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How to Ask for What You Want

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Over five days, you’ll find out what’s keeping you from asking for what you want – and how to actually do it, even when your brain tries to stop you.

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How to Ask for What You Want

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UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for EveryoneHow to Ask for What You Want. Machine-transcribed; use the interactive transcript above to jump the player to any line.

Let me guess, you plan every date, every trip, and organize every little detail. And you're tired of it, you want your partner to plan something for once, but you're still waiting for them to get the hints you keep dropping. You've been working hard for promotion for two years, and your boss still doesn't seem to have even noticed. Every year you tell yourself you're not hosting the holidays again, but then everybody assumes you are and you go along with it. If any of this sounds familiar, then you're not speaking up. As women were taught to keep the peace instead of asking for what we want, to play small instead of telling the truth about how we feel, to wait to be rewarded instead of going for what we want. So even when you know exactly what you want, saying it out loud can feel impossible. But the truth is, no one's going to say it for you. The only person who can do it is you. The good news is that speaking up is a skill, and like any skill, you can learn it. That's why I created the how to ask for what you want challenge. In just five days, you'll learn exactly why you struggle to speak up based on your specific

blocks, how your life will be different once you do have this skill, and you're going to leave with a plug-in play script to make it easier to ask for what you want and tell the truth about how you feel. The live challenge starts September 21st at 12 p.m. To join, visit unfuckyourbrain.com, forward slash what you want, or text your email to plus1-347-997-1784, and use the code word, what you want, all one word, when prompted.

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