24 - Four Strategies to Successfully Dating Mini Series

We’re beginning a mini-series over the next few weeks, based on my workshop, Four Strategies to Dating Successfully with a Disability. Each week I’ll give you bit size tips for how to tackle each strategy. The strategies are:

• Increasing “dating confidence”
• Writing a kick butt dating profile - even if you’re not doing online dating
• Communicating effectively with a date about your disability
• Developing a personal plan for how to TAKE THE RIGHT ACTION for dating success

These strategies will help you with these results:

• Building self esteem specific to dating
• Creating clarity and empowerment
• Communicating with confidence
• Taking consistent action toward what you want

The Key to Making it Work 

• You actually need to do each of the four strategies, even if you’re scared! Look I know dating with a disability is tough. I spent much of my single life avoiding it because I didn’t want to deal with the pain. And if I’m really honest, I thought I wouldn’t be able to to handle the pain. But guess what? I was and so are you because if we stop resisting the pain and open up to it, we learn the pain will not destroy us but strengthen us.
• So make a promise to yourself, right here, right now, to do each of these strategies and trust yourself that you can handle whatever feelings come up for you. 
• Every episode in this mini series will have a guide that corresponds with each strategy. Download the guides and use them.

Strategy 1 - Positive Beliefs About Yourself

• Developing healthy, positive core beliefs about yourself builds a solid foundation that leads to successful dating and relationships.
• A core belief is a thought you have about yourself that shapes most of your words, actions, thoughts, and feelings.
• Positive core beliefs results in increased confidence, healthier relationships, and more general success. I am beginning here because people who feel good about themselves are much more prone to dating success and healthy relationships.
• When we think well of ourselves, we tend to draw others who will do the same.
• Whatever we believe (positive or negative) strengthens. For example, if you believe you’re “undateable,” that will be most likely what you experience - not dating and/or having relationships that are not fulfilling or happy.
• And on the other hand, if you have positive beliefs, you will draw that into your life.
• I am a person of great worth.
• My disability adds to my value as a person.
• I have much to offer someone and bring to a relationship.

Where Do We Go From Here? 

• Download the free resource
• Do this - pick 3 statements from the download or come up with three positive statements about yourself and notice the changes in what you feel and think about in the next 30 d

Check out our Dating Memberships:

Dating Made Easier (for all people wanting to date) - is a monthly membership for anyone (with or without disabilities) who wants support and guidance in dating skills and getting the RESULTS you want in dating and relationships. Click here to learn more.

Supporting Dating and Relationships membership (for special educators and professionals in disability services) - is for professionals in the disability field who are looking for training and resources to effectively help students/people with disabilities in developing dating and relationship skills. Click here to learn more.

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Artwork photo by Elevate