had polyps on her uterus. As someone who thought of uterus, you know, I'm just looking it up. The uterus was five times her size. Would this cause her to be five times the normal body weight of a human? Right, because you said that's the disorder that... They told me that that was what was causing so many issues that... Well, so many issues that caused the... So, the game... Because I was under 300 pounds, and as things were getting worse, and they told me that was what was causing me to continue to gain weight. Your issues or the polyps on the uterus? They said the polyps. Now that I found a new doctor, and we discovered they were actually polyps. He was told they were originally five rides and was told they were no big deal. But the doctor who removed them and found they were polyps. He said that actually impacts everything.

9:07Veebaclivin clinic and NIH and the NIH says that no in the most extreme documented case in a large uterus or polyps or commonly fibroids, right? Does not make a woman five times normal body weight. I just come by what's the doctor told me? Hmm. Let's just say for clarity. Okay. Does it cause rapid weight gain? Because this is kind of what happens on the show, right? Like, we're gonna go into the budget, we're gonna go into the money, we're gonna go into all that. The thing is, I mean, you spent approximately 700, 500, 700, 750, just about, I'm going out to eat. But maybe that I have something slightly to do with being large? Because they always blame it on something diagnosed and not any personal behavior. Oh, I'm not the one who normally goes out to eat though.

10:08It's me. She doesn't go out to eat. What do you eat? I normally eat at home. No, the usual sense of rapid fat or fluid weight gain, it does not. So I'm a little confused. Because you got big quick, right? Well, big girl. Yeah. Quick. I mean, the reason I'm interested in the subject specifically is there's such misinformation around obesity as a fat. Or people, mostly women, take no accountability for their decisions around their morbid obesity where men are just like, yeah, I eat too much. And fat positivity took, you don't really even eat. No, yesterday maybe twice. No, yesterday maybe twice. Okay, well that was yesterday. Let's talk about the abnormality. Oh, no, that's the normal thing. It's roughly about twice a day. Probably two years, that is the thing I don't normally eat. Do you have a normal average day? Yep. Okay, very good. What are you the first thing you wake up in the morning? I either have a protein shake or I have some scrambled eggs. Okay, how much scrambled eggs? How many eggs in the scrambled eggs? Probably three. Okay, or protein shake. How big of a protein shake? The little box carton ones are like, I think.

11:09Well, one little thing is big. Eight to six ounces or something like that. A little like, an ounce, I think, or 12 ounces? Okay, 12 ounces. They're not very big. Sometimes with those scrambled eggs, we would have bacon and sauces mixed in with it. Oh, no, most of the time it's vegetable. Well, we also put vegetables into it too. I like bubble purses. With the bacon and... Yes. Okay, very good. It's evolving. Three scrambled eggs with sausage and bacon. I clearly care about the subject. There's so much fat positivity and just insane things that are going to literally kill generations of people. Bacon and veggies mixed into... Very good. What do you snack in between breakfast and lunch? Be honest. I can actually show you my regular meals if you want to see what I've been eat, what I normally eat. But, actually, I'm just asking the question first. What do you say? So, I have a little individual peanut butter with a small thing, individual thing of caramel and apple, green apples.

12:19My nutrition has improved it as a little treat with... I'm not saying that. I'm just collecting information. Oh, yeah. She also does eat chick flay for once in a while as well with that. With that. But what is my chick flay order? Most of the time. What is my chick flay order? A sandwich. Wow! No, what is my chick flay order? A sandwich. The last six months is not. It has been a sandwich. Okay, okay. You tell me your chick flay order. And the last six months, my normal chick flay order is a side salad. Mm-hmm. With the salad. With the salad. With the salad. So, the side salad. With the bell pepper. But your sandwich has bacon on it. It has grilled chicken on it. Yeah, I want to add cheese. Okay, normal today, though. My normal lately has been the side salad with the bell peppers and an 8-pound grilled nugget. How many? No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. Just earlier this week, you had to say something. Hold on, hold on. You want to talk about it. You're the one who went and ordered me that chicken sandwich. Did you not?

13:19But before even I ordered that one, before that one, you had the chicken sandwich. Because you told me I didn't need a salad. You know what I didn't do salad with it anyways. You told me I needed more than the salad. Is exactly what you told me. Because you always complain at your hungry. But I was going to do the grilled nuggets and you said that with the dinner. But you always complain that you're hungry afterwards. No, we don't always complain about that. Yes, you do. That's only if I haven't eaten all the dog blessed today because I've been busy. Doesn't matter. You still complain that you're hungry. So if I choose to get what I want, you gripe at me because I'm eating. You gripe at me all the time. Oh, what would it be? It's normal. Chick-fil-A is the side salad with the bell peppers and eight grilled nuggets. The eight grilled nuggets, yes. No dipping sauce with eight grilled nuggets. I don't do the dipping sauce, but I do the zesty apple cider vinegar. Zesty apple cider vinegar. Vinegar. Very good. Okay. So that's our snack. What's lunch? Oh, that was, that wasn't a snack. That was lunch. That's lunch. You goofball. I was talking about my snack still and you brought in the Chick-fil-A.

14:19That is not the snack. Okay. So your snack is the caramel pack with the peanut butter pack in an apple. It's normally two because we get the little bit of tiny. Two apples? Yeah. We normally eat the little lunchbox sized cranny smith apples. Very good. Okay. And nothing else in that snack? No. That's what. And the lunch is that side salad with the nuggets. With the nuggets in the zesty apples. Okay. Very good. Okay. Snack between lunch and dinner. So that is normally a vegetable. It's either like celery or carrots. How many carrots? It's a cup. So I don't know. Carrots. What are you dipping them in? Greek yogurt with ranch powder mixed in. You said this is for dinner? No, we're not. No, we're not. Before dinner. He just said dinner. No. He said before dinner between lunch and dinners. What do you just ask me? That's all homeschooling does. You don't know how to listen. No, I pulled, no. My mother pulled me out of public school because of stupidity of teachers. You barely made it through that sentence. Okay.

15:19Very good. And dinner. A normal dinner. Average dinner. Lately, average dinner is- What's Lately? Since I got us an ninja foodies because we don't have a- When's that? Less two months. Yeah, two months. Okay. What's your normal average dinner? Come on. Yeah. It's real chicken. Do you can say- That's normally one chicken breast for me. One big chicken breast. One large chicken breast. Grilled and what? Just grilled. Just grilled with seasoning. That's it. No oil? No. Is it air-air? What's your side-based? Most of the time it's vegetable oil and vegetable oil. What vegetable oil? Like broccoli or- How do you prepare- It's one of the steamer bags from H.E.B. Good. So it's either like broccoli or broccoli cauliflower. What else? That's typically it for mine. Do you verify? Mm-hmm. Okay, very good. Snack before bed. No. Because I don't get to eat- No dessert. Very rarely do I eat dessert. She's moving on dessert wise. She gets one of those little moose- Well, how common? How common.

16:19How common? Not very. It's maybe once every three days. If not- No, not once every three days. Maybe once a week. If that. No. Okay. What are you drinking throughout the day? Water. No coffee? No, no. No energy drink. No tea? No nothing. If I do tea, it's- You only drink water from sunrise to sundown. I have been- No, she drinking- Have been since when? You drink ever once in a while. It's a while probiotic or- Yeah, like I'll do a probiotic drink. What probiotic drink? It's the cherry lemonade. It's a sparkling probiotic drink. Oh, and also with some of our dinners. We do eat sausage and mac and cheese and some of our dinners as well. How frequently? Do you normally do that once every two weeks? Once every two weeks or once a week, once a summer right in there? Okay, so I don't know. Average day is a bit confusing. What else? What else do you drink? Come on. I mostly just drink water as well, but I still have like a coaxial. No, no, no.

17:20She does not touch that soda. Very good. Okay. Anything else? I mean, like if I drink a tea, we're talking it's- Anything else in the average day? No, that's- Water's her thing. She eats cheese. Yeah, I have a 40 ounce cup that I keep on my desk of water. I have a 24 ounce of ice that I keep on my desk. I'll tell you how tall I am. 5'10. Okay, cool. Well, that does its little calculation. It's just important because, I mean, your medical thing, it sounds like it doesn't really- Yeah. And actually contribute to the synthesis. Like if you're the one taking care of your kids and they eat what you eat, I am concerned for the kids going forward because they are forced to be homeschooled. Because you are choosing that and they're not choosing it. You're literally forcing them to be homeschooled. Maybe they want to be a school. Maybe they want to do sports. They don't- No, don't answer for them. You're forcing them to do this. You're forcing them to eat what you want to eat. Come on. So I just want to see kind of what's going on here. Okay, very good. Peter, what are you doing for a living? I work as a line-took. For a kid who doesn't make money. Sure, that makes money. I like that, Peter. Well, what do you make? 35 an hour. Sure.

