113. Avoidant/Dismissive Attachment Style: Development + Considerations

This part of the Mini Series on Developing Secure Attachment is all about Avoidant/Dismissive Attachment.

I will unpack this attachment style and break it down into how it develops and why, then move toward what this looks like in the research that's been done, and translate it to what it can look like in adulthood.

Then, I'll discuss what research has taught us about interactions in these cases. In other words, what is a solution to avoiding the rejection we are sure will take place? What do we do to avoid it?

Next, we'll look at ways in which we can regulate in these situations, and focus on allowing some space, or breathing room. This will be necessary in creating an environment conducive to cultivating security and connection. 

Lastly, we will apply all this to difficult situations and dynamics. Most of the episode is really to focus on what happens in generally healthy relationships. Whilst it can always be challenging to get in touch with our feelings about a situation or be vulnerable with loved ones, these symptoms are exacerbated by more distressing situations. We can sometimes externalise to avoid dealing with feelings.

Boundaries remain important in these situations and choosing not to engage will be helpful. However, we still can allow ourselves to feel our feelings about difficult situations and do any internal work and healing we may need. 

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