Ep 114: Listening is Sexy

Did you know being an excellent listener is a way to practice great boundaries?

It’s hard as hell to do, with a human ego standing right in the way…but it’s also the skill with the single biggest payoff.  

Listening as a boundary tool always surprises people when they hear it for the first time. Until a few seconds later…when they have a lightbulb moment. 

Great listening makes the space between two people clear, instead of muddy. 

When we listen to someone without argument, disagreement, or judgement and instead reflect back what we’re hearing; we hold up a mirror that lovingly keeps them accountable to what they’re sharing. We keep the space between us clear, until it’s time for us to share. And this keeps us more accountable to our own words as well. 

Great listening reverses a triggered nervous system, bolsters empathy and connection, and ultimately gives each person we’re in relationship witn the one thing that they want most. 

What you’ll learn in this episode: 

• How being a great listener =  having great boundaries 
• How to keep clarity around “what’s yours and what’s mine” during disagreements 
• How listening keeps us, and others accountable  
• How listening moves us out of fight or flight and into empathy 
• What to do when we don’t agree…(this might surprise you!)  
• Learn why we letting others have their feelings and experience is the golden ticket for us to have our own experience too 
• Why being the better listener is worth it, every. Single. Time. 

If I could give the world a gift, and just download every human with one skill, it would be to listen to understand others across differences. 

Truly listening to understand someone is truly seeing them. Listening is loving. And that’s just sexy. 

All of us just want to be heard and understood. In order to experience that, we need to hear and understand. 

So let’s hold hands and go first. 

You and me. 

Let’s listen first.

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