About this episode
In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, host Alastair Duhs addresses the often asked question: "How do I stop being so defensive in my relationship?'".
Alastair begins by defining what defensiveness is.
He then suggests four steps to stop being defensive, namely:
a) becoming aware your defensiveness
b) empathising with your partner
c) taking responsibility for your actions, and
d) improving communication to effectively address disagreements without getting defensive.
Alastair encourages listeners to listen to and validate their partner's feelings, as well as communicate openly and honestly for a healthier relationship.
For individual anger management coaching, or to enrol in Alastair's powerful online anger management program, visit: angersecrets.com.
Time Stamps:
00:00 Introduction
01:17 Understanding Defensiveness in Relationships
02:14 Breaking the Cycle of Defensiveness: Awareness and Responsibility
03:39 Empathy: A Key to Reducing Defensiveness
04:39 The Role of Effective Communication in Reducing Defensiveness
05:12 The Journey to Change: Patience and Practice
05:55 Conclusion
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