200 - From Workplace to Romance: How Allyship Transforms Relationship

"Using the Let Them Theory for Empowered Dating" Workshop (August 6)

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Dr. Victoria Mattingly, CEO of Mattingly Solutions, is an organizational psychologist and author who lives with bipolar disorder and alopecia. Her latest book "Work with an Ally, Act like an Ally" explores two-way partnerships in allyship.

Allyship in Romantic Relationships

Authentic allyship means taking action, not just identity. In relationships, this involves creating space, ensuring accessibility, and advocating for accommodations. Partners can leverage their privilege to support someone with a disability during challenging times.

Empowerment Through Self-Advocacy

People with disabilities should identify what makes them feel valued, respected, seen, and heard, then communicate these needs directly. This includes being clear in dating app bios about needs and expectations.

Disclosure Strategy: Ownership

Mattingly advocates for "owning" your disability rather than hiding it. She shares how she removes her wig during presentations, demonstrating confidence. When you're comfortable with your disability, it invites others to be comfortable too.

Combating Internalized Ableism

Viewing disability as a tool for navigating the world, not a limitation, helps reframe negative self-perception. Surrounding yourself with other successful people with disabilities helps challenge biased beliefs.

Vulnerability as Strength

Being vulnerable and authentic first creates space for others to do the same. This courage fosters deeper connections and mutual understanding in dating relationships.

Creating Psychological Safety

Drawing from workplace inclusion principles, successful dating requires creating environments where people feel safe sharing without fear of judgment or rejection.

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Our Dating Resources

Ready to enhance your dating experience? Join our Dating Made Easier community for coaching and support along your path to meaningful connection.

Supporting Dating and Relationships membership (for special educators and professionals in disability services) - is for professionals in the disability field who are looking for training and resources to effectively help students/people with disabilities in developing dating and relationship skills. Click here to learn more.

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