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E218 Got the Ick? Why It Happens in Relationships + What to Do About It pt. 2
About this episode
You thought last week’s icks were bad? Buckle up, friend.
Because in Part 2, we’re getting into the next-level icks — the ones that make you question everything.
Like… oral sex immediately after intercourse. Or the dreaded dick flop. Or your partner’s casual approach to burping, farting, and forgetting what deodorant is.
These icks go way beyond open-mouth chewing.
We’re talking postpartum rage, peeing with the door open (or worse… the sound), and the surprisingly common hygiene habits that leave you wondering if love really can survive it all.
💛 Here’s what we’re serving up for you:
The hygiene ick that made one woman reconsider everything
Why flopping a penis around is not a valid form of initiation (seriously, stop)
Oral after sex: hot or gross?
Postpartum icks that no one warns you about
Peeing, poor aim, and other bathroom-related turn-offs
The financial icks that hit harder than expected
🎧 Basically, if you’ve ever looked at your partner and thought “ew”… this one’s for you. ‘Cause you know what? Sometimes laughing really is the best medicine.
🔗 Links & Resources
EPISODE 46: The Hygiene Episode ➡️ https://vmtherapy.com/episode46
EPISODE 198: Stop Doing THIS If You Want More Sex ➡️ https://vmtherapy.com/episode198
❤️ Ready to go deeper?
Let’s be honest, everyone has an ick or two. But if you’re feeling more disconnected, more irritable, or less turned on than you’d like… it might be time to reconnect in a more intentional way.
Inside our monthly membership Deeper, we help you explore what really turns you on —mentally, emotionally, and physically. You’ll get access to our member library of courses and guides , plus live calls, date night ideas, and support from a like-minded community.
Because when you’re truly connected… the little things don’t ick you out as much.
👉 Join Deeper today. Because intimacy is the whole point. https://vmtherapy.com/deeper
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