How To Get Married: Charlie and Erika's Joint Q&A

0:00My name is Charlie Kirk. I run the largest pro-American student organization in the country fighting for the future of our republic. My call is to fight evil and to proclaim truth. If the most important thing for you is just feeling good, you're going to end up miserable. But if the most important thing is doing good, you will end up purposeful. College is a scam everybody. You've got to stop sending your kids to college. You should get married as young as possible and have as many kids as possible. Go start a turning point to a state college chapter. Go start a turning point to a state high school chapter. Go find out how your church can get involved. Sign up and become an activist. I gave my life to the Lord in fifth grade. Most important decision I ever made in my life. And I encourage you to do the same. Here I am. Lord, use me. Buckle up everybody. Here we go. The Charlie Kirk show is proudly sponsored by Preserve Gold, the leading gold and silver experts,

1:02and the only precious metals company I recommend to my family, friends, and viewers. Okay, everybody. Welcome to the special conversation with my wife, Erica Kirk. Hi. Brought to you by Bible in 365.com and ProClaim Streetwear. Buy your ProClaim shirt today. Yes. Right. ProClaim Streetwear.com. It looks so good on you. It's so comfy. People rave about it. May USA, organic cotton. It's amazing. So we're here to answer people's questions about dating. Right. It's like ask the Kirk's about marriage. Yeah, I don't know if people can handle the truth though. So we'll see. I think they can. I don't know. It's tough love, right? Mm-hmm. Do you want to start off with a softball or do you want to start off with? Sure. A softball is fine. Does your husband ever cook? Dinner. Very rarely. No. You've cooked once. I think once. The man should not be cooking now. I understand. I mean, every now and then it would be nice. But. Yeah, that's the way. That's my domain. I get it. That's the wife's job.

2:02I think so too. How do you find real men of God who follow Jesus first and with their whole heart and lives? You answer that. Well, first you have to pray to God. Mm-hmm. You have to pray to Him to reveal Him, reveal your future husband to you. But also I think you need to be focusing on digging into the word and getting your life together. Don't you agree? Yeah, of course. Yeah, I mean, a lot of women are quite trashy actually. And they're looking around for men. And it's like you're dressing. Well, you're dressing for a different demographic than you're looking for. Yeah, and it's what they're meaning. They don't act like at the clergy. With piety or with purity. And so men want what they can't find or they can't see. So keep that in mind. Leave something to the imagination. Yeah, and just don't act with, you know, trash and don't act. Be classy. Be a lady. Yeah, don't act like a feminist. I'm sorry. These are great.

3:02No, just tell the truth. We have to tell the truth. Okay, we have to. This is why they're asking questions. And do piety take Christian podcast where people are like, it's all going to go get them. Like no, just stop looking like a bum. Brush your hair. Yeah, wash your hair. Lose some weight. Brush your teeth. Eat healthy. Yeah. Take your vitamins. I am considering dating my best friend, but I am afraid to ruin the relationship. Well, women shouldn't have best male friends. So does she mean like she's a lesbian? I don't think she's a lesbian if she's submitting these through my Instagram. Well, maybe she is. But women shouldn't have male friends. Okay. You're saying in a relationship, a woman shouldn't have a male friend. Just in general, I think it's really unhealthy. So if I was single and you were single, you wouldn't be my friend because I'm not allowed to have male friends. If the usually ends up the man is gay, because all really men want is relationship. Like an idea of a man having a female friend.

4:03So you're saying that obviously the male is friends with you for a reason. Yeah, he wants to be with you romantically. Yeah. But not every male feels that way. Some males might feel like, oh, you're like a sister to me. That's what they might say. Within your head, when they say that, that means they're gay. Well, they might have homosexual tendencies. Yeah. If they want to be your friend. I don't, like real men don't have female friends. Okay. They might have acquaintances like people you know, but like real deep friendship. You're saying like a super, super best friend. Yes. That's what she said. So you're saying. So either that guy is obviously gay, which women feel comfortable with. Right. And gay men enjoy female friends, and which is a thing. Right. Or he's only doing that because he actually wants it to lead to romance. So should she take the, should she do it? Yeah.

