EP #46 Transforming Negative Parts into Super Allies

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A part is a metaphor that can be thought of as a collection of beliefs, ideas, abilities, and states that have less connection with other states. You could think of them as subsystems that operate in people more or less independently of the whole or other subsystems. For example, a person may think of themselves as confident but in one area have a part of them that is doubtful of their abilities. A part usually represents a behavior, idea, or belief that can be separated out from the whole, as in …” a part of me wants…”  Satir used ‘parts to describe various aspects of self. Parts often make themselves present when we have a conflict. This concept is used in reframing and gestalt therapy.

We become aware of parts when they behave or think in a way that is adversarial or in opposition to what we want. I’ve heard people refer to these parts as ‘negative’.  By giving parts new choices and allowing them to continue their jobs, parts can be transforming from being “against you” to helping you accomplish exactly what you want. By showing parts respect for the job they are doing, they can easily turn from doing something you don’t want to do to doing something you want to do. It is always important to respect parts. The cool thing is we never get rid of a part.  We give it choices that are more conducive to a happy healthy system.  A six-step reframe is a process that negotiates with parts. After an outcome is established, the part can be given additional choices that are at least as effective as the present choice that will continually enable the part to do its job – accomplish its intention. Parts become your ally and friend. It is happy because it is getting what it wants and you are happy because you are getting what you want. 

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