Ep 162: Stay in Your Model

Today we’re revisiting one of the most powerful frameworks I teach: the Regenerative Thought Model — and then taking it one step further into real-life application inside relationships, leadership, and everyday human interactions.

At its core, the model is simple:

There are factual circumstances in the world.
 We observe them (ideally from a compassionate, grounded space).
 Our thoughts about those circumstances create our feelings.
 Our feelings drive our behavior.
 Our behavior creates our results.

And then the sneaky part:
 Our results almost always appear to prove our original thought true.
 Our brain says, “See? I knew it.”
 And confirmation bias strengthens that thought, those neural pathways, and that belief system over time — keeping us locked in familiar patterns.

Here’s the next layer most people don’t realize:

You are always inside a thought model.
 All day long.
 And so is everyone else.

The problems start when we accidentally jump into someone else’s model without realizing it.

This happens when someone says something, does something, or gives off body language or energy — and suddenly we stop relating to our own thoughts and feelings and start trying to interpret, validate, or live inside their perspective instead.

Then we start asking:
 “Is their perspective right?”
 “Is my perspective wrong?”
 “Should I feel differently?”

But thoughts are not objectively true or false.
 They are subjective interpretations.

When we forget that, we create confusion, emotional whiplash, and disconnection from ourselves.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• A clear refresher on the Regenerative Thought Model and how it shapes every result in your life
• Why you are always inside a thought model — and how other people are too
• How and why we accidentally jump into someone else’s model
• The four main reasons this happens:
  • Momentarily forgetting that thoughts are subjective
  • Our deep wiring for belonging and not wanting to be excluded
  • Our brain’s threat detection system over-focusing on potential negatives
  • Mirror neurons making emotional states contagious
• How to recognize when you’ve stepped out of your model (sudden emotional shifts, confusion, disorientation, self-doubt)
• Why staying in your model doesn’t mean ignoring other people — it means staying grounded while gathering data
• A simple 4-step process to:
  • Notice when you may be in someone else’s model
  • Separate their perspective from yours
    Reconnect with your own grounded thinking and emotional state
  • Take in useful information from their experience without abandoning yourself

When you learn to stay in your model, you stop getting emotionally knocked over by other people’s storms. You can be present, empathetic, and connected — while still staying anchored in yourself.

If you want support practicing this in real time:

Bloom Room — foundational thought and emotional skill building
Moxie Mastermind — high-level application while building real-world ideas, leadership, and impact

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