
About this episode
This episode is all about the most viral piece of content we’ve ever made - why we make out every single night before bed. Our two-minute video has amassed almost 20 million views on social, was talked about on daytime TV shows, and even landed us an interview with the New York Times. We had no idea that this topic would be so popular, but it clearly struck a nerve!
So we decided to break our nightly ritual down for you in more detail and answer the most common questions we get asked. We’re spilling the beans on:
Why we decided to do it in the first place
If it’s awkward getting it started every night
If we still do it even when we’re angry with each other
If it makes intimacy feel like an obligation or a chore
Links & Resources:
Book: Sex Talks: The 5 Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life (https://sextalksbook.com/)
Guide: Art Of Initiation (https://shop.vmtherapy.com/the-art-of-initiation/)
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