18:20How many hours a week? 80 or 40. Sometimes more. What's your average paycheck? And what is that frequency of paycheck? Average paycheck is every two weeks. And it averages about 1800. Bring home. Bring home. That's his paycheck. Yeah. I just want to make sure he gets that that's what he brings home because he has a bunch of stuff that comes out of his checks because like, right, insurance stuff comes out of his. Very good. Okay, cool. So guys, how we doing in Arlington on that? 4,700 and that a month. Struggling. Struggling. Why? Why are we having a little struggle? Well, why are we having a little struggle? What's going on? He has addiction to eating out instead of taking lunch. Yeah. I'm having a... Hey, I bought him a... Hey, ask me. I want to take my lunch. I said, okay, I'll buy you a lunch box and ice packs and... That lasted a week. He has a problem with food. I said eating out. I don't have problem with food. I'd just eat out. She's right. Okay, so what? You're just eating out your lunch and stuff.

19:20That wouldn't drive us into the struggle whole. That can't be what's not always for lunch. I'll always eat out sometimes for breakfast as well. One of them is a healthy root beer saw in BTS. You were having a healthy root beer, I guess, earlier. So I don't know. You have three drinks on the floor? Yep. Okay, so I don't know if it's just water, but maybe you're just in a special day being here. One is ice. One is water with a Nello Supercom in it. And one of them is a root beer probiotic sparring drink. On your average day, you consume 2600 calories. That's your average day. That's not when you throw in the extra things. The extra things being that mac that pops up or your little sandwich that pops up or that extra little drink, like you're doing today or these other days. You have or her little dessert that she does a couple of times a week. Those add up, by the way, especially with low activity. In reality, you and your lifestyle, it's your height and your age.

20:20You should be at about 1700 calories a day. So you consume extra 33% just about. So okay, come on. Was it a disorder or is your beer behavior just because nuggets are grilled? Doesn't mean your portions in caloric amount for your age and height are good. Let's be real here. I'm basing my meal off of what my nutritionist has approved for me to eat. Does she approve this multiple desserts and this mac and cheese thing that you're doing? The protein shake. I try to go. I try to go. I try to go. Like are they approving that? So we meet once a week and she sees exactly because I track exactly what I put in by pictures. Now for what it's worth, how much do you weigh? Right now I'm at 362. I was at 398, was my highest nine months ago. I don't approve it. But on a scale? Yeah. Yeah. Okay. It takes away five pounds. We love the Springer scale, bring it out. She consented. Because I mean, yes, you're 2,600 calories to so that you consume at a daily basis.

21:24That is likely for your height and weight, a decrease from your maintenance because you're just so large. So that probably actually does make you lose weight. But it's still not. So that's why your nutritionist is happy. It's right there if you want it. Mark put an Oreo on it to get you to go. That was rude. That was very rude. Don't say that, Kess. That was so naughty. That was so naughty. It says 3.42.2. Add five pounds to it because the scale is broken in five. Okay. 3.47 that's still less than what I told you. Well done. I like that. And it is because again, your 2,600 calories is likely less than your maintenance. I'm going to be real with you. Your debt is not the same as everyone else's. You've got your own unique mix of credit cards, maybe some medical bills, personal loans and collections. Whatever. Your interest rates are different. Your payments are different. Your life is different. Why do you need some one size fits all solution that treats you like a number? Some generic calculator that fits out. Just pay more. As if you hadn't thought of that already. That's what it says, PDS apart. They don't just look at your balance and say, good luck.

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24:28Yeah, your class two obese. It's interesting because you just like she looks very then like the class three obese and four of these is that we've had on the show, but listen, I am glad that you are going down. Okay. Also why you calling me rude, you were calling her fat, you called her fat all the time, you were calling her fat in the pre interview like 50 times. You're like she's such a fatty. What a fat. She's so fat. Yeah. I mean, I'll admit, I'm not skinny. I've never been skinny my whole life. I'll be I've been fat and overweight my entire life. I'll admit, but okay, I'm not picking you anymore. I mean, it's him who's like it's all that I called you fat when he calls you fat like every five seconds. So what the fuck? I mean, there's probably that's probably the reason why he decided that other girls are more important than me. Oh, it isn't financial art without that. What happens? And do you blame him? But what happens? He's been cheating since like six months in our marriage. I think I've been married. We've been 17 years. 17 and a half.

25:29Brother, what the fuck are you doing? I have no problem. I have no problem. But I know what you're doing. I know what you've done. I know what you've done. That bite that you've done. That means he's done. That's driving. I don't know. I don't know you. I know you don't know me. I'm just saying I don't know what I was doing, to be honest. Making stupid poor decisions. Should I, should I, instead of just saying the question that they asked you, what has he done? What has he done. I would've said, that's an awful thing. Very bad. a very bad thing. I know, why you're everything most expensive. We weren't even, if we could make it to our first wedding anniversary, the first time he cheated, he walked out, moved in with another girl. So on that note, it's true. Let's see, I was lied to when I got to Arlington in the first place because it was told that I had a job lined up. And then he said he had a good job working with this cousin doing. No, no, that was, that was way after that.

26:33That was way after that. The first time we moved to Arlington, we were there a whopping four islands. And before we even moved to Arlington, you were lied about your job working with your cousin so you moved to the first one? No, her mom got a job. Okay. When we moved up to Arlington, I was told there was a job lined up and I was lied to about it. And we didn't know until we got there. It's not like I put that on me. And then he had a good, had a good paying job already, already doing it. How does all this make you move it with another woman? It's six months after married her. Because I was pissed off. That's why. How'd you meet this other woman? Through my cousin. Do a different cousin. Was the woman a cousin? No. It's not, I don't do that Alabama sorry. No, she's just a psychobitch. Literal psychobitch. Was it from the cousin? No, the girl that even did was psychobitch. Okay, okay. Why did you move in though? Were you in love with this woman? No. Okay, did you even know what was happening?

27:34Oh, I found out quick fast and I heard. Did you find out what happened? Because I found out when he got a ticket for no insurance. Because he was still on my insurance and didn't have a copy of it. And he needed me to send it. And I was like, why am I sending this? Why do you need it for a court in an umbil? Because I was like sending me the ticket information so I can see exactly what you need. What do you think he was? I had no idea. He told me he was moving back to his parents house. No, I actually moved in with my grandparents at the time. He told me his parents, but I guess it was his grandparents. But I think you were still, did you think you were still together? He pretty much quite contact. So that's like he left you more than cheating. Well, so no, he had cheated before this chick. Oh, yeah, what was that? So we rang in the new year together. You got married one month? We got married in May of 2009. Okay. And running, ringing in 2010, I went to sleep and he left to go cheat on me with the chick. And the only reason I found out was because I woke up and he wasn't in bed anymore. And how'd you meet her online? Yeah. What were you doing?

28:35No, never heard of that. What were you doing? What online? Uh, chat rooms, stuff like that. What the fuck? Okay, what'd you do? Just chat, I guess. I don't know. I just chatted with people. So when you met her, she's been so long-rounded. Okay, you're there. Okay, no remorse. Look at you. My goodness. He doesn't give a fuck. Hell no. What the fuck is this relationship? You guys are crazy. This has been insane. So then he gets in two accidents. No, he got one accident. Before the new year? Right after the new year before he leaves. Okay, well, he already cheated at that point. He cheated. He gets in an accident and while I'm dealing with that whole mess because he didn't deal with it, he decides that he's going to move out. And basically goes knock on. Okay, so that accident that happened in Plano was not my fault. Thank you very much. Okay. I don't even care about the accident.

29:35Just like your ass. And then he gets the ticket. Well, she's blaming me for it. So I'm going to defend myself in that one. He gets the ticket. Okay. And he's like, hey, do we still have insurance? And I was like, because the Texas law, yeah, you still have insurance. And he's like, can you send me a copy of it? And that's how I found out he had moved in with a girl because the ticket was out of him. The first one was obviously an excuseable cheating. It sounds like he broke up with you and like moved out. But I didn't know that he didn't tell me that he told me he was gone. Right. He said we're going to take it sometimes so I can get a good job back home. And that's definitely cheating. Why did you lie about it? Well, you're incredible. Okay. So he moved out. How did you guys get back together? What happened? So then Mother's Day, he shows up to his parents house with a girlfriend at his parents on a Mother's Day and brings divorce papers. And he's like, here, I want to divorce. I regret the day I married you in front of his parents. I get it. How big was she? Who? Her? Lighter than she is now. Oh, hell of a lot lighter, man. That's what I just said. What does that mean? Lighter now?

