Your mindset greatly impacts your day to day life. If you're stuck in unhealthy or unhelpful thought patterns, both you and your marriage will suffer. But there are simple ways to unpack your thought patterns and replace the unhelpful with a biblical perspective. In today's episode we're looking at practical ways to adopt a gracious, life-giving perspective in marriage. 

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

Episode highlights include: 

• Common perspective mistakes in marriage and what causes them 

• Practical tips to resolve perspective issues and create a Biblical perspective

• What do secret sin and perspective have in common?  

• Ways to communicate more effectively and seek to understand your spouse's perspective 

• Tips to cultivate oneness and a spiritual foundation of unity

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway: Is your perspective of your spouse realistic? For most issues, a generous perspective and good communication can get you through it together. 

 

Questions to Discuss: 

1. Do you have any unrealistic expectations of your spouse today? If you're not sure, check them out together. 

2. Are you and your spouse at odds over an issue? Take the time to learn what matters most to your spouse about their position on it. 

3. Do you have thought habits that are leading to bitterness or resentment in your marriage?  

 

QUOTES 

• "It's hard to step into your spouse's shoes or take the time to do that, to have empathy for them." - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

• "Resentment can be a huge thing and it's so dangerous because if we don't stop it, it continues to grow." - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

• "Perspective is your lens on the world. If your lens is covered with smudges and you're not seeing clearly, that's not the world's fault. You've got to clean your lens." - Lindsay Few

 

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  

• If you are ready to have a better perspective – and a better marriage, then the biblically-based 4 Week Reframing Challenge is for you! 

• Turn to God and ask him to renew your mind with our NEW resource, 11 Prayers To Stop Thinking Negatively About Your Spouse

• 15 Better Assumptions To Make About Your Spouse is a free printable to help you set your mind on what is true, right and good. Learn more here! 

• Join the Marriage Changer Movement! Because a world full of awesome marriages can change the world

• Marriage Multiplier is a quick and highly practical weekly email to help you invest in your marriage. CLICK HERE to learn more!