5:03But I don't know. Again, I don't know if she's a lesbian or not. Okay. So she's not a lesbian then maybe. Yeah. Of course. What are you waiting for? There we go. There we go. Okay. How to start a new relationship in a godly way as a teen girl. I don't think you should have. I don't think you should be focusing on relationships when you're a teen. Well, definitely. Save yourself or marriage. Right. That depends what teen is. It's 17, 18. I don't know. I was so focused on basketball playing in college. I was not in school. I was not thinking about teen girl answers are all you. I don't know. God bless our daughter. Okay. How do you know if you've just, how do you know if you just haven't met the right person, or if you need personal growth? That's a good question. Everyone needs personal growth. One of the big problems is that, you know, I get these emails from these 33-year-old cat ladies that are really angry. They don't have a man.

6:03It's like, have you spent time getting smarter, getting fitter, growing deeper in the word, becoming more interesting, becoming funnier, becoming wiser? Everyone can grow. Men and women. Right. And so if you don't have a partner, it's because of you. It's not because of the world. And they're like, all the men are gone, or the world is against me. You're not trying hard enough, honey. I'm sorry. You're just not putting enough commitment into it. Okay. So. So it's you. It's about personal growth. It's about showing up, going to church, making yourself available, making yourself as attractive as possible. Putting yourself in positions. Yes. And making yourself interesting, reading books, listening to podcasts, becoming, you know, really aware of current events, right? Like, really understanding how, you know, you work as a physical being, right? But I think you should always have personal growth. Like even if you're, even if you haven't, okay, you haven't met the right person, but even when you do meet the right person, like both of us are really big on constant improvement. Yeah. If you're not growing, you're dying.

7:03Right. And Tony Robbins talks about this a lot, who I like, who he isn't outspokenly Christian, but he is a Christian. Right. Quotes the Bible a lot, which is that if you aren't growing, you're going to be depressed. One of the main reasons why people are depressed or anxious is they're not growing. And so you have to set goals for yourself. Like physical fitness goals, or reading the books, or learning a language. And that literally is actually what triggers dopamine, which is the reward molecule. Totally. So yeah. Or putting yourself in social positions that might make you uncomfortable, like going to a new Bible study. Yes. Yes, exactly. Or meeting new people. Yeah. I mean, and so you have to know what is good for you and then commit yourself to that. If you think you've already reached your destination at 25, well, then of course you'd be depressed. And that's why we have so many kids committing suicide and so many kids on drugs, because they don't make personal growth a priority for their own life. I agree. How to know when you have found the one? You know. If you're asking the question, then you don't. No, it's so true. If you're asking if that person's the one, then you haven't found the one.

8:04That's right. I knew. So did I. You've grilled me at Bill's burgers. I did. And you passed the test. Oh, man. That was great. Okay. Please talk about missionary dating, but thinking you can win someone over to Christ. Very bad idea. I think so too. Do not date to change them. No. That's a really bad idea. So. It'd be different if you're dating them and you're like, oh, we can up your wardrobe. But if you're trying to like completely change them, no, baby, you were fine. You were great. No, I wasn't. We just needed to enhance a few things. Shoes. There we go. A little tighter fit of clothes. No, but you have to have the same worldview of the person you want to marry. So dating is not a recreation. So if you're recreationally dating and you're like, oh, I can change you. That's your dating for the wrong reason. Right. Because that parlay isn't doing another question about interfaith marriage. Bad idea. Like Catholic and a Jew was an example. Do not do that.

9:04Catholic and Protestant can work because the big things are in agreement. But even that at times could be really tough. Right. Because then you're dealing with baptism. Yeah. I mean, you have to. If you do not agree on heaven, hell, redemption, sin, the scriptures, which Catholics and Protestants largely agree, there's some big disagreements, then you should not marry that person. You should absolutely break up and find somebody else. Do not try to change them either. Because they'll always, they'll fake change. If it's a true conversion grade, but that's very rare, or it's a fake change, or they'll change with resentment. I was going to say they'll resign. And then they'll silently resign. Yeah. But then they'll hold it over to you as soon as there's a conflict. Like I became a. They'll lift the rug. I became a Catholic just for you. I don't even believe this stuff. Right. And I mean, who's going to educate your kids? What are you going to teach them? What prayers are you going to say? What holidays? Yeah, what holidays are you going to observe? Are you going to Rosh Hashanah, Yom Kupur? Right. Yeah, Hanukkah or Christmas in Easter. And, you know, which Pentecost are you going to observe? The Christian Pentecost or the Judea Pentecost?