30:36I was like 260 maybe? Wait, how much do you weigh? Actually, I don't even think I was at 260 at that point. Wait, wait, wait, are you 347? 342? Oh, I put in two. What is happened? Because we have to add, oh, I was going to see, this makes no sense that you look like that, but you're only class two. Oh, no shit. Okay, 347. Okay, so she was class two of these. So, I mean, that's fine. Yeah, you regretted marrying her. I think we all would. That makes sense. So, uh. So while he's with her, she steals my phone that apparently he had taken, and I didn't know it. That was my phone. The blackberry was mine. No, the blackberry was mine. Then how did I have all my stuff in it? I don't know, because it was my blackberry. You had the black one. I had the maroon one. Yes. You had a black one. I had a maroon one. She took the maroon one. Okay. Anyways, so because she had my phone with all my stuff in it, she started trying to steal my identity. And the only reason I ended up finding that out was because her address was showing up

31:38on my credit report. Okay, but how did you guys get back together? So after that, I was like, hey, I can't sign these divorce papers because my name's not correct on them. Okay. And he's like, what do you mean? I was like, I never changed my name. You knew that. I knew that. This paper's not legal. Did you not read it? He's like, I'll get it fixed and get you to sign it. Well, anyways, we met back up at my parents' church in November, a Thanksgiving. And he's like, I made him say. Of a nine. Yeah. He owned up. Yep. He's like, what made you regret it? Man, I don't even know anymore. To be honest. Incredible. Okay. And you were like, sure. So we spent some time talking and took a while and then we ended up getting back together. And things were good for a while until they weren't. And he has continued. We got back to back together and I thought he had quit talking to her. And I realized that wasn't the case because he was in the army and she started calling

32:41from my phone. She had my phone, my family's phone numbers, his family's phone numbers, his command staff's phone numbers. And was calling our families in the middle of the night, called his command staff and said, you have to convince him to come back to me. She's wrong for me. It's official. We have our first class four obese person. This is incredible. I'm waiting for this program. I'm getting better. And I compliment you for that. I absolutely do. I wish you took more accountability that you got there because of your eating and not because of its order. Stop holding that shit. I think she has this probably also a big thing. Okay. Maybe eating from your stress, but it was still because of what you ate. I used to eat horribly. I did for a long time. Okay. Until two months ago. No. No. Nine months. Nine months. Nine months. Nine months. Nine months. Nine months. Nine months. Nine months. Okay. When I was doing my first class three every night, we've asked him what some services are

33:42in downtown City, for example, where he was missing you? Well, you look worse. He didn't express his pain. You're a person you cannot express without. You're a poor walleter. It's not distracted. And it's no different from taking a credit because we feelings have afflicted you. Yeah. No. You're being stupid. Okay, but I'm glad you're losing weight. I do that as behavior that is good. You are still class four, which is very impressive. Maybe you were class five before. Okay, so you brought him back again. This was years ago. You guys have been good since. Oh no, he's cheated. It's been multiple times. I'll own up to that. I know that he's... Oh, will you? Yes, sir. I know you own up to something you factually did. What a hero. I know, because at least 10 women. Ah! Ah! One reached out on Facebook. Ah! Ah! That was impossible. Why are you letting him?

34:42Why were you continuing to reproduce with him? 10? Ah! Because sadly, I listen to everybody else about myself. I let him to the church. I listen to my family. The church said he was the cheater. Yep, cheater. What church are you going to? The church I no longer go to. I'll be flying online. And who else had stayed with the church parents? His parents told us to stay together. Oh, his parents are in a reliable source of... My family told us to stay together. My own attorney told me to stay with him when I filed for divorce. Oh, maybe... Oh, you filed for divorce? I later than filed for divorce, yes. Oh, well, okay. After he moved back in, when did you figure out he cheated with woman number three? I don't remember how I found it out. Like three and four and five, six messaged me on Facebook and said, Oh, are you meeting... Yes, four more after that. Where were you meeting these women online? Yeah, but like, what platform? Or platforms... Out of things to platforms even around anymore.

35:44It was only one single platform? Yeah. So that one reached out on Facebook and then tried to backtrack and say, oh, she was reaching out to the wrong woman. And then I was asking her questions and she described to my car in the car seat and he ended up admitting it. And so I was like, I was like, you can't lie now. I know it was you, he admitted to it. What was causing you up to the six times? Like what was just going through your head? As best you can, I know it was a bit ago. As best you can, what was like, what was pushing you? I can tell you what caused supposedly his excuse for one of the others, which was his ex-fiance in her husband. Oh, well, three way? Yep. Yeah. All right, train on your ex-fiance. I wouldn't say it train, but okay. Choo-choo. Anyways, that was an ex-fiance that he, before we got ever met, he said he dumped her because she cheated on him. And so I found out about that. And then he told me that they were done. Oh, it gets better with her. Oh, does it. Oh, yes. Wonderful.

36:45Because after she got divorced, he decided to have a relationship with her. And after I found out I was pregnant with number five because he promised me he wasn't going to do anything again. I think it's worse. He promised me the 50th time. Okay, go on. Yeah, I wasn't work before I injured my back. And he brought her to the park with my kids there and then brought it to my house. Why was it work? And told my kids not to tell me. She calling me crazy. I feel like some printing back in the age. I'm talking like some shade. Are you working at a job? And... In a moment. Why are you still around? This is fucking insane. This is insane. So after that, that was like the end of us being in a relationship together. So we live in the same house. We are still legally married. We are no longer in a relationship though. Oh, today. The last four years since that one, we are not in a relationship together. We live in the same house. We are still legally married, but we do not have a relationship. We co-pamber. Yes, as we sit. Oh, yeah, we are not.

37:45Oh, shit. She has her room. I have my room. Whoa, I've never experienced this before. Yes. Because of his work, especially, I compromised for us to currently stay together in a house. So I have my room. That's also where I work from. That's right. That's where the bitch is out cheating. No. What? I haven't touched anybody since that incident. Why? You can. You're now you're actually not together. Because we agreed. We agreed. The agreement was in order for us to stay in this position. Nobody has a boyfriend or girlfriend. Nobody brings another person to the house. Because... That part's fine. But go somewhere else. Because here's the other thing. In order for him to go see somebody, he's either going to have to do it in his work chart or he's going to have to take my car. And it's her car, bro. Yeah. I can't afford it over. Hold on. Ask him how much money he gets per paycheck right now. Because of the phone. He's just phoned me. No, no. No, no. I get it. I'm on. That is his play money that he was. Okay. You guys are literally not together. Nope. But she's getting your money and then he hands you apart. Because I agreed to pay all the bills.

38:45This is how the part of what a hot... This was the agreement so that he did not have to pay because of how long we've been married and everything. You went from extreme cheater to extreme. Let's put this way. The reason we agreed to this, because we also agreed a few years ago that we would never do child support. So he decided... Because the court makes more money off of you than you make your own child support. All right. Bro's thought about this for a while. Almost like he's been sticking it in 50 women a day. Yeah, no shit. So the agreement was that in order to avoid social support and child support, we would live in one house. When you were getting into these chat rooms after every time you promised not to, I just want to know what was going through your head. Try your best. Absolutely nothing, that's the problem. What was... What are you feeling unsatisfied? He told me I was boring and bad, but he wouldn't try anything. Probably shut the f*** up, you can't move. So... She pretty much said it. I was bored. Okay, okay, that's something. That's something. So you just wanted more, a little more freaky, a little more, you know, but back in others. He wanted to speak with other people. Hmm? Freaky with other people. Yeah. If I asked to do something, he wouldn't do it. What the f*** could you do?

39:47Oh, a lot, apparently, because then he'd come back and complain about how poor it was with them is what he would do. Okay, well, it's tough, it's just because he regretted cheating, but really all he can do with you is stick it in the blowhole. I guess so. I don't know. I don't know. Okay, so you guys don't... Oh, no. No, good on you. So good on me. Good on her. Because that boy and the whole time we've been together... Yeah, he probably got a lot. Yes. Yeah, you probably got the f***. So, okay, you weren't exciting. I mean, you were just like when you guys weren't married, how frequently are you guys? Oh, you are not allowed... What, but you mean together? In the beginning, they was quite frequent. Of course, in the first year, but let's talk about the majority of the... No, I'd say about half of it. It was still quite fruitful. Quite frequent for me. No, it's approximately 3 a.m. And then, the second half... It pretty much almost died of. What change is there? It's cheating. The more frequently cheating. You found out every time. How? I don't know if I found out about all of them. Did she find out about all of them? Yeah.

