
Can You Get Fit Without Self-Loathing? | Cara Lai
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Practical tips to stop judging yourself, chill out about exercise, and start taking better care of your body – from a Buddhist teacher who learned the hard way.
Description:
It's an urgent question for so many of us: Can we exercise, can we take care of our bodies, without being driven by shame, self-loathing, or noxious comparison to other people?
Our guest today has a unique perspective on this. Cara Lai is a former social worker and psychotherapist who is now a Buddhist teacher. She also used to be a marathoner. But in the last few years, her body has undergone some radical changes, leading her to some hard-won, fascinating, and deeply useful insights about how to strike the balance between taking care of your body and staying sane.
In this episode we talk about:
- Practices for that moment when you're getting out of the shower, see yourself in the mirror, and engage in a festival of self-judgment
- The surprising things that happened when Cara was forced to stop exercising
- A counterintuitive mindfulness practice suggestion for those with exercise routines
- When and why you should purposely do things you know are bad for you
- Why we often resist 'being in our bodies,' why that's OK, and how to lower the bar on this contemplative cliché–without giving it up
- A body-related Buddhist practice she finds to be totally not useful
Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/cara-lai-787
Other Resources Mentioned:
The Upside of Desire | Cara Lai
The Anti-Diet | Evelyn Tribole
Additional Resources:
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