Ep 171: Stop Taking Yourself for Granted

In this episode, Marie shares a behind-the-scenes look at preparing for her very first Moxie Retreat in La Jolla — and a realization she had mid-workout that cracked open today's topic: we apply hedonistic adaptation to ourselves. We celebrate other people's wins, build gratitude practices for the world around us, and then completely skip ourselves. Marie explores what hedonistic adaptation is, how it shows up as constant gap-chasing, and why turning your gratitude practice inward is one of the most powerful (and most overlooked) things you can do for your health, your productivity, your presence, and your relationships.

What You'll Learn

• What hedonistic adaptation is and how it quietly shapes the way you see your own life
• Why your brain's negativity bias keeps you focused on the gap instead of the growth
• The health, creativity, and presence benefits of a gratitude practice aimed at yourself
• How recognizing your own work makes you more likely to keep doing it
• The ripple effect: how appreciating yourself trains your brain to appreciate the people around you
• A simple weekly practice for noticing where you've been taking your own awesomeness for granted

This Week's Assignment

Look at where you've been taking your own awesomeness for granted.

• Where have you been taking yourself for granted?
• Look back at yesterday, last week, and as many weeks before that as you can.
• What are you grateful for yourself about? What have you accomplished that you're proud of?
• Take a moment to recognize even the tiniest things.
• Notice the ripple it creates across your life and the lives of the people around you.

Memorable Quotes

"I take myself for granted. And I watch my clients do this day in and day out."

"That vision for what we are creating and who we are becoming is never a measuring stick."

"If I don't notice it for myself, it's gonna go unnoticed."

"As we train our brain to look for what we like… we're going to do that with other people too."

"When we see and acknowledge the unique, special people in the world around us… it creates reality for them."

Mentioned in This Episode

• The Moxie Mastermind — next round starts in September. A special perk is being announced Saturday for anyone who signs up by next week. DM Marie on Instagram or reach out directly 
• Related episodes:
  • Look How Far You've Come — on measuring progress against where you started, not against the ideal
  • Retros Are Everything — on building reflection into your iteration process

How to connect with Marie:

• On the Web | The Local Bloom
• Instagram: @the.bloom.coach
• All Things Marie on LinkTree

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