10:04Yeah, it's a bad idea. And I said Judea Pentecost. It's very. It's about the same time. Yeah. If Pentecost means 50, so it's like 50 days post-pass over, is what Pentecost is supposed to be. Do you agree with women dropping the handkerchief to get in contact with the guy she likes or a guy she would want to pursue her? A guy she would want to pursue her. I don't know what dropping the handkerchief means. I guess like my assumption would be like faking like a. A damsel in distress. Or like you're dropping your drop the handkerchief to get attention from the guy. I guess it's like the. Oh, Daisy says it's like giving a hint. Is that a Gen Z thing? Is that like a heterosexual dropping the soap? I can't. Just that. I've never heard these terms before. Are you enjoying this, Daisy? This is. Dropping. Dropping the soap and you're a woman trying to get con-contact with a guy word.

11:06That's not Christian. But no, I don't. I don't know. So should women give a hint? Yeah, they could give hints. Yeah, they don't want to be aggressive. But it's the man's job to approach the woman. Right. But the woman doesn't have to be aggressive too from the standpoint of ultimatums of like we first we just met. I mean, there's something to be said though for being saying I'm intentionally dating you. I'm not just dating you to date, but you know what I mean, but deep down women want to be approached. Deep down women want to be led by men. I totally agree. We're honored to be partnering with Alan Jackson Ministries and today I want to point you to their podcast. It's called Culture and Christianity, the Alan Jackson podcast. What makes it unique is Pastor Alan's biblical perspective. He takes the truths from the Bible and applies it to issues we're facing today. Gender confusion, abortion, immigration, doge, Trump in the White House, issues in the church. He doesn't just discuss the problems in every episode. He gives practical things we can do to make a difference. His guests have incredible expertise and powerful testimonies.

12:06They've been great friends and now you can hear from Charlie in his own words. Each episode will make you recognize the power of your faith and how God can use your life to impact our world today. The Culture and Christianity podcast is informative and encouraging. You could find it on YouTube, Spotify or wherever you get your podcasts. Be sure to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes. Alan Jackson Ministries is working hard to bring biblical truth back into our culture. You can find out more about Pastor Alan and the ministry at alanjaxon.com forward slash Charlie. I have never, there's a few questions in here. I have never been pursued for the right reasons. I worry about my future husband's free will. Will he not choose me? How does God work with women not being pursued and therefore his image of Christ in church? Women are waiting and how about how a lot of us are not being pursued. I think she's just basically saying why Christian women are being pursued. If she's been pursued for the wrong reasons and I don't want to assume too much, she's

13:07probably been preyed on for her physical beauty and not for what she considers to be her spirituality. So she has to be more pious in how she presents herself. I'm making a lot of assumptions here if that's the case. For example, very few women say, you know what? The guy only cares about my sense of humor and doesn't care about my body, like that's not exactly a thing. So the subtext of her question is- He loves my eyebrows. Yeah, exactly. It's like he only cares about my writing skills and he won't care about my fitness. So she's implying that men pursue her only for physical reasons. So then she has to be more pious in how she presents herself, how she dresses, and she said something why aren't Christian women being approached or pursued? Because a lot of men are weak versions of their former selves. They're basically metrosexuals, you know, skinny jeans and basically very cowardly women looking men. But-

14:08I feel like though too, women have a tendency, the older that you get as a woman not married, you're more aggressive and a little bit more hardened. Bitter. So when a guy pursues you or tries to approach you and if they don't do it the right way, you immediately like snap. Yeah, that's right. And they feel entitled to a man. There's a lot of entitlement for- Because I mean, think about it. If you're a late 20 early 30 something cat lady, you probably have a lot of corporate success. You probably got really good grades in college, right? Yeah. You probably are really well respected amongst your family for like socioeconomic. You probably are not in a lot of debt. And so this understandably creates a lot of frustration, because they have a good credit score. Right? They have a lot of friends. They can go on nice trips to Belize, but the one thing they can't figure out is why one a man loves me. Right. Which is sad. Well, it's sad, but they have a great credit score, but they don't have a man because they might have prioritized it upside down. And the not-so-hidden secret is your prime as a lady is 20 to 25.

