Ep 164: Compassionate Observer

What does it really mean to become the compassionate observer of your own mind?

In this episode, we explore the practice of stepping back and watching your thinking instead of becoming consumed by it. Because here’s the truth most of us forget: you are not your thoughts, and you are not your feelings.

But when we first begin noticing our thinking, many of us run into a new problem. We judge it. We see a thought and immediately think, Nope. That’s a bad thought. I can’t think that. I can’t be the kind of person who thinks that. So we push it down.

We do the same with feelings like resentment, anger, or jealousy. We shove them underground. And when we do that, those thoughts and feelings don’t go away—they just move into the subconscious where they start running the show.

So today we talk about a different approach: learning to observe your thoughts and emotions with curiosity instead of judgment, so they feel safe enough to reveal themselves. Because when we can truly see what’s happening in our minds, that’s when real change becomes possible.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

• What it means to become the compassionate observer of your thoughts and emotions
• Why suppressing thoughts and feelings actually gives them more power over you
• The “watch the thinker” practice and how it helps you separate yourself from your thoughts
• Why the subconscious “elephant” always wins when we try to control ourselves through judgment
• How creating safety and compassion toward your own mind allows hidden patterns to surface
• Real examples of how compassionate observation reveals patterns like over-responsibility, fawning responses, or shrinking in moments of leadership
• Why curiosity—not criticism—is the key to seeing what’s actually holding you back
• How practicing compassion with yourself naturally increases compassion for others
• Why releasing self-judgment makes you more confident, more present, and more magnetic in your relationships

When we practice compassionate observation, something surprising happens.

We stop judging ourselves—and when that happens, we stop assuming everyone else is judging us too. Instead of walking into a room wondering “Do they like me?” we walk in thinking “There you are.”

We become more present.
More open.
More connected.

And ironically, that’s when confidence and magnetism start to grow.

All of this begins with one simple practice: watching your mind with compassion.

So today, your job is simple. Notice your thoughts. Don’t judge them—just acknowledge them. Let your emotions move through you. And from that place of awareness, choose the thoughts that move you toward the life you want.

Little by little, that’s how your moxie grows.

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