Don't Fight About the Wrong Things, Find Your Real Marriage Issue | Ep. 646

Are you truly resolving your marriage issues? Most couples experience recurring arguments that never truly resolve. This cycle leaves you with two problems: 1, You never solved the issue, and 2, now one or both are hurt and angry. Plus you've got some baggage around the issue, too. Today we're going to help you learn how to resolve the actual issues. 

 

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

 

Episode highlights include: 

• What NOT to do in a recurring argument 

• Communication tips to help you prevent conflict

• Conversation hacks to prevent defensiveness 

• The process to understand the REAL underlying issues 

 

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway: If you have recurring arguments (most couples do!) there's probably a deeper issue you're not aware of. Get under the surface to resolve the real issue. 

 

Questions to Discuss: 

1. On a scale from 1-10, how well do you and your spouse resolve your marriage conflict? 

2. Better communication helps you address the real issues you need to resolve. What is one step you can take to grow your communication today? 

 

QUOTES 

•  "Most couples have recurring arguments that never truly resolve" - Lindsay Few 

• "Being vulnerable builds intimacy and trust." - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

• "Using 'I' statements takes ownership and responsibility." - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

• "Learning to resolve conflict in a healthy way is a gift to your marriage." - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  

• Our Conflict Resolution Cheat Sheet is a printable resource to help you address conflict the healthy way. Grab the free cheat sheet HERE!

• Marriage Multiplier is a quick and highly practical weekly email to help you invest in your marriage. CLICK HERE to learn more!

• Has infidelity damaged your marriage? Sign up for Dr. Kim's webinar Rebuilding Trust and Establishing Healthy Boundaries After an Affair and learn what steps to take next.

• 15 Better Assumptions To Make About Your Spouse is a free printable to help you set your mind on what is true, right and good. Learn more here!

• Follow Awesome Marriage on Instagram for more marriage tips!