40:47Okay. Okay. Okay. Did you ever go like, get with anyone else? No. So why can't he be with anyone now? Like that actually doesn't make sense. That was his. That's not doing it. That was his saying. That's my doing. I think honestly, Bro just gets off on there being a rule to not be with people and then he's with people. But I'm not with anybody. That's the problem. Uh huh. Yeah. Mm hmm. Sure. So I can't say if he is or not because like he knows the passcode to my phone. I don't hide anything from him. So then like what do we looking for? Because this is I've never had a relationship like this in four years of this show. Through four and a half almost. What we're doing is trying to figure out why we're struggling so much with our finances. That's what we're doing. Because your marriage is a joke. If your marriage is a joke, finances is one of the first things to go. It's so complicated. There's no trust in this household. It's impossible. And finances are built on trust. Yeah. They are. OK, but if she's controlling the finances, right?

41:49But let's also just clearly we're in this situation. Why are you allowing her to control the finances then? Hold on. Ask answer this. Because how many times have I asked you to sit down so you can see what's going on? Several times. Many times? He won't. Why? I don't. You just deal with it. I don't care. As long as he goes just let me make sure I get some money when I get paid. That's exactly what he'll tell me. Hmm. I feel as long as the bills are paid, I'm fine. Why'd you get with her, dude? She could have, and I know I've been meaming on you a lot on this episode. And you consent to do it, right? Oh, I'm good. Yeah, there we go. Am I talking about the thing you said not to talk about? I'm good. You're good. Exactly. Chad, we do this in a consensual happy way. That's why I was allowed to bully her. Because she's, I, she also asked for permission to bully me back. And I said yes. So before all the TikTokers freak out, the Instagram comments are like, yeah, I'm protecting the Fadi. Which I am too. So protect me. What the thing is, even with all the meaming on her, she could have been building a life with someone who loves her,

42:52with someone who respects her. Matter of fact, I told her to do that when we've finally separated. Yes. Think about the decade before then that you've stopped. Now she's locked in this situation with like, two handfuls of kids. So it's not as simple as at that point she produced five kids with you. Was it five? Five kids with you? Go beyond your own. No. You locked her into that situation and that is so pathetically unfair because you decided to prioritize your not. But you want to see, this is the worst part of that. When I got pregnant the first time, he swore up and down I was cheating because he swore up and down that his doctor's word was gold. You were cheating? That I was cheating. That his doctor's word was gold that he couldn't have kids. Yes, but the doctor told me. And yet, and yet we have five together. Did you ever do a paternity test? No. And why? Because he swears there ain't no question about that those kids are his because they look so much like him. And I said, I'll do one. I ain't no question about it.

43:53I don't have anything to hide. And he's like, I don't need to. They look just like. But the thing is, she never brought it up. She never brought to got the package or anything to do it. And she says she volunteers to do it. Oh, so now you think now you have questions about it. No, that's no. I never said I had questions. I said you never brought it back up. Yeah. I was just a volunteer to go get the damn things to get it done. Because why should I pay for it? I know that I didn't do anything wrong. Who'd be paying for it? It'd be me, because it's all from my finances. But you too. OK, but that's what my thing is. It's if you're saying we need to have it done, then why don't you make the effort if there's any potential question in your mind? All right, fine. If you want it done, I'll get it done. Did I say you wanted it done? Why do I need to have it done? I have no question about it. Yeah, that's fair. It's your question, right? So just do it if you want to. Or let it go. I'll let it go a long time ago. You have objectively locked her when she could be with someone who's loving her for the past 15 years. And have those five kids with someone who loves her, pleases her, respects her, doesn't cheat on her,

44:55isn't a complete cop. What you've done is disgusting in this relationship. And how she's stuck. I actually get stuck in the doorway, am I right? Still had to come back and get you. Sorry. No, you're good. It's thought what you've done. It is. And he doesn't care. I can tell. He has no remorse. Sometimes I wonder if he is actually happy being a parent. Doubt it. You're probably a psychopath, right? Like in the non-insulting but clinical ways. You don't care for her though. I feel like in you face no remorse. There you have no remorse. I mean, in the more clinical way, a psychopath, not like, you know, just throwing it out there like a buzzword. The fact that you have no regrets and you just continue to do shit. If you or your child spent years growing up on social media and experienced serious mental health struggles, you should hear this. Recently, a jury ordered meta and YouTube to pay millions

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46:58if you continue the same bad behavior. So it's not for you if you still suck. But if you've proved you can budget, check out these programs from personal loans to car insurance to see if you can save a shit ton of money across the board. Go to Calebhammer.com where they Calebhammer Financial Resources part of the pinned comment or description below and save a shit ton of money. She told Dev and the producer of the episode that you're a bad dad. Why would she say that? All right, because I don't want to always interact with my kids sometimes. I will admit that. You don't interact with your kids. Sometimes, not always. What does that mean? He's a big gamer. Okay, well, there's nothing wrong with playing. But here's the difference. When we lived before we lived in the house we were in now. He, his room became the living room. When we walked our separate ways and he was no longer in the same room with me because the kids needed space, he took the living room and he couldn't hide from the kids because he was in the living room. Everything started all around the living room. Now that we're in a house and he's upstairs and he has his own room, that's where he stays.

47:59Because we're not- I don't care, but it asks her how long she's always stays in her room. So the kids come in my room. But you locked the door. I locked the door when I need like, when I'm working, how am I supposed to have my kids in my room when I'm working? I didn't say against when you were working. I said you say- No, you talked about it in my door first. Okay, how about after you get done with work? Your door stays, still stays locked. And who brings you your dinner? How often do you actually go in the kitchen and grab your own dinner for yourself? Okay, if I come in there to get my plate, you're like- How often I said- Hold on, let me finish. If I go in there to get my plate, you tell me I'll take care of it and bring it to you. Not always. There it. But 90% of the time I bring you your food to you, or one of the kids bring it to you. Because normally I'm just staying up for work. And then you ask them to close the door and lock it. So nobody else goes in there. Because so that I can breathe for a few minutes after work, because I literally, I get up in the morning and I have the kids. If I am on a break from work, I'm taking care of the kids. I get off from work and I'm still taking care of the kids. On your days when you're off, you stay in your room to you not.

49:00Do I ever- No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, I did not always stay in my room. I didn't say all the time. I said a lot of the time you spend in your room. Do you not? Yeah, I spent a lot of time in my room. But also I do deal with the kids. I get a third. I didn't say you don't do it all the time. But it's like when I went to- I didn't say when I went to- I didn't say when I went to see- But it's like when I went to- I didn't say when I went to see- I didn't say when I went to see- But when I went to DC and I came back from DC, the kids told me that you made them eat nothing, but same which is why I was gone. When I left meals prepared for you, Oh no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. I did not make them just eat sandwiches. You even said that's all they ate. Maybe like two days. Is that- I'm just going based off of what you and the kids told me when I got back from DC. But I did cook the meals. Okay, all I can do though is go based off of what y'all told me. Right? I guess so. But I did cook the meals. And I'm not the one who always says you're the bad dad. The kids say that you don't seem to think they- Wow. You don't love them. What your kids say that? Yeah. Why? What's the reason they bring up? Well, yeah, I mean, again, like I think you're- You are some kind of like psychopathic a little, right?

50:01Because you don't show remorse in this conversation for what you've done to her. If you've done anything bad or aren't your kids, you probably don't show remorse either. You're very flat. They probably don't feel a lot from you, right? That's that you've done something bad. I don't know. A CPS have been called in this house? Yep. Me. Twice. Me. And who was the reason why? Can you tell me what the first time was? They was the same reason both times. Okay. Okay. It was the main one. No, we're not going to go on that topic though. We already said we're going to just get that out. That's right. Oh, okay. We'll get into that. We'll get into that. That's the post show. We already agreed to that. Okay. I guess something's coming for the- Okay. Stick around for that. Well, now I'm excited. But does he at least help clean and do dishes and stuff like that? Who's doing that? Who's doing the work around the house? The 12 year old's one who has agreed to do the dishes. What? What are the parents- Well, I can get, do some chores, but you guys don't do anything. I just said the dishes.

51:02That's what she has agreed to take on. Who cleans and stuff? Do you know clean dishes? If you're locked in- Okay. So we both help clean the house. Yeah, we both do. I'm the one who goes to the laundry room. You really just locked in his room all the time? If he's cooking for you and if he's cleaning- But he doesn't clean all the time. And he doesn't clean all the time. Not all the time, but you're making- Maybe- I can't tell how egregious it is in hiding away. On his days off, that's where he spends the majority of his time off on his days off. And not like- So you only take the kids to the park when you have another woman with you? I don't have a park. There's a park somewhere. You listen, de- De- De- De- De- De- De- De- De- De- De- De- De- De- Can we get these kids out of the house and out homeschooled? I think they need human interaction, man. But the babysitter out there is probably the first human interaction to get it in years. No, no.