15:10Right. So be careful squandering that just on corporate success and good grades in college. Well, if you take care of yourself, your prime kind of extends a little, but- No, it does, but a lot of ladies lose that. Yeah. I know what you mean. They need to hear that though. Like, there's a 21 year old probably listening to this being like, oh, I can go get good grades at Stanford, fool around, sleep around, and then a man will love me when I'm 32 or 33. It's a risk. Right. And your egg production goes down and, you know, it's just a fact of life. In their 30s, reach more of a dating prime and young ladies do not. Young women do not. We were talking about it the other day about an older guy. Yes. Like a 30. Yeah. He did not want to date a 30 to a 30. We both know a Christian, eligible, bachelor, tall, charismatic, whatever, all that stuff. Right. Check the boxes. Yeah. But we'll not date someone who is like between 30, 35, right? It has to be between 20, he said it was like 24 to 27.

16:12Yeah. And I don't think he's being totally fair, but I, but then on the flip side, the girl doesn't want to date that guy. No. No, we know girls. We know young ladies that don't want to date older men. But that will, I mean, the thing about older men is they're usually financially stable. They're established in career and like a 23 year old, 24 year old. That's too big of an age gap. I think a decade is too long of an age gap. I think five to seven years is fine. Yeah. But a decade, you're in total, you're in different generations, you're different slang. No, it's totally agree. You have different TV shows. Yeah. So. We love Frazier. Frazier's amazing. It's the best. That's not even within our age range. Okay. Advice for learning to submit to your man if you naturally take charge and are a leader. So I think there's a difference between being an alpha female within the sphere that you operate in from like work standpoint, friendship circles, all of that. But when it comes to your husband, you are always, he is your alpha.

17:15You are always to submit to your husband and not in a way of slave versus master, but in a help made way because you and your husband are one. Yeah. The reason she's asking this question is her husband's not leaving well. So he's leaving the pants on the ground and she's picking them up. Yeah. If a wife ever even asks this question, it's 100% the man's fault for not taking charge because no woman who's being led well, be like, I have a real trouble, trouble submitting or so, you know, trouble. It just means that he's probably a drunk or he's watching pornography or I'm not saying he is doing these things. No, but typically this is the behavioral pattern we see is when young moms or women are like, I am a go getter, that's fine. But if you even have that kind of thought process, that means that your husband is not doing his job. Right. Because I never have an issue with him. Thank you. Thank you. Thanks for leading us so well, babe. Okay. How to date for marriage and how to best communicate that to the potential man.

18:16First date. Tell him I want to marry you. Just be like, I'm not here to play around. No, I know. Date with intention. Yeah. This is just fun or a hobby. We're done. Totally. The woman has to say that. So women have this built in fear of rejection and it makes them do weird things. So women have to be okay with being rejected early. But I think, and I was, we were talking about this to some extent. I think you need to have all of the spheres of your life kind of built out too. So you're not just so heavily fixated in anxiety driven over just that one small little, I mean, it's a big part of your life. But if you're so focused on, I need to find a man. I need to find a man. I need to find a man. You're looking at your life from a lack view standpoint versus being like, wow, I have an incredible life. I have a great family. I have this. I have that. And living from a viewpoint of abundance and then being so absorbed and focused on the amazing things that you're building and you're growing that God will bring up someone alongside you that's not going to distract you from all the amazing things that you have

19:19in your life. I agree. So you can't even be depressed because the guy's right there. Okay. What has kept your relationship alive? Quality time, constant growth, and adversity, adversity actually can make a relationship stronger. External adversity. Our travel schedule, all the people that want to murder us. Death threats. Yeah. We bond well. You know, complacency is the death of anything. Right. Right. So we have a different fear, which is too crazy, but I think we've done a good job with the Shabbat of dialing that out. It's big. Do you want to talk about that? Yeah. A lot of people don't. Well, if you look, it's it's a great thing for you every single Christian should be honoring the Shabbat, not because I think you're commanded because that's debated, but because it's one of the coolest and most amazing. It is biblical. Yeah. Things ever. God rested on the seventh day of creation. And so every Friday night, we do the Shabbat dinner and you know, do our version of the

