
64: GUEST: Lessons in Anxious Attachment (from Understanding to Healing) with Chris Rackliffe
About this episode
In this episode of Lessons in Attachment, Carly Ann is joined by Chris Rackcliffe. Listen in as they discuss:
- What anxious attachment is, what can cause it, and how it viscerally feels when this attachment style is activated and the nervous system is dysregulated
- The concept of ‘freedom’ and the role this plays in relationships and love
- The polarities of interdependence and independence, and how anxiously attached people have to work on bringing the focus back to themselves, to cultivate the latter
- The power of validating yourself and your feelings, and the importance of asking directly for what you need
- How even when dating and in the early stages of a relationship, it’s important to call out any blocks to intimacy or things that may prevent a healthy relationship
- Tools and methods you can use to start healing your attachment system, including somatic practices, improving your nutrition, meditation and more.
Links:
- BECOMING SECURE: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/becoming-secure-course
- FREE ANXIOUSLY TRIGGERED: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/Curiously-Triggered
- Follow Carly Ann on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carly.ann_
- Work with Carly Ann 1:1: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/work-with-carly-ann
Lessons in Attachment is the Podcast that helps you break through relationship struggles so many of us face. Using personal experiences and inspiring lessons to show you that you can change and break free from anxious and/or avoidant patterns of Love. If you have a deepening interest in Attachment Styles, you are in the right place with Carly Ann (Follow Carly Ann: @carly.ann_)
Chris Rackliffe is an anxious attachment style coach, mental health advocate and author. His experiences of his parents divorcing, sexual abuse and family addition issues led to his own issues surrounding attachment which set him on a path of self-healing. Now, through his books, talks, and TikTok community of nearly 100,000 people he spreads messages of acceptance, healing and growth, with his sole purpose being to bring people peace, perspective and power through their struggles. His work has been published on Medium, Thrive Global, TIME and beyond.
You can purchase his book “It’s Good to See Me Again: How to Find Your Way When You Feel Lost” at all good bookstores, or at the below Amazon link:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Its-Good-See-Me-Again/dp/B08DC69BTN
Music by Atch
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Spotify: bit.ly/AtchSpotify
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