52:03This is not the house. This is not- Not space. I mean, like- No, I want them in a classroom with kids and go into the playground and launch. Building those social skills, getting away from their toxic parents. Good f- This house old. I'm sorry. You don't trust the school system, whatever. But even just like throw that all away, there is a benefit of human interaction. Yeah, there is. And sports. And all the shit that comes to schools, learning musical instruments are- Okay. Well, and we talk about like, you know, how great he is and how, you know, everything- How good who is. This one he thinks he is. Oh, he thinks he is. But we talk about the gaming. And we talk about how he was so engrossed in a game that he didn't realize our now six year old completely stopped breathing in his arms. Yeah, I was in another room. He had him in his arms playing a game.

53:03He was so engrossed in the game. And if it wasn't for the outlet, my son probably wouldn't have made it. It wasn't for the what? The outlet. The outlet on- It's a- It's an oxygen- It's an oxygen- It's an oxygen- It was started beeping. The alarm went off on it. And I- So he has breathing issues. No, it was- Why was he wearing that then? Well, because he- he had some complications. He had gotten- he was breach-born and his foot was stuck in my ribs when he was born. And so like- Jay and I had to see section to get him out. Why he stopped breathing? So he was holding it in the way he was holding him like this while he was playing his game. Got him chin to chest which cut off his airflex. Oh, okay. I'm sorry. And- Nothing makes me more angry than when I was like- So it's in the past- Thankfully, because of my training, I was able to get him to start breathing. But he literally had no clue. Like he was actually- Lips were blue by the time I- it registered enough for the alarm to go off. You're a piece of shit. I'm wanting you about the CVS thing, but I have to start giving in these finances.

54:05So- Oh, let's go. So we'll- we'll get into that in a moment and- Whatever you have, same for the post show. I don't even know. They're hiding it from me too. Okay. What do you guys think you're combined household financial score is zero to 10. Zero being the worst 10 being the best. One. Two, maybe. If you want to figure out what your hammer for an antia score is in depth in each category, take the assessment for free. Just take a few minutes over at Calebhammer.com. And if you don't want to be like, get some hands up on the show. Make sure you download the Don't Loise Budgeting App. It is the best budgeting after the average American. Check it out. There's a free trial to see if you like it and most people do. That's why they take the annual version of saves nearly 50% on your money. And you get the physical version of my 30-day meal plan, which you guys- Fnud. Signed by me, mailed directly to you and the digital version of the cookbook as well. We're just- Fnud. Don't Loise.com links in the description below. We're just download the app. Oh, get okey's. I have office of the attorney general. Yeah.

55:05That goes to the post show. This is for the post show. Oh, yeah. Okay. That's her. I'm even more excited. Attorney General's getting involved. What the f*** is happening here? Okay. Kenpaxon, do you need to call him for the post show? What's going on here? Loan to the family. What family? Whose family? His parents. Okay, 4,000, 1,350. What the f***? The Fnud. What the f***? The 4,000 was so that we could move. Wrong and two? We moved out of Baittown. What? What? Yeah. Out of Baittown. Oh, Baittown. Yeah. To Arlington. Okay. Yeah. Okay, very good. We were in a place that was mold. We found out had mold and that was why I was super sick for a long time. That's why we have fully-fronted emergency funds. What the f*** are we doing? I'll see you in the emergency fund. Why do we have- That's why I said you need to have one. And he quit, but when we separated everything and he told me he was going to take care of his bills,

56:07I didn't know that my car was financed to an account attached to his car loan and a credit card that he quit paying. And so the car's got repaid as us. Twice that I used the emergency fund to bail him out. The third time I no longer had an emergency fund. So you guys separated your ship before you moved to Arlington? We once had our stuff separated. And after that all happened, that's why he had me taken over. And then you guys got your stuff together again and then separated again? So we didn't- we had separate finances at that time. Fair enough. Because that was not your girlfriend. I didn't get you to get away from this man. That's why I'm here. To get away. So I can get my stuff in order since most of this has fallen on me so that we can get away. Don't you want to be free? And away? You hate being around your kids. You hate being around your bitch wife. Don't you want to be gone? So you can just- And she wants me going out to step out the notice. No, I'm asking what you want. I don't give a f*** to be honest. Really? Yes. You don't want to just be blowing loads in women? No. I do. It's fun. What's wrong with it? I have no need for it. Need?

57:07No, I don't- I don't need for it. But it's fun. Okay. He doesn't give a f***. No. So it's the income side. Because he brings in the income for the household. Right. Such a weird dynamic. What do you do with someone who doesn't care? Doesn't even care about the- do you care about your kids? Yes, I do. Well then, how are you telling me you don't care? Because that is a part, isn't it? It is, yes. But I do care about my kids. Then why don't you- do you care if you're there or not? Because we always fight. So what's the point of being there if we always fight? Are you guys fighting all the time? Not all the time. We do have our arguments at times. Yeah. Now you guys just rules. You can't see other people or whatever. Do you feel like he's living up to that? Do you suspect anything? Yeah. Why? Do you want to know why? Oh, I guess so. So what's the point of being there if we always fight? Are you guys fighting all the time? Not all the time. We do have our arguments at times. Sure. So, Mr. I sent a text message to the wrong person. I'm sorry I can't get to a birthday gift. It's not in the finances right now and then started to break down our finances to somebody.

58:10But hold up, it gets better. In 17 years we've been married. I've never gotten a birthday gift. That's insane, better one. He got me a Christmas gift one time that he told me he got out of the trash. He's never gotten me anything for our anniversary. What is he going to get out of the trash free? That was the very first Christmas we were together with you. What was it I asked? Not a little win. Candle bird house thingy? It was green. I don't even know what it was. Then if you don't know what it was, why are you trying to describe it? I don't know exactly what it was. It looks like a little bird house and it was made. It was like a blue green teal color and you could put like a candle I think inside of it. I don't know what it was actually supposed to be because you're the one who got it. Not me. But his birthday falls right before Christmas and I've always made sure that his birthday and Christmas presents are separated. No, that's good. You do seem like the better partner. Don't get me wrong. By far. But he sent that to somebody. I even once.

59:10He sent it to you on accident. He sent it and deleted it thinking I didn't see it. He's like, oh, I didn't mean to send that to you. And then I was like, oh, you mean you didn't mean to send to me that you couldn't afford to buy somebody a birthday gift? Who did you send it to? A friend. Which is a friend. That's it. That you stick it in? No. Have you ever loved her? Yes, I did. Would you let her go through your Snapchat? Probably not. Why? Because I believe that our phones are our last safe space for anything. Ha ha ha! It says the dead-time cheater! Get the f*** away. Yeah, he's never going to follow that rule. Dude gets off on the kink of cheating. But I haven't cheated in the last four years. I haven't done shit. That's the problem. Except for text someone and not let her go through Snapchat. You won't let her prove it. I don't even go through her phone because I don't want to go through her phone. I thought, could she, she's never cheated on you? It doesn't matter. I don't want to go through her phone. I have no need to go through her phone. Hold on, hold on. To do about her phone.

1:00:10I'm going to, I'll be honest. You want to hear one thing? I was with somebody one time. But let's say when this happened. Did he know? Oh, yes, he knows. When did it happen? I don't know. It happened after he handed me the divorce papers. One, I thought we were completely done with. So I didn't cheat because he had already handed me the divorce papers. And he was still living with the girl at the time. That's the only time I've ever been with anybody else in the 17 years we've been together. And you were in God that South Dallas black. Not South Dallas. Well done. Good for her. She's getting blown out by that BBC. But that's the only time I've been with anybody else. She got her in and care what you don't see. Yeah, but I'm just saying. If he wants to try to say I cheated, there is no cheating. Because he had already handed me the divorce papers by the time that happened. And then he did. Finally got his catch. And then apparently it wasn't grass. Wasn't greener on the other side. Because there must have been something good if he kept coming back. What's your relationship with his friend? Platonic. Would you let me go through the Snapchat?

1:01:10Probably not. Okay, he's cheating. Okay, yeah. A thousand to his family. What's that for? That was supposed to be for us to go to a family member's funeral from my family. 350. What's that for? The alternator on the on the suburban. So you guys never have money to be clear. Okay. Well, that 350 wouldn't have happened. Had he actually taken your car like he said he had. And it traded me coming home. Bro, he's never done anything right in his life. So I don't. I would I don't know why you would trust you do that. Okay. Okay. Some Amazon on a farm. What's the total load on? Oh, 2723. What the fuck are you getting? That has been a whole bunch of stuff in the house. There's like three things there for me. Listen, you need to take care of shit. And that means the similar similar with your weight. The reason I spend so much time on that is it does come down to accountability. Even if it's stuff in the house that isn't stuff for you. Is this stuff that you 100% need?

1:02:10It is still choices in the end that you are choosing to purchase. That might not be 100% necessary for the survival household. That is putting you further to where you can't afford a $350 repair on an alternator. So what is it? The H.E.B.1 was literally right after we moved in. And he had to have extra money because he was staying at somebody else's house because he couldn't transfer for work. And that one's still getting paid off because I had no money for food. There are two. One. There's three on there that are strictly just for me. And I'll admit it. I do admit it. And I did pay off one this past week on the last payment on it. Okay, I'm sorry. Listen, this is more of a concern. I don't want to insult you. If you notice I've been doing this a lot this episode. One's the last time you've been to the dentist. It's been years. Years? I'm sorry, that's the nastiest shit I've smelled in my life.

1:03:10I brushed my teeth this morning again. Doesn't matter. Go to the dentist. It's blasting me with like, it's been out. And I sit across from a lot of stinky people. I'm just telling you. No, I understand. I'm just telling you. It's like $78 a month. I don't know. This is crazy. There's more firms. Yeah, yeah. It's crazy. They're all in my name. Wait, they're old? Yes. $2723? No, that's the total of everything. Oh, I understand. Did you have minimum payment? Okay, so it's 10. Yeah, that total is everything. It's just about 350 then. Across the whole month. That's crazy. Yeah, Paul Graham is on. Let me see. If this is totally due for the house. Oh, my God. You're a firm. You're insane. You're just affirming for forever. 19 different ones. Show me. Yeah. I'll tell you which three are mine. Actually, I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I'll tell you which three are mine, actually. Let's see if you can win me back. What do you play?

1:04:10What video games? Mostly survival and resource management. Like what? Like Dyson's Fair Project or program and Seven Days to Die. Thank you. Seven Days to Die. It's great. I used to play Arc, but I got bored with it. Seven Days to Die is fantastic. You've won me back slightly. Not enough for me to think you're not a complete business shit. Psychopathic maniac, but you know, this is insane. This is Amazon, Amazon, HB, Target, Amazon. It's like, you do you affirm everything about rust. Try to get into it. Pussy. Let me see. And everything on Amazon isn't just for me. I'm sure. Yeah, you're a firm. It's all Amazon Target. Brute me all this shit. Helio. What's Helio? It's just like it's every other thing. When Helio made. Brute me. Yeah. What are you saying? Left hand side. This is all a firm that I'm going through. All the firm purchases, guys. This is crazy. I could have spent the time going through every single little thing here.

1:05:11But the whole balance goes up to that nearly 13-thousand root made cups. What's a root made cup? 50 of them being told. What the fuck is a root made cup? Root made. Huh? Root made. Oh my f*** you. I'm sorry. Hold on. Hold on. He can't be completely out of it. I got two. I got two and the kids have some two. You have 50 though. That's the whole entire house collection. And they have a couple and he has a couple. Don't resign with couple kids. He's getting in. And his cell sum of mine in order to help pay some of our debt. I spent. Sell them all. You f***ing freak. Okay. You're getting some workout bands as long as you use it. It's fine. We really need all these oral swabs though. What was that? The oral swab was because it was recommended to be able to clean my ice machine that I have at home. To get in all the little crevices. You know the little sonic ice that you get from sonic. Great. That was a critical purchase. I've had it for a long time in the one I had now. It was. More Brumei endless Brumei. So you're a Burmian Brumei. Stuff for the house. Go f*** yourself. Just like the male bed, male bed, male bed, male bed, male bed, male bed, male bed, male bed.

1:06:12So those Burmian's I paid on my cash. Obesity. Still. There is money. The cash that could have been spent on the other things instead of having to affirm them. It's still offsets. Just like you're more of it, more of it, more of it, obesity. It is choices and personal behavior from the ice machine to the ice pop, cycle makers to the collapsible stool and the new grinder. Plopful stool with hidden candy. Broke one in every place. I don't care. It's still purchases. You don't 100% needed to do the glucose monitor? Yes, you actually did. That's his. Because you definitely both have diabetes, right? No. No. I don't. I just had a complete workup done. And I'm not, I'm not even prediabatic. That's your blood pressure. Was 76 over, I mean, at 121? Over 121. No. What's the numbers 121 over 76? Sorry. All right, let's check it. It's probably getting high now. I'll admit it. It's probably going to be high right now because she's in pain. I'm not just in pain. I'm pissed. Well, fair enough. Well, we'll see. But you're pissed all the time. Yeah. Dude, you're just getting so much bullshit.

1:07:13That's a relief cap. Like, come on. The pads, that's fine. Obviously, but good grips, containers, go f*** yourself. Last bottle, go f*** yourself. What are we doing? The last bottles is what I have to use to put my iron in because it can't be exposed to. It has to stay there. Iron. I don't give a shit about it. Well, iron. She was in the name. I'm anemic. That's why I have a bunch of things. Oh, it's just okay. That's fine. I was anemic and had a blood pressure. 90% of it was bolster that you don't need. That you need to take accountability for. Or else, there will never be anything. Never be anything. So, getting done in this house. The pouches, the food pouches that you saw, like the plastic. They're reused. So, the bib was okay. And I'm just saying, I'm not the person I have to keep my inventory of it wasn't. So, shut the fuck up, take accountability instead of making excuses. Or else, you're going to be fat forever. Or else, you're going to be in debt forever. You're managing the house. What's finances in your firm? I mean, everything. Come on over. You don't be scared. She's not that big. Well. I probably have to go down here. Does that work like that? For years. That's where the doctor always does them.

1:08:14Oh, Mark's doing it in his own way, baby. He's, he's, uh, Dr. Mark's here. Dr. Mark's doing, you know, you know how the drill works? I said, you're flat. Mm-hmm. It's going to be really high. 101 over 109. Yeah, I knew it. Well, we'll say it again. 181 over 109 right now. It's good. She's in pain and she's pissed off. No, I'm pissed. That's a hypertensive crisis. Yeah. That's our first hypertensive crisis. That is you, you call 911 hypertensive crisis. I'm good. Well, you object. No, it's been worse. No. It's been worse. It's been worse. As long as I don't stay at there, I'm fine. I get this. We've had a fight. It gets us high. Oh, yeah. No, I'm. It's been a lot worse than that. What? Her blood pressure has been a hell of a lot worse than that. What? Uh, my worst was.

1:09:14When you slipped and fell on the bathtub and had the birds cross your back. No, it was afterwards. But, um, it was 210 over... 120? I've never heard of that. I just launched the brand new Hammer Elite app available on every major platform. So you can watch every show anywhere you want. You'll get three exclusive dedicated shows every single day Monday through Saturday.

1:10:14For a friend after you sign up and you get an additional 30 days of Hammer Elite access or free. Download the Hammer Elite app by using the link in the description or pinned comment down below. This is the best membership you'll ever join, and that's a promise. Your text and pre- I didn't even know there was anything wrong. My doctor actually had me drive to the hospital because there wasn't even an ambulance within 45 minutes of us. To clarify absolutely everything and blah, blah, blah, blah. I am not a doctor, I'm not a medical expert. Okay, all that being said, I'm glad just starting to lose weight because right now you're technically... At least according to this chart, okay? Oh yeah. And a hypertensive crisis and that is... Mm-hmm. I'm scared for you. You're a mother of children. Right. That's why I'm working on myself. That's a... That's why I've gotten serious about my self. They advise to call 911. Yeah. Mm-hmm. I know. What's in my... Is that by not calling 911 or no? No, we're good. I know my body. I will tell you if I get concerned. No. No, she will. I will agree with her where I'm at. She will.

1:11:15Yeah. She will let you know. She knows her body more than you think she does. I call 911 if someone's... BP is... What was it? 181. Oh, for her... 101, 19. 101, 19. 101, 19. Okay. I'm gonna follow its advice. You can take that off. Because I do not want to... ...of something else. No, I understand. And I'm just not willing to allow a guest. I understand. I'm not. So I'm just... I'm gonna follow the advice of what is given here. You can call 911 if you think your guests are not... Listen, listen. I don't know. I'm just not willing to... I understand. ...lose someone on the show. No, I understand. Um, if there... Do you have chest pain or shortness of breath? No. No vision. No vision changes, no. Okay. Okay.

1:12:15That's what it says. I was calling 911. We don't want to make it. Like I said, I will let you know if I get... I appreciate that. But I don't really give a shit about your concern. Because I am in the position where this is my office and I do not want someone to... No. ...and die in front of me. No. Okay, that's capital 1,490, and 65 cents with 156 dollar minimum to payment. Are you sure if she can continue if this is pushing you into that limit? I'm good. Okay. You're purchasing... Who is this? The card is in my name. That is a... Who's purchasing? Both of us? Well, it's maxed out. You're purchasing on a card that you're only putting minimum to payments to. It's going to take 20 years to pay off. You will not be alive on this current trend to be clear. And you will be out there like... ...children or something. I don't know what you do. But you look like an apple, apple, real short. That was when I was recovering from surgery and I was on a bench of watching shorts. Bloody, it's... I know. I should have done it a couple of months ago. I think it's... Chick-fil-A in an apple bill. What the f*** are we doing? Like, all the purchases are for...

1:13:16Oh, that's the Smuddy videos? Yeah. They're probably not giving it to you, so get down there and f***ing... Make sure you watch those hands because I know the f***ing... Oh, I don't do that. That's... I don't do that. Massive? I don't. It's okay to masturbate. I'm gonna let you know. I know you're approaching 40. You're still allowed to. I think, right? Is that... Devon, is it legal for 40-year-olds to masturbate? Yeah. I'm just concerned. Okay. You're good. Lightning's not gonna get you, maybe. Um... These are not life necessities. Right. Okay? Gooning is not a life necessity. Chick-fil-A. All these apple bills are not life necessities. Yes, sir. Discover who's discover? Turs. The cards in my name, yes. Not all the charges are mine. No. $805 since 73 cents with the minimum payment of $33. But we're purchasing only making the minimums towards the wall and just as a gruing. Car scores are low 600s. Like, what the f*** are we doing?

1:14:16What did we purchase on? Uh, some gas, but also probably getting into bullshit in Deerron. Trump... That was... So, that was... So, that was part of my... The cost to cover my treadmill. It was the only small part that our FSA didn't cover. Okay. Well, that part's fine. Because the FSA covered the majority of the cost for my treadmill. Okay. We don't know who said it, but... Nika is actually saying that you deserve some good dick after this. After being with this man for so long. Thank you. I don't know if he's volunteering. But, uh, you go out there and DFW and you get... Oh, speaking of that, why was CPS called? Because he hit one of the kids. How was this episode getting f***ing worse? Oh, no! I've never heard that in the show. I don't even know what the f*** do. Just tell me this story. Just tell me the story. I can't... I don't know exactly what happened. I can't... What? And I got... I don't think... I don't trust his interpretation. And I got conflicting stories about what happened.

1:15:17Okay. Well, tell me both stories. I don't want to hear from him. Um, so I got told at one point that she wasn't doing what she was told to do. And she was talking back. What age? Uh... Eight. Okay. Go on. And... So the first time he supposedly... Yeah, there were two different ones. The first time he supposedly just laid into her spaking. He just wouldn't stop. From what I mentioned, yes. And the second time he said he hit her in the face. You were present for the second time. No, I wasn't. Yes, you... I was not in the room when it happened. It was in your bedroom. You were sitting on the bed doing... You were sitting there rooking at your damn phone. You weren't paying attention. She raised my hand... She raised her hand at me. And... Well, I'll get angry at you too. And I slept her across the face. But like I said, I did not actually see what happened. But you were there in the room. Not paying attention.

1:16:18You were there. So I'm supposed to pay attention to you every second of the day. Oh, I didn't say that. Okay, that's what you said. Was that night in your bedroom... No, it was our bedroom back then. Don't try to say that was my room. Anyways, the bedroom, you were there... ...when it happened. Okay, if I was, then I guess I was, but I just don't have it. Because you literally inspected her face. And there was not a mark on her face. But you'd get a phone call from the school saying that was a hand fit across her face. And it was the picture that they took was a bright red print like it had just happened. And the picture didn't... When they... ...CPS showed up... ...since her... Oh, no, it was a lot smaller. So it was probably from school. School. Yes. Okay, but the first one, you just wouldn't stop wailing? No. It was her... Yes, I have to go across the butt and I miss and I've got across her waist instead. Exactly. But they did... They did because CPS had him show up to the mark that was on her face at that time. And his print did not match it. And that's why I said, I cannot say exactly what happened because they were like, this just happened.

1:17:18And I was like, according to what she told me... It was a school call. ...so I didn't know. And the... The attorney that I had... That was when I actually... Right after that was when I actually filed for divorce. And everybody convinced me... And it stayed on the vile until... What? I don't know. Two years ago. I don't like that. But everybody convinced me... ...my own... Even my own personal attorney convinced me to stay with him. And I did... I did have the papers drawn up. I have to ask because he ever hit you. Yes. Do you promise to beat your wife and abuse her in sickness and in hell? I promise. I do. Tell me. Once I got knocked out... I did not knock you out. I don't know what happened. I don't know what happened. I don't know what happened. I don't remember what happened. I woke up to an ambulance there and a police officer. All right, so what happened that night? You and I got into a full, long, blown argument. You tried to stop me from going out the door. I pushed you aside. I did not hit you. Okay.

1:18:18Like I said, I don't remember what happened. I had a panic attack, a severe one. Okay. I called 911 to have him check you out. Okay. Like I said, I don't know. I don't remember that. So they called Sheriff's after I explained what was going on. I got arrested. Stop. Why? I'm explained what happened that night. I want you to get the fuck out of my studio. I never want to see you again. Security's here. I don't want you here. You're a piece of shit. Evil disgusting creature. Please make sure he doesn't talk to anyone. I'm concerned for your safety after this started to be completely honest. I'm concerned for your kids' safety. I had to message him and tell him to come to... I was concerned of kicking him off of you. It was a fit. He'd go crazy. This man is the most evil mother... That has ever been on the show beating kids. How many times has he hit you? I am so sorry. And sadly, I tried to leave. And everybody told me I was better off with him than without him.

1:19:20I even got divorced papers drawn up. And they told me I would regret doing it. And sadly, I stayed. They are... Everybody was wrong. Everybody was wrong at everyone. Everyone... I don't even know. And sadly, once I lost all my family through everything, it was like... I couldn't sleep. So my mom passed away. And after that, I went no contact with her parents. Because I found out they'd been lying to me my whole life. Geez, for fuck's sake, what is happening? I found out that they were protecting a registered sex offender and exposing me to him and I didn't know. I can't, I can't... That's the same thing. I want it, it's them. So I am... I'm working on bettering myself because I've been through hell and bad. Okay. Let's start with the first thing to better yourself. That's why I came to you because I need to get this done too. Get this man away from your kids yesterday.

1:20:21Get yourself away from him. Listen, this show gets crazy, gets wild. I don't want him to be triggered and lose his shit after this, okay? I get you. I understand. I appreciate somebody... I appreciate somebody... Somebody's finally... Taking my side and not telling me to just deal with it. I appreciate it. Do you know what people are saying that? Yeah. They told me that he was a good guy. He didn't mean what he's done. He would get better. They said he took anger management and everything would get better. I'm sorry, someone who cheats ten times. Someone who won't let you go through his phone right now, even though you've made that, you know. Someone who literally has knocked you out and was gaslighting... I'm sorry, no one knocked someone out from the story he told. He is gaslighting the fuck out of us right now. There is no... Right? He knocked you out. Okay, you tell me what really happened because he's not... So I don't know what led up to it. I don't remember a lot of that day. Because you got hit. They don't know exactly what I hit on the porch,

1:21:23but I was out when EMS arrived. You were out. And that's why you can't remember anything? They said that's possibly why. They don't know if it was because of the trauma of what happened and my body was just trying to protect me from it, or if it was that I hit something that hard. Okay, sorry. You tell me exactly what you think and remember them. I know we got into an argument and I was outside. We were talking and I thought everything was better. I don't know if he hit me, he pushed me what? But I was knocked out. EMS arrived. I woke up to a medic attending to me. And he got arrested for a warrant outstaining for a ticket. He didn't take care of that I didn't know about. And I ended up getting checked out. And they told me everything was okay. There was no. They couldn't find any injuries in the ER or anything like that. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. And the second time he had hit me in the face. She's from what happened that you remember that time right? We got to argument. Yeah. What were you fighting about? Um, I don't remember the exact arguments of an awhile.

1:22:28But I remember that he got mad and I tried to walk away. And he shut the door and we kept arguing and then he smacked me and I had a hamper and a cross my face. Okay. Well, just first things first. Listen, I've worked with my therapist for a while and he's helped me a lot. I'm going to get you to sit down with my personal therapist. He's not an employee in mind, so he doesn't report to me or anything. You would be a client. I'm just paying for it. Okay. So you need to work through some deep shit that has happened. I am so sorry for everything that has happened. Um, and I know this doesn't, I mean, I'm just all the resources I can give you. Right? Obviously, budging now, course career certification to get a better job. I got to get you everything. But we're going to send you as many resources as we can to like resources to get the f*** out.

1:23:29Um, I'll personally is I want to verify some extra things that has happened here to make sure nothing is lying. I will, I will get you 5,000 hours from myself to make sure you're able to like get a place and get away from him. Whatever it is, I'll give you 5,000 bucks. We have to verify a few things before that happens, but I'll do that. No, you're fine. Well, I'm literally being told he like ran out of the building my security guards standing outside of the building right now. And we can't. We've lost them because he's got the key to the rental car. Oh, do not drive at this man. No, but I mean, all our stuff is in the rental car. No, no, no, no, I need you. I'm scared. So I need to get our stuff at least, but he has the key to the rental car. Security said he said, quote, I don't give a f***, I'll just walk home. I dude, this is. Did the police believe you in all this? No.

1:24:29Well, tonight, but the officer told me, flat out told me that if he didn't care and he didn't regret what he did, he wouldn't have come back and called them for me. Because I was still out when the officer arrived as well. What else is he done? Biggest thing has just been the cheating. No, I think the biggest thing is hitting the kids and hitting you. Yeah, I would say in the constant cheating. But even the phone over there, holy, we want to be able to get in anyway. Because I don't know his code. Of course not. Okay. Listen, in this situation, this household, this is the actual reality of what is happening. Oh, I know. Income that came in, the payroll hit of 5,500. And then pay the advance hit of flex. You flexed $1,700. That's our payment. So I have it. So you split it into two? I split it into two to make sure that the spending here was $7,65 on a household that brings in $5,560.

1:25:33Which was less than the 4,200 I'm calculating from what you guys gave me. Unless I'm missing something, $4,700. Maybe he worked more hours. Maybe you did. The last paycheck he got in August, he had their quarterly bonus. Yeah. And then you worked. Listen, listen, you will never be able to get away from him or get him away from you and rescue the kids and be able to take care of the kids. If you spend that much more money than you bring in, nothing will ever be fixed. That's why we'll always be dependent on him. You'll never be able to get away from him. This man has trapped you into what you're the one that's 39. And to your four decades now, more decades of not having freedom. You know, the terrible family, terrible man. The only way out is to get your finances under control. And I'll help with that a little. Yes, and we'll get the resources and we'll try to get you a place. You take control of your health. You take control of your finances. You cannot spend more than you bring in or you will never get away.

1:26:34You will always need someone to come in and take care of the bills. I appreciate that. Listen, at the lower income level when it's just you and not him, you will, which by the way, I know what you guys agreed. Report all this to the court and drain his ass to child support. I don't give a fuck about that agreement you guys did. Dude, it has hit the kids and he said you. We'll verify some police reports before we go further and help you to make sure you're not lying. Either way, yeah, drain his ass to child support. Get them in daycare that is subsidized and funded. I know we do that here because you'll be on a lower income. Get all the help and you are the kind of person who is, I don't complete about the government benefits of things. People like you that fall back on it. You're the ones that it's there for. You can't be getting your chickfully nuggets for lunch every day. You can't afford that. You can't be getting your little refresher. You can't afford that. You are on a strict meal plan and following a hard-core budget ain't going crazy.

1:27:35Okay, the fact is, listen, in here we have one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten, eleven, twelve, thirteen, fourteen, fifteen, sixteen, seventeen, eighteen, nineteen, twenty. Twenty individual different loans, not including the individual firms. That is just white. We have a 401k loan. That's it. You have two loans. Okay, his 401k loan. He can go from self, from medical loans to off-start, repossessed cards. On his own. Auto loan. Open sky. Double open sky. You have a self loan. You have a credit-builder loan. A mission loan. Navy Federal Credit Union and all those firms. Rooms to go. All of this stuff. You will be forever in that draft. No, no, no, no, no. Trapped of, he's only there because of the money, right? If he wasn't making money, would you still be with him? No. Exactly. So the further you take care of this and get rid of the risk over your head, then he's done.

1:28:36Can I tell you something? Okay. Do you want to hear what his solution to this debt was? Sure. When I mentioned that I had applied for this, he told me, well, we're going to pay off the 401k loan and then we'll take out a new one to pay off all this debt and then the loan can come strictly out of my paycheck. That was his solution. You did that with his behavior. No. And I told him, that's why I said, well, I want to come on here because at first, he didn't really want to come. I said, because I need another perspective because apparently I can't get any help from you on trying to get all of this cleared. And I want to get rid of this because I know this is not beneficial for us to have. Why did he come here today? I don't know. Probably because I asked him to, but I knew he wasn't really, didn't seem like he really cared. Because he didn't. Why is he still with you? I don't know. Wait, actually, I do know because he can't do it on his own. I don't care. Come. I'm being told from Devon right now that he was lying the entire pre-interview about things he was telling our story producer and all this stuff.

1:29:37It's just a liar. He's a gas lighter. He's a cheater. He's a beater. He's a bad person. He's a toxic individual. And he's someone that there's only a few people we've had to put into a system. I'm going to put him into a system in my people are keeping an eye out for him everywhere. Because I'm scared. I'm scared about him. He's going to get his fucking head blown off if he gets anywhere like 50 feet of me. But I'm concerned about it. I saw this. That's the problem. Because I was able to continue to believe his lies. His ex-military. Yeah, I'm even more scared. Luckily my security, the ones that we keep around my house are also ex-military. And they'll blast him. I bet they're a better shoot. Look shot. Man. So like, what is he doing right now? You've been around him. What is he feeling? He's probably upset that he got caught. I don't think you'd get caught on here. I don't think he thought it would all come out. What the fuck? Is he... Okay. He had only seen the little bitty TikTok clips of your show.

1:30:38He's never actually watched a whole show. He's probably on the recording videos. I don't think he ever paid our attention until the one today. I don't think... Really? I don't know if he actually watched the other ones. Yeah. I don't know if he ever watched it with you. What the fuck? Well, I guess that's not my fault. He told me to take care of... Oh, great. Well, okay. That's on him. I don't give a shit then. He can go fuck himself. I'm concerned for you after this. I am. Are you afraid of what would happen after this, after you leave today? Oh, well. Because I don't know what we do then. He's hit you before and knocked you out. I was stupid enough to listen to everybody to just keep going that he didn't mean it. It was just a mistake. That's like when everybody's drilled into my head. And it's hard when everybody, including your own personal attorney, that's supposed to be there to protect you, convinces you to stay. Okay. I think we're going to have my security help deal with that then.

1:31:42Because I don't know what the fuck he's going to do. Listen, the reality is, this conversation took a turn that I don't know if anybody is expecting and that I wasn't expecting. And there's a lot here, right? I'm just going to pay for my financial advisor to sit through with you and go through all this in detail. And make a budget with you and give you a lot more in-depth shit than we would even do on the show. So that's going to be more beneficial to you. I appreciate it. So that's what's going to happen. The therapy and everything, course, careers and chime, all the good stuff. You will get you all of it. Okay. Yeah. Okay. Whatever the fuck. If that wasn't crazy enough, I guess you have something else for the post show. If you want more insanity, subscribe to Hammer Elite, three premium shows every single day, click that join button to join or go download the hammer, lead api.hammerlead.com. Same on both platforms. Just want to give you more options. Three shows a day every single day, six days a week. Oh, it's this. It's the attorney general. Yep.

1:32:43You have another child you're not telling me about. All right. We'll get into that in the post show. Fuck me. I can't even imagine what's possibly coming on this post show. If that wasn't crazy enough, if she wasn't really talking about whatever this. I also think that he was trying to kill the kid that stopped breathing in his lap. What is that? Why is life like this to you? I don't know. Why is life like this? Well, I would say that's the reason for cutting them off, is it it? He was supposed to get four years in military prison. He only served two. They gave him good behavior. I think he might be the most evil husband we've had on this show, which is saying a lot. He tells people that he had s*** to this daughter. Even if that was consensual, why the f*** is he telling people? I just launched the brand new Hammer Elite app available on every major platform. So you can watch every show anywhere you want. You'll get three exclusive dedicated shows every single day, Monday through Saturday. Refer a friend after you sign up and you get an additional 30 days of Hammer Elite access for free. Download the Hammer Elite app by using the link in the description or pinned comment down below.

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