20:19Kadush, which is the Jewish, you know, prayer and in the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth. And just Shabbat means stop. And then what do you do? I turn my phone off from Friday night to Sunday morning and put it in the kitchen drawer. I put it right in the kitchen drawer. I'm untouchable, unreachable. And so it's just a reminder of a couple things. Again, everything is what you do with it, but that God created the heavens and the earth that you didn't create this, that you're just a soul, little speck of a member there. So it should be humbling. You could pridefully do it too, you know, in anything. But I think that commandment, which depending on what, now, what, how you detail it, I think it's the third command, third or fourth commandment, well, it's, you know, it's do not take the Lord's name and thing, I think, depends, it depends how you break it. But yeah, it's third or fourth, is the only ritual in the ten commandments. And it is, for six days, you shall work and for the seventh day, you shall rest. So we're commanded to work for six days, which we do good and do very well, I should say. And I think it keeps families together. Totally.

21:20Yeah. I think also to something that's really special is that we always ask each, we check in with each other constantly throughout the day of like, how can I make your day better? How can I help you with this? How can I serve you with that? How can I just like constantly being able to see, I mean, just check in and touch base. Yeah, that's right. Okay. What if he checks all of the boxes, but you're not attracted to him? Well, then you, you should not marry him. He obviously didn't check all the boxes. Well, I mean, yeah, attraction is absolutely, so unbelievably important. Or else it's just going to be, you might as well just get a sperm donor. Oh, my God. Are you laughing, Daisy? Okay. Well, I mean, obviously looks fades. You can't be like super fixing it on, but is this a woman asking this question? Yeah. But women can be attracted to men that are uncapped for other reasons. Okay. You can't, you can, if he is super smart, but he needs a haircut or he needs to groom himself

22:22a little bit better or something, a guy can change a lot between the ages of 20 to 25 or 25 to 30, like their face changes a little bit. Do you know what I mean? But you would, she wouldn't ask this question if there wasn't a major. And by the way, that's an unusual question for a female because most females don't consider looks to be nearly as important as character or financial stability. I don't know. Genetics is a big thing, like you're looking, that's, your kid might look more like him than you. Yeah, but very rarely do I hear from women. I'm not attracted to him, but he checks all the other boxes. That's rare. That's, that's a very visually stimulated female, which is usually a male characteristic. Sorry, you're saying she's a lesbian. Just kidding. Are we getting so many lesbian submissions? It could be. I don't know. We're getting trolled. We're honored to be partnering with Alan Jackson Ministries. And today, I want to point you to their podcast.

23:22It's called Culture and Christianity, the Alan Jackson podcast. What makes it unique is Pastor Alan's biblical perspective. He takes the truths from the Bible and applies it to issues we're facing today. Gender confusion, abortion, immigration, doge, Trump in the White House issues in the church. He doesn't just discuss the problems. In every episode, he gives practical things we can do to make a difference. His guests have incredible expertise and powerful testimonies. They've been great friends. And now you can hear from Charlie in his own words. Each episode will make you recognize the power of your faith and how God can use your life to impact our world today. The Culture and Christianity podcast is informative and encouraging. You could find it on YouTube, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. Be sure to subscribe so you don't miss any episodes. Alan Jackson Ministries is working hard to bring biblical truth back into our culture. You can find out more about Pastor Alan and the ministry at alanjaxon.com forward slash Charlie. Okay, how do you cope with feeling that God does not hear your prayers regarding relationships?

24:26I feel like God always hears your prayers, it's just He's answering them in a way that you might not like. Yeah, that's exactly how I would have answered it. That's exactly right. He hears all prayers. Absolutely. I'm going to pride in that question respectfully that you are so important that God is your celestial butler to ask for all your quiet, all ask for all your stuff. For the land. Yeah, God is not the room service phone at the hotel. Of course he is. Yeah, I want a burger, I want a milkshake. That's not God. It's not the way it works. Right. So she has a, she has an unbiblical view of God. Prayer is a petition to the divine out of obedience and gratitude and piety and service and duty. You don't, you don't do it. And God, I also want the Corvette. It's not your Amazon shopping cart. No, literally. But he also, he hears your prayers, but also too, if you feel like he's not, quote unquote, delivering you your human in time, I feel like it's also because you still have a lot of growth to do yourself. He's still trying to prune from your life maybe a past relationship or maybe he's trying

25:28to get something out of your life that you're holding on to. We're trying to make you more obedient to do things you're not doing. Right. So maybe you should stop watching a TV show or go club or start drinking alcohol or lose 10 pounds or whatever. Yes. Well, there's a great, there's a great song, I think it's by Toby Keith, thank God for unanswered prayers. Mm-hmm. It's true. So if you think every prayer you're giving, you know exactly how it's going to end up. That's a very arrogant, prideful way of looking at the sovereignty of God. Well, and two, that means you don't understand how beautiful God's will is. That's right. As will will always be way better than anything you could have ever been. Yeah. And to this person's question is, she's obviously in pain. So I would just have her change her opinion and instead, she should have, instead of why is God not answering my prayer, what am I not yet doing to find my future made? To get to the place where only God can open the door. I believe God meets us halfway. Yeah. And you know what I would recommend her doing too is instead of, right, instead of

26:32answering her mind, thinking God's not answering her prayers, she should look back in her life and write down the things that God saved her from. Yeah, that's right. But she thought that she wanted and write and meditate and pray on the things that God saved you from that you thought you needed. Okay. Next question. Should a son-in-law and a daughter-in-law honor the parents of the partner? Yes. Absolutely. Because it's your merit. You're now one. Well, no. Just practically, it makes life a lot easier. Right. 100%. No, totally. We have the best in law. I have the best in laws. We have a great family. She's the best. Yeah. We have a great, but- We just have a great unit. Yes, we do. We do. I say absolutely. You are one, but it makes your spouse's life infinitely easier. Well, and two, their parents are, like, your parents, I'm grateful for it because they brought you into the world. Yes. And they raised me. And so- They tell you how to use a spoon and a fork and a knife and everything else. Yes. The answer is 100%. The question.

27:32Where to meet single conservative Christian men in their 30s. You know where? Amphast. Yeah. Amphast.com. That's right. You can go to AMFST.com, but also church. They're church. They're pastor. Yeah. Just the pastor's wife. Most pastors' wives operate as, like, Christian mingle. So with that said, though, some churches, when they know that you're single, it's the most awkward because you're in a group, let's say you're in a youth, not a youth group, a younger group, and everyone knows you're single. And then it's like, if someone starts flirting with you, then another guy's like, oh, that guy's flirting with her. I'm going to not touch her. Yeah. I mean- You know what I mean? My experience is that- I just prefer fixing things. Whether it be uncle's aunts, cousins, if you really want to get married and you're in your 30s and you feel like your biological clock is ticking, which, obviously, you do as a female, then you need to kind of be a little aggressive, which is not a female characteristic naturally. And text everyone and say, I'm looking for a mate.

28:32Can you set- And you're going to probably have some pretty awful dates. I'm just being honest. Yeah. That's what- Once you get into your 30s and you're unmarried. I hope every 20-something woman hears me. You're getting a little desperation, though. But then it also, too, you have to be careful from the standpoint of you, your CVS list receipt of non-negotiables is going to have to- Yeah, it's got to get to be like 10. Be chopped a little. Or like four. Yeah. Or two. A young lady texted you recently, she's like, I want this one, I want this one, I want this one, I want that. I was like, geez, are you like customizing- Yeah, she's like customizing- You literally. Like, and I want the heated seats and I want the four-wheel drive and satellite radio- Spinning rims. Wow. That's even solid. It's a very narrow path. Should you just get married if you don't feel peace about it yet? No, absolutely not. I totally agree. No. Marriage is not just a- No, absolutely not. You need to find a pastor to help sort that out. See, that's the thing though, is that I don't think the weight of marriage, I don't

29:35know if it's- It's better to not marry than marry wrong. I completely agree. Yeah, and I'm not a huge fan of marriage, but if you have any sort of lack of shalom, then you need to find a pastor and figure that out. It's either on you or it's on them, and then if you need to have the intellectual and spiritual courage to admit maybe it's you. Yeah. Commitment issues, your father left you stuff like that. We only have a few more minutes. We have five more minutes. Okay. Does equally yoked mean commitment to Jesus or theological knowledge? I don't know. You have to ask a pastor that, I don't know. Well. Probably both. I mean- I would say you would have to do somewhat with both. Not- Yeah, I don't want to speak out of term theological. No, that's true. There's some people that feel as though as long as they say Jesus Christ is my Lord and Savior, that means we're equally yoked, but then there might be some theological things where they might-

30:36Yeah. I mean, first of all, you need to have- Not believe so. You need to have the same worldview. The Catholic Protestant thing can work, but it's still risky. But you need to believe in the inerrancy of Scripture. If you both believe in that, Jesus is the king of the world, and I see and creed. If you don't believe in that, then you're not equally yoked. Right. It's not fair, because I mean, if your husband's a theologian, you're not going to know as much as he gets. Right. So that's not exactly a fair question. So I don't think so. Okay. So then, a lot of these questions, just to skin through, is like 33 and single. No prospects. Any advice or heading into- Yeah, I mean, if I- 30s plus and single, hitting the deadline, but still being single and feeling the pressure of that- I don't mean to speak down to these people, and we're going to get so many hateful emails. I don't care. I want to tell you that you have to focus on your personal growth. You are work with- You're walk with Christ, right? Do not blame others. Because guess why? For no other reason, then that's very unattractive to other men. A man has a certain, you know, men are not necessarily atmospherically very aware of

31:39things, but men can sense bitterness in a woman like immediately, and it's very unattractive. Right. So a 33 year old single male- Oh, male's got plenty of time. He'll figure it out. But is when a 33 year old single man meets a 33 year old single woman, the tension there. Yeah, the man is probably financially stable, just beginning to look for his options, and the woman is like, I only have 30 seconds left on the clock. I know, and that really does suck for the woman now. It does suck, but it's- I'm just reiterating the culture lied to her, and so I hope she's able to find her mate. Yeah. Because she put career in some first, but they, but they, it was almost like also to what if their parents were like, you have to find a job and go and do this and go to college and do that. A lot of Boomer parents have created really anxious 33 year old women. No, I could not agree more. And these Boomer parents were like, well, I'm glad you didn't get married at 23.

32:40Are you? No, but that's exactly- You don't have to grant it. That is exactly right, because they said you need to go to the Ivy League school, you need to get the top job, work your way up through Google, and then- Get on the pill. Get on the pill. We don't want you to get pregnant when you're 19. Well, obviously, you don't want to get it. Or even 26 or 27. Right. You don't even start seriously dating and- Right. And then now the parent is not- They're like, where are your grandkids? And then it creates a lot of acrimony in the family. So I mean, my heart goes out for these women that are in their 30s. I don't have these answers for you, though, because I don't want- I don't lie. I don't mislead- No, but okay. So let's create- But because we're closing out, let's create kind of a checklist, if you will, because a lot of these questions were submitted by women who are still single looking for the guy. Yeah. What's- Take care of your- So, okay. Well, what about this? Take care of yourself from the inside. Meaning- Spiritually nourish yourself. Correct. But also too. Take your vitamins. Yeah. Don't drink. Do not- You should-

33:40Take some time off, okay? Yeah, that's a great idea. So if you are looking for a man, literally alcohol is a toxin. It ages you. Right. So if you are looking for a man, zero alcohol, zero drugs. Why don't you make a commitment to yourself to stop drinking- That's a big one. For- Until you find- Or ever. I totally agree. Yeah. You and I are the same. So stop drinking. Stop smoking. Or doing- I would hope so. Those- Yeah, I mean, this goes to my point. If you're 33 and you're telling us you can't find someone and you're doing a marble a pack of day. Or rolling blinds. Yeah. Yeah. You're not exactly making the case. Right. But I don't- I doubt your listeners are like that. But yes. Well, I don't know. You just told me I had two lesbians that are submitting questions. Say that. I've said what- Yeah. What- We're early. We're going to have to come through. What woman has a best friend that's a man? Like, that's very strange. Okay. Well. Uh, so taking care of yourself, vitamins, eating healthy, comb your hair, like shower- Yeah. And I wouldn't even go as far to say, like, embrace every trick in the naturopathic world

34:43to, like, fight aging. 100%. Yeah. You can- You can- You can- You can- You can- You can- You can extend that clock a little bit further than even some- You don't have to surrender to it. Like, don't eat carbohydrates. Don't eat refined sugars. You know another thing that's really interesting. It's super. It's kind of superficial. But if the girl has her nails done and is like well-capped for- Yeah. You know, that's a thing. Yeah. And then, you know, have a- I mean, I don't know the wardrobe thing as well as you do. Obviously. Dress classy. Dress classy. And- So you have to do everything- Care yourself. Yes. And- And then- And then- You have self-worth. You have to go into environments that might make you uncomfortable- Right. To find a future match. And- And when you go there, don't be rude and pompous when you meet the man. Yes. That's the other thing. Is that you have to basically surrender to God. I mean, surrender is the only way. Otherwise, the anxiety will absolutely kill you.

35:45And you don't have to immediately go to dinner. You can grab coffee. Yeah. Sure. I mean, again, I- The- Nothing will be more attractive for an eligible bachelor man than desperation. Well, okay. So in New York City, it would be like a thing where a guy would come in and be like, Okay, so I have drinks with- Definitely at six. And then I have dinner with- I'll give me another girl's name. Cindy. Cindy. Cindy. It's some 30. And then whatever they have a nightcap with. What's another- Relonda. Okay. These are real names. Relonda. That reminds me of that thing we watched the other day. Huh? The sweet tea thing. Yeah. Okay. Anyways, so guys, sometimes there are some guys like in New York City that stack their schedule like that. Because they're just- Here- Here's the thing. People are going to email us. They say it's not fair. Your right is not fair. The- The game is rigged for men right now. In that way. Mm-hmm. Men of a longer clock.

36:45It's hard to find a man. In Arizona, there's like three times the amount of single women than single men. It's unbelievable. Yeah. So it's- That's why I got so many lesbians, right? And listening to them. Because they want to find somebody. They're all of my followers, apparently. No, it's just- It's just the way it is. So- Okay. Okay. So then to close out that list. Because we got to go. Takes your healthy. Putting yourself in uncomfortable positions that are going to be productive towards personal growth. And then I think to- Spiritually nourish yourself. Yes. And like be so in- It just ingrained with the word. And not the word so imprinted on your heart that it will literally take God saying, that's him. And you'll know. Amen. And you'll know. Amen. And you'll know. And you'll know. And he'll treat you so well. And it doesn't matter if you're in LA. It doesn't matter if you're in New York City. I was in New York City and I found you. That's right. Well, you didn't work from New York City. You kind of plopped in. There you go. To those burgers. Everyone check out ProClaimStreetWare. If we offended you. Maybe you needed it. Maybe you needed to hear it. Maybe it was tough love. Yeah, it all comes in love. Tough love from the curse. Again, we don't do happy talk. I can't stand these Christians. We don't do happy talk. We don't do happy talk.

37:45We don't do happy talk. We don't do happy talk. We don't do happy talk. I mean, you didn't work for so long. Maybe you didn't work for so long. Maybe you didn't work for so long. Maybe you needed to hear it. Maybe you needed to hear it. It was tough love. Yeah, it all comes in love. Tough love from the curse. Yeah. Yeah, it all comes in love. Tough love from the curse. Yeah, it all comes in love. Tough love from the curse. Again, we don't do happy talk. We don't do happy talk. I can't stand these Christians podcast. Sit around and God will deliver you your future mate. And keep eating crispy creams, much nonsense. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Like, improve yourself out of obedience and duty the divine and check out ProClaimStreetWare For more on many of these stories and news you can trust, go to CharlieKirk.com.