Ep 115: Turning a No into a Yes

Grace was sitting across from me, with her hands wrapped around a mug of tea. Our session was first thing in the morning for both of us, and I could imagine that the rain that I could see falling so consistently in gentle waves outside my office window was falling just outside the window in her office too. 

“It’s disorienting” she was saying. “This new feeling is disorienting.” 

She was describing the change that has happened inside of her over the past couple of years in the Bloom Room and coaching one-on-one with me, as she’s become more and more clear on who she is and what she wants. 

“All of the sudden”, she said, “there are things that I can’t follow through on, even if I want myself to. Because I know they’re not true for me. All of the sudden my clients are asking me for things, and I hear myself saying  that I’ll only use materials that are ethically and sustainably sourced, and that don’t bring microplastics that will impact people’s health…into their homes. 

I’ve never said that out loud to a client before. I don’t even really know what happened- I just said no.” 

“All of the sudden, if it’s a no for me, I know it. Clearly. And I can’t ignore it anymore. 

And that feels really good and amazing, and also…NOW what do I do?” 

This has been a progression for Grace and for so many of my clients as they find the ways that they’re not listening to themselves. As they see how they’re overriding their instinct and internal guidance, and once they see them, as they begin to make different choices. But what happens when we start being able to hear our hell no’s more and more clearly? What do we do when are hands are full of no’s? 

That’s what today’s episode is all about. 

What you’ll learn on this episode: 

• Why knowing your list of no-go’s in life is incredibly valuable 
• Why we are more likely to know our no’s than our yeses 
• How a list of no’s can become the big idea you want to make real in the world
• Why the ideas that come from a “no” are sometimes the most authentic ones 
• How our list of no’s turned inside out becomes a project plan 
• Three ways you can get support turning your Big Idea into a real thing

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