
#184: Understanding the Power Struggle Stage of Relationships
About this episode
Most relationships move through a phase where things start to feel harder than they used to. The spark has dimmed, tension is bubbling beneath the surface, and it feels like you’re constantly clashing or misfiring. This is what’s often called the power struggle stage — and while it can be incredibly challenging, it’s also a powerful opportunity for growth and deeper intimacy.
In today’s episode, we’re talking about:
- What the power struggle stage is and why it happens
- How insecure attachment patterns can intensify this dynamic
- The common traps couples fall into during this phase
- What to do (and not do) if you want to move through it
- When the power struggle becomes a sign of misalignment rather than a phase
If you’ve found yourself wondering whether you’re growing apart or just navigating something difficult and necessary — this episode is for you.
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