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4 Min Rambam — 7 Tishrei - Ishus Perek 21. Machine-transcribed; use the interactive transcript above to jump the player to any line.
In Hilkes Isha'u's Parachov Alev, the Ramam discusses the obligations that a woman has to her husband, the jobs that she has to do for him. Keep in mind that while many of the Halacha supply in any time and any place, some of these things are dependent on the location where the person lives and what's the norms of that place. And whenever in doubt, want you to consult with a local rav about what to do. The Ramam begins by saying that whatever a woman finds or whatever money she makes from her work, goes to her husband. The work that she does is all dependent on the local custom. Some places they do weaving or other kinds of work. See how Allah has Allah for more details. The Ramam continues and says that if she pushed herself to work extra hard, still the extra amount of money goes to her husband and not to her. The Ramam also says that even if a person has many maids, he should still have his wife to some sort of job in order that she should not be doing nothing. Because having nothing to do brings a person to Zima. At the same time, he should not force her to do work a whole day, but rather based on the amount of money that he has and the amount of work there should be a ratio that's
healthy. The Ramam continues and says that if someone makes a nether that his wife should not do any work at all, then he must have forced her and give her a Xuba because we said that leaving her to do nothing brings to Zima. And the Ramam explains that all women, the washed her husband's face and his hands and feet and she prepares a cup of wine for him to drink and she sets up his bed for him and she's there to help him, for example, to get him a cup of water, etc. But she doesn't do any of these things in front of his father or in front of his son. That's not her son. The Ramam says that these specific jobs she does by herself, even if she had many meat servants, these are exclusive to the wife. The Ramam continues and says that there are some other jobs that a woman does for her husband when they're poor and don't have extra help. For example, like she breaks bread, cooks food and washes the clothes and she nurses her son and she puts food in front of her husband's personal animal, horse or camel. See how much I hate for more details. And this is all assuming that they're poor and they don't have any extra help but if they have help, obviously it's all based on the amount of help they have.
The Ramam continues and says that all the Malacha said a woman does for her husband. She does even when she's in a state of Anita except for setting up his bed and washing his face, hands and feet. And this is in order to avoid accidentally having relations during that time. The Ramam continues and says that a woman that broke vessels while she was doing her work is putter and not liable to pay. And this is a taqana because otherwise there'd be always fights in people's houses. The Ramam continues and says that a woman as long as she's nursing her child, we make her do less work and we add to her food in order that she should have what she needs. If she gave birth to twins, we don't force her to nurse both of them rather she nurses one and her husband higher someone to nurse the other. The Ramam continues and says that if she made a Ned, they're not to nurse her child, the best enforces her to nurse her child. The Ramam continues and says that if she was poor but her husband was rich, then she could force her husband to hire someone to help to nurse this child. If there's a disagreement where he says he's not able to afford it and she says he is, she has to bring proof. The Ramam continues and says that if a woman got divorced, we do not force her to nurse
the child. Only if she wants to, she's able to nurse and she gets paid for it. If she doesn't want, she can give him the child and he has to find someone to nurse him. This is all assuming that she did not nurse this child until the child got used to her. But if she did and the child got used to her, then we don't separate her because of this kind of the child. And in that case, we force her to nurse the child until 24 months. The Ramam continues and says that a woman is such a state that's divorced. She doesn't like that food, but the husband is obligated to give her more than what she gets paid for nursing him for things for the child needs like for food or drink or for clothing, etc. But if she was just expecting and she did not have a child yet, then she doesn't get any of this money. Once the 24 months pass of her nursing the child, if this divorce woman wants the child to stay by her, then the child remains by the mother until they are 6 years old. And the father's obligated to pay for the child's needs. After 6 years old, the father is able to say, if the child's by me, I'll pay for the child and if not, then you have to pay for it. Obviously, when I speak to a local rub regarding their specific circumstance, the Ramam
concludes by saying that when a child is by the mother, we force the father to give money that's fit for Tadaka in order to support the child. If however the mother doesn't want, she's able to give her back to the father or the community takes care of the child.
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