Desperate to Stop Repeating The Same Cycle? Do THIS Today

Hello and welcome back to lessons in overthinking and obsessing. Today I want to share with you

something that I believe is incredibly important if you're wanting to make any kind of change

in your life right now. So if you're here listening to this, I feel like I know that you want more.

You know that something needs to shift. You even know that you're repeating some kind of pattern

that's preventing you from having that more. And maybe you're not quite sure how to break free

from it. And if that is you then stay tuned because in this episode I'm going to help you take a

first step. We're going to take a first step together. When it comes to the cycle that you want

to break the change that you want to make and that you deserve to make, we're going to take a step

together. Maybe you're wanting to become healthier. Maybe you want to start a new business. Maybe you

want to change in your relationships or the patterns that you're falling into. You want to

become more confident. You want to manage your finances, your money in a different way.

You want to stop repeating a pattern that you know you've been repeating for years.

Stay tuned. I'm Carly Ann. I'm a psychotherapist. I'm a speaker. I'm a facilitator. I help people who

get stuck in spirals to understand their triggers. To become less reactive. I know that's what so

many of us want and build a deeper self-worth so that you can feel calmer in relationships, start

thriving in work and life instead of letting anxiety and overthinking and your past run the show.

Okay, this is the question that I want to ask you right now. Where in your life have you been

wanting change the most? Really feel into that answer. Maybe you know immediately. Where in your

life have you wanted to experience change the most? But at this point you've not quite managed

to reach the change that you desire. Like I said at the start, maybe this is to do with your health,

business, your work, your relationships, your confidence, your finances,

stopping a pattern that you've been repeating for years. Which area do you know in your heart if

there was change there? I would feel happier. What I want to do with you today is to make a commitment.

I do not mean my friends really hear this, okay? I do not mean some kind of dramatic, huge

commitment or promise that requires you to change your entire life overnight. I mean a genuine

heartfelt commitment with yourself right now. One that really allows you to pause,

notice how things are at the moment and a commitment that says, I'm going to start taking myself

this area of my life in this change more seriously. I'm going to start listening to that something

inside of me that is asking for change. I'm going to stop waiting for permission. I'm going to stop

abandoning myself. I'm going to stop listening to the criticism and the fears and I'm going to make

a commitment to myself. And at the end of this episode I will share a commitment with you. We will

take a commitment together. Now when I Google the word commitment, it says the state or quality of

being dedicated to a cause or activity. Now that probably tells us you're already feeling committed.

This isn't about you not wanting the change, it's not about you not being ready for it, it's not

about you not being serious. I know I said serious earlier, but even when I said it's like time to

get serious, something in that didn't sit right and now that's really coming through for me again.

So let's kind of reword that. The commitment is there. You're serious about this, but something

about it is not happening is you're not moving forward, something's holding you back. Now,

Sammy Davis, Jr., I was searching for some quotes around commitment and I found this one, says,

you always have two choices. Your commitment versus your fear. And I think that is probably what

this is more about, not about whether you're serious, not about your motivation, not about how much

you care, it's about how fearful you are, what's on the other side of this change, what does it mean

to change, what might you lose, what might you have to face, what uncertainty does it create?

Well, even so, when you say it out loud, this is what Mel Robbins says, when you say it, you create it.

So that's what we're going to do today. We're going to make a commitment by saying it out loud to

ourselves. I'm interrupting because something so exciting is returning. I want to ask you how many

times have you promised yourself this time it's going to be different. Next time I won't do this,

sorry, won't do that. How many times do you make that promise only to find yourself repeating

the same patterns, the same reactions, the same relationship dynamics and ending up

right back where you don't want to be? Maybe you overthink, people please shut down,

chase with draw yourself sabotage or struggle to trust yourself. Whatever the pattern is, you do not

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already announced it. Okay, back to your commitment to yourself. Here's the thing, you want to be someone

who can trust their own word. When you say you're going to do something, you mean it. Someone who

knows that when they say something, they're going to stick to it, that you are the kind of person to

honour small promises to yourself, big promises to yourself, not perfectly, not rigidly.

There's still room for flexibility, of course, as is me we're talking about, all about flexibility.

But this is about knowing you won't give up on yourself, this is about knowing you have your

own back, this is about knowing that you do show up for yourself and you're the person that you can

trust. And maybe that's really where change begins, right? Being able to trust ourselves, we're

trying so hard to work on all our relationships with other people and to show up a certain way for

other people. But what is the relationship like with yourself? Are you able to keep a commitment with

yourself when you make one? Are you able to move towards what is important to you? This is not

about waiting until January the 1st or Monday or the moment that you finally feel ready, this is

about us making a really lovely, like I say, heartfelt decision today. Because the relationship with

yourself matters, your hopes, your needs, your dreams, they matter. And I really hope that hearing

this, even just listening to this and having these words is almost just enough to like get through

a little bit, a little bit of motivation itself. I know for me when I listen to things that speak to me,

I can get this kind of higher vibration. Suddenly I'm like, yes, yes, I do deserve to, I don't know,

achieve what I want or to go for the life that I want. And I don't need to keep repeating these old

outdated patterns to make a commitment to yourself. Ask yourself, what is one thing I've been

saying matters to me that I haven't been honouring? You can journal on that, you can go on a walk

with that, you can just let it sit with you today. What is one thing I've been saying matters to me

that I haven't been honouring? What comes up for you? Is it something related to your creativity,

relationships, the difficult conversation, your finances, your habits, your health, your needs?

Something you've been most desperately wanting to begin. Don't leave this episode with a list of

20 promises that you're going to make to yourself. Choose one thing and ask yourself, what would it look

like if I honoured this commitment today? One thing you can commit to, not tomorrow, not next week,

not when you need other resources, something that you have access to right now to commit to,

not when life is less busy. A commitment you can make for yourself now, that you can commit to

yourself and show up for yourself even in the smallest way, because for me it might be small,

but for you it may be huge. Showing up for yourself and making these commitments

is a real way of telling yourself that you're important and that you count and that you care. Maybe

that's the kind of commitment that's actually really important in our lives. I'm going to share

a commitment with you. You can take this one forward, you can write your own, but remember

to consider it in that area that you have this in and knowing needs to change. So the commitment

that I'm going to make with you today and at hand on heart or hand on your tummy, well you know a

little self-hug. Today I commit to letting go of fear, breaking free from the patterns that no

longer serve me, and courageously stepping into the truest, most authentic version of who I am

meant to be. I'm going to say it again for you. Today I commit to letting go of fear,

breaking free from the patterns that no longer serve me, and courageously stepping into the

truest, most authentic version of who I am meant to be. If you want to make this commitment with me,

if you want to echo that, leave a number one in the comments. If you're on Spotify or YouTube or

head over to my Instagram, Carly Ann, underscore therapy and DM me, leave a number one. Let me know that

you're letting go of fear, breaking free from patterns that don't serve you and stepping into

the most authentic version of who you are meant to be. Meant to be without your fears, meant to be

without half the experiences that left us criticizing ourselves and being harsh on ourselves.

What commitment do you want to make to yourself today? Take a moment, make that commitment to yourself.

I hope that this has helped in any way. Give you a little reset or a higher vibration.

Do check out, break the cycle because I want to get to know you more. It's the first course I've

run in so long to be able to come face to face and work with you guys again or ear to ear because

it's actually audio. That will just be incredible. So yeah, I'm Carly Ann and I will be back here